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INTUITION SURVIVAL SIGNALS


   LISTENING TO YOUR INTUITION IN
 RELATION TO ENHANCING PERSONAL
              SAFETY
             PRESENTER
              DON MOE
What is Intuition?
INTUITION IS ALWAYS RIGHT IN AT
            LEAST TWO WAYS
•   IT IS ALWAYS IN RESPONSE TO SOMETHING HAPPENING   .

•   IT ALWAYS HAS YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART.
The Messengers of Intuition
•   Nagging feelings
•   Persistent thoughts
•   Humor (especially dark humor)
•   Wonder
•   Anxiety
•   Curiosity
•   Hunches
•   Gut feelings
•   Doubt
•   Hesitation
•   Suspicion
•   Apprehension
•   Fear
Example
•   You enter a convenience store to get a soda. As you walk back to
    the cooler, you start feeling like something is wrong?



•   What do you do?
FORCED TEAMING

•   PROJECTION OF A SHARED PURPOSE OR EXPERIENCE
    WHERE NONE EXISTS TO ESTABLISH PRE-MATURE
    TRUST.

•   THE CON ARTIST WILL MAKE YOU WANT TO
    PARTICIPATE! WE-ARE-IN-THE-SAME-BOAT-ATTITUDE.

•   EXAMPLE: “WE ARE SOME TEAM”,“BOTH OF US”,
    KEY WORD IS: (WE’ ARE)

•   BEST DEFENSE: MAKE A CLEAR REFUSAL TO
                  ACCEPT MUTUAL PARTNERSHIP WITH
                  SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW!
Example
•   You are at a Bus stop and its raining out. A male party approaches
    and states:

•   “Boy, we sure picked a bad day to wait for the bus, didn’t we”



•   What do you do?
CHARM AND NICENESS
•   UNSOLICITATED KINDNESS HAS A DISCOVERABLE MOTIVE.

•   TO CHARM IS TO COMPEL, TO CONTROL, BY ALLURE OR
    ATTRACTION.

•   NICENESS IS A DECISION, A STRATEGY OF SOCIAL INTERACTION. IT
    DOES NOT EQUAL GOODNESS.

•   NICENESS IS A DISGUISE TO MASK EMOTION, AND A SMILE IS A
    TYPICAL WAY TO CHARM!

•   BEST DEFENSE:     WOMEN NEED TO REBUFF UNWANTED
                      APPROACHES DIRECTLY. SHED OFF THE
                      SOCIALIZATION OF BEING NICE.
Example
•   You are in the grocery store and you see a male approach you. He
    smiles then states:

•   “Hey” “Why is an attractive woman like you shopping alone”?
TOO MANY DETAILS
•   WHEN PEOPLE TELL THE TRUTH, THEY DO NOT FEEL
    DOUBTED, SO THEY DO NOT NEED TO GIVE ADDITIONAL
    SUPPORT IN THE FORM OF DETAILS.

•   WHEN OTHERS LIE, IT DOES NOT FEEL RIGHT TO THEM,SO
    THEY KEEP ON ATTEMPTING TO CONVINCE YOU.

•   BEST DEFENSE:   REMAIN AWARE OF CONTEXT IN WHICH
                    THE DETAILS ARE OFFERED
Example
•   You are opening your trunk of your car in a parking garage to
    remove a package. A male shows up and asks if you need help.

•   He tells you that he just moved in the area and just happened to be
    walking by as he was going to a friends apt. Note: To much info

•   What do you do?
TYPECASTING
•   A MAN LABELS A WOMAN IN SLIGHTLY CRITICAL WAY, HOPING
    SHE WILL BE COMPELLED TO DEFEND HERSELF.

•   EXAMPLE: “YOU AFRAID TO TALK TO ME BECAUSE OF MY:
    (RACE, SEX, SIZE, SMELL ECT..)

•   IT IS A SLIGHT INSULT, ONE EASY TO REFUTE BACK. THE CON
    WANTS YOU TO ENGAGE IN THE RESPONSE.
    DO NOT PLAY THE GAME !

•   BEST DEFENSE:     ACTING AS IF THE WORDS WERE
                      NOT EVEN SPOKEN!
Example
•   After you tell the person that you do not need his help. He says to
    you: “ So because I am ____________ you don’t trust me?

