4. WHAT IS MARRIAGE??
Marriage is defined as a lifelong union between
man and woman for the propagation of the
race; for their mutual help and solace; and for
the purpose of enabling them to work out
together their happiness both here and
hereafter. In a marriage, you are the key to the
happiness or unhappiness of your partner.
Marriage is defined as the act of joining two
people in wedlock. The married couple must be
the husband and wife or man and woman. God
instituted marriage done outside God’s standard
is an abomination before Him, e.g. marriages of
the homosexuals.
5. “ You’re the key to the
happiness of your
wife/husband”.
There’s so much unhappiness.
Homes that God intended to
be a little bit of pure heaven
are a large bit of pure misery.
Marriages are breaking up;
couples are separating,
declaring to the world their
inability to obtain the
happiness they seek. Saddest
are the little children left
stunned and whimpering by
the forces of unhappy
circumstances.
6. And happiness is so desirable.
God has put so much in this big,
wide world to make folks glad.
Life was never intended to swim
in tears. God’s plan calls for pure
and unadulterated joy.
Somewhere we’ve missed the
boat. We’ve failed to make the
proper connection. We’re on the
wrong trail. Our emphasis has
been misplaced. We’ve failed to
see the prime source of
happiness.
7. In the face of so much unhappiness, how do we
know that true happiness is possible? How can we be
sure?
Let’s be reminded of what we already know to be
true. The home is God’s institution and marriage is
God’s idea. Husbands and wives are God’s inventions
and the whole purpose of home life is one of God’s
planning.
8. SOME CAUSES OF UNHAPPINESS
OTHER
MONEY
WOMEN
RAISING IN-
DRINKING
CHILDREN LAWS/RELATIVES
9. STAYING OUT TRIVIAL
TOO LATE THINGS
LEISURE TIME
SELFISHNESS
PROBLEMS
RELIGION
10. 1. Money – where did
all the
paycheck/wages go?
Was it wisely spent?
The scarcity of
money brings up the
related questions as
to whether or not
the life should work
too. How then to buy
the things wanted?
11. 2. Raising children – the
problem of what the
kids do or do not do.
Whether to take them
with you when you go
places. Social matters
affecting children’s
training such as, who
administers discipline,
who decides
questions?
12. 3. Drinking – especially when
the husband goes out to
drink and then comes home
to raise trouble. Too much
money spent on liquor.
Inability to purchase the
other things on account of
liquor spending.
4. Other women/other men –
jealousy of each other;
stepping out on each other.
Too much gadding about;
not enough attention paid
to home obligations. Homes
suffer on this account.
13. 5. In-laws and relatives –
arguments about each
other’s families; mother-
in-law problem;
relationship to one
another’s families; time
spent with the in-laws.
6. Staying out too late –
husbands going out and
not taking the wives.
Husbands taking too
many nights away from
home and family.
Husband or wife comes
home too late and too
often.
14. 7. Trivial things –matters of no
great importance. Things
one wants to do and the
other objects. Some rather
childish insistence on
unnecessary matters. Each
fails to give in to the other.
8. Leisure time problems –
certain tasks needed to be
done about the house
which husband steadfastly
overlooks. Amount of time
the husband ought to give
to the wife socially. Failing
to take wife out to dinner.
15. 9. Selfishness –not enough
“give and take” on the part of
both members. Wives claim
to have the right to do “some
thinking” for herself.
Endeavor on the part of the
wife to be “boss” with
husbands objecting.
10. Religion –different beliefs;
different doctrines; different
churches. The problem of
rearing children in the face of
different Church affiliations.
The endeavor on the part of
one to bring the other to the
same belief.
16. There you have it. These are the causes
and supposedly, if you solve these problems,
happiness will result. Unfortunately, it’s not
as simple as that.
17. Here’s another angle! A further poll sampled
husbands’ opinions as to the chief faults of
their wives. Again, faults are listed in order to
importance:
18. 1. Nagging –nagging with never a
letup. Not mere suggestions but
constant pounding. Nor did one
husband interviewed attribute
any part of his success to wife’s
nagging.
2. Extravagance – “they want to
spell all you’ve got trying to
keep up with the Joneses”. They
don’t realize what a fellow has
to do to gat ahead; they hinder
him, spend every cent he has.
3. Poor homemaker – “my wife
doesn’t keep our house clean”.
Wives don’t get their husbands
breakfast anymore. They skip
through housework and waste
time gossiping.
