Dealing with sexual vulnerability and sexual seduction final

Dealing WithDealing With
SexualSexual
VulnerabilityVulnerability
and Sexualand Sexual
SeductionSeduction

The problem of human sinfulness is fundamentallyThe problem of human sinfulness is fundamentally
unchanged from the time of the Fall until theunchanged from the time of the Fall until the
present. There is no theological basis for assumingpresent. There is no theological basis for assuming
that human beings are more lustful, morethat human beings are more lustful, more
defenseless before sexual temptation, or moredefenseless before sexual temptation, or more
susceptible to the corruption of sexual desire thansusceptible to the corruption of sexual desire than
was the case in any previous generationwas the case in any previous generation
PreamblePreamble

∗ Vulnerability is the susceptibility to physical orVulnerability is the susceptibility to physical or
emotional injury or attack. It also means to haveemotional injury or attack. It also means to have
one's guard down, open to censure or criticism;one's guard down, open to censure or criticism;
assailable. Vulnerability refers to a person's state ofassailable. Vulnerability refers to a person's state of
being liable to succumb, as to persuasion orbeing liable to succumb, as to persuasion or
temptationtemptation
VulnerabilityVulnerability

∗ Seduction is the use ofSeduction is the use of temptationtemptation and enticement,and enticement,
often sexual in nature, to attract or influence theoften sexual in nature, to attract or influence the
behavior of another. Traditionally, the word impliedbehavior of another. Traditionally, the word implied
leading someone astray, as when a man lured aleading someone astray, as when a man lured a
woman into a sexual relationshipwoman into a sexual relationship
SeductionSeduction

““I have made a covenant with my eyes;I have made a covenant with my eyes;
How then could I gaze at a virgin?”How then could I gaze at a virgin?”
-Job 31:1-Job 31:1
Scriptural ConsiderationsScriptural Considerations
And remember, when you are being tempted, do notAnd remember, when you are being tempted, do not
say, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to dosay, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to do
wrong, and he never tempts anyone else. Temptationwrong, and he never tempts anyone else. Temptation
comes from our own desires, which entice us and dragcomes from our own desires, which entice us and drag
us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. Andus away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And
when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.
-- James 1:13-15 (NLT)James 1:13-15 (NLT)

Be well balanced, be vigilant and cautious at all times; forBe well balanced, be vigilant and cautious at all times; for
that enemy of yours, the devil roams around like a lionthat enemy of yours, the devil roams around like a lion
roaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize uponroaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize upon
and devour.and devour.
-- 1 Pe. 5:8(AMP)1 Pe. 5:8(AMP)

BRETHREN, IF any person is overtaken inBRETHREN, IF any person is overtaken in
misconduct or sin of any sort, you who aremisconduct or sin of any sort, you who are
spiritual [who are responsive to and controlled byspiritual [who are responsive to and controlled by
the Spirit] should set him right and restore andthe Spirit] should set him right and restore and
reinstate him, without any sense of superiorityreinstate him, without any sense of superiority
and with all gentleness,and with all gentleness, keeping an attentive eyekeeping an attentive eye
on yourself, lest you should be tempted also.on yourself, lest you should be tempted also.
- Gal. 6:1 (AMP)- Gal. 6:1 (AMP)

∗ The nature of the helping relationship providesThe nature of the helping relationship provides
opportunity foropportunity for closenesscloseness,, sharingsharing, and getting, and getting
inside the core of the other person. A close,inside the core of the other person. A close,
intimate (non-sexual) relationship may begin tointimate (non-sexual) relationship may begin to
develop when personal information is discloseddevelop when personal information is disclosed
in a trusting relationship. Often the leaderin a trusting relationship. Often the leader hearshears
information that has never been disclosed toinformation that has never been disclosed to
anyone else. In such a relationship, a bond formsanyone else. In such a relationship, a bond forms
which can become sexual when the souls of twowhich can become sexual when the souls of two
people begin to knit together across the genderpeople begin to knit together across the gender
line.line.
Why Are We So Vulnerable?Why Are We So Vulnerable?

