Skillful listening is a necessary and often neglected aspect of Contingent Communication - the primary driver of Secure Attachment in human beings. In this best-selling book, Dr. Mark Brady tells us not only where, what, when and why, but precisely HOW to go about the work of becoming that skillful listener we would all be well-served to become.
3. Thread 1:
Noble Listening practitioners invite others
to speak truthfully and they hold the things
they hear sacred.
(pg. 19)
4. Thread 2:
“Being listened to is so close to being loved
that most people don’t know the difference.”
(pg. 21)
5. Thread 3:
Talk less.
This is the
simplest and
fastest change
we can make
on the road to
becoming a
Noble Listener.
(pg. 25)
6. Thread 4:
Being slow to argue, disagree or criticize goes
a long way toward allowing truth, compassion
and understanding to organically unfold.
(pg. 34)
8. Thread 6:
The plain and simple truth is that few of us
are perfectly comfortable with silence. It is
generative listening
that allows us to
develop deeper
silences that slow
the ear’s hearing
to the mind’s
natural speed.
(pg. 39)
9. Thread 7:
Living inside each
of us is a wealth of
embodied wisdom
and experience
that is much more
reliable and
trustworthy
than any
advice we
might offer.
(pg. 41)
10. Thread 8:
Satyagraha is the peaceful force for truth
identified by Gandhi. A satyagraha listener
can be present
with compassion,
willing to hear
another’s truth
and hold it gently,
no matter how
distressing that
truth may be.
(pg. 45)
11. Thread 9:
The Lakota warrior
and wise man,
Crazy Horse warned,
“Power must listen
with honest ears
to the whispers
of the powerless.”
(pg. 95)
12. Thread 10:
Communication is a process much like writing.
Few of us are able to get precisely what we
want to say
down perfectly
in the very
first draft.
(pg. 59)
13. Thread 11:
“All things, animate and inanimate, have
within them a spirit dimension. They com-
municate in that
dimension to
those who can
listen.”
(pg. 103)