19. 4. Too much night-clubbing and
drinking – “they visit taverns
and neglect their children.”
5. Gossiping – “They run their
tongues overtime.” talking on
the telephone too much. “My
wife has a highly developed
knack for twisting and
misinterpreting things people
say.” They deal too much in
fiction.
6. Selfishness – “It’s gimme,
gimme, gimme all the time.”
My wife takes too much time
getting dressed; she’s always
late for appointments. She
never thinks about my
comfort, only hers.
20. 7. Too many outside interest –
sewing clubs, literary clubs,
card clubs, tea clubs ----
women have gone club-crazy.
Wives are so busy running
around doing good, they
have no time for their
husbands.
8. Too bossy – “She runs the
home, she runs me. She’s
always telling the neighbors
what to do, and now she’s
even trying to tell how to run
the country.” They try to run
men’s affairs as well as their
own fail at both.
21. 9. Careless and untidy personality – “Women
get married, get fat and sloppy.” “My wife
doesn’t try to make herself attractive any
more.”
10. Interested in too many other men.
22. Let’s approach the problem from another
angle. Here is a sampling of Wives’ opinion as
regards to the chief faults of husbands,
presumably, their husbands: (faults are in
order)
23. 1. Drinking far outran all
other male faults which
wives mentioned.
2. Thoughtlessness, lack of
consideration. “As they get
older, they become less
gallant to their wives.”
Often, its thoughtlessness
about little things.
3. Selfishness. “When they
are healthy they want to be
Kings, when they are sick,
they want to be babies.”
Some husbands “always do
what they want to do, and
never think of the rest of
us.”
24. 4. Too domineering. “They always
want to be boss and never think
that anyone else knows anything
except themselves. This “he-
man, big-boss stuff” gets pretty
boring.
5. Waywardness of husbands.
Most husbands insists not to
listen to their wives’ suggestions.
6. Stinginess. Many wives say that
“husbands have no idea what it
costs to run a household these
days.” Men continue to spend
money on themselves but argue
over every dime the wife
requests.
25. 7. Lack of interest in the home.
Wives agree that the home
should be mutual job. They
want husbands to share the
responsibility. Too many
husbands leave all the tasks of
child rising to the wife.
8. Men stop courting their wives
too soon. “As soon as they get
the ring on your finger, they
take you for granted.” They
become “so wrapped up in
business they hardly notice
their wives.” A woman doesn’t
mind household tasks if her
man will “surprise” her once in
a while, flatter her, flirt with
her.
26. 9. Men complain too
much. Nothing is right.
Very rarely do they
compliment their wives
even when wives go all
out to please them.
10. Too much gambling,
too much smoking.
Dirty, smelly pipes
around the house,
cigarette ashes on the
rugs. “My husband loses
all his money playing
poker.
27. Open for Suggestions,
clarifications,
violent reactions
and your brilliant
ideas WILL BE
ACCEPTED.
29. CONJUGAL LOVE
BETWEEN
HUSBAND &
WIFE.
PERSONS UNITED
BY THE TIES OF
FUNDAMENTAL
MARRIAGE,
UNIT OF SOCIETY.
BLOOD OR
ADOPTION.
FAMILY
30. OBJECTIVES OF THE FAMILY
1. The promotion of the physical and spiritual
welfare of its members.
2. It is from the family that the State derives its
strength and directions.
3. It supplies the State with its human
resources.
4. It is directed by nature towards the
procreation and education of children.
5. It provides for the propagation and
permanence of the human species.
31. The Ideal Family
Parents and children are bound to each other,
not only by the laws of genetics, but by the
law of love. It is wrong to believe that the
success of the family in procuring those
material needs and luxuries of life constitutes
happiness. Without genuine love permeating
the family, the relationship is sterile.
32. Genuine love in the home between
parents, and between parents and children
provides the solid foundation of a good home.
There is no greater dynamics than love that
could inspire and stimulate parents to be
devote, patient, kind and forgiving to each
other.
33. TYPES OF FAMILY
EXTENDED
FAMILY
BLENDED FAMILY
SINGLE-
PARENT
FAMILY
NATURAL
FAMILY
34. The Natural family. The
traditional family---a mother,
father and their biological
children—is often considered to
be the natural family, or nuclear
family. But changes in culture,
values, economy, and other
factors have rendered this family
type no longer typical.