∗ The person seeking help from a leader may haveThe person seeking help from a leader may have
an image of the leader as aan image of the leader as a warm, caring,warm, caring,
concerned, intelligent, available, and competentconcerned, intelligent, available, and competent
person. Who, me? you might say. Yes, you. Andperson. Who, me? you might say. Yes, you. And
the authority attributed to you as a helper by thethe authority attributed to you as a helper by the
helpee gives you power over the person. It's ahelpee gives you power over the person. It's a
short step to abusing this power. That's why 4short step to abusing this power. That's why 4
states in the U.S. make sex between clergy andstates in the U.S. make sex between clergy and
parishioner, even consensual sex, a felony, andparishioner, even consensual sex, a felony, and
the other 46 states make it a misdemeanour.the other 46 states make it a misdemeanour.
leaders are serving prison time because of sexualleaders are serving prison time because of sexual
failure.failure.

∗ Although sometimes a church member is out toAlthough sometimes a church member is out to
seduce a pastor, that scenario is rare. Most oftenseduce a pastor, that scenario is rare. Most often
the pastor is seen as a "safe" person to whomthe pastor is seen as a "safe" person to whom
personal information can be disclosed. Whenpersonal information can be disclosed. When
appropriate boundariesappropriate boundaries are not set, spoken orare not set, spoken or
unspoken, then sexual misbehavior is possible.unspoken, then sexual misbehavior is possible.
Seldom do illicit sexual relationship start outSeldom do illicit sexual relationship start out
with the intention of being sexual. They happenwith the intention of being sexual. They happen
because the pastor is notbecause the pastor is not paying attention.paying attention.

∗ SexualSexual thoughtsthoughts oror desiresdesires are either denied orare either denied or
ignored on the part of both the leader and theignored on the part of both the leader and the
church member so that a line is crossed due tochurch member so that a line is crossed due to
lack of attention, and, once the line is crossed, itlack of attention, and, once the line is crossed, it
is difficult to pull back. When sexual feelings areis difficult to pull back. When sexual feelings are
notnot understoodunderstood oror acknowledged,acknowledged, what maywhat may
have begun as a helpful and healing relationshiphave begun as a helpful and healing relationship
becomes an occasion for sexual involvementbecomes an occasion for sexual involvement

∗ If the leader has not nurturedIf the leader has not nurtured closeclose andand fulfillingfulfilling
relationships at home or with friends, it may leadrelationships at home or with friends, it may lead
to temptation to commit sexual sin in an effortto temptation to commit sexual sin in an effort
to find closeness with someone. What happens,to find closeness with someone. What happens,
however, is that the desired closeness is nothowever, is that the desired closeness is not
found outside the bounds of sex which God hasfound outside the bounds of sex which God has
ordained to occur within marriage. Althoughordained to occur within marriage. Although
happy and close relationships with spouse orhappy and close relationships with spouse or
friends do not guarantee that sexualfriends do not guarantee that sexual
attractiveness to another person will not occur,attractiveness to another person will not occur,
it will help toit will help to deterdeter it.it.

∗ Certain life stages (children leaving home, new jobs,Certain life stages (children leaving home, new jobs,
the aging process) may make one morethe aging process) may make one more vulnerablevulnerable atat
the time.the time.
∗ BeBe vigilantvigilant in times of vulnerability. If you are lonely,in times of vulnerability. If you are lonely,
depressed, or in crisis, be all the more attentive todepressed, or in crisis, be all the more attentive to
the preventative steps and warning signs.the preventative steps and warning signs.
Why Are We So VulnerableWhy Are We So Vulnerable

Dealing With Sexual VulnerabilityDealing With Sexual Vulnerability
and Sexual Seductionand Sexual Seduction

