Positive Parenting - How To Raise Optimistic and Resilient Children

1. A children’s strengths survey
Build a cardboard house together
Sleeping with babies
Recalling good and bad things from the day
Eating or reading together
Average 2 positive to 1 negative thought Synchrony (mimicking) games
Non-depressed adults Spending time together
Children should be higher
Best Moments Toys that promote flow Interactive at wide range of levels
What did you like today?
Pre-view tomorrow At about age five
What do you want to do tomorrow ?
Love
Works well at the age of five
Affection
Dangers Provide unconditional
Reserved strictly for “No” Ebullience
Not inconveniences Limit setting
Warmth
Good predictor of future positive mental health Match to strengths Chores
Save PRAISE for real success Calibrate it to the scale of the success
Immediate and significant positive (highly desired toy)
Positive Parenting - Martin Seligman Focus on happy picture
For promise to change unwanted behavior, with clear,
Say it repeatedly while falling asleep
meaningful, and significant consequences for that
Dreamland
positive on first and second breach of promise In rare circumstances, make a deal Intend to dream about it
(temporary, then permanent loss of toy)
Call up a happy picture in your mind Make it into a movie
No more than twice per childhood
Only as a last resort Seligman, M. E. (2002). Authentic happiness: using the new positive psychology
to realize your potential for lasting fulfillment. New York: Free Press.
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