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 My Profile, Bio-Data, Certificates and Photos: Please Kindly Refer 30 Attachments!

This is a Matrimonial Enquary sent to you via http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000.
We both are totally stranger to each-other so far although I am humbly and very gently sending
this profile including attached my Bio-Data, Recommendation Letters, Health Report, Security
Clearance, World Bank Reorganization and my Latest Photographs to an unknown e-mail ID for
a general enquiry and information dissemination motive, with an expectation that it may be
relevant to someone interested.

I am not sure yet, whether the marriage is matter of chance or choice. If this is a matter of chance
and luck, I am curious to find my luck soon! I have used different approach and looking forward
to see the anticipated result. Let's see what will be the consequences in the future as unknown in
life is both challenge as well as opportunity which is a part of our life.

I am extremely sorry for bothering you! You may simply ignore and delete enclosed profile, CV
and working certificates and/or kindly forward this information among your relatives, female
colleagues, lady friend circles and their parents, if someone is also seriously interested for this
and has made her mind for the same purpose. Thank you very much for your kind cooperation in
advance. The following section is only for the concerned one and her related family members,
where I have honestly described my realistic background as marital relationship must be based
on the bond of trust and honesty.

Dear Friend:

Please accept warm regards! I am humbly corresponding with reference to the matrimonial
enquiry for your kind rational assessment purpose for a closed but healthy friendship at the
beginning and then possible match in the near future, if both of us are made for each-other upon
our compatibility and comfort! I am a Developmental and Management Practitioner by training
and profession. This year, probably after few months, I am thinking and planning for my
marriage with at least a University Graduate, but preferred Masters Degree and Job Holder or
Self-employed Girl.

If the lady is unemployed at present, she should have career-oriented mind after marriage to use
her education as well as in enhancing for balanced marital life. The main reason for setting all
these minimum practical criteria is to thoroughly empower the prospective life partner and
acquire a reciprocal synergy for our lifelong personal growth and development. For this
rationale, I wish to emotionally, morally and psychologically encourage and motivate my ideal
life partner for her professionalism, edification and overall personality development.

But, what I only expect on her intrinsic lady persona is: natural compassion in the heart of a
well-cultured lady as well as positive attitude and optimistic mind since she will be the source of
an inspiration for a man during difficult circumstances as well as for a positive transformation in
our lives. However, the reality talks lauder than dreams! At present, I represent the working class
economy: we both must work for our livelihood. Currently, I have some hundreds of books in the
name of property in my own name with a four-roomed cemented home and some pieces of land
in Tarai-Sunaul Bazaar, Nawalparashi, which is an outcome of purely my personal income!
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But, I was grown up and educated around Jawalakhel from the age of 10. Consequently, at any
cost, we cannot settle in Terai and must dwell in the metropolitan urban areas. Our sisters and all
relatives have already established their own homes in this valley and I/we also must construct a
permanent residence in Kathmandu soon, although for at least few years, we have to happily live
in a rental flat on temporary basis, especially around Lalitpur Municipality.

As far as my core profession is concerned, I am actively involving with the international
developmental organizations since 1990. When I was exactly 16 years in ninety, I started a
career with the UK Government's DFID/Enabling State Programme Nepal; Office of the Prime
Minister and Council of Ministers; Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station;
United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia
(UNFPA, CST for SAWA Countries); DFID/Rural Access Program (RAP); Japan International
Cooperation Agency/Japan Medical Association (JICA/JMA) funded School and Community
Health Project (SCHP) and Save the Children-Norway (previously Redd Barna, Norwegian
semi-government international humanitarian organization). (Please see enclosed resume,
working certificates, recommendation letters, health report, security clearance, World Bank
recognization, etc.).

Moreover, I was also temporarily implicated as an independent Freelancer Consultant for
UNICEF/ROSA, USAID/IFES and USAID/NDI for two years. Lately, I was working with the
Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA)/Nepal Office in the capacity of an AS Officer
until I shifted to an UN Agency in 2008.

At present, I am working with one of the Specialized Agencies of the United Nations (UN)
System, based in Nepal, at Harihar Bhawan, Pulchowk, Lalitpur, in the Administrative Capacity,
which is a long-term permanent fixed job.

As far as my pedagogical background is concerned, I have completed Double Masters Degree
i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS) and MA Rural Development, both in first divisions.
Moreover, at the same time, I am also pursuing third masters degree in Public Administration
(MPA) course. I have simultaneously made my mind to enroll for MPhil course as well to
upgrade myself for PhD in a long run of my life, which is one of the most pertinent future
dreams for me.

Regarding my social background, I am Single (Never Married), Chhetri, 1974 Birth, Aries, 60 kg
weight, height 5'3' with fair complexion. (Please see attached photos and/or click
ttp://www.flickr.com/photos/52116698@N04 for my latest 200 snaps). I am none-alcoholic but
occasional smoker, extroverted and determined laborious person for a set-goal. I am only son
with two married and one single sister. Our father used to be local level politician in Triveni-
Susta VDC during his youth up to 1970, which is nostalgia for us in these days. On the other
hand, he is also an Indian retired army with the pension from India (70) and mother is housewife
(67). They both live in hometown to look after home and land and quarterly visit us for a week as
well as collecting their pension from Indian embassy.
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Finally, if you feel comfortable to happily live in a rental house for few years; if you are also
seriously searching an ideal life partner; if your inner soul considers that we both might be like
minded friends for lifelong and our matching will be the perfect one; if you trust me as a
gentleman by the hub of your heart and curious for a matrimonial relationship, we can meet as a
very goodfriend at first and should try to sincerely understand each-other thoroughly. When our
inner chemistry, feeling, manner, interest and ethos are compatible and comfortable for both of
us, we will spontaneously and unknowingly feel emotional attachment based on heart-to-heart
relationship, then we can rationally decide for our marriage-life as soon as possible, basically
after obtaining mutual consent and concurrence from our family members and parents.