•   What do you do?
LOAN SHARKING

•   THE PREDATOR OFFERS HELP, BUT IS CALCULATING THE
    DEBT YOU WILL OWE HIM.

•   WANTS TO BE ABLE TO HELP YOU, WHICH WOULD PLACE
    YOU IN HIS DEBT MAKING IT HARD TO HAVE THEM LEAVE
    YOU ALONE.

•   EXAMPLE: HELPS OPEN YOUR CAR DOOR, APT DOOR, LIFT
             ITEMS FOR YOU.

•   BEST DEFENSE:   REFUSE THE ASSISTANCE. YOU DID NOT
                    ASK FOR HIS HELP! IF YOU NEED
                    ASSISTANCE SEEK OUT ANOTHER
                    WOMAN FIRST.
Example
•   He continues to ask to help you with your packages.



•   What do you do?
THE UNSOLICITED PROMISE
•   PROMISES ARE USED TO CONVINCE US OF AN INTENTION,
    BUT THEY ARE NOT GUARANTEES .

•   EXAMPLE: THE PERSON WHO WANTS TO HELP YOU OPEN
             YOUR DOOR STATES THAT HE IS SAFE AND NOT
             A RAPIST, THIEF, ECT…

•   BEST DEFENSE:   ASK YOURSELF.

                    WHY DOES THIS PERSON NEED TO
                    CONVINCE ME?

                    A PERSON OF GOOD MOTIVES WILL NOT
                    NEED TO CONVINCE YOU.
Example
•   Male party continues to want to assist you now he tells you he is not
    a stalker and will not do anything to you, just want to help.

•   What do you do?
DISCOUNTING THE WORD NO!
•   THE PERSON WHO CHOOSES NOT TO HEAR NO, IS TRYING
    TO CONTROL YOU!

•   NO IS NOT NEGOTIATABLE! BE DIRECT AND FIRM! DO NOT
    GIVE REASONS! IT IS BETTER TO BE THOUGHT OF AS A
    ( B__TCH) THEN REGRET IT LATER!

•   BEST DEFENSE: GET AWAY FROM THE PERSON. IF THAT
                  IS NOT PRACTICAL, RAISE YOUR VOICE
                  AND SAY: “I SAID “NO!”

•   NOTE:   IT IS BETTER TO SEAK OUT AND ASK
            FOR HELP, AS OPPOSED TO WAITING
            FOR SOMEONE TO APPROACH YOU
Example
•   After saying NO! you do not need help. He continues to argue with
    you.

•   What do you do?
POINTS TO CONSIDER
•   The root of the word, intuition, means “to guard, to protect”.

•   Do not dismiss your gut feeling for a coincidence. It is, in fact, a
    cognitive process, faster than we recognize and very different from
    conscious thought. It is knowing without knowing why. Intuition
    discards the irrelevant and values the meaningful

•   We deny because we are built to see what we want to see.

•   What gets in the way of intuition is judgment. With judgment comes
    the ability to disregard your intuition unless you can explain it
    logically.

    Example:    We hear a noise in basement at night and conclude it
                      must be the furnace. Person offers to carry
    your              grocery’s to your car and though you are
    uncomfortable,             you conclude they must          just be
    nice.
APPLICATION
•   MAKE A CLEAR REFUSAL TO ACCEPT MUTUAL PARTNERSHIP WITH
    SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW!

•   WOMEN NEED TO REBUFF UNWANTED APPROACHES DIRECTLY. SHED OFF
    THE SOCIALIZATION OF BEING NICE.

•   MAKE A CLEAR REFUSAL TO ACCEPT MUTUAL PARTNERSHIP WITH
    SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW .

•   WOMEN NEED TO REBUFF UNWANTED APPROACHES DIRECTLY.

•   REMAIN AWARE OF CONTEXT IN WHICH THE DETAILS ARE OFFERED TO
    YOU. TO MANY DETAILS FOR NO REASON.
APPLICATION CONTINUED
•   REFUSE THE ASSISTANCE. YOU DID NOT ASK FOR HIS HELP! IF
    YOU NEED ASSISTANCE SEEK OUT ANOTHER WOMAN FIRST.

•   ASK YOURSELF: WHY IS THIS PERSON TRYING TO CONVINCE ME
    THAT HE IS NOT A THREAT?

