This details the adult bully mindset and how they function in the world.

1. What You MUST Know About Adult Bullies
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The Problem
Bullying has captured the media spotlight as of late, and there have been multiple
stories, not only of the bullying itself but of the deaths of people, young and old

2. who committed suicide because they believed that it was the only way to stop the
bullying.
I too have been bullied, many times throughout my life. My late father was a
bully, and so is my younger brother. The bullying created tremendous emotional
pain. For years, I was in counseling for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and
the cause was bullying and harassment.
If someone is bullying you, you don't need anyone to tell you how difficult it is to
cope with, how much it hurts emotionally, nor how many people won't believe
you. And to make matters worse, some of your "friends" might side with the bully
and abandon you.
Essential Things You Need to Know
One of the first things you need to know is that the bully is not a normal human
being. The very things that would be abhorrent to you are fuel to a bully. For one
thing, bullies get off on the fight. They get their energy from the humiliation, mind
games, twisting your words, workplace sabotage, backstabbing, etc.
By fighting back, you feed their hunger. And while they may seem angry or even
appear to be crying while they abuse you, it's an act. Anything to get you to
respond. And if you respond, the bullying will continue.
The longer the bullying continues, the worse the emotional pain becomes. It can
totally devastate an ordinary person, and the damage can take years of recovery
if it happens at all. One of the devastating effects of bullying is developing Post
Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), which could lead to many years of suffering.
Fortunately, there are some therapies for this and we'll look at those options on
this site.
In my years of bullying I tried desperately to beat the bully or to end the cycle but
I never reckoned with the power of the bully to bait me and draw me back into
the drama. And if you're reading these words, this has probably happened to you,
too.

3. Bullying and Crazy Making Behavior
Years ago, I learned about crazy making in a 12-step group. It refers to a situation
where someone´s behavior is so extreme that you cannot predict what they will
do at any given moment. If you try to make sense of it, the illogical behavior will
drive you crazy, hence the term. Another definition I encountered was "Come
here - go away."
Crazy making is a dynamic found with abusive people and quite often manifests in
homes where addiction(s) occupy center stage.
It is also a characteristic of bullying.
Bullies will say or do anything to get what they want, and they have no conscience
about their actions.
If bullying is present in your life, it will begin to affect you mentally and could
cause PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and other psychological problems.
One nasty little trick that bullies pull is when they realize they are close to being
unmasked. In this case, the bully could suddenly reverse course, cast himself or
herself as the victim, and accuse their victim of being the abuser.
For many victims (targets) that´s the last straw, and they can sometimes lash out
and from an emotional place. If/when that happens, the bully will point at their
target and say: "See, I told you he/she was mentally unstable."
If this has happened to you, you know how infuriating it can be.
When reporting bullying behavior, it is important to stay as calm and reasonable
as possible, even when provoked. That way the bully cannot trap you. If you give
into emotion and anger, you will damage your position and give more power to
the bully.
The bottom line is this, if you want to recover from the
trauma of bullying, you MUST get the bully out of your life. If
you do not, it will be difficult, if not impossible, to recover.

4. When the Bully is No Longer in Your Life
For some people, getting the bully out of their lives is enough and they will begin
to recover. Others have been traumatized by the ongoing harassment which has
caused a psychological injury, sometimes known as PTSD, or Post Traumatic Stress
Disorder.
If this has happened to you, you know you’re in trouble. Fortunately, help exists. I
work with Hamish Bayston, a coach who specializes in working with victims of
bullying. With his coaching, you can remove the trauma of bullying from your life,
change your limiting beliefs, stop the obsessive thinking and begin to live a
normal life, free of the trauma of bullying.
For more information, write to me at visualartist49@gmail.com or call me at (408)
844-4851. I’m on PST. You can also visit my website, which is LifeAfterBullying.net
or my YouTube channel.
If you write to me, I will respond within 48 hours.