The place to begin to deal with sexual vulnerabilityThe place to begin to deal with sexual vulnerability
has to at the place of a basic self honesty, a basichas to at the place of a basic self honesty, a basic
admission that we are all vulnerable.admission that we are all vulnerable.
““A Desperate Father’s Honesty”A Desperate Father’s Honesty”
At once the father of the boy…said, Lord IAt once the father of the boy…said, Lord I
believe! [Constantly] help my weakness ofbelieve! [Constantly] help my weakness of
faith!faith!
-Mark 9:24(AMP)-Mark 9:24(AMP)

∗ Pride sets us up for aPride sets us up for a fallfall
∗ Our vulnerability to sinOur vulnerability to sin increasesincreases when we think itwhen we think it
could not happen to us.could not happen to us.
∗ Our capacity to sin and do stupid things isOur capacity to sin and do stupid things is enormousenormous..
Be on guard.Be on guard.
∗ Almost all Christians, especially Christian leaders,Almost all Christians, especially Christian leaders,
who have fallen to sexual temptation would tell youwho have fallen to sexual temptation would tell you
that they did not think it could havethat they did not think it could have happenedhappened toto
them.them.
It Can’t Happen to me!It Can’t Happen to me!

∗ The principle of indirection is critical.The principle of indirection is critical.
∗ You cannot standoff sexual desire directly. You willYou cannot standoff sexual desire directly. You will
getget stuckstuck on it. It willon it. It will obsessobsess you.you.
∗ If you ignore all the rest of theIf you ignore all the rest of the DesiresDesires and just dealand just deal
with sexual temptation, you will have a hard go of it.with sexual temptation, you will have a hard go of it.
The Principle of IndirectionThe Principle of Indirection

∗ Temptation alwaysTemptation always announcesannounces itself before ititself before it
arrivesarrives..
∗ Catch the thought early.Catch the thought early.
∗ Turn the eyes away from visual temptation. TheTurn the eyes away from visual temptation. The
discipline of the eyes.discipline of the eyes.
∗ What to do with thoughts: recognize, renounce,What to do with thoughts: recognize, renounce,
replace. There are certain cues that alert you toreplace. There are certain cues that alert you to
the possibility of lusting. You then use thosethe possibility of lusting. You then use those
cues to love instead of lust.cues to love instead of lust.
The Principle of awarenessThe Principle of awareness

∗ Guard your mind.Guard your mind. leadersleaders need to aggressively resistneed to aggressively resist
sexual fantasies in order to remainsexual fantasies in order to remain purepure..
∗ The Leadership survey found thatThe Leadership survey found that 39%39% of respondingof responding
leaders regarded sexual fantasies as harmless. Suchleaders regarded sexual fantasies as harmless. Such
fantasies may be one of the principal doorways to overtfantasies may be one of the principal doorways to overt
sexualsexual sin.sin.
∗ Stay away from explicitly erotic material, as well asStay away from explicitly erotic material, as well as
television programs, and images that fuel the fires of lust.television programs, and images that fuel the fires of lust.
∗ Mediate daily on Philippians 4:8 and take the adviceMediate daily on Philippians 4:8 and take the advice
offered there.offered there.
Take Every Thought CaptiveTake Every Thought Captive

UnderstandUnderstand sexual temptation. Sexual feelings aresexual temptation. Sexual feelings are
common to every man and woman. leaders mustcommon to every man and woman. leaders must
anticipateanticipate andand preventprevent sexual temptations. (It is alsosexual temptations. (It is also
possible to be involved in a sexual relationshippossible to be involved in a sexual relationship
without touching or entering into an obviously illicitwithout touching or entering into an obviously illicit
relationship.)relationship.)
The Principle of AwarenessThe Principle of Awareness

