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What is Person
perception?
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You must Change 6-8
Falling apart… 9
Quotes 10
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Dear Readers!
We read it. We know it. We accept
it – ‘People Perceive Differently’.
Yet, we don’t act it.
The painful reality, with people
around us, bothers them too.
How should we handle it?
Should we always see from the
other person’s perspective? Are
we not important?
Time for us to understand the
different situations, the nuances
and our actions.
Be true to self. Be responsible for
others.
Act now.
whY not!
Cheers,
Rajiv Khurana
Editor
rajiv@rajivkhurana.com
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Social psychology is a fascinating topic that has yielded a
great deal of research on how people behave in groups.
In many cases, the results of several famous experiments
contradict how you would expect people to act in social
situations.
Here are ten things that you should know about social
psychology:
1. The presence of other people can have a powerful
impact on behavior.
When a number of people witness something such as an
accident, the more people that are present the less likely
it is that someone will step forward to help.
This is known as the bystander effect.
2. People will go to great lengths to obey an authority
figure.
People will go to great, and sometimes dangerous,
lengths to obey authority figures. In his famous
obedience experiments, psychologist Stanley Milgram
found that people would be willing to deliver a
potentially fatal electrical shock to another person when
ordered to by the experimenters.
3. The need to conform leads people to go along with the
group.
Most people will go along with the group, even if they
think the group is wrong. In Solomon Asch's conformity
experiments, people were asked to judge which was the
longest of three lines. When other members of the group
picked the wrong line, participants were more likely to
choose the same line.
4. The situation can also have a major influence on social
behavior.
Situational variables can play a major role in our social
behavior. In the Stanford Prison Experiment, psychologist
Philip Zimbardo discovered that participants would take
on the roles given to them to such an extreme that the
experiment had to be discontinued after just six days.
Those placed in the roles of prison guards began to abuse
their power, while those in the role of the prisoners
became anxious and stressed.
What Is
Person
Perception?
10 Quick Facts
About Social
Psychology
A Few Things
You Should
Know About
the Study of
Social Behavior
https://www.verywell.c
om/quick-facts-about-
social-psychology-
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5.People tend to look for things that confirm the things
they already believe.
People typically look for things that confirm their existing
beliefs and ignore information that contradicts what they
already think.
This is known as expectation confirmation. It plays a
major role in what is known as the confirmation bias, a
type of cognitive bias. This tendency to seek
confirmation leads us to sometimes avoid information
that challenges the way we think about the world.
6. The way we categorize others helps us make sense of
the world, but this also leads to stereotyped views.
When we categorize information about social groups, we
tend to exaggerate differences between groups and
minimize the differences within groups. This is part of the
reason why stereotypes and prejudice exist.
7. Underlying attitudes have a strong influence on social
behavior.
Our attitudes, or how we evaluate different things
including people, ideas, and objects, can be both explicit
and implicit. Explicit attitudes are the ones that we form
consciously and of which we are fully aware. Implicit
attitudes, on the other hand, form and work
unconsciously yet still have a powerful influence on our
behavior.
8. Our expectations influence how we view others and
how we think they should behave.
Our perceptions of other people are often based upon
things such as expected roles, social norms, and social
categorizations. Since we expect people who are in a
certain role or part of a particular social group to behave
in a particular way, our initial impressions of a person
frequently rely on these mental shortcuts to make fast
judgments of how we expect people to behave.

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9. We attribute outside forces for
our own failures, but blame
others for their own misfortunes.
When explaining behavior, we
tend to attribute our own good
fortune to internal factors and
negative outcomes to external
forces. When it comes to other
people, however, we typically
attribute their actions to internal
characteristics. For example, if
we get a bad grade on a paper,
it's the teacher's fault; if a
classmate gets a bad grade, it's
because he didn't study hard
enough. This tendency is known
as the actor-observer bias.
10. Sometimes it is easier to just
go along with the crowd than
cause a scene.
In groups, people often go along
with the majority opinion rather
than cause disruption.
This phenomenon is known as
groupthink and tends to occur
more frequently when group
members share a great deal in
common, when the group is
under stress, or in the presence
of a charismatic leader.
These are just a few of the
fascinating forces that influence
our social worlds. Dive deeper
into the world of social
psychology to learn more about
the myriad factors that influence
our social behavior, perceptions,
and interactions.