At a very fine and lucky moment, a meeting even with a stranger sometimes may bring major
transformation in our lives! Optimistically speaking, who knows future: we both may prove to be
the ideal lifelong friends and exact dream partner of each-others! For this purpose, you may
contact me without any hesitations at (977-01) 98510-86884. Then, if you feel comfort and
secure, I will invite you along with your best friends and parents for a courtesy coffee meeting at
Jawalakhel for our formal introduction that will be the best way to initiate our long lasting
cordial relationship. Beside this, you can assign your reliable relatives and parents as your
representative for an initial discussion with our guardians or me. Furthermore, alternatively, you
may forward your latest snaps and accurate information to us in making a logical family decision
for the possibility of amicable relationship, which is based on the bond of trust and honesty.

By the way, being an only brother of three my most respectable and loving sisters, I can easily
understand that it is extremely difficult in approaching to an unknown person, particularly for the
lady. I, therefore, would like to ensure you that: 1) Names of several referees will be provided at
any time in exploring the facts about me and my family background; 2) Several meetings among
parents/family members will be organized to properly familiarize both the family members; 3)
Medical health reports will be submitted; 4) Academic credentials and working certificates will
be presented; 5) Your parents can independently inquiry and research to verify my background;
6) I/we will certainly facilitate for the acclimatization process to easily adopt our new role and
responsibility in the totally new environments; and 7) Sufficient time will be allocated to closely
recognize and understand each-other from insight but the final decision is yours: madam!

If your family members wish to meet my parents/guardians to seriously discuss on this issue
more broadly, please let me know so that I can provide you their direct contact address for
further detailed discussions. I can also arrange a series of meetings among our parents/guardians
to materialize our lifelong visualized dreams into the reality. Finally, please refer all the
attachments with this e-mail and looking forward to hear from you a positive response soon!

With Warm Regards!

Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur
GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529
rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com,rajkpandey2000@gmail.com
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MY SUPPLEMENTARY PROFILE

Profession: Raj K Pandey started his career in 1990, at the age of 16 with: 1) Save the Children
Norway (Redd Barna); 2) Japan Medical Association (JMA)/School and Community Health
Project (SCHP); 3) UK Government's Department for International Development (DFID)/Rural
Access Program (RAP); 4) United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team
for South and West Asia (UNFPA CST for SAWA Countries); 5) Himalaya Broadcasting
Company (HBC) Radio Station; 6) Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers
through Strengthening the Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers Project funded
by DFID; 7) DFID/Enabling State Program-Nepal.

Moreover, he was also implicated as a short-term Consultant with: i) UNICEF/Regional Office
for South Asia (ROSA); ii) USAID/International Federation of Electoral System (IFES); and iii)
USAID/National Democratic Institute (NDI). Prior joining one of the Specialized Agencies of
the United Nations (UN) System in 2008, where he is working as an administrative staff in these
days, he was involved with the Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA) Nepal Office in
the capacity of an AS Officer.

Education: He has completed his Double Masters Degree i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS)
and MA (Rural Development), both in the first division. Simultaneously, he is also perusing his
third Masters Degree in Public Administration (MPA) Course in the early morning in these days.
Moreover, he has strongly made his mind to enroll for MPhil Course as well sometimes in the
future to upgrade himself for PhD in a long-run of his life, which is one of the significant long-
term dreams of his life.

Attributes: He is a self-disciplined, self-made, self-developed and self-directed person without
guidance from anybody. He dreamed, visualized and worked hard to materialize his vision, goal
and aim, which made him active, laborious and confident to cope the difficult challenges and
circumstances. On the other hand, when he was in his early teenage and younger age, he used to
work exceptionally hard both for his professional career as well as education.

He was able to work for up to 18-19 hours daily in that struggle period and used to sleep merely
4-5 hours. Consequently, he successfully continued his full time job and education
simultaneously. However, when he gets leisure time in these days, particularly during Saturday
and Sunday, he simply enjoys for — laying on bed, traveling around countryside, reading
newspapers, listening music, working in a computer for writing something, dine delicious meals,
chatting, sharing and joking on generic issues with all the family members, especially two
sisters, who are living very closed to his house, reviewing literatures/reports, watching latest
movies/TV and sleeping for very late hours.

Personality: He is liberal minded, independent, honest, talkative and extroverted person. He often
trusts people easily but they exploit his gentleness, soberness and softness for their own vested
interests, which makes him sad. He prefers simple life with the better human capital for own
inner satisfaction purpose.
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Ideal: He respects women and men who are simple, gentle and liberal, although he likes straight
forward nature and speak of mind. However, he disgusts and immediately discontinues even the
humanitarian relationship with the liar, hypocrite, arrogant and sadist persons as they are good
for nothing for others.