∗ While traveling, stay away from hotel cable moviesWhile traveling, stay away from hotel cable movies
and bring with you healthy reading material.and bring with you healthy reading material.
∗ In counseling, realize how easily emotionalIn counseling, realize how easily emotional bondingbonding
can occur.can occur.
∗ The jump from a warm relationship to one withThe jump from a warm relationship to one with
sexual overtone can besexual overtone can be subtlesubtle..
Principle of AwarenessPrinciple of Awareness

∗ Understand the power of the seduction.Understand the power of the seduction.
∗ The person - man or woman - who acts provocativelyThe person - man or woman - who acts provocatively
must be resisted withoutmust be resisted without hesitation.hesitation.
∗ Be careful of theBe careful of the flirtatiousflirtatious look; be alert tolook; be alert to
excessive praise, and be on guard for those whoexcessive praise, and be on guard for those who
want repeated counselingwant repeated counseling
Principle of AwarenessPrinciple of Awareness

WatchWatch for signs that a member of the opposite sexfor signs that a member of the opposite sex
might be attracted to you. Is the person spending amight be attracted to you. Is the person spending a
lot of time with you, bringing gifts, finding excuseslot of time with you, bringing gifts, finding excuses
to drop by the office, being a little seductive, orto drop by the office, being a little seductive, or
bringing up intimate topics?bringing up intimate topics?

The Power of ChoiceThe Power of Choice
Recognize that you do have a choice as a human being. YouRecognize that you do have a choice as a human being. You
are not a sexual automation, who, once a sexual thoughtare not a sexual automation, who, once a sexual thought
comes to mind must find fulfilment in illicit sex.comes to mind must find fulfilment in illicit sex.

They are the doorway toThey are the doorway to intimacyintimacy. They are the. They are the
invitation. Looks have many significances. In manyinvitation. Looks have many significances. In many
marriages, this ceases. You have to have times whenmarriages, this ceases. You have to have times when
youyou
look deeply into someone’slook deeply into someone’s soulsoul and treasure theirand treasure their
face. If you find yourself looking deep into oneface. If you find yourself looking deep into one
another’s eyes, things are not OKanother’s eyes, things are not OK
Sexual Significance of Face and Eyes.Sexual Significance of Face and Eyes.

∗ To avoidTo avoid succumbingsuccumbing to the temptation of adultery,to the temptation of adultery,
each leader must develop a thorough on-going,each leader must develop a thorough on-going,
comprehensivecomprehensive plan for his/her protection.plan for his/her protection.
““To Thine Own Self Be True”To Thine Own Self Be True”

∗ Plan how you will handle sexual temptation.Plan how you will handle sexual temptation.
∗ Don't leave it up toDon't leave it up to chance.chance.
∗ Develop a list of the specificDevelop a list of the specific consequencesconsequences of sexualof sexual
adultery.adultery.
∗ What will this sin mean for your wife? - your family? - yourWhat will this sin mean for your wife? - your family? - your
congregation? - your closest friends? - your future ministry?congregation? - your closest friends? - your future ministry?

∗ This is primary in handling sexualThis is primary in handling sexual temptationtemptation..
∗ Cultivate your spiritual, emotional, andCultivate your spiritual, emotional, and
physicalphysical well-being.well-being.
∗ leaders are so busy preparing, teaching, andleaders are so busy preparing, teaching, and
preaching that they may neglect to care forpreaching that they may neglect to care for
their owntheir own souls.souls.
∗ ExpandExpand and develop your prayer life, theand develop your prayer life, the
reading of the Word, and personal devotions.reading of the Word, and personal devotions.
The Practice of The Other DisciplinesThe Practice of The Other Disciplines

