The document discusses contingent communication and its three components: 1) being open to receiving messages in their full complexity, 2) accurately understanding the meaning of received messages, and 3) responding in a timely and effective manner. It also discusses Right Speech in Buddhism, which involves abstaining from false, malicious, harsh, and idle speech and instead speaking truthfully to promote harmony.

1. Contingent Communication
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Mark Brady, PhD
FloweringBrain@gmail.com

2. What primarily drives the growth
of new brain cells and new connections?
2Feedback from the significant nouns in our lives.
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3. At its roots, there are three components
required to communicate skillfully and contingently.
Contingent (Give-and-Take) Communication
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The most powerful form of feedback:

4. At its roots, there are three components
required to communicate skillfully and contingently.
First, we have to be open
to receiving whatever
message is being sent in
all it’s complexity. This
often includes what isn’t
being said, as well as the
many nonverbal ways
messages are
communicated.
Contingent (Give-and-Take) Communication
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The most powerful form of feedback:

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Second, after we
receive a message,
we have to do our
best to accurately
understand its meaning.
Mental, physical and
emotional states need
to be accurately
assessed and clearly
reflected, and …

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Third and finally,
for communication
to be truly contingent …
we must respond in a
timely and effective manner.
“The opposite of love ist not hate, it’s indifference.”
~ Elie Wiesel

7. Right Speech is a mindfulness
practice. Buddha was precise in his
description of Right Speech.
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8. Right Speech is a mindfulness
practice. Buddha was precise in his
description of Right Speech. He defined it
as “abstinence from false speech,
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9. Right Speech is a mindfulness
practice. Buddha was precise in his
description of Right Speech. He defined it
as “abstinence from false speech,
abstinence from malicious speech,
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10. Right Speech is a mindfulness
practice. Buddha was precise in his
description of Right Speech. He defined it
as “abstinence from false speech,
abstinence from malicious speech,
abstinence from harsh speech,
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11. Right Speech is a mindfulness
practice. Buddha was precise in his
description of Right Speech. He defined it
as “abstinence from false speech,
abstinence from malicious speech,
abstinence from harsh speech, and
abstinence from idle chatter.”
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12. Right Speech is a mindfulness
practice. Buddha was precise in his
description of Right Speech. He defined it
as “abstinence from false speech,
abstinence from malicious speech,
abstinence from harsh speech, and
abstinence from idle chatter.” In the
vernacular this means not lying, not using
speech in ways that create discord among
people, not using swear words or a cynical,
hostile or raised tone of voice, and not
engaging in gossip.
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13. Right Speech is a mindfulness
practice. Buddha was precise in his
description of Right Speech. He defined it
as “abstinence from false speech,
abstinence from malicious speech,
abstinence from harsh speech, and
abstinence from idle chatter.” In the
vernacular this means not lying, not using
speech in ways that create discord among
people, not using swear words or a cynical,
hostile or raised tone of voice, and not
engaging in gossip. Re-framed in the
positive, these guidelines urge us to say
only what is true, to speak in ways that
promote harmony among people, to use a
tone of voice that is pleasing, kind, and
gentle, and to speak mindfully in order
that our speech is useful and purposeful.
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14. Right Speech is a mindfulness
practice. Buddha was precise in his
description of Right Speech. He defined it
as “abstinence from false speech,
abstinence from malicious speech,
abstinence from harsh speech, and
abstinence from idle chatter.” In the
vernacular this means not lying, not using
speech in ways that create discord among
people, not using swear words or a cynical,
hostile or raised tone of voice, and not
engaging in gossip. Re-framed in the
positive, these guidelines urge us to say
only what is true, to speak in ways that
promote harmony among people, to use a
tone of voice that is pleasing, kind, and
gentle, and to speak mindfully in order
that our speech is useful and purposeful.
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~ Beth Roth
Right Speech Reconsidered

15. Right Speech is a mindfulness
practice. Buddha was precise in his
description of Right Speech. He defined it
as “abstinence from false speech,
abstinence from malicious speech,
abstinence from harsh speech, and
abstinence from idle chatter.” In the
vernacular this means not lying, not using
speech in ways that create discord among
people, not using swear words or a cynical,
hostile or raised tone of voice, and not
engaging in gossip. Re-framed in the
positive, these guidelines urge us to say
only what is true, to speak in ways that
promote harmony among people, to use a
tone of voice that is pleasing, kind, and
gentle, and to speak mindfully in order
that our speech is useful and purposeful.
~ Beth Roth
Right Speech Reconsidered
THINK
Is it True? - T
Is it Kind? - K
Is it Necessary? - N
Is it Inspiring? - I
Is it Helpful? - H
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