An ebook on Parenting Philosophy by dads.

1. 50 Killer Philosophies on
Parenting by Dads
http://www.TheDADvocateProject.com

2. “Love, respect, and affirmation is what I
try and get across to my kids each and

3. “Since my time with my children is
limited due to geographical distance, I
make sure to schedule phone calls
every other day and a weekend
webcam session too. They always know
when my next visit with them will be.
Their mom and I get along well and
provide a calm and respectful
relationship. It's always about "what is

4. “I try to be the best I can while balancing
the rest of life.”

5. “I do what I think is right...I do what my
dad would do, for the most part...I try
to be honest about everything. I make
sure my kids know I love them and

6. “Being a parent for only six months
makes this a difficult question to
answer. However, the approach I plan
to take is providing structure and
guidance, something I believe my
parents failed at. At almost 30, I want
my daughter to be well rounded and I
think that comes with spending quality
time and providing quality guidance.”

7. “Tough love.“

8. “I am the bread winner in the
family. We chose to have my
wife stay home with our kids
to have parental involvement
in their development years.
We also chose to have our
kids involved in as many
activities as we can afford and
that they choose to
experience. I try to be
involved as much as I can be
involved. I am currently in the
medical field and am looking
to start my own business so
that I can spend more time
with my kids as they grow
older. My primary
responsibility is to provide. I'd
like to spend more time with
them and see this as the only

9. “We don't have video games. We try to
determine their passions and support
them in that, help them build
friendships and 'catch them doing
something right' “

10. “Challenge her to think for herself -
question authority, question trends,
question, question, question...Stress
responsibility to and respect of others
(accept a person's individuality -
different does not mean wrong, follow
up, keep your word, be on time). Get
out in the world, experience life, and
learn from your mistakes. Two
mistakes are much worse than one - if
you make the first mistake, don't

11. “Treat them like I want to be
treated. “

12. “I'm pretty laid back but firm. My daughter
knows when she has done something wrong
from the tone of my voice. We use time outs
when she does something she shouldn't like
swat at the cat. She's 2 so she doesn't get
into too much trouble. I'm an affectionate
parent and my daughter knows very much
that she is loved. I spend time reading to
her, having tea parties and doing whatever I
can to be a good father. I might be too much
of a friend but my daughter certainly
recognizes me as someone in control of the
situation. So basically my approach is gentle
love, laughter and fun and firm guiding
disciple. Each time she has a time out we tell
her why in calm tones and then tell her that
we love her.“

13. “As long as he is following the rules at
home and at school he better be
having as much fun as he can. “

14. “Teach them the basics
while they are young:
respect, manners,
compassion.
Moderately strict.
Whatever happened
during the day, the last
words they should hear
before bed from their

15. “I changed careers to be with my 20-year-
old daughter, so I spend way too much
time at home. My approach is to love
them first, listen to them even when you
don't want to, follow through with
punishments when needed, I like to hug
them every day-even my older kids, I
admit when I am wrong and expect them
to do the same, don't leave a trail of your
stuff or Dad will get mad, show affection
and love to my wife when the kids are
around, we trust you until you give us a
good reason not to trust you, no matter
what you do I'll be there but you will have
to deal with your own consequences, and

16. “We believe in a strict, but fair approach.
We only use physical (spanking) when
other options have failed “

17. “I am a stay at home dad, so I find it
necessary to be patient, caring, loving
and supportive.”

18. “Stern but try to find reasons to not say
NO. Prefer children to have a sense of
work ethic, such as early to bed, early
to rise, be on time. No longer a
believer in spanking but instead trying
to understand.”

19. “Do what feels right. Stay away from shit
that feels wrong. Hope we're getting it
right.”

20. “I love my
kid, I figure
the rest will
follow into
place. “

21. “This survey was difficult because I have two
grown step-children, and then my daughter
who is 6. I believe that two-way
communication is the most important
aspect of parenting. I not only have to
explain myself to my daughter, I have to try
to really listen to what she is saying. We
have never used spanking with our
daughter (nor my step-kids when they were
younger). I try to be as honest as I can, and
help my daughter to make good decisions
and think things through. It helps that she
is smart and compassionate. I think that
this approach would not work with every
child. I don't think there is a "right" way to
parent, though there are certainly wrong

22. “Be there. I'd rather be broke and with
my family than rich and away. Loving. I
try to be a loving dad even when they
need discipline.”