Strength: He is strongly determined person for his goals and visions, which makes him
exhausted and burnt-out. Consequently, he can hardly smile, laugh and get pleasure in his life!
Moreover, he mostly feels loneliness as he can hardly sacrifice his time for an unproductive
purpose and social relationship.

Weakness: a) He is, however, not a perfect household manager particularly for cooking, laundry,
ironing and other domestic work as he never practiced such activities in his entire life due to
sufficient love and take care rendered by his mother/sisters. b) When someone behaves
dishonest, sadist and egoistic way, he completely ignores him/her and never attempts to
reestablish any further humanitarian relationship.

With Best Regards!

Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur
GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884
Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529
rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com
rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com
rajkpandey2000@gmail.com
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ANNEX: WHY E-MARRIES PROPOSAL?

Dear Friend:

This justification and all attachments will logically explain, analyze and convince you not only
about the e-marriage proposal, but also on the humanitarian relationship in general, and male and
female marital relationship in specific from different prospective. The following section will be
useful for all of us to clearly understand the practical difficulties during match making process in
our life. This is sent via http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000 on
behalf of its originator, especially for the interested single lady - University Graduate, Job
Holder/Self-Employed and Nice Looking Girl.

The primary cause for using the webmail based information technology (IT) system for a general
matrimonial related enquiry is due to the distance induced bravery. I am directly and personally
approaching for the life's most sensitive, difficult and challenging issue on a supposition that the
marriage is the most natural, psychological, emotional and social dire need of both — male and
female, sometimes once in a life. Moreover, each family may have an eligible bachelor — family
members, relatives, social networks, colleagues and friend circles — who might have informally
searching a suitable match for their grown-up children through existing traditional social network
approach due to the push/pull factors, but they might also have not been completely able to find
out the right candidate for their fully grown-up children in consideration of several other issues.

We are aware that all unmarried persons, including us, have an imaginative image for an ideal
life partner on our subconscious minds/dreams from the very early teenage of our lives. To find
our lifelong envisioned ideal/dream person into the reality, our minds/souls unknowingly keep
on searching/exploring around with an expectation that s/he, who is imaginarily living with us in
our subconscious minds from the very early age, will come soon even in the reality of life. We
hope that s/he will be the right friend to spend rest of our lives together for the better aesthetic
values, which will permanently end the bitter loneliness feeling and inner vacuum within
ourselves. But, very few people are lucky enough for such unconditional true love, which all can
not find in their life. However, unfortunately, our age keeps on running out rapidly for waiting
that especial friend in real life, albeit we are not sure yet, when we will meet her/him in the
reality. Consequently, when we do not meet our lifelong expected dreams into the reality, it
creates enough anxiety, stress, frustration, personality and psychological disorders among us and
we feel extremely sad.

Likewise, both arranged and love marriage have certain pros and cons but 'like minded values
and ethos based' marries, where both will have total freedom of choice for the rational selection
of an appropriate life partner, is the best approach since decision of social-knot directly affects
both. Moreover, we have limited social networks, family ties and relatives, where we can hardly
find the dreamed and qualified partner due to lack of an easy and direct access with her/him. On
the other hand, our extremely busy mechanical routine life from early morning to late evening
for our other daily priorities, has limited us for the better option to expand the social network. As
a result, the tremendously competitive world, especially in the fast metropolitan life, has made us
extremely lonely even among the huge mob of the people, as we can hardly mix-up with them
due to their varied nature as well as lack of sufficient spare time with us.
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 Similarly, we are totally option and voiceless to select a suitable right partner, when marries
proposal is put forward from our closed relatives since we can hardly say 'no' to them despite our
several reservations. The marries facilitators also unnecessarily exaggerate on the qualities of the
possible grooms/brides, which may not be realistic in the practical life. But, marries decision that
we make only once in a life is for the sake of entirely ourselves, not to make others happy since
it determines our future. Moreover, even a self-chosen love marries and/or arranged marriage can
hardly be guaranteed for lifelong success, durable and happy relationship until our death.
Subsequently, it is always a creative tension as well as hidden mental stress to make a marriage
related single decision with a totally unseen person, which is exactly like a gambling, either we
will be winner or looser!

However, we have to ultimately trust an unfamiliar opposite gender and select a totally unseen
person as a lifelong partner out of six billion plus population on this earth. Although, we are not
sure yet, who s/he will be, where s/he is now, what s/he is doing, how s/he will approach to us
and when s/he will be our real friend as well as how our future relationship will go with her/him.
We, ultimately, need to focus merely for his/her comfort/happiness until we die as soon as s/he
enters into our life as change maker, who will impart significantly differences throughout our
life.

Beside this, what we are mainly lacking to find out our lifelong visualized opposite ideal partner
is — easy access, effective negotiation, two-way communication, sufficient time for interactions
and most importantly inner courage and self-confidence to approach her and directly propose for
marriage due to fear of rejection. However, the sky is unlimited and six billion-plus populated
world is beyond our horizon, although we don't have an easy access to directly contact her. It is
not a wrong idea to creatively but gently approach her and exchange our mutual information for
an enquiry since s/he might also have been waiting for the entry of a right person into her life for
her marriage purpose — who knows we may be the hero by mistake as we both may have been
made as an ideal life partner for each-others! As marries is one time great event in our life and
we can try our level best to invite proposal from the most eligible, well-cultured family
background as far as possible.