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“You must change?”
“Why?”
“Because some people don’t like
you.”
“People don’t like Modi ji too. Who
are these people? Why can’t they tell
me? What about people who love
me too?”
“I can’t tell you what they tell me.
You must change now.”
“What do they want me to change?”
“Think over it and change.”
“Do they want me to change
anything specific? Something in my
role or way of doing thing!”
“You argue too much. Take it as a
feedback. Be a better person. Be
rational.”
“What’s wrong with what I have
done so far?”
“You are arguing again. You are an
emotional buffoon. Listen. Agree.
Act.”
“I am confused. What if I refuse to
change?”
“That’s your character. Always I-Me-
Myself. I can’t take it anymore with
you.”
Uff…Uffffff… This is not my wife
speaking. She is an expert in setting
me right. This is my well-wisher. I
have many of them. I am glad Modi ji
is not living with his wife and he does
not give proximity to his ‘holier than
thou’ well-wishers.
Rajiv
Khurana
You must
change…

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I received the following gyaan through ‘forward
maharaj’ on WhatsApp today:
“Ek main hun jo khud ko samjha nahin aajtak,
Ek dunia hai jo mujhey kya kya samajh hai baithi.”
Jai ho, forward maharaj.
You may be thinking ‘what a tough nut I am!’. I know I
am taking the risk. What would you do in my place?
How often have you changed because people want
you? Don’t give me a job role funda. Those are role
adjustments. I am a job outcast for over three decades.
Let’s talk about personality. Why is it that people need
a small adjustment in your role relationship with them
but demand that you change your personality in to-to?
What will happen if we keep changing our personality
as per each person who shares the life or career journey
for infrequent shorter duration? What will happen if we
start making comments and demand a personality
change in them? Confusing!
How often have we scored 100 out of 100 in
each exam we took? I had been a good student
but never so brilliant. Every high score made me
celebrate. I never bothered about some
percentage I missed out. Relationships too are
like that. Expecting a cent-percent in each is a
sure route to disaster. People tend to point out
the missing score instead of being happy about
the major positive score they derive from a
relationship. Let’s use the Pareto Principle in
relationship as an example. Shouldn’t we be
happy that we have received 80% positives in a
relationship or in other words 4 out of 5
situations are happy situations instead of
moaning about the 1 that is missed out because
of personality, perception or preference. More
confusing!

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In India, the disease is very profound –
“Sabse bada rog, kya kahenge log.” Who are
these ‘log’. We don’t ponder. Are we the ‘log’
for others. No way! We are the God’s gift to
humanity. Should I listen to the ‘log’ who
think my total overall un-questionable
personality change is the solution to all the
problems they perceive or receive? Modi ji is
a happy man. He refuses to listen to these
‘log’. Only the ‘log’ shiver when he starts with
‘Mitron…’.
What should I do? I choose to remain in the
perpetual romance with my personality. I am
responsible for it. I have nurtured it over
many decades. Good, bad or ugly – that’s me.
One of my early stage mentors taught me,
“When you accept someone, accept him in
full. Accept his limitations too. People are not
good or bad. They are good and bad. Set your
ratio and move on in life.” I choose to respect
others. Let them be the way they wish to be.
Move out if the personal or professional
relationship score goes dismal below the
Pareto standard. Bear out the ‘one out of
five’ discomforts and not to demand
anyone’s personality change.
Ensure ‘my self-esteem’ respects their ‘self-
esteem’. Correct myself. Still if the
expectation is too compound to keep hitting
me on my personality, wish them ‘go climb
the tree.’ Period. Confusion – no more!

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When I feel love
When it's apparent, "You and Me"
I get such an adrenalin rush
Like I am the only narration on this earth
Of the beauty and it's beholder
Of the love and 'eternal lovers'.
But as the rain comes down
When clouds of dark surround, 'You and Me"
I feel hollowness insurmountable
Like I have no purpose but to grieve
Over losing you and myself in you
Over the loss and 'lost love'.
It is such a moment of weakness in me
I can do anything for 'You and Me'
I have never known what is falling out of love
Like the water always quenches thirst
You are my breath and elixir of my life
You are my smile and my completeness.
But I should have known
Falling apart, 'You and Me'
Because you can see through me
Like I'm sheltered in your arms. And it was just
a dream
I have a broken wing and you have no inkling
I am a falling star, the light is gone and I am
fading..
I miss you when you're around
Can it still be 'You and Me'?
Do you love me or you don't?
Like a cipher decodes in further codes
I give up on your words now
But I am afraid to let you go....
I still remember your first words
Never gone never far, 'You and Me'
Do you still feel the same for me?
Falling
Apart…
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Malhotra
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There are things known and there
are things unknown, and in between
are the doors of perception.
- Aldous Huxley
Our minds influence the key activity of the
brain, which then influences everything;
perception, cognition, thoughts and feelings,
personal relationships; they're all a projection of
you.
-Deepak Chopra
The difference between average people and
achieving people is their perception of and
response to failure.
-John C. Maxwell
Facts matter not at all. Perception is everything.
It's certainty.
-Stephen Colbert
The difference between average people and
achieving people is their perception of and
response to failure.
-John C. Maxwell
PERCEPTIONS

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