Pastor Elio Marrocco's "Defusing Your Anger" sermon at New Life Christian Church on October 28, 2012. You can learn more about New Life Christian Church here: http://www.newlifecc.ca

1. WE BELIEVE
WE BELIEVE
1.JESUS IS OUR SAVIOUR
2.JESUS IS OUR BAPTIZER IN THE HOLY
SPIRIT
3.JESUS IS OUR HEALER
4.JESUS IS OUR COMING KING
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2. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
Text: Proverbs 25:28 & selected
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3. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
"To dwell above with those we love, oh,
that will be a glory, but to dwell below
with those we know - that's a different
story."
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4. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
The issue today is not how can I get rid of
all my anger but how can I express it in
non-destructive ways?
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5. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
1. The maniac.
Genesis 4:5, 8 (GN)
"Cain became furious and he scowled in
anger. And while they were in the
field, Cain attacked [circle attacked]
his brother Abel, and killed him."
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6. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
1. The maniac.
2. The mute.
Jeremiah 15:17-18 (GN)
"I stayed by myself [This is the key phrase
of the mute] and was filled with
anger. Why do I keep on suffering?
Why are my wounds incurable? Why
won't they heal? 6

7. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
1. The maniac.
2. The mute.
“It's not so much what you eat that counts,
it's what eats you.”
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8. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
1. The maniac.
2. The mute.
3. The martyr.
Luke 15:28
"The elder brother was so angry he would
not go in [circle this] to the party. So
his father went out and pleaded with
him." 8

9. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
1. The maniac.
2. The mute.
3. The martyr.
4. The manipulator.
Luke 6:11
“But they were furious and began to plot
with each other what they might do to
Jesus.” 9

10. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
II. HOW TO DIFFUSE YOUR ANGER
1. Understand why we get angry
Proverbs 19:11
"A man's wisdom gives him patience."
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11. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
CAUSES OF ANGER
• When we hurt.
"The divorce is far from over for the
former spouses who are angrily ever
after. In a study of people who have
been divorced, one out of three
people, slightly more than one third of
men and women after ten years, still
feel `intense feelings of anger'
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12. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
CAUSES OF ANGER
• When we hurt.
• When we are frustrated.
• When we are insecure.
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13. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
II. HOW TO DIFFUSE YOUR ANGER
1. Understand why we get angry
2. Look to God not others for our self-
worth.
Ecclesiastes 7:21
"Don't pay attention to everything people
say."
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14. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
HOW DO YOU GET
THAT KIND OF SELF CONFIDENCE?
Proverbs 14:26 (GN)
"Reverence for the Lord gives confidence
and security to a man."
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15. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
II. HOW TO DIFFUSE YOUR ANGER
1. Understand why we get angry
2. Look to God not others for our self-
worth.
3. Stop and think before reacting.
Proverbs 13:16
"Sensible people always think before they
act." Circle “think” 15

16. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
II. HOW TO DIFFUSE YOUR ANGER
1. Understand why we get angry
2. Look to God not others for our self-
worth.
3. Stop and think before reacting.
Proverbs 13:16 (GN)
"Intelligent people think before they
speak." 16

17. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
T. Jefferson,
“IF YOU'RE ANGRY, COUNT TO TEN.
IF YOU'RE VERY ANGRY,
COUNT TO ONE HUNDRED.”
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18. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
THREE QUESTIONS TO ASK WHEN ANGRY
1. Why am I angry?
2. What do I really want out of this
encounter?
3. How can I best get it?
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19. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
THE FACT IS ANGER IS A CHOICE.
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20. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
Proverbs 29:11 (LB)
"A wise man holds his temper in and cools
it."
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21. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
II. HOW TO DIFFUSE YOUR ANGER
1. Understand why we get angry
2. Look to God not others for our self-
worth.
3. Stop and think before reacting.
4. Learn to relax.
Proverbs 14:30 (LB)
"A relaxed attitude lengthens a man's life."21

22. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
HOW TO RELAX
 Be aware when tension is building up
in
your life.
 Learn some relaxation techniques.
 Develop a sense of humor.
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23. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
II. HOW TO DIFFUSE YOUR ANGER
1. Understand why we get angry
2. Look to God not others for our self-
worth.
3. Stop and think before reacting.
4. Learn to relax.
5. Continually ask God for help.
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24. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
I. FOUR WAYS PEOPLE EXPRESS ANGER
II. HOW TO DIFFUSE YOUR ANGER
5. Continually ask God for help.
Galatians 5:22
"The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,
patience..."
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25. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
Point:
Whatever is inside
is going to come out when it's squeezed.
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26. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
‘When the world puts pressure on you and
the deadlines are coming in and the
people around you are increasing the
level of expectation, you are in the
squeeze.’
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27. DEFUSING YOUR ANGER
And when the Spirit of God is in your life
He will fill you with love, joy, peace,
patience, gentleness, goodness, faith,
meekness and self-control.
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