Do you feel like a fraud? Are you not sure whether you can do the work you are supposed to? You are not alone, and many high-achievers are unable to internalize and accept their successes. They often attribute their accomplishments to luck rather than to ability, and fear that others will eventually unmask them as a fraud. This slides are part of a workshop. Full documentation: http://timeaturdean.com/overcoming-impostor-syndrome/

1. Overcoming Impostor Syndrome
based on The Ada Initiative workshop http://adainitiative.org CC BY-SA
Timea
Turdean
12/03/2016

2. About me
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Finished my master degree at the TU Vienna in Business
Engineering and Computer Science
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5+ years worked as developer, now as technical
consultant
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Around 11 years of volunteering in different organizations
– coordinating numerous projects
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I am from Transilvania and I like climbing
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3. Format of the workshop
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15 min: Introduction
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5 min: Split into small groups
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20 min: “Take a compliment” exercise
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20 min: Values exercise
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20 min: Combating negative thoughts exercise
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5 min: Wrap-up
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4. Format of the workshop
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15 min: Introduction
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5 min: Split into small groups
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20 min: “Take a compliment” exercise
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20 min: Values exercise
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20 min: Combating negative thoughts exercise
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5 min: Wrap-up
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5. Is this you?
“OH Crap!
They are going to figure out I have absolutely no idea what
I am doing...”
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6. Is this you?
“I am not sure if I deserve a raise …
my performance was not so good anyway”
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7. Is this you?
“My colleague is soooo much better at that than me. ”
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8. Impostor Syndrome
The feeling that you are a fraud or unqualified for the work
you are already doing - faking it - and may be found out at
any moment
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9. Even the most successful people doubt themselves and
have fears.
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10. WHY?
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11. “Did you get invited to the event just for the female quota?”
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12. “You aren't a backend programmer.”
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13. “Did you come to the event because of your boyfriend?”
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14. Why do you feel like an impostor
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Sexism says women can't be good at what it is you are
doing
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People forget facts that don't fit their stereotypes
(“prove-it-again bias”)
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People act surprised when you are good
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People advise you to lower your ambitions
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People tell you that you are an impostor
People treat you like an impostor
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15. What is the result
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We have less satisfaction in our lives
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We waste time over-preparing and worrying instead of
doing good work and having fun
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We are less effective as colleagues
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We ask for less money
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We don't ask for challenges
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We don't ask for promotions or apply for jobs
You doubt yourself, you are less confident
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16. Overcoming Impostor Syndrome
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Talk about it and share your own failures
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Watch your self-deminishing language
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Teach others what you know
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Ask questions
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Perspective check from a friend
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List your accomplishments and own them
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Practice accepting compliments
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Talk to your colleagues and get the perpective of what is
going on in the community/workplace
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17. Overcoming Impostor Syndrome
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Talk about it and share your own failures
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Watch your self-deminishing language
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Teach others what you know
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Ask questions
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Perspective check from a friend
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List your accomplishments and own them
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Practice accepting compliments
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Talk to your colleagues and get the perpective of what is
going on in the community/workplace
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18. Overcoming Impostor Syndrome
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Talk about it and share your own failures
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Watch your self-deminishing language
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Teach others what you know
●
Ask questions
●
Perspective check from a friend
●
List your accomplishments and own them
●
Practice accepting compliments
●
Talk to your colleagues and get the perpective of what is
going on in the community/workplace
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19. Overcoming Impostor Syndrome
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Talk about it and share your own failures
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Watch your self-deminishing language
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Teach others what you know
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Ask questions
●
Perspective check from a friend
●
List your accomplishments and own them
●
Practice accepting compliments
●
Talk to your colleagues and get the perpective of what is
going on in the community/workplace
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20. Overcoming Impostor Syndrome
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Talk about it and share your own failures
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Watch your self-deminishing language
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Teach others what you know
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Ask questions
●
Perspective check from a friend
●
List your accomplishments and own them
●
Practice accepting compliments
●
Talk to your colleagues and get the perpective of what is
going on in the community/workplace
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21. Overcoming Impostor Syndrome
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Talk about it and share your own failures
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Watch your self-deminishing language
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Teach others what you know
●
Ask questions
●
Perspective check from a friend
●
List your accomplishments and own them
●
Practice accepting compliments
●
Talk to your colleagues and get the perpective of what is
going on in the community/workplace
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22. Overcoming Impostor Syndrome
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Talk about it and share your own failures
●
Watch your self-deminishing language
●
Teach others what you know
●
Ask questions
●
Perspective check from a friend
●
List your accomplishments and own them
●
Practice accepting compliments
●
Talk to your colleagues and get the perpective of what is
going on in the community/workplace
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23. Overcoming Impostor Syndrome
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Talk about it and share your own failures
●
Watch your self-deminishing language
●
Teach others what you know
●
Ask questions
●
Perspective check from a friend
●
List your accomplishments and own them
●
Practice accepting compliments
●
Talk to your colleagues and get the
perpective of what is going on in the
community/workplace
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25. Excersises
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20 min: “Take a compliment” exercise
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20 min: Values exercise
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20 min: Combating negative thoughts exercise
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26. Excersises
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Do exercises with your group
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No one has to participate
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No one has to report out
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You can leave, switch tables, or come back at any time for
any reason
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If someone is bothering you, come find me during
discussion or break
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27. Take a copliment
Examples:
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“You are a good listener.“
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“You work hard.“
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“You did really great in the meeting.“
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“I liked your input earlier, it gave us some good ideas.“
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“Great idea in solving the bug.“
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28. Value exercise
Take your handouts and complete the exercise.
At the end each group can voluntarily report on the
results.
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29. Combating negative thoughts
Take your handouts and work on the last exercise:
“Thoughts record.“
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30. More resources
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Denise Paolucci: “Overcoming Impostor Sydrome”
(linux.conf.au 2013)
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Julie Pagano: “It's Dangerous to Go Alone” (PyCon 2014)
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Mood Gym: https://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome
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Slides, handout, guide for this workshop:
http://adainitiative.org/continue-our-work/impostor-
syndrome-training/
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31. Thank you for your attention
Timea
Turdean
12/03/2016
timea.turdean@gmail.com

32. thank you!