•   IT IS BETTER TO SEAK OUT AND ASK FOR HELP, AS OPPOSED TO
    WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO APPROACH YOU.

•   NO MEANS NO! AND DOES NOT MEAN MAYBE!
Questions
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Intuition Survival Signals

  • 1. INTUITION SURVIVAL SIGNALS LISTENING TO YOUR INTUITION IN RELATION TO ENHANCING PERSONAL SAFETY PRESENTER DON MOE
  • 3. INTUITION IS ALWAYS RIGHT IN AT LEAST TWO WAYS • IT IS ALWAYS IN RESPONSE TO SOMETHING HAPPENING . • IT ALWAYS HAS YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART.
  • 4. The Messengers of Intuition • Nagging feelings • Persistent thoughts • Humor (especially dark humor) • Wonder • Anxiety • Curiosity • Hunches • Gut feelings • Doubt • Hesitation • Suspicion • Apprehension • Fear
  • 5. Example • You enter a convenience store to get a soda. As you walk back to the cooler, you start feeling like something is wrong? • What do you do?
  • 6. FORCED TEAMING • PROJECTION OF A SHARED PURPOSE OR EXPERIENCE WHERE NONE EXISTS TO ESTABLISH PRE-MATURE TRUST. • THE CON ARTIST WILL MAKE YOU WANT TO PARTICIPATE! WE-ARE-IN-THE-SAME-BOAT-ATTITUDE. • EXAMPLE: “WE ARE SOME TEAM”,“BOTH OF US”, KEY WORD IS: (WE’ ARE) • BEST DEFENSE: MAKE A CLEAR REFUSAL TO ACCEPT MUTUAL PARTNERSHIP WITH SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW!
  • 7. Example • You are at a Bus stop and its raining out. A male party approaches and states: • “Boy, we sure picked a bad day to wait for the bus, didn’t we” • What do you do?
  • 8. CHARM AND NICENESS • UNSOLICITATED KINDNESS HAS A DISCOVERABLE MOTIVE. • TO CHARM IS TO COMPEL, TO CONTROL, BY ALLURE OR ATTRACTION. • NICENESS IS A DECISION, A STRATEGY OF SOCIAL INTERACTION. IT DOES NOT EQUAL GOODNESS. • NICENESS IS A DISGUISE TO MASK EMOTION, AND A SMILE IS A TYPICAL WAY TO CHARM! • BEST DEFENSE: WOMEN NEED TO REBUFF UNWANTED APPROACHES DIRECTLY. SHED OFF THE SOCIALIZATION OF BEING NICE.
  • 9. Example • You are in the grocery store and you see a male approach you. He smiles then states: • “Hey” “Why is an attractive woman like you shopping alone”?
  • 10. TOO MANY DETAILS • WHEN PEOPLE TELL THE TRUTH, THEY DO NOT FEEL DOUBTED, SO THEY DO NOT NEED TO GIVE ADDITIONAL SUPPORT IN THE FORM OF DETAILS. • WHEN OTHERS LIE, IT DOES NOT FEEL RIGHT TO THEM,SO THEY KEEP ON ATTEMPTING TO CONVINCE YOU. • BEST DEFENSE: REMAIN AWARE OF CONTEXT IN WHICH THE DETAILS ARE OFFERED
  • 11. Example • You are opening your trunk of your car in a parking garage to remove a package. A male shows up and asks if you need help. • He tells you that he just moved in the area and just happened to be walking by as he was going to a friends apt. Note: To much info • What do you do?
  • 12. TYPECASTING • A MAN LABELS A WOMAN IN SLIGHTLY CRITICAL WAY, HOPING SHE WILL BE COMPELLED TO DEFEND HERSELF. • EXAMPLE: “YOU AFRAID TO TALK TO ME BECAUSE OF MY: (RACE, SEX, SIZE, SMELL ECT..) • IT IS A SLIGHT INSULT, ONE EASY TO REFUTE BACK. THE CON WANTS YOU TO ENGAGE IN THE RESPONSE. DO NOT PLAY THE GAME ! • BEST DEFENSE: ACTING AS IF THE WORDS WERE NOT EVEN SPOKEN!
  • 13. Example • After you tell the person that you do not need his help. He says to you: “ So because I am ____________ you don’t trust me? • What do you do?