But, we should never enforce/persuade the second party to make a decision favorable to us since
the marriage relationship must be based on independent personal decision of both — without
external influence, pressure, threat, hanky-panky and so on — even from family members. Let's
continue our dream till we get the best one, when dream is over and shattered, we will really
suffer for loosing hope in life. We should not easily accept the cowardice defeat, without waging
another effective war to achieve the lifelong visualized person as we can find exactly the same -
whom we dream, if marries is truly made in heaven.

I, therefore, have used atypical modus-operandi in exploring ideal life partner and it is expected
that s/he will be the exact lady, whom I have imagined and retained in my subconscious mind
from early teenage. Let's see how general people in our conservative society will perceive such a
different method as individual interpretations/judgments are the outcomes of our backgrounds.
But, I am certain that she will be the lady with exact attributes, who will positively accept not
only such a unique process, but also other several social transformations as mediocre narrow
mind can never welcome any changes in the new environments since they are totally happy to
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live in the traditional status-qua situation due to fear of unwanted criticism and likely risk in life.
The most essential pre-requirement for possible happy marital life is that both male and female,
first of all, should have natural attraction from heart, without external influence, at a preliminary
face-to-face meeting — both should feel 'click' in their minds to see each-others at the first sight.
The first meeting and its overall impressions generally determine whether the further contacts
will be strengthened/interrupted. If both feel compatible and comfortable with each-other during
introductory conversation process, their minds and hearts will spontaneously but unknowingly
admit as like-minded prospective friends despite other several men-made gaps and obstacles —
economical, social, educational, psychological and professional — as both have emotionally,
mentally as well as psychologically accepted without any pre-occupied minds and persuasions.

If both are honest, respectable, loveable and acceptable, a kind of special feeling, thought and
emotional rapport will be developed within ourselves, which will further enhance for the deep-
rooted love, affection, interdependency and psycho-socio belongingness to reinforce the post-
marital life. Subsequently, both will heartily accept not only the roses but also the thrones since
couple has strong emotional and sentimental heart-to-heart bonds based on natural attraction,
trust and self-commitment for the life-long association until death, which nobody can easily
alter. As the human relationship is related with the meeting of like-minded minds and the
common wave-length can further enhance for the retention of long-term marital relationship in
our life.

Moreover, if we find exact dreamed partner, all our senses might be positively persuaded and
heartbeat might be amplified due to an unique feeling within us — exactly the same natural
process that we can closely observe among animal kingdom — where inner natural chemistry
between them determines attraction/repulsion for further relationship at first meeting of both.

We can also boost pleasure of mind, inner happiness and satisfaction through natural process, if
couple has liking minds and web length for each other via — reciprocal unconditional love,
caring, sharing, mutual understanding and respect for feeling and emotion of the husband and
wife, which should based on the ground of mutual trust and honesty. It is a general human
tendency that whatever we perform, we simply act upon in order to avoid the pain and gain the
pleasure. We, therefore, generally worry and fear with the likely change process and reluctant to
renounce the comfort zones, but we have to eventually accept new roles and responsibilities
despite uncertain results in our life.

If spouse have certain common grounds, particularly in terms of their socio-cultural values,
ethos, interests, likings, disliking as well as shared dreams and visions, the post-marital life will
enhance better synergy, positive energy, creativity and prosperity for both. However, if marriage
is completely based on compromises, conditionality, baseless commitments and dishonesty, it
may prove counterproductive at any time in a long run since the relationship must be based on
the bond of trust and honesty as it is simply the beginning of relationship not the end.

Moreover, if we establish a marital relationship on the ground of untruth, dishonesty,
exaggeration and hanky-panky, it will mentally hurt your partner due to a betrayed deal, which
will make her/him lifelong regretful that will never keep your partner happy. If your partner is
not happy at all due to your dishonesty, it is obvious s/he can never keep you/your family
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members happy as well.

Moreover, approached person might not have made her mind for her marriage at this particular
juncture and/or she might have settled. Similarly, both might not have met their pre-occupied
basic expectations and criteria as well as both may have differences in terms of their so-called
socio-economy, socio-cultural and family-based values, which may indirectly affect post-marital
life, particularly during elderly age because of the likely cultural socks. Consequently, everybody
has freedom of choice for the rational decision for her/his marriage without external pressure and
persuasion since being self-master we should not feel regrets for our self-decision.

Finally, if your eligible unmarried lady family members, friend circles, relatives and female
colleagues — at least an university graduate, job holder/self-employed and well-cultured pretty
looking lady — is thinking for her marriage within this year, please convey and forward this
information. As a result, she/her family members can rationally assess our suitability from
different prospective for the perfect matching as far as we can make it, if marries is a matter of
choice! Your tiny efforts will directly support us to reduce the 'information poverty' and search
of an ideal life-partner of two persons will be permanently over. If your interested lady
friends/their family members wish to contact me/my parents/sisters to discuss more seriously,
please feel free to contact us.

Please refer all the attachments and looking forward for a positive response soon.

Warm Regards!

Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884
Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529
rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com
rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com
rajkpandey2000@gmail.com

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1 My Detaile Marriage Proposal

  • 1. 1 My Profile, Bio-Data, Certificates and Photos: Please Kindly Refer 30 Attachments! This is a Matrimonial Enquary sent to you via http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000. We both are totally stranger to each-other so far although I am humbly and very gently sending this profile including attached my Bio-Data, Recommendation Letters, Health Report, Security Clearance, World Bank Reorganization and my Latest Photographs to an unknown e-mail ID for a general enquiry and information dissemination motive, with an expectation that it may be relevant to someone interested. I am not sure yet, whether the marriage is matter of chance or choice. If this is a matter of chance and luck, I am curious to find my luck soon! I have used different approach and looking forward to see the anticipated result. Let's see what will be the consequences in the future as unknown in life is both challenge as well as opportunity which is a part of our life. I am extremely sorry for bothering you! You may simply ignore and delete enclosed profile, CV and working certificates and/or kindly forward this information among your relatives, female colleagues, lady friend circles and their parents, if someone is also seriously interested for this and has made her mind for the same purpose. Thank you very much for your kind cooperation in advance. The following section is only for the concerned one and her related family members, where I have honestly described my realistic background as marital relationship must be based on the bond of trust and honesty. Dear Friend: Please accept warm regards! I am humbly corresponding with reference to the matrimonial enquiry for your kind rational assessment purpose for a closed but healthy friendship at the beginning and then possible match in the near future, if both of us are made for each-other upon our compatibility and comfort! I am a Developmental and Management Practitioner by training and profession. This year, probably after few months, I am thinking and planning for my marriage with at least a University Graduate, but preferred Masters Degree and Job Holder or Self-employed Girl. If the lady is unemployed at present, she should have career-oriented mind after marriage to use her education as well as in enhancing for balanced marital life. The main reason for setting all these minimum practical criteria is to thoroughly empower the prospective life partner and acquire a reciprocal synergy for our lifelong personal growth and development. For this rationale, I wish to emotionally, morally and psychologically encourage and motivate my ideal life partner for her professionalism, edification and overall personality development. But, what I only expect on her intrinsic lady persona is: natural compassion in the heart of a well-cultured lady as well as positive attitude and optimistic mind since she will be the source of an inspiration for a man during difficult circumstances as well as for a positive transformation in our lives. However, the reality talks lauder than dreams! At present, I represent the working class economy: we both must work for our livelihood. Currently, I have some hundreds of books in the name of property in my own name with a four-roomed cemented home and some pieces of land in Tarai-Sunaul Bazaar, Nawalparashi, which is an outcome of purely my personal income!
  • 2. 2 But, I was grown up and educated around Jawalakhel from the age of 10. Consequently, at any cost, we cannot settle in Terai and must dwell in the metropolitan urban areas. Our sisters and all relatives have already established their own homes in this valley and I/we also must construct a permanent residence in Kathmandu soon, although for at least few years, we have to happily live in a rental flat on temporary basis, especially around Lalitpur Municipality. As far as my core profession is concerned, I am actively involving with the international developmental organizations since 1990. When I was exactly 16 years in ninety, I started a career with the UK Government's DFID/Enabling State Programme Nepal; Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers; Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station; United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia (UNFPA, CST for SAWA Countries); DFID/Rural Access Program (RAP); Japan International Cooperation Agency/Japan Medical Association (JICA/JMA) funded School and Community Health Project (SCHP) and Save the Children-Norway (previously Redd Barna, Norwegian semi-government international humanitarian organization). (Please see enclosed resume, working certificates, recommendation letters, health report, security clearance, World Bank recognization, etc.). Moreover, I was also temporarily implicated as an independent Freelancer Consultant for UNICEF/ROSA, USAID/IFES and USAID/NDI for two years. Lately, I was working with the Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA)/Nepal Office in the capacity of an AS Officer until I shifted to an UN Agency in 2008. At present, I am working with one of the Specialized Agencies of the United Nations (UN) System, based in Nepal, at Harihar Bhawan, Pulchowk, Lalitpur, in the Administrative Capacity, which is a long-term permanent fixed job. As far as my pedagogical background is concerned, I have completed Double Masters Degree i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS) and MA Rural Development, both in first divisions. Moreover, at the same time, I am also pursuing third masters degree in Public Administration (MPA) course. I have simultaneously made my mind to enroll for MPhil course as well to upgrade myself for PhD in a long run of my life, which is one of the most pertinent future dreams for me. Regarding my social background, I am Single (Never Married), Chhetri, 1974 Birth, Aries, 60 kg weight, height 5'3' with fair complexion. (Please see attached photos and/or click ttp://www.flickr.com/photos/52116698@N04 for my latest 200 snaps). I am none-alcoholic but occasional smoker, extroverted and determined laborious person for a set-goal. I am only son with two married and one single sister. Our father used to be local level politician in Triveni- Susta VDC during his youth up to 1970, which is nostalgia for us in these days. On the other hand, he is also an Indian retired army with the pension from India (70) and mother is housewife (67). They both live in hometown to look after home and land and quarterly visit us for a week as well as collecting their pension from Indian embassy.
