What not to do as a leader?
What may destroy your leadership career?
Based on:
"What got you here will not take you there" Marshall Goldsmith
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Leadership Traps - What NOT to do as a leader
1. What NOT to do as a leader!
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Marshall Goldsmith,
âWhat got you here will
not take you thereâ
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We are talking about
successful people âŠ
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They have one or more
annoying behavior âŠ
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Not realizing that it is
happening
AND
They can change it!
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The Success Delusion
Why we resist change!
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The Success Delusion
â
We Delude ourselves about:
Our achievements
Our status
Our contributions
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The Success Delusion
â
It gives us:
Confidence
Doubt-free life
Blindness of risks!
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Myths!
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I have Succeeded
â
Successful people believe in their skills
and abilities
ïš
They believe their contributions are
more than they really are!
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I can Succeed
â
Successful people believe they have the
capabilities to make things happen
ïš
âI am successful. I behave this way. I am
successful because I behave this wayâ!!!
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I will Succeed
â
Successful people are optimistic
ïš
Over-commitment stops you from
achieving!
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I choose to Succeed
â
Successful people have high need for self
determination (not being controlled by
others)
ïš
Cognitive dissonance may takeover our
decisions
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Change of behavior is
possible if you can see that it
is for your best interest!
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Self interest âŠ
â
It usually boils down to:
Money (Live)
Power (Leave a legacy or feel important)
Status (Learn or acquire new experiences)
Popularity (Love and be loved)
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The Twenty Deadly Sins!
Habits that hold you back from the top
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What not to do?
â
âWe spend a lot of
time teaching
leaders what to do.
We do not spend
enough time
teaching leaders
what to stop!â
Peter Drucker
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We do not reward people for
what they did not do!
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1-Donât be an obsessed winner!
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Winning too much
â
Most Common problem!
â
In a meeting, you want your position to
prevail
â
When arguing with a spouse, you want to
have the final word
â
When driving, you do not want anyone to
get ahead of you
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2- Do not try to add your touch!
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Adding too much value
â
Successful people always want to say:
â
âI already know thatâ
â
âI know a better wayâ
â
This, simply, kills commitment of people
to the idea they are presenting
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3- Do not try to judge others!
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Passing Judgments
â
When you rate other peopleâs opinions or
ideas, you discourage their
contributions!
â
Just listen, and say âThank you!â
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4- Avoid destructive comments!
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Making Destructive Comments
â
To avoid them, ask yourself:
â
Is it useful to the customer?
â
Is it useful to the organization?
â
Is it useful to the person I am talking to?
â
Is it useful to the person I am talking
about?
â
If the answer is no, just Shut Up!
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5- Do not start with: No, but, or However!
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Starting with no, but, or however
âI am right, you are wrong!â
â Stop defending your position!
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6- Donât act too wisely!6- Do Not act too wisely!
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Telling the world how smart you are
â
It insults other people!
â
Listen to the idea or suggestion and say
âThank you!â
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7- Do not talk when angry!
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Speaking when angry
â
Anger is rarely someone else fault.
â
In most cases, the source of anger is in
here not out there
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8- Avoid negative comments!
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âLet me explain why that wonât workâ!
â
That is not being helpful!
â
It is just being negative
â
It comes from the need to prevent others
from appearing smarter than you are!
â
Before saying that it wonât work, come up
with a better idea or just Shut Up!
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9 â Do Not withhold information
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Withholding Information
â Leads to: mistrust and suspicion
â When intentional, it reflects a character floe
â Unintentionally, it may happen when you
are too busy
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10- Do not forget to praise and reward
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Failing to give proper recognition
â You are depriving people from the
emotional payoff they deserve!
â Learn to shift the focus from yourself unto
others
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11- Avoid being thanked for what
you did not do!
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Claiming credit you do not deserve
â It is a Crime!
â Ask yourself: âIs it possible that someone
else deserves to be thanked for my
success?â
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12- Do not make excuses
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Making Excuses
â âThe traffic ...â
âMy assistant ...â
âThey ...â
â Be responsible!
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13- Do not blame your parents
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Clinging to the past
â Deflecting blame onto events and people in
our past
â Do not blame others for the choices you
made!
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14- Avoid unfairness
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Playing favorites
â You will always love your Dog! But is it
more important than your child?!
â Admit to yourself that you are not objective
in evaluating people!
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15- Be quick to apologize!
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Refusing to express regret
â
It is an aspect of not being responsible
â
It is not easy!
â
Apologizing is one of the most powerful weapons you
have
â
Apologizing turns people into allies
â
This is how people change, teams improve, and
companies grow
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16- Do not be rude!
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Not listening
â You are essentially saying: âYou are not
important to me!â and âI do not care about
you!â
â Be patient!
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17- Give gratitude!
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Failing to express gratitude
â
Gratitude is a skill that we can never
display too often
â
If you do not know what to say, say
âThank you!â
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18- Do not shoot the messenger!
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Punishing the messenger
â
How many times did you attack the one
who is bringing you the news?
â
Just say âThank you!â
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19- Do not pass the buck!19- Avoid saying âhe did itâ
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Passing the buck
â You are never wrong, are you?
â A leader who can not take responsibility for
his teamâs problems, is not a leader in the
first place!
â No one expects you to be right all the time,
so why should you?
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20- Do not say âThat is me!â
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An excessive need to be âmeâ
â A character fault is not excused simply
because that is who you are!
â You have to get out of your comfort zone!
â Leadership is about other people.
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Getting over it!
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Take feedback
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Say âI am sorryâ
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Listen to people
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Say âThank you!â
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