9. How do you get by? In pairs, address the following scenarios: You are running behind and need a few extra days to complete an assignment for a professor. What strategies do you use to gain an extension?
10. How do you get by? In pairs, address the following scenarios: A rally for improved healthcare is scheduled for tomorrow evening and you really want to go. Your girl/boyfriend, however, appears incredibly apathetic to the whole situation. What do you do to get him/her interested?
11. How do you get by? In pairs, address the following scenarios: Your best friend comes to your apartment late one night with a black eye and several cuts. She tells you her boyfriend attacked her. Later that night she tells you she is going back to his house. How do you convince her not to go?
12. How do you get by? In pairs, address the following scenarios: You notice your best friend has gained a lot of weight over the past month and he is eating a lot of junk food and drinking excessively. You are concerned for his health. How do you get him to take better care of himself?
13. How do you get by? In pairs, address the following scenarios: You realize your girl/boyfriend has become increasingly more attached to you that you are to her/him. You don’t want to break up, but you want to slow things down. How do you do this?
16. Factors to Consider Intentionality “I only wanted to get you fired up.” Severity “No common sense” vs. “F’ng Idiot” Frequency Judgment of Effects “It wasn’t as bad as you are making it out to be…”
The notion here is the person is has invested the least, has more power. Think, for example, of a relationship where you are madly in love with the person but the other person is not madly in love with you. She would likely be in the position of power.
While thus far, we have looked at power as something we most likely want in a relationship, we also know that power in a relationship can be debilitating. The chilling effect refers to situations where the person without the power withholds information that they feel may cause the person with power to leave.For example – If I believe my wife has power, I may avoid telling her about my problems or sharing stories with her. The lack of self-disclosure begins a nasty cycle that ends in decreased satisfaction, increased stress, and unsolved problems.
Give the Power Ploys work sheet, have them go through the options, discuss benefits and costs for engaging in these ploys.