  • 3. 3 Finally, if you feel comfortable to happily live in a rental house for few years; if you are also seriously searching an ideal life partner; if your inner soul considers that we both might be like minded friends for lifelong and our matching will be the perfect one; if you trust me as a gentleman by the hub of your heart and curious for a matrimonial relationship, we can meet as a very goodfriend at first and should try to sincerely understand each-other thoroughly. When our inner chemistry, feeling, manner, interest and ethos are compatible and comfortable for both of us, we will spontaneously and unknowingly feel emotional attachment based on heart-to-heart relationship, then we can rationally decide for our marriage-life as soon as possible, basically after obtaining mutual consent and concurrence from our family members and parents. At a very fine and lucky moment, a meeting even with a stranger sometimes may bring major transformation in our lives! Optimistically speaking, who knows future: we both may prove to be the ideal lifelong friends and exact dream partner of each-others! For this purpose, you may contact me without any hesitations at (977-01) 98510-86884. Then, if you feel comfort and secure, I will invite you along with your best friends and parents for a courtesy coffee meeting at Jawalakhel for our formal introduction that will be the best way to initiate our long lasting cordial relationship. Beside this, you can assign your reliable relatives and parents as your representative for an initial discussion with our guardians or me. Furthermore, alternatively, you may forward your latest snaps and accurate information to us in making a logical family decision for the possibility of amicable relationship, which is based on the bond of trust and honesty. By the way, being an only brother of three my most respectable and loving sisters, I can easily understand that it is extremely difficult in approaching to an unknown person, particularly for the lady. I, therefore, would like to ensure you that: 1) Names of several referees will be provided at any time in exploring the facts about me and my family background; 2) Several meetings among parents/family members will be organized to properly familiarize both the family members; 3) Medical health reports will be submitted; 4) Academic credentials and working certificates will be presented; 5) Your parents can independently inquiry and research to verify my background; 6) I/we will certainly facilitate for the acclimatization process to easily adopt our new role and responsibility in the totally new environments; and 7) Sufficient time will be allocated to closely recognize and understand each-other from insight but the final decision is yours: madam! If your family members wish to meet my parents/guardians to seriously discuss on this issue more broadly, please let me know so that I can provide you their direct contact address for further detailed discussions. I can also arrange a series of meetings among our parents/guardians to materialize our lifelong visualized dreams into the reality. Finally, please refer all the attachments with this e-mail and looking forward to hear from you a positive response soon! With Warm Regards! Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA) Jawalakhel, Lalitpur GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal) Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884/9841 813529 rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com, rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com,rajkpandey2000@gmail.com
  • 4. 4 MY SUPPLEMENTARY PROFILE Profession: Raj K Pandey started his career in 1990, at the age of 16 with: 1) Save the Children Norway (Redd Barna); 2) Japan Medical Association (JMA)/School and Community Health Project (SCHP); 3) UK Government's Department for International Development (DFID)/Rural Access Program (RAP); 4) United Nations Population Fund, Country Technical Services Team for South and West Asia (UNFPA CST for SAWA Countries); 5) Himalaya Broadcasting Company (HBC) Radio Station; 6) Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers through Strengthening the Office of the Prime Minister and Council of Ministers Project funded by DFID; 7) DFID/Enabling State Program-Nepal. Moreover, he was also implicated as a short-term Consultant with: i) UNICEF/Regional Office for South Asia (ROSA); ii) USAID/International Federation of Electoral System (IFES); and iii) USAID/National Democratic Institute (NDI). Prior joining one of the Specialized Agencies of the United Nations (UN) System in 2008, where he is working as an administrative staff in these days, he was involved with the Japan International Cooperation Agency (JICA) Nepal Office in the capacity of an AS Officer. Education: He has completed his Double Masters Degree i.e. Masters in Business Studies (MBS) and MA (Rural Development), both in the first division. Simultaneously, he is also perusing his third Masters Degree in Public Administration (MPA) Course in the early morning in these days. Moreover, he has strongly made his mind to enroll for MPhil Course as well sometimes in the future to upgrade himself for PhD in a long-run of his life, which is one of the significant long- term dreams of his life. Attributes: He is a self-disciplined, self-made, self-developed and self-directed person without guidance from anybody. He dreamed, visualized and worked hard to materialize his vision, goal and aim, which made him active, laborious and confident to cope the difficult challenges and circumstances. On the other hand, when he was in his early teenage and younger age, he used to work exceptionally hard both for his professional career as well as education. He was able to work for up to 18-19 hours daily in that struggle period and used to sleep merely 4-5 hours. Consequently, he successfully continued his full time job and education simultaneously. However, when he gets leisure time in these days, particularly during Saturday and Sunday, he simply enjoys for — laying on bed, traveling around countryside, reading newspapers, listening music, working in a computer for writing something, dine delicious meals, chatting, sharing and joking on generic issues with all the family members, especially two sisters, who are living very closed to his house, reviewing literatures/reports, watching latest movies/TV and sleeping for very late hours. Personality: He is liberal minded, independent, honest, talkative and extroverted person. He often trusts people easily but they exploit his gentleness, soberness and softness for their own vested interests, which makes him sad. He prefers simple life with the better human capital for own inner satisfaction purpose.
