Let’s really look into ourselves, for once, candidly and unstintingly. What are we seeking? What are we missing, if anything? What do we want? Let’s put it very crassly. Not just what do we “aspire to,” but what the hell do we really want?

1. LOOK AT OURSELVES
Let’s really look into ourselves, for once, candidly and
unstintingly. What are we seeking? What are we missing, if
anything? What do we want? Let’s put it very crassly. Not
just what do we “aspire to,” but what the hell do we really
want? And then try to go for that. Even if it’s just money or
a new car or love interest. Because then when we have that,
we might still find that we want more. Then we must go on
and look deeper until we find what is really satisfying,
fulfilling, and leads to long term contentment. But if we are
afraid to reach out, afraid to ask, to want or take anything
for ourselves; if we pretend we don’t want anything; if we
deny all our impulses, desires, hopes, wishes and needs,
then we don’t get anywhere. We take all the passion and
energy, drive and juice out of our path.

2. So I ask you: Ask yourself what you are really seeking and want, your greatest
desire? Also, what are you afraid of? What is holding you back? What is your
greatest fear, and would you be willing to face it? I assure you that fear is already
motivating and conditioning you, unconsciously or obviously. The Dharma is the
end of all desire. Not the end of passion, but the end of craving and grasping at
desire in unhealthy ways. Spiritual freedom and autonomy brings liberation and
the immense untapped raw energy that awaits us just below the surface of desire
and passion.
I take refuge in awareness and reality-testing, and awaken warm and empathic
compassion in recognizing others in similar situations. Fearlessly seek what we
are after, and penetrate deeply. We can’t control our conditioning and karma, but
we can learn how to be more skillful with them, and ultimately how to be
accepting and one with them as well as free of their unhappy effects.
With love & blessings,
Lama Surya Das
Article source - https://lamasuryadasmarried.wordpress.com/2016/03/31/look-at-
ourselves/