23. “Offer
boundaries,
set high
expectations
and provide
support.“

24. “I believe love and attention from both
parents is the most important part of
parenting. I also believe in an being
100% open and honest with your kids.
Every parenting and discipline decision
I make is based on how it will effect
their adult life. I want to raise adults
who are confident in themselves and
aren't afraid to take risks, be different,
and give life everything they got.“

25. “Understanding my role as a model and
teacher, and his role as learner. I try to
create an environment where he can
learn through experiencing life.”

26. “I'm still learning.
Try to do it with
love and take it a
day at a time. Try
to remember
what it was like to
be a kid. “

27. “In a nutshell, my greatest responsibility
is to teach my children that their
consequences for their actions. I try to
show them how to think, not what to
think. This involves both rewards and
negative consequences in their day-to-
day choices. Along with that is learning
to love themselves; a respect for
themselves is key to them showing
compassion towards others. Other than

28. “Lead by example. Open , honest and
transparent. Spare the rod and spoil
the child. Encourage, promote and
support them as people. Biblical based
values first and formost”

29. “I am consistent, or at least I think I am! I
provide love as well as discipline.”

30. “I'm suddenly finding it difficult to
summarize my approach. Hard to
briefly explain raising a future adult for
18 years. I suppose it could be this:
Teach the value of respect, the
importance of discipline, the necessity
of curiosity, and the benefits of
determination. Due all of that teaching
with love and you should reap the

31. “Roll with what life deals you. Teach
when you can and make sure your kids
have morals. “

32. “Roll with what life deals you. Teach
when you can and make sure your kids
have morals.”

33. “Attachment Parenting”

34. “My approach is to let Joey explore the
world with no limitations tempered
with guidance in regards to acceptable
behavior and safe exploration. I want
to teach him and prepare him for the
inevitable day when he ventures into
the world on his own.”

35. “To teach to be
good human
beings, good
citizens and

36. “Always on same page as spouse. Never
disagree in front of kids. always follow
through on punishments. “

37. “I am trying to raise strong, happy,
healthy children who are not afraid of
independence, who are not afraid to
question what they are told, but to do
so respectfully. I want them to not be
afraid to stand up for what they feel is
RIGHT, and not be ashamed of who
they REALLY are (despite what the
world deems is ‘popular’.”

38. “Give them
the skills to
be
functional
members of
society.”

39. “My wife and I have a very hands-on
approach to parenting. We are
primarily a ‘parent’ first and don't
really subscribe to the idea of ‘being
friends with your kids.’ We spend a lot
of time ensuring that we have open
communication channels, empowering
them, strengthening them and giving
them tools to survive. “

40. “My kids are my life's priority right now.
Nothing I do is more important than
raising them right. I believe in Biblical
discipline.“

41. “He's 18months we let
him do whatever he
wants and we want
him happy while we
deal with his diabetes
- we have light
structure - but core
values.“

42. “I am a stay at home dad so I am the one
setting the tone for our parenting
approach. I want to raise strong
confident kids that know how to take
care of themselves and how to take
care of others. I give them space to try
and fail so they can grow. “

43. “My child will grow up on his own. I just
have to create a healthy environment
and give him all the love he needs.
This is not a difficult job, but it will
never go away. You become a father,
you're a father for life.“

44. “I just roll with it. My
approach is pretty laid
back, and I don't tend
to worry too much
about things. Then
again, my son is only
6 months old right
now, so I haven't had
to get into much. “

45. “Give them unconditional love. Be there
as they become who they are. Help
keep all possible doors open to them
so that when they are an adult, they
have the most options. Teach them all I
can to make their life as full and as
rich as it can be.“

46. “I believe that parental interaction is key.
The most important thing to a child is
having a parent who is around, to talk
to, to understand. Day care is not a
parental alternative, neither is TV, or
the computer. “

47. “Keep doing what my parents did right,
change up what they didn't...“

48. “I am a step-parent whose 2 boys are
now in university. I always felt it was
my roll to teach them things that they
would learn from their dad. I had
rural upbringing so I taught them stuff
like driving stick shift, driving
snowmobile, snowshoeing, etc.“

49. “I try to bring my children up to respect
others and have confidence in
themselves.”

50. “I try to bring my children up to respect
others and have confidence in

51. “I am trying to be very ‘hands on’ with
my son. I try and model the kinds of
behavior and attitudes that I want him
to have. My wife and I give him the
freedom to fail and learn from the
failure. Also, discipline is very
important to us. We work hard to
remain consistent and teach this to our
son.”

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