Have you ever been in love? We all have, at least once. The attachment bond is the term for your first interactive love relationship—the one you had with your primary caregiver as an infant, usually your mother. This mother-child attachment bond shapes an infant's brain, profoundly influencing your self-esteem, your expectations of others, and your ability to attract and maintain successful adult relationships. By learning about attachment, you can build healthier, attuned relationships, and communicate more effectively.

1. Genovieve Feasey
Therapeutic Coach – Hypnotherapist
Regulatory Bodies BACP & GHR
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2. Relationship Attachments
Have you ever been in
Love
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?

3. Relationship Attachments
Relationship between infants and their primary caregivers is responsible for:
1. Shaping the success or failure of future
relationships
2. The ability to maintain emotional balance
3. The ability to enjoy being ourselves and to find
satisfaction in being with others
4. The ability to rebound from disappointment,
discouragement and misfortune
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4. Relationship Attachments
Neuroscience And Healing Past Pain
• New discoveries about the brain
• Childhood pain = traumatic event = leaves an imprint
in our brain stem
• This part of the brain works in black or white
associated with fight or flight response.
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5. Relationship Attachments
Eric Erikson’s description of Psychological
Development that occurs throughout the lifespan.
Important
Outcome
Events
Stage
Infancy
(birth to 18 months)
Trust
v
Mistrust
Feeding
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Children develop a
sense of trust when
caregivers provide
reliability, care, and
affection. A lack of
this will lead to
mistrust.

6. Relationship Attachments
Basic Conflict Important
Stage
Events
Autonomy
V
Toilet
Early Childhood
Shame
(2 to 3 years)
Training
And
Doubt
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Outcome
Children need to
develop a sense of
personal control over
physical skills and a
sense of independence.
Success leads to feelings
of autonomy, failure
results in feelings of
shame and doubt.

7. Relationship Attachments
Stage
Preschool
(3 to 5 years)
Basic Conflict
Important
Events
Initiative
Exploration
v
Guilt
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Outcome
Children need to begin
asserting control and power
over the environment.
Success in this stage leads
to a sense of purpose.
Children who try to exert
too much power experience
disapproval, resulting in a
sense of guilt.

8. Relationship Attachments
Stage
School Age
(6 to 11 years)
Basic Conflict
Industry
v
Inferiority
Important
Events
Outcome
School
Children need to
cope with new social
and academic
demands. Success
leads to a sense of
competence, while
failure results in
feelings of inferiority.
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9. Relationship Attachments
Stage
Adolescence
(12 to 18 years)
Basic Conflict
Identity
V
Role
Confusion
Important
Events
Social
Relationships
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Outcome
Teens need to develop
a sense of self and
personal identity.
Success leads to an
ability to stay true to
yourself, while failure
leads to role confusion
and a weak sense of
self.

10. Relationship Attachments
Stage
Young Adulthood
(19 to 40 years)
Basic Conflict
Intimacy
v
Isolation
Important
Events
Relationships
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Outcome
Young adults need to
form intimate, loving
relationships with
other people. Success
leads to strong
relationships, while
failure results in
loneliness and
isolation.

11. Relationship Attachments
Stage
Middle Adulthood
(40 to 65 years)
Basic Conflict
Important
Events
Work
Generativity
And
V
Stagnation Parenthood
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Outcome
Adults need to create or
nurture things that will
outlast them, often by
having children or
creating a positive change
that benefits other
people. Success leads to
feelings of usefulness and
accomplishment, while
failure results in shallow
involvement in the world.

12. Relationship Attachments
Stage
Basic Conflict
Important
Events
Ego Integrity Reflection
Maturity
V
(65 to death)
on
Despair
Life
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Outcome
Older adults need to
look back on life and
feel a sense of
fulfilment. Success at
this stage leads to
feelings of wisdom,
while failure results in
regret, bitterness, and
despair.

13. Relationship Attachments
Help to Resolve Relationship Issue’s
IMAGO THEORY
EMDR THEORY
“What we don’t dare look a, within ourselves, we tend to project out onto others!”
“If you hate a person, you hate something in them that is part of yourself. What isn’t
part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us.”
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14. Genovieve Feasey
Therapeutic Coach – Hypnotherapist
Regulatory Bodies BACP & GHR
Call m 07833 196 474 t 01494 883 815
www.thechiocetochange.com