Partial slides for recent workshop.

1. LOVE’S INCONSISTENCIES:
NECESSARY
AND
UNNECESSARY FICTIONS

2. QUESTIONS
IS LOVE AN EMOTION OR AN ACTION?
ARE WORDS MORE PENETRATING THAN NON-WORDS?
WHAT IS LOVE’S BETRAYAL?

3. RELATIVITY
PSYCHE
YOU
OTHER
WORLD

4. COMMON INCONSISTENCIES
WORDS VS. BEHAVIORS,
EMOTIONS VS. BEHAVIORS,
EXPECTATIONS VS. BEHAVIORS,
EMOTIONS VS. WORDS,
WORDS VS. WORDS,
BEHAVIOR VS. BEHAVIOR,
TOUCH VS. BEHAVIOR,
TOUCH VS. WORDS,
BETRAYAL

5. FICTIONS
IF I GIVE LOVE , I EXPECT I WILL RECEIVE IT.
IF I TREAT HER/HIM WITH INTIMACY, I WILL
RECEIVE IT IN RETURN.
LOVE IS ABSOLUTE.
SEXUALITY IS LOVE.
THERE’S ONLY ONE TRUE LOVE.

6. I FIND NO PEACE, AND ALL MY WAR IS DONE;
I FEAR AND HOPE, I BURN AND FREEZE LIKEWISE;
I FLY ABOVE THE WIND, YET CANNOT RISE;
AND NOUGHT I HAVE, YET ALL THE WORLD I SEIZE ON;
THAT LOOSETH, NOR LOCKETH, HOLDETH ME IN PRISON,
AND HOLDS ME NOT, YET CAN I ’SCAPE NO WISE;
NOR LETS ME LIVE, NOR DIE, AT MY DEVISE,
AND YET OF DEATH IT GIVETH NONE OCCASION.
WITHOUT EYES I SEE, AND WITHOUT TONGUE I PLAIN;
I WISH TO PERISH, YET I ASK FOR HEALTH;
I LOVE ANOTHER, AND YET I HATE MYSELF;
I FEED IN SORROW, AND LAUGH IN ALL MY PAIN;
LO, THUS DISPLEASETH ME BOTH DEATH AND LIFE,
AND MY DELIGHT IS CAUSER OF MY GRIEF.
LOVE’S INCONSISTENCIES
BY
FRANCESCO PETRARCH

7. RELATIONSHIP CHARACTERISTICS
LOVE CHARACTERISTICS
THE L-BOMB!
APPRECIATION
KINDNESS
EXPECTED
GUILT

8. PROJECTOR, SCREEN & IMAGE
PROJECTION

10. TRISTAN AND ISOLDE
LOVE POTION -- POWERFUL PROJECTION/
NECESARRY FICTION
TRISTAN ISOLDE
PROJECTION NEVER
DIMINISHES -- ROMANTIC
LOVE NOTION/DIMINISHES
WHEN CIRCUMSTANCES
CHANGE

11. ARCHETYPE -- POTENTIAL FORM
EXPERIENCES EXPERIENCES EXPERIENCES
EXPERIENCES ARE DRAWN LIKE A MAGNET TO AN ARCHETYPE
THIS FORMS A COMPLEX

12. FANTASY VANISHES/ PROJECTION FADES
YOU OTHER
WE BEGIN TO DEVALUE EACH OTHER,
THERE IS A GREAT DISILLUSIONMENT AND
THE GREAT PROMISE OF LOVE BECOMES
ENTRAPMENT

13. SHE/HE COMPLETES ME
YOU
OTHER
YOU,
NEEDING
COMPLETION
YOU, COMPLETED PROVIDES A SENSE OF
WHOLENESS, SELF-WORTH
AND WELL BEING

14. LOVE FANTASIES
YOU OTHER
PROJECTION
PROJECT AN IDEAL:
DOSTOEVSKI CLAIMED THAT LOVING A PERSON
MEANS SEEING A PERSON AS GOD MIGHT HAVE
INTENDED HIM OR HER.

15. PSYCHE & LOVE
CONSCIOUS LOVE
UNCONSCIOUS LOVE
PERSONAL
COLLECTIVE

16. THREE TYPES OF LOVE
SO-CALLED LOVE:
PRACTICAL: CONSCIOUS CHOICE
PROJECTIVE: UNCONSCIOUS NO CHOICE
PURITY OF LOVE: UNCONSCIOUS SPIRITUAL LOVE

17. ACTION, SENTIMENT, VALUES, BELIEFS, …
FICTION: FOLLOW SOCIAL MORES & STRUCTURES
RELIGIONS, FAMILY VALUES, …
LEAD TO: CONTROL, DEMANDS, ANXIETY,
DESPAIR, LIVES OF QUIET DESPERATION
EGO
YOU OTHER
PROJECTION
ANIMA/ANIMUS
FICTION: IDEAL OR SOULMATE
SATISFIES ALL NEEDS
AND DESIRES,…
LEADS TO: BREAKUP, SEEKING
NEW PROJECTION,
LIVES OF QUIET
DESPERATION
SO-CALLED LOVE

18. YOU OTHER
CONSCIOUS
PERSONAL UNCONSCIOUS
COLLECTIVE UNCONSCIOUS
GODDESSGOD
SELF
PURITY OF LOVE
FICTION: RELATIONSHIP
WITH THE
ARCHETYPES OF
GOD OR GODDESS
LEADS TO: UNIVERSAL LOVE
OF OTHERS AND
BREAKDOWN OF
SOCIAL NORMS