∗ Make sure your marriage isMake sure your marriage is healthy.healthy.
∗ Without a doubt, being in love with your mateWithout a doubt, being in love with your mate
provides the best defense against aprovides the best defense against a sexual affair.sexual affair.
∗ If your marriage is not satisfying, find thoseIf your marriage is not satisfying, find those
opportunities and qualities that provide anopportunities and qualities that provide an
atmosphere ofatmosphere of hope.hope.
∗ Maintain close and supportive relationships withMaintain close and supportive relationships with
youryour spouse, family, and friendsspouse, family, and friends so that the normalso that the normal
desire for non-sexual intimacy is met in healthydesire for non-sexual intimacy is met in healthy
and God-pleasing relationships.and God-pleasing relationships.
Keep Your Marriage HealthyKeep Your Marriage Healthy

∗ Maintain relationships where accountability isMaintain relationships where accountability is real.real.
∗ Every leader needs several relationships whereEvery leader needs several relationships where
he/she is mutuallyhe/she is mutually accountableaccountable for actions andfor actions and
relationships with others.relationships with others.
∗ The Christian community, especially fellow clergy,The Christian community, especially fellow clergy,
are a wonderful resource of God's grace to usare a wonderful resource of God's grace to us
““The Unexamined Life Is Not WorthThe Unexamined Life Is Not Worth
Living”-Living”-

∗ Take precautions.Take precautions.
∗ Be extremely carefulBe extremely careful where, when, andwhere, when, and howhow you seeyou see
members of the opposite sex in your ministrymembers of the opposite sex in your ministry
routinesroutines..
∗ Avoid anyAvoid any long-termlong-term counseling.counseling.
∗ Be careful in dealing with young adults.Be careful in dealing with young adults.
Precautionary Measures in MinistryPrecautionary Measures in Ministry
RoutinesRoutines

∗ Sex is a primary drive and desire of our humanity,Sex is a primary drive and desire of our humanity,
bent and twisted by our fallen nature. As such, it is abent and twisted by our fallen nature. As such, it is a
place of developing ‘Kingdom Living.’ Sex is notplace of developing ‘Kingdom Living.’ Sex is not
bad in itself, any more than food or conversation.bad in itself, any more than food or conversation.
But as now lived, sex is a major source of evil forBut as now lived, sex is a major source of evil for
those in ministry and those they serve.those in ministry and those they serve.
PreamblePreamble

∗ Discretion is needed for each situation, as well asDiscretion is needed for each situation, as well as
in dealings with otherin dealings with other staff membersstaff members --
particularly crucial in light of the high incidenceparticularly crucial in light of the high incidence
of pastoral adultery with a member of theof pastoral adultery with a member of the
church staff.church staff.
∗ If difficult situations arise in the normal routinesIf difficult situations arise in the normal routines
of ministry, immediately inform yourof ministry, immediately inform your spousespouse andand
one or two fellow leaders in the church.one or two fellow leaders in the church.
Precautionary MeasuresPrecautionary Measures

∗ Proverbs 7 describes the portrait of a seducer.Proverbs 7 describes the portrait of a seducer.
Though the seducer there is a woman we must beThough the seducer there is a woman we must be
honest enough to say that in contemporaryhonest enough to say that in contemporary
Christianity the seduction straddles both genders.Christianity the seduction straddles both genders.
∗ The 1The 1stst
characteristic of seduction to be aware of thatcharacteristic of seduction to be aware of that
it often begins with theit often begins with the speech.speech.
AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTIONAUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION

∗ With her enticing speech she caused him to yield; withWith her enticing speech she caused him to yield; with
her flattering lips she compelled him.her flattering lips she compelled him. v.21v.21
∗ FlatteryFlattery,, flirtatiousflirtatious, bold, seductive speech, bold, seductive speech
∗ Recall Delilah's use of speech to gain control overRecall Delilah's use of speech to gain control over
Samson.Samson.

∗ Note the traits of the seduced as described byNote the traits of the seduced as described by
the writer.the writer.
∗ He lacksHe lacks judgementjudgement and isand is carelesscareless
∗ He is morallyHe is morally unstableunstable
∗ Thus the seducer is going to take advantage ofThus the seducer is going to take advantage of
himhim
∗ Both the seducer and the seduced makeBoth the seducer and the seduced make
consciousconscious choiceschoices that place them in the wrongthat place them in the wrong
place at the wrong time.place at the wrong time.

