2. “A process of facilitating the development of a
person or people towards an objective through
the approach of asking not telling.”
What is Coaching 2
5. Self leadership
having a developed sense
of who you are, what you
can do, where you are
going coupled with the
ability to influence your
communication,
emotions and behaviors
on the way to getting
there.
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8. Coaching people to develop their autonomy and
therefore their self-motivation and innovation.
Coaching managers to be authentic self-leaders
and create an environment of self-leadership in
their followers.
Self-leadership Coaching
9. What do I
think about
this?
Head
What do I
feel about
this?
Heart What do I do
and say about
Hand + Voice this?
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17. In an uncertain world, we can
default to just surviving,
But with self-leadership we can
transcend our fear and live a full
life with passion and purpose.
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This definition applies to individual and group coaching and allows for the promotion of a coaching attitude, which can be defined as; “The genuine interest in the development of others.”
Imagine a large chess board. Now consider you are a piece on this chess board.Are you a porn; moving slowly forward with little choice and at the mercy of other more powerful pieces? Are you a Knight, able to take risks and attack, but with little concern for your own safety?Perhaps you are a bishop, able to move rapidly but constrained to a diagonal path from which you may not deviate?Or you may think of yourself as Rook, solid and safe but not very adventurous?A King? Very important but requiring other pieces to serve and defend you.Which leaves the Queen; Highly flexible and adaptable, able to move in any directions?You know what you shouldn’t be, a piece of wood being pushed around by someone bigger than you.This simple metaphor of a chessboard gives helps us to consider whether we are fully utilising our Self-leadership.
Self-leadership is NOT selfish, quite the opposite, because self-leaders are less needy they are better able to collaborate and contribute. My research has shown that a team of self-leaders with a clear objectives will be high performing.
It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll,I am the master of my fate:I am the captain of my soul.These last few lines of a Victorian poem inspired Nelson Mandela, a man who was imprisoned 27 years for his acting on his beliefs, and yet on release chose not to be consumed by anger and hatred but to lead his party (the African National Congress) in negotiations that led to a multi-racial democracy.We all face adversity. The author faced the loss of his business in Australia through fierce international competition and began his consulting business from a backpacker hostel in Kings Cross in Sydney using the internet. After many knockbacks he landed Singapore Airlines as a client and now speaks globally.Self-leaders are resilient, they are able to bounce back and have strategies to manage their thinking, feelings and actions.JFL leadership and learning are indispensible.
As we have already stated that arrogant, command control leadership kills creativity and cripples resilience but it is important in emergency situation – eg. At 35,000 feet when the oxygen masks drop. But overdone command control leads to disengagement and resentment.Becoming empowering without developing people’s response-ability can lead to low performance. But when you move both together you gain self-leadership.
Unlike Pavlov dogs which react to what happens to them humans can choose their response and therefore have response-ability.Andrew engages the audience by “acquiring” items from them by just asking, which demonstrates how we often abdicate choice.We can choose what we think and feel about a situation and therefore what do and say.When our actions are in alignment with our values and intentions we demonstrate Authenticity.“To believe in something and not live it is dishonest – Gandhi”
Many people have lose their response-ability to disempowering programming in their early years.We can take back ownership by affirming our choice to think, feel and act.Andrew get’s the audience energy up with them regaining their power of choice.(Audience members get their items back).
We are responsible “for” our thinking feeling NOT “for” others. We are bad leaders if we become responsible “For” our employees because they won’t mature into self leaders.Signs of co-dependency are:All decisions escalated to bossNo ownership or creativityBlaming
A healthy relationship for leaders is to encourage self response-ability and accountability “To” agreed goals and targets which are in align with the organization.
Self-leadership teams are potent because they have shared belief in their ability to perform and are aligned to shared goals and agreed behaviors.
Mental strategies are how we run our brain for success and Andrew shares inspirational stories from his own life, sport and business on how we can exceed even our own expectations.
Behavioral strategies are simple but powerful behaviors that have been proven to distinguish the self-leader from the also ran.