  • 14. LOAN SHARKING • THE PREDATOR OFFERS HELP, BUT IS CALCULATING THE DEBT YOU WILL OWE HIM. • WANTS TO BE ABLE TO HELP YOU, WHICH WOULD PLACE YOU IN HIS DEBT MAKING IT HARD TO HAVE THEM LEAVE YOU ALONE. • EXAMPLE: HELPS OPEN YOUR CAR DOOR, APT DOOR, LIFT ITEMS FOR YOU. • BEST DEFENSE: REFUSE THE ASSISTANCE. YOU DID NOT ASK FOR HIS HELP! IF YOU NEED ASSISTANCE SEEK OUT ANOTHER WOMAN FIRST.
  • 15. Example • He continues to ask to help you with your packages. • What do you do?
  • 16. THE UNSOLICITED PROMISE • PROMISES ARE USED TO CONVINCE US OF AN INTENTION, BUT THEY ARE NOT GUARANTEES . • EXAMPLE: THE PERSON WHO WANTS TO HELP YOU OPEN YOUR DOOR STATES THAT HE IS SAFE AND NOT A RAPIST, THIEF, ECT… • BEST DEFENSE: ASK YOURSELF. WHY DOES THIS PERSON NEED TO CONVINCE ME? A PERSON OF GOOD MOTIVES WILL NOT NEED TO CONVINCE YOU.
  • 17. Example • Male party continues to want to assist you now he tells you he is not a stalker and will not do anything to you, just want to help. • What do you do?
  • 18. DISCOUNTING THE WORD NO! • THE PERSON WHO CHOOSES NOT TO HEAR NO, IS TRYING TO CONTROL YOU! • NO IS NOT NEGOTIATABLE! BE DIRECT AND FIRM! DO NOT GIVE REASONS! IT IS BETTER TO BE THOUGHT OF AS A ( B__TCH) THEN REGRET IT LATER! • BEST DEFENSE: GET AWAY FROM THE PERSON. IF THAT IS NOT PRACTICAL, RAISE YOUR VOICE AND SAY: “I SAID “NO!” • NOTE: IT IS BETTER TO SEAK OUT AND ASK FOR HELP, AS OPPOSED TO WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO APPROACH YOU
  • 19. Example • After saying NO! you do not need help. He continues to argue with you. • What do you do?
  • 20. POINTS TO CONSIDER • The root of the word, intuition, means “to guard, to protect”. • Do not dismiss your gut feeling for a coincidence. It is, in fact, a cognitive process, faster than we recognize and very different from conscious thought. It is knowing without knowing why. Intuition discards the irrelevant and values the meaningful • We deny because we are built to see what we want to see. • What gets in the way of intuition is judgment. With judgment comes the ability to disregard your intuition unless you can explain it logically. Example: We hear a noise in basement at night and conclude it must be the furnace. Person offers to carry your grocery’s to your car and though you are uncomfortable, you conclude they must just be nice.
  • 21. APPLICATION • MAKE A CLEAR REFUSAL TO ACCEPT MUTUAL PARTNERSHIP WITH SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW! • WOMEN NEED TO REBUFF UNWANTED APPROACHES DIRECTLY. SHED OFF THE SOCIALIZATION OF BEING NICE. • MAKE A CLEAR REFUSAL TO ACCEPT MUTUAL PARTNERSHIP WITH SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW . • WOMEN NEED TO REBUFF UNWANTED APPROACHES DIRECTLY. • REMAIN AWARE OF CONTEXT IN WHICH THE DETAILS ARE OFFERED TO YOU. TO MANY DETAILS FOR NO REASON.
  • 22. APPLICATION CONTINUED • REFUSE THE ASSISTANCE. YOU DID NOT ASK FOR HIS HELP! IF YOU NEED ASSISTANCE SEEK OUT ANOTHER WOMAN FIRST. • ASK YOURSELF: WHY IS THIS PERSON TRYING TO CONVINCE ME THAT HE IS NOT A THREAT? • IT IS BETTER TO SEAK OUT AND ASK FOR HELP, AS OPPOSED TO WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO APPROACH YOU. • NO MEANS NO! AND DOES NOT MEAN MAYBE!