∗ Three times the point is repeated that thisThree times the point is repeated that this
meeting takes place at night.meeting takes place at night.
∗ Verse 14 suggests that she is a “church woman.”Verse 14 suggests that she is a “church woman.”
She is religious; she tries to spiritualize herShe is religious; she tries to spiritualize her
sensuality and immorality with talk aboutsensuality and immorality with talk about
sacrifices and offerings.sacrifices and offerings.
∗ Verse 19 suggests that she is not satisfied withVerse 19 suggests that she is not satisfied with
her husband. She has longings and desires thather husband. She has longings and desires that
he is nothe is not fulfilling.fulfilling.

∗ SeductiveSeductive dressingdressing: Verse 10 describes this woman as: Verse 10 describes this woman as
being dressed “with the attire of a harlot” (thebeing dressed “with the attire of a harlot” (the
outward manifestation) and having “a crafty heart”outward manifestation) and having “a crafty heart”
(the inward heart that produces the outward(the inward heart that produces the outward
manifestation).manifestation).
∗ The seducer usesThe seducer uses seductive clothingseductive clothing to lure theto lure the
seduced.seduced.

∗ The seducer isThe seducer is bold, deliberatebold, deliberate andand assertiveassertive: -: - So sheSo she
caught him and kissed him; with ancaught him and kissed him; with an
impudent[ shameless, brazen] face she said to him…vimpudent[ shameless, brazen] face she said to him…v..
1313
∗ She throws herself on this man-physically andShe throws herself on this man-physically and
verbally. She evidences a lack ofverbally. She evidences a lack of discretiondiscretion andand
restraint.restraint.

∗ The seducer feeds legitimate emotional needs:The seducer feeds legitimate emotional needs: So ISo I
came out to meet you, diligently to seek your face, andcame out to meet you, diligently to seek your face, and
I have found you…I have found you… v. 15v. 15
∗ TheThe egoego is built up, the need for admiration is fed,is built up, the need for admiration is fed,
the seduced is made to feelthe seduced is made to feel valuedvalued andand neededneeded

∗ Seducers wax poetic:Seducers wax poetic: I have spread my bed with tapestry,I have spread my bed with tapestry,
coloured coverings of Egyptian linen. I have perfumed my bedcoloured coverings of Egyptian linen. I have perfumed my bed
with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon. vv. 16-17with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon. vv. 16-17
∗ TheThe sensuoussensuous nature of the bed described lures the youngnature of the bed described lures the young
man. Indiscretion leads to free talk about intimateman. Indiscretion leads to free talk about intimate subjectssubjects..

∗ LustLust andand lovelove are not synonyms:are not synonyms: Come let us takeCome let us take
our fill of love until morning; let us delightour fill of love until morning; let us delight
ourselves with love…ourselves with love… v. 18v. 18
∗ The true nature of love is often misunderstood.The true nature of love is often misunderstood.
True love is giving, not getting.True love is giving, not getting.
∗ ImmediateImmediate gratificationgratification is the goal, despite it’sis the goal, despite it’s
often fleeting natureoften fleeting nature
∗ Failure to think of the graveFailure to think of the grave consequencesconsequences of theof the
choices.choices.

∗ The false cloak of anonymity: For my husband is not at
home; he has gone on a long journey…he will come
home on the appointed day… vv. 19-20
∗ The morality of many Christians is at the most basic
level of ‘whether I will be caught or not.
∗ El Roi – “The God who sees”
AUTOPSY OF A SEDUCTION

∗ Hold to BiblicalHold to Biblical convictionsconvictions. Some things are. Some things are
right and some things are wrong. Period. Don'tright and some things are wrong. Period. Don't
rationalizerationalize away sin.away sin.
∗ The simpleton was beguiled because he allowedThe simpleton was beguiled because he allowed
himself to be led by the seducer. Like Josephhimself to be led by the seducer. Like Joseph
and as Paul advises in 1 Cor. 10: 12 we need toand as Paul advises in 1 Cor. 10: 12 we need to
flee.flee.
∗ Pride can cause us to think that this instruction isPride can cause us to think that this instruction is
only for the weaker Christian.only for the weaker Christian.
Run For Yu Life!Run For Yu Life!

