Talk about Identity Beliefs and how to soften them at the EFT Gathering in Ilkely, UK in January 2011

1. Dissolving Unhelpful Identity Beliefs by Andy Hunt EFT Gathering, Ilkely, 2011

2. This is me ->

4. I am generous

5. I am compassionate

6. Etc.

8. I am generous

9. I am compassionate

11. I am lazy

12. I am greedy

13. Etc.

14. Nobody's first words are “I'm not good enough!”

16. Dividing The World Up Mama! Dada! Doggy!

17. This is me!

18. Good experiences

19. Not so good experiences

20. You are here! ↓

21. Who am I?

23. Oh, isn't he shy? -> -> I am shy!

29. -> I am stupid! You are so stupid! ->

30. 'Ordinary' Beliefs All women drivers are terrible All men are bastards

31. Beliefs Are Rules Of Thumb Description This is what was true in the past Prescription This is what will be true in the future.

32. I am ... Identity beliefs follow you around Everywhere Always

33. If I am stupid …

34. I have to ...

35. Negative Identity Beliefs What are yours?

37. I am lazy

38. I am not good enough

39. I am wrong

40. I am thick

42. I am too visible

43. I am deaf!

44. I am too big

45. I am too much

46. I am stupid!

47. I am stupid!

48. ?

51. I am stupid!

52. I have trouble remembering!

53. Beliefs = A Distillation Of Experience + + + = I am stupid!

54. Identity Relief Process Really good for taking care of negative feelings

55. Identity Relief Process + Compassion

56. The Compassionate Mind Paul Gilbert

57. Identity Relief is one-to-one process (but you can do the next two steps by yourself) Try them out, see what happens.

58. Pick an unhelpful, limiting identity belief of your own

59. How true does that feel: 0 – 10?

60. What is the age of the 'I' in “I am …?” How old is the 'I' in that “I am …”?

61. Two three things can happen Nothing happens (That's has never happened to me so far) or You get a specific memory that relates to the belief (Use standard EFT to take care of the memory) or You get an answer / impression / idea of the age that 'I' (this is what usually happens)

63. Beliefs

64. Thoughts

65. Reactions

66. Responses

67. Compassion – The Missing Piece

68. Compassion – The Missing Piece

69. The Compassion Bubble Think back to a time when you felt compassionate acceptance for another being.

70. If the dog fits, care for it!

71. My compassion moment

72. The Compassion Bubble Think back to a time when you felt compassionate acceptance for another being. Go back to that time. See what you are seeing, hear what you are hearing, tune into that sense of compassionate acceptance.

73. The Compassion Bubble Allow that feeling to develop and flow down an arm into an upturned palm of your choice.

74. The Compassion Bubble If that feeling had a colour, what would it be?

75. The Compassion Bubble

76. The Compassion Bubble

77. Finding a volunteer Would anyone be interested in letting go of an old, unhelpful, limiting belief? What is the limiting belief? I am not important How old that I? Four

78. A recording of the live demonstration is available on www.practicalwellbeing.co.uk

79. Acknowledgements Recording John Bullough Images Images are courtesy of the excellent Flikr Creative Commons collection Baby Raba – Badruddeen Tiny Foot – limaoscarjuliet Danielle & Lilliyan - Robert Whitehead Dad & Coop - Jon Ovington Portrait of a puppy - Tambako The Jaguar Mirror Face 01 - chimothy27 Warning! Do Try This At Home - jesse.millan Can't go downstairs by myself - chefranden Least Tern, hunting - wolfpix - World's Favourite Sport - vramak - rage - how will I ever Kurdistan - Kurdistan Kurd - Generations - Andrea Costa Photography Mother&Daughter - rolands.lakis Noa, cute baby - titlap Give us this day - lhourahane Joseph, Nativity Play - cowley_mail A Mother's Love - queenie13

80. Acknowledgements School Friends - wwworks For Big Mistakes - SHUN [iamtekn] Fail Stamp - hans.gerwitz Wince - wolleydog guilherme c - paula.rupolo Albert-Mary St. Crash - jason edward scott bain Size doesn't matter - AlphaTangoBravo Be Stupid @ Amsterdam - michiel020 Not my hat - cogdogblog Sir Richard Branson - gulltaggen No Entry - caitra_ Dining Set - jere-me Head in Hands - alex.e.proimos Dalai Lama - Abhikrama Detecto - flattop341 Candles - brunkfordbraun snowman - OiMax Sad Girl - Pink Sherbet Photography hand heart - eisenbahner bubble - jeff.kubina World Within My Hands - Capture Queen Spirit of Meditation - h.koppdelaney