Dr. Raymond H. Hamden presented to the UAS community about helping each child achieve their maximum potential by building positive character strengths.
4. Communication
can be perceived as a two-way process
in which there is an exchange and progression of
thoughts, feelings, behavior, or ideas
towards a mutually accepted goal or direction.
8. Study
Dunlap and colleagues (2006) found that
young children who have challenging behaviors
are likely to have problems with mental health,
academic achievement, as well as socialization
in adolescence and adulthood.
Significance
The importance of parenting
and child rearing
Solution
The development of…
social emotional competence
9. ž Also referred to as “character education”
ž A set of acquired skills that can be developed
beginning from childhood and promote a
deeper bond
à Practice active or empathetic listening
techniques with your child.
à Help your child overcome feelings of despair
and stress through meditation
à Read stories and then discuss the ethical
ideas with one another
12. “What was the last bad thing to happen to you?”
Other or
none
Interpersonal
conflict or
problem
Health
problem
(self or
other)
Economic, work
or legal problem
Death of
significant
other
20%
30%
23%
14%
14%
Source: Veroff, Douvan & Kulka (1981) survey of ~2,200 Americans
13. 7%
36%
57%
“What was the best thing that happened today?”
Interaction
with friends
or family
Health and
body-
related
Work or
school-
related
Source: Gable & Reis (2010), Advances in Experimental Social Psychology
14. ♦ Denmark is the happiest country in the world, and the primary factor
contributing to its happiness is the nature of Danes’ social connections
(Diener, 2008).
15. How to teach your children to be:
Ø Independent
Ø Flexible
Ø Adaptable
Ø Responsible
Ø Respectful
16. Teaching children how to be independent is helping
them become more Emotionally Intelligent
For instance
v Coping with an immediate situation
v Solving problems of an interpersonal nature
v Being sufficiently positive
v Understanding our own strengths
and weaknesses
17. Ø Response Inhibition
The ability to resist saying or doing something
impulsively without letting a certain
amount of time elapse
Ø Emotional Control
The ability to manage emotions, in order
to attain goals
Ø Sustained Attention
The ability to attend to tasks in spite
of distractions
18. Ø Task Initiation
The ability to begin a task without ` `
procrastinating
Ø Flexibility
The ability to adapt in changing conditions
Ø Goal directed persistence
The drive to follow through the completion of
a goal
19. ž Foster a positive attitude
à Be optimistic (EI)
à This decreases the tension in times of hardship
ž Change negative attitudes at an early age
à Let your child openly discuss their feelings (SEL)
ž Teach your child self-care
à For instance, by eating properly and exercising
ž Have a daily routine
à This creates organization
à It becomes an easy system to follow
20. Building resilience
(the ability to thrive regardless of the challenges)
Autonomy, self-esteem, and
future time orientation
Adaptability
Precursors to…
21. q We are not born with the ability
to be responsible.
q Responsibility is acquired over time
with practice.
q Teaching your child to be responsible at
an early age serves as a catalyst to make
your child more competent and resilient
in the future.
22. ž Let them understand what they are feeling
and why they are feeling that way
à Let your child express negative emotions because this can
turn inward and harm your child. This may even lead to the
development of clinical depression or anxiety
à Watch out for the use of negative connotations in your
child’s expressions, such as “I’ll never make any friends” or “I
cannot do it because I’m not good enough”
ž Allocate time for your child to help others
à Volunteering, assisting other in the areas
that your child excels
à This gives them a productive sense
23. q Be a good role model
One way children learn is by
imitating parents
q Praise good behavior
When your child uses respectful
language, such as “thank you”,
“please”, “welcome”;
Intangible rewards –
recognition and privileges
q Correct inappropriate behavior
Do not ignore misbehavior
Be sturdy, firm, and direct
24. q Listen to your tone instead of your words
q Children sense what their parents are feeling
q Sometimes they’re not listening to your words
so much as looking at your face and reacting to
the tone of your voice
25. q Purpose of study
To teach children about fairness and to decrease
their engagement in gender-prejudice behaviors
q Sample
Boys and girls aged 10-13 years old in Western USA
q Results
The students in the experimental group that
completed the awareness program reported
experiencing less gender-prejudice behavior
by their classmates.
These students also learned to challenge
gender role stereotypes.
27. How to teach your children to be:
Ø Independent
Ø Flexible
Ø Adaptable
Ø Responsible
Ø Respectful
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