∗ When youWhen you findfind yourself thinking about a “friend,yourself thinking about a “friend,
co-worker, ministry partner, counselee” andco-worker, ministry partner, counselee” and
how much you enjoy being with this person --how much you enjoy being with this person --
FLEE!FLEE!
∗ When you look forward to spending more timeWhen you look forward to spending more time
with this person and you make sure you lookwith this person and you make sure you look
especially nice if you know you might see yourespecially nice if you know you might see your
“friend” that day -- FLEE!“friend” that day -- FLEE!
∗ If you begin toIf you begin to fantasizefantasize about being with thisabout being with this
person or knowingly start touching yourperson or knowingly start touching your
“friend” in “innocent “ ways -- FLEE!“friend” in “innocent “ ways -- FLEE!
WHEN TO RUNWHEN TO RUN

∗ When you become moreWhen you become more secretivesecretive about yourabout your
interaction with your “friend” because peopleinteraction with your “friend” because people
like your spouse might “misunderstand” yourlike your spouse might “misunderstand” your
friendship -- FLEE!friendship -- FLEE!
∗ If you receive cards, e-mails or presents from thisIf you receive cards, e-mails or presents from this
person that you would not want yourperson that you would not want your spousespouse toto
see -- FLEE!see -- FLEE!
∗ When you find yourself comparing your spouseWhen you find yourself comparing your spouse
in anin an unfavorableunfavorable way to your “friend”-- FLEE!way to your “friend”-- FLEE!
∗ If you startIf you start confidingconfiding in your “friend” about yourin your “friend” about your
marital problems -- FLEE!marital problems -- FLEE!
WHEN TO RUNWHEN TO RUN

∗ Anytime we feel we must keep something secret, thisAnytime we feel we must keep something secret, this
would indicate that sin is crouching at our door. If you arewould indicate that sin is crouching at our door. If you are
experiencing sexual attraction to someone – orexperiencing sexual attraction to someone – or
experiencing some other kind of temptation over a fewexperiencing some other kind of temptation over a few
days – go to your spouse or someone you can trust in thedays – go to your spouse or someone you can trust in the
Body of Christ. Bring the secret out into the light of day andBody of Christ. Bring the secret out into the light of day and
ask for prayer and accountability.ask for prayer and accountability.

∗ Satan loves it when we keep secrets in the dark because ofSatan loves it when we keep secrets in the dark because of
shame, fear, or pride – but remember, darkness is overcomeshame, fear, or pride – but remember, darkness is overcome
by light. Often this alone can break the power ofby light. Often this alone can break the power of
temptation, but it will cost you your pride.temptation, but it will cost you your pride.
∗ ““He who is alone with his sin is truly alone”He who is alone with his sin is truly alone”-- Heini Arnold.Heini Arnold.

∗ In this society, we are called to be nothing lessIn this society, we are called to be nothing less
than a corps of the mutually accountable amidst athan a corps of the mutually accountable amidst a
world that lives as if it will never be called toworld that lives as if it will never be called to
account.account.
∗ From the moment a boy reaches puberty until theFrom the moment a boy reaches puberty until the
day he is lowered into the ground, every man willday he is lowered into the ground, every man will
struggle with lust. Let us follow the biblicalstruggle with lust. Let us follow the biblical
example and scriptural command that we make aexample and scriptural command that we make a
covenant with our eyes lest we sincovenant with our eyes lest we sin

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