  • 5. 5 Ideal: He respects women and men who are simple, gentle and liberal, although he likes straight forward nature and speak of mind. However, he disgusts and immediately discontinues even the humanitarian relationship with the liar, hypocrite, arrogant and sadist persons as they are good for nothing for others. Strength: He is strongly determined person for his goals and visions, which makes him exhausted and burnt-out. Consequently, he can hardly smile, laugh and get pleasure in his life! Moreover, he mostly feels loneliness as he can hardly sacrifice his time for an unproductive purpose and social relationship. Weakness: a) He is, however, not a perfect household manager particularly for cooking, laundry, ironing and other domestic work as he never practiced such activities in his entire life due to sufficient love and take care rendered by his mother/sisters. b) When someone behaves dishonest, sadist and egoistic way, he completely ignores him/her and never attempts to reestablish any further humanitarian relationship. With Best Regards! Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA) Jawalakhel, Lalitpur GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal) Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884 Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529 rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com rajkpandey2000@gmail.com
  • 6. 6 ANNEX: WHY E-MARRIES PROPOSAL? Dear Friend: This justification and all attachments will logically explain, analyze and convince you not only about the e-marriage proposal, but also on the humanitarian relationship in general, and male and female marital relationship in specific from different prospective. The following section will be useful for all of us to clearly understand the practical difficulties during match making process in our life. This is sent via http://cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000 on behalf of its originator, especially for the interested single lady - University Graduate, Job Holder/Self-Employed and Nice Looking Girl. The primary cause for using the webmail based information technology (IT) system for a general matrimonial related enquiry is due to the distance induced bravery. I am directly and personally approaching for the life's most sensitive, difficult and challenging issue on a supposition that the marriage is the most natural, psychological, emotional and social dire need of both — male and female, sometimes once in a life. Moreover, each family may have an eligible bachelor — family members, relatives, social networks, colleagues and friend circles — who might have informally searching a suitable match for their grown-up children through existing traditional social network approach due to the push/pull factors, but they might also have not been completely able to find out the right candidate for their fully grown-up children in consideration of several other issues. We are aware that all unmarried persons, including us, have an imaginative image for an ideal life partner on our subconscious minds/dreams from the very early teenage of our lives. To find our lifelong envisioned ideal/dream person into the reality, our minds/souls unknowingly keep on searching/exploring around with an expectation that s/he, who is imaginarily living with us in our subconscious minds from the very early age, will come soon even in the reality of life. We hope that s/he will be the right friend to spend rest of our lives together for the better aesthetic values, which will permanently end the bitter loneliness feeling and inner vacuum within ourselves. But, very few people are lucky enough for such unconditional true love, which all can not find in their life. However, unfortunately, our age keeps on running out rapidly for waiting that especial friend in real life, albeit we are not sure yet, when we will meet her/him in the reality. Consequently, when we do not meet our lifelong expected dreams into the reality, it creates enough anxiety, stress, frustration, personality and psychological disorders among us and we feel extremely sad. Likewise, both arranged and love marriage have certain pros and cons but 'like minded values and ethos based' marries, where both will have total freedom of choice for the rational selection of an appropriate life partner, is the best approach since decision of social-knot directly affects both. Moreover, we have limited social networks, family ties and relatives, where we can hardly find the dreamed and qualified partner due to lack of an easy and direct access with her/him. On the other hand, our extremely busy mechanical routine life from early morning to late evening for our other daily priorities, has limited us for the better option to expand the social network. As a result, the tremendously competitive world, especially in the fast metropolitan life, has made us extremely lonely even among the huge mob of the people, as we can hardly mix-up with them due to their varied nature as well as lack of sufficient spare time with us.
  • 7. 7 Similarly, we are totally option and voiceless to select a suitable right partner, when marries proposal is put forward from our closed relatives since we can hardly say 'no' to them despite our several reservations. The marries facilitators also unnecessarily exaggerate on the qualities of the possible grooms/brides, which may not be realistic in the practical life. But, marries decision that we make only once in a life is for the sake of entirely ourselves, not to make others happy since it determines our future. Moreover, even a self-chosen love marries and/or arranged marriage can hardly be guaranteed for lifelong success, durable and happy relationship until our death. Subsequently, it is always a creative tension as well as hidden mental stress to make a marriage related single decision with a totally unseen person, which is exactly like a gambling, either we will be winner or looser! However, we have to ultimately trust an unfamiliar opposite gender and select a totally unseen person as a lifelong partner out of six billion plus population on this earth. Although, we are not sure yet, who s/he will be, where s/he is now, what s/he is doing, how s/he will approach to us and when s/he will be our real friend as well as how our future relationship will go with her/him. We, ultimately, need to focus merely for his/her comfort/happiness until we die as soon as s/he enters into our life as change maker, who will impart significantly differences throughout our life. Beside this, what we are mainly lacking to find out our lifelong visualized opposite ideal partner is — easy access, effective negotiation, two-way communication, sufficient time for interactions and most importantly inner courage and self-confidence to approach her and directly propose for marriage due to fear of rejection. However, the sky is unlimited and six billion-plus populated world is beyond our horizon, although we don't have an easy access to directly contact her. It is not a wrong idea to creatively but gently approach her and exchange our mutual information for an enquiry since s/he might also have been waiting for the entry of a right person into her life for her marriage purpose — who knows we may be the hero by mistake as we both may have been made as an ideal life partner for each-others! As marries is one time great event in our life and we can try our level best to invite proposal from the most eligible, well-cultured family background as far as possible. But, we should never enforce/persuade the second party to make a decision favorable to us since the marriage relationship must be based on independent personal decision of both — without external influence, pressure, threat, hanky-panky and so on — even from family members. Let's continue our dream till we get the best one, when dream is over and shattered, we will really suffer for loosing hope in life. We should not easily accept the cowardice defeat, without waging another effective war to achieve the lifelong visualized person as we can find exactly the same - whom we dream, if marries is truly made in heaven. I, therefore, have used atypical modus-operandi in exploring ideal life partner and it is expected that s/he will be the exact lady, whom I have imagined and retained in my subconscious mind from early teenage. Let's see how general people in our conservative society will perceive such a different method as individual interpretations/judgments are the outcomes of our backgrounds. But, I am certain that she will be the lady with exact attributes, who will positively accept not only such a unique process, but also other several social transformations as mediocre narrow mind can never welcome any changes in the new environments since they are totally happy to