The Blended family. This is an
increasing common family type
today. This family type consists of
two adults and their children. But
because of divorce, separation,
death or adoption, the children
may be the product of other
biological parents or of just one of
the adults who is raising them.
35. The Single-parent family. This type of
family has one parent and at least one
child. Divorce, separation, desertion,
and death makes single-parent
families the fastest growing type of
family unit in the United States today.
The Extended family. Typically refers
to the relatives –aunts, uncles,
cousin(s) or grandparents –who are
part of the family unit. Some
extended families also include
individuals who are not related by
marriage or kinship but are treated
like family or share common identity
with the family. These surrogate
family members may even be called
Mom, Dad, Aunt, or Uncle, honoring
them as part of the family circle.
36. In addition to Satir’s categories, there is at
least one that can encompass any of her
definitions. The family in which you were
raised –no matter what type it is –is your
family of origin. It is in your family of origin
that you learned the rules and skills of
interpersonal communication and developed
your basic assumptions about relationship.
38. WHOSO FINDETH A WIFE
FINDETH A GOOD
THING.
PROVERBS 18:22
BIBLE
39. MARRIAGE
WHAT IS MARRIAGE?
WHY DO PEOPLE MARRY?
WHAT ARE THE REQUISITES
OF MARRIAGE?
WHO MAY SOLEMNIZED
MARRIAGE?
WHAT ARE THE RIGHTS AND
OBLIGATIONS OF HUSBAND
AND WIFE?
40. WHAT IS MARRIAGE?
: AN IMPORTANT INSTITUTIONAL
ELEMENT OF THE FAMILY…
:WHY IMPORTANT?
ANS: ’COZ IT ENSURE ITS
CONTINUITY.
:MAKES SEX LEGITIMATE
41. e. o. # 209 define marriage as…
Article 1. Marriage is a special contract of
permanent union between a man and a
woman entered into in accordance with law
for the establishment of conjugal and family
life. It is the foundation of the family and an
inviolable social institution whose nature,
consequences, and incidents are governed by
law and not subject to stipulation, except
that marriage settlements may fix the
property relations during the marriage within
the limits provided by this Code. (52a) (Title
42. Why do people marry?
ASIDE FROM SEX, PEOPLE MARRY FOR A
COMBINATION OF REASONS SUCH AS:
LOVE, ECONOMIC SECURITY,
EMOTIONAL SECURITY, PARENT’S
WISHES, ESCAPE FROM LONELINESS OR
AN UNHAPPY HOME SITUATION,
MONEY, COMPANIONSHIP, COMMON
INTEREST, ETC.
43. REQUISITES OF MARRIAGE
(1) capacity of the contracting
parties who must be a male
and a female;
(2) Consent freely given in the
presence of the solemnizing
officer.
44. The formal requisites of marriage are:
(1)Authority of the solemnizing officer;
(2)(2) A valid marriage license except in the
cases provided for in Chapter 2 of this Title;
(3)(3) …their personal declaration that they
take each other as husband and wife in the
presence of not less than two witnesses of
legal age.
(4)Art. 5. Any male or female of the age of
eighteen years or upwards…(ART. 2-6)
45. Marriage may be solemnized by:
• (1) Any incumbent member of the judiciary
within the court's jurisdiction;
• (2) Any priest, rabbi, imam, or minister
…registered with the civil registrar general,
…at least one of the contracting parties
belongs to the solemnizing officer's church.
• (3) Any ship captain or airplane chief ..Art
31;
(4) Any military commander of a unit.ART
32;
• (5) Any consul-general, consul or vice-
46. RIGHTS AND OBLIGATIONS
• The husband and wife are obliged to live
together, observe mutual love, respect and
fidelity, and render mutual help and
support. (109a)
• The husband and wife shall fix the family
domicile…
• The spouses are jointly responsible for the
support of the family…(ART.68-70)
47. CONT….
• The management of the household shall be the
right and the duty of both spouses…
• When one of the spouses neglects his or her
duties to the conjugal union or commits acts
which tend to bring danger, dishonor or injury to
the other or to the family, the aggrieved party
may apply to the court for relief. (116a)
• Either spouse may exercise any legitimate
profession, occupation, business or activity
without the consent of the other. The latter may
object only on valid, serious, and moral grounds.
(ART.71-73)
48. MAXIM
“KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE
OPEN BEFORE MARRIAGE,
HALF SHUT AFTERWARDS.”
BENJAMIN FRANKLIN
