If you have ever had an argument or conflict with your spouse, you have no doubt said some things to your man that you wish you could take back. That is not uncommon. However, when you are trying to either improve your marriage, or worse, recover from infidelity, it is important to be careful about what is said. Let’s touch on three things you should never say to your man.
3 Things You Should Never Say to Your Man (and 3 Things You Should!)
1. 3 Things You Should Never Say to Your Man
(and 3 Things You Should!)
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If you have ever had an argument or conflict with your spouse, you have no doubt said
some things to your man that you wish you could take back. That is not uncommon.
However, when you are trying to either improve your marriage, or worse, recover from
infidelity, it is important to be careful about what is said. Let’s touch on three things
you should never say to your man.
2. These three things are areas that can cut a man to the core and leave him wounded,
no matter how rough and tough an exterior he may portray. They are as follows:
1) Never say to your man that he cannot provide for his family
Saying things like “If you had a real job, we would have a better lifestyle” or “If you
weren’t so lazy and went out and made more, we would not be living paycheck to
paycheck!”
3. These three things are areas that can cut a man to the core and leave him wounded,
no matter how rough and tough an exterior he may portray. They are as follows:
1) Never say to your man that he cannot provide for his family
Saying things like “If you had a real job, we would have a better lifestyle” or “If you
weren’t so lazy and went out and made more, we would not be living paycheck to
paycheck!”
2) Never say to your man that he has no interest in time with his family
Things such as “You like to spend more time with your buddies playing golf than you
do with us!” or “You spend so much time at work, your family doesn’t know you
anymore.”
4. 3) Never say he does not contribute to the household
You don’t want to say things like “Can’t you lift a finger to do something around
here!” or “Would it kill you to clean up a dish or two?”
5. 3) Never say he does not contribute to the household
You don’t want to say things like “Can’t you lift a finger to do something around
here!” or “Would it kill you to clean up a dish or two?”
These are three things you should never say to your man because it strikes at the very
core of a man. Men have a deep, often subconscious need to succeed in these areas.
If you are finding that your man’s job or occupation is causing challenges for you at
home, try to work with him if you want to win his heart and have him give it his all. If
you are critical about his abilities to be a breadwinner, your man will often times feel
discouraged.
6. Now before I go any further, let me explain something to you…this is not providing
cover or excuses for your man’s poor behavior. Nor is it a claim that you should just
throw your hands up and give in. In fact, I will show you that it is quite the opposite.
Besides what you should NEVER say to your man, I am about to reveal to you that you
have the ability to make real change here by working with him instead of against him.
7. Now before I go any further, let me explain something to you…this is not providing
cover or excuses for your man’s poor behavior. Nor is it a claim that you should just
throw your hands up and give in. In fact, I will show you that it is quite the opposite.
Besides what you should NEVER say to your man, I am about to reveal to you that you
have the ability to make real change here by working with him instead of against him.
Men love praise. Especially from the woman that they love. It is often validation for
them that they are appreciated for what they are doing. By encouraging your man,
most times you will find that he is willing to try harder. When you cut into him and rip
him for his efforts, it is the tendency of a man to simply shut down and go off and “lick
his wounds”, so to speak.
8. So what can you say instead that may help to motivate your man and get the results
from him that you desire? Let’s take a look…
9. So what can you say instead that may help to motivate your man and get the results
from him that you desire? Let’s take a look…
1) You should tell your man that you acknowledge his ability to provide for his
family
Something along the lines of, “I appreciate your efforts and I know you are working
hard. I would like to explore some ways that we can boost our household income and
perhaps you and I could look at ways to reduce our household expenses.”
10. So what can you say instead that may help to motivate your man and get the results
from him that you desire? Let’s take a look…
1) You should tell your man that you acknowledge his ability to provide for his
family
Something along the lines of, “I appreciate your efforts and I know you are working
hard. I would like to explore some ways that we can boost our household income and
perhaps you and I could look at ways to reduce our household expenses.”
2) You should tell your man that you know he values his being a member of the
family
Something like, “I know that work is asking a lot of you right now. The kids and I need
time from you, too, and we miss you. How can we work together to create a win-win
situation here?”
11. 3) You should acknowledge his contribution to the household
You should say something such as, “I am indeed sensitive to how many hours you are
working, I know you work hard at the office. But I have a job, too. I really need more
help from you in doing the household chores.”
12. 3) You should acknowledge his contribution to the household
You should say something such as, “I am indeed sensitive to how many hours you are
working, I know you work hard at the office. But I have a job, too. I really need more
help from you in doing the household chores.”
By using a positive and more constructive approach, you will find that your man is
much more responsive to your needs and you may be surprised at just how much
effort he puts forth to win your approval.
13. These are just a few initial things that you should never say to your man. To fully
ensure that your marriage is strong, rewarding and affair-proof, I strongly recommend
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