  • 8. 8 live in the traditional status-qua situation due to fear of unwanted criticism and likely risk in life. The most essential pre-requirement for possible happy marital life is that both male and female, first of all, should have natural attraction from heart, without external influence, at a preliminary face-to-face meeting — both should feel 'click' in their minds to see each-others at the first sight. The first meeting and its overall impressions generally determine whether the further contacts will be strengthened/interrupted. If both feel compatible and comfortable with each-other during introductory conversation process, their minds and hearts will spontaneously but unknowingly admit as like-minded prospective friends despite other several men-made gaps and obstacles — economical, social, educational, psychological and professional — as both have emotionally, mentally as well as psychologically accepted without any pre-occupied minds and persuasions. If both are honest, respectable, loveable and acceptable, a kind of special feeling, thought and emotional rapport will be developed within ourselves, which will further enhance for the deep- rooted love, affection, interdependency and psycho-socio belongingness to reinforce the post- marital life. Subsequently, both will heartily accept not only the roses but also the thrones since couple has strong emotional and sentimental heart-to-heart bonds based on natural attraction, trust and self-commitment for the life-long association until death, which nobody can easily alter. As the human relationship is related with the meeting of like-minded minds and the common wave-length can further enhance for the retention of long-term marital relationship in our life. Moreover, if we find exact dreamed partner, all our senses might be positively persuaded and heartbeat might be amplified due to an unique feeling within us — exactly the same natural process that we can closely observe among animal kingdom — where inner natural chemistry between them determines attraction/repulsion for further relationship at first meeting of both. We can also boost pleasure of mind, inner happiness and satisfaction through natural process, if couple has liking minds and web length for each other via — reciprocal unconditional love, caring, sharing, mutual understanding and respect for feeling and emotion of the husband and wife, which should based on the ground of mutual trust and honesty. It is a general human tendency that whatever we perform, we simply act upon in order to avoid the pain and gain the pleasure. We, therefore, generally worry and fear with the likely change process and reluctant to renounce the comfort zones, but we have to eventually accept new roles and responsibilities despite uncertain results in our life. If spouse have certain common grounds, particularly in terms of their socio-cultural values, ethos, interests, likings, disliking as well as shared dreams and visions, the post-marital life will enhance better synergy, positive energy, creativity and prosperity for both. However, if marriage is completely based on compromises, conditionality, baseless commitments and dishonesty, it may prove counterproductive at any time in a long run since the relationship must be based on the bond of trust and honesty as it is simply the beginning of relationship not the end. Moreover, if we establish a marital relationship on the ground of untruth, dishonesty, exaggeration and hanky-panky, it will mentally hurt your partner due to a betrayed deal, which will make her/him lifelong regretful that will never keep your partner happy. If your partner is not happy at all due to your dishonesty, it is obvious s/he can never keep you/your family
  • 9. 9 members happy as well. Moreover, approached person might not have made her mind for her marriage at this particular juncture and/or she might have settled. Similarly, both might not have met their pre-occupied basic expectations and criteria as well as both may have differences in terms of their so-called socio-economy, socio-cultural and family-based values, which may indirectly affect post-marital life, particularly during elderly age because of the likely cultural socks. Consequently, everybody has freedom of choice for the rational decision for her/his marriage without external pressure and persuasion since being self-master we should not feel regrets for our self-decision. Finally, if your eligible unmarried lady family members, friend circles, relatives and female colleagues — at least an university graduate, job holder/self-employed and well-cultured pretty looking lady — is thinking for her marriage within this year, please convey and forward this information. As a result, she/her family members can rationally assess our suitability from different prospective for the perfect matching as far as we can make it, if marries is a matter of choice! Your tiny efforts will directly support us to reduce the 'information poverty' and search of an ideal life-partner of two persons will be permanently over. If your interested lady friends/their family members wish to contact me/my parents/sisters to discuss more seriously, please feel free to contact us. Please refer all the attachments and looking forward for a positive response soon. Warm Regards! Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA) Jawalakhel, Lalitpur, GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal) Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884 Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529 rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com rajkpandey2000@gmail.com (A) Please click the link http:// cid-da2a266bdca7065f.office.live.com/browse.aspx/rajkpandey2000 to refer 500 plus myreports/articles/profiles/songs/poems/stories/thesis/notes/resumes/write-ups/photos/etc., which is a collection since 1990. (B) Please search me as "rajkpandey2000" on Google and any other search engines. Moreover, you can find me at Facebook simply by seaching as "Raj K Pandey". (C) Please click another link to easily view 200 plus my latest photos in total 11 pages without downloading any images http://www.flickr.com/photos/52116698@N04