In this opening message for our new Series “So You Said I Do” we explore the importance and significance of family of origin. The environment we grew up in, our relationship with our parents and siblings how information is shared and conflict experienced. Family of Origin can manifest itself in a number of ways, some helpful, some funny and some unhelpful. Being aware of your family of Origin as well its impact on your current family situation is essential to building a healthy family system. It can be sorted out. Drawing on the teaching in Genesis 2 and Matthew 19 this message encourages the hearer to truly leave their original family, join (or cleave the KJV of the bible says) to their new family and unite together in becoming one. The next best step in creating a family that you love to be part of is to delight in your family and marriage. In short…. Stay Amazed. Enjoy the journey towards a marriage that loves and lasts.

3. DAVE MEURER::
“A great marriage is not
when the 'perfect couple'
comes together. It is when
an imperfect couple learns to
enjoy their differences.”

4. you. new. us.

5. DEFINITION::
Family of origin is the family you were
born in to or grew up in & your parent’s
background. It includes, family messages;
communication styles; traditions &
memories, and how feelings and
emotions are expressed & processed.

7. adaptability: changes in power
1

8. cohesion: emotional bonding
2

9. communication: facilitating movement
3

10. 23 “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is
bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh!
She will be called ‘woman,‘ because she
was taken from ‘man.’” 24 This explains why
a man leaves his father and mother and is
joined to his wife, and the two are united into
one. 25 Now the man and his wife were both
naked, but they felt no shame.
GENESIS 2:23-25 NLT

11. 4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the
beginning the Creator ‘made them male and
female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man
will leave his father and mother and be
united to his wife, and the two will become
one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but
one flesh. Therefore what God has joined
together, let no one separate.”
MATTHEW 19:4-6 NIV

12. make the move: leave
1

13. create the new: join
2

14. build on it: unite
3

15. HENRY FORD::
“Coming together is a
beginning; keeping together
is progress; working together
is success.”

16. “....Rejoice in the wife
of your youth.”
PROVERBS 5:18b NLT

17. STAY
AMAZED

18. delight
changes your
destination.