courtship, dating and marriage

1. Lesson I-
Courtship, Dating,
and Marriage

2. Introduction
Family - It helps us in improving our
personality. It also helps us in shaping
our life. It teaches us the value of
integrity, love and honesty and provides
us with tools necessary for success.
-a place where you can be yourself.
-most people don’t realize the importance of
family, they prefer to spend most of their
time with their friends.

3. Love and Infatuation are both
intense emotions that one
feels for another person.
INFATUATION OR CRUSH is the state of
being completely carried away by
unreasoning passion or love;
addictive love.
-admiration for someone while not
recognizing that person’s flaws
LOVE can be described as a feeling of
intense affection for another person
- is deep affection for someone

4. ATTRACTION is admiration
for someone that may
include the desire to get
to know that person
better.
CRUSHES usually last for
only a short time, few
weeks or maybe a few
months.

5. COURTSHIP
is the period in a couple's relationship which
precedes their engagement and marriage or
it is an establishment of an agreed
relationship of a more enduring kind.

6. Here are different traditional practices of
courtship in the Philippines
ILOCOS - tapat,
("to be in front
of the
woman’s
house” similar
to harana)

7. TAGALOG
REGIONS-
balagtasan
(singing a
romantic
song)

8. LUZON - Rooster courtship (rooster is
assigned to be the "negotiator", wherein
the male chicken is left to stay in the
home of the courted to crow every single
morning for the admired lady's family.)

9. BULACAN – naninilong ( means serenading
from the basement. )
KALINGA - ebgan
Ifugaos - ca-i-sing
Tingguians - pangis
-where a man and a woman are separated into
"houses“, for the males is called Ato, for
females is known as the olog or agamang
man visits the woman’s house to sing romantic
songs and the woman reply to these songs

10. BATANGAS - traditional eve of the
wedding procession, bring the
cooking ingredients for the
celebration to the bride’s home
PANGASINAN - taga-amo, which means
"tamer", a form of love potions or
charms which can be rubbed to the skin
of the admired. There is also the use
of palabas, meaning show or drama
wherein the man pretends to commit
suicide.

11. APAYAO - mahal-alay (allows a man and a
woman to sleep together during the night)
PALAWAN – pasaguli (the use of love riddles )
pabalic / pabalik is done to settle the price in a
form of dowry that will be received by the
women from the courting man.
CEBUANOS – balak (write love letters that are
sent through a trusted friend or relative of the
woman)

12. LEYTE - pangagador paninilbihan (suitor
accomplishes household and farm chores for
the family of the woman
- subok (a trial or test period for the serving
suitor.)
BICOL - it is called pamianan.
TAUSUGS OF MINDANAO - Palabas, sarakahan
tupul, or magpasumbahi (A suitor would
threaten to stab his heart while in front of
the courted woman’s father)

13. BAGOBOS - sends a knife or a spear
as a gift to the home of the courted
woman for inspection. Accepting
the weapon is equivalent to
accepting the man’s romantic
intention and advances.

14. Pre-arranged marriages and betrothals are
common to Muslims. It involves discussions
regarding the price and the form of the dowry.
The Tausug people proclaims that a wedding, a
celebration or announcement known as
the pangalay. It is officiated by an Imam.
Readings from the Quran is a part of the
ceremony, as well as the placement of the
groom's fingerprint over the bride's forehead.

15. Courtship Practices at the Age of
Technology
- A suitor can court a woman through the use of
cellphones.
- A man can court a woman through Facebook,
Twitter, Skype or other social networking sites.

16. 1. Courting gives time to understand one
another.
2. It reveals one’s interests, likes and dislikes
limitations, and other aspirations in life.
3. It allows couples to decide whether they
want to be committed.
4. It allows couples to know if they are ready to
be commit.
5. It develops security.
6. It develops understanding and acceptance.

17. DATING

18. • dating actually comes from the arranging of a
time and date of meeting.
• a form of courtship consisting of social
activities done by two people, as partner in
an intimate relationship or as a spouse.
• it refers to the act of meeting and engaging in
some mutually agreed upon social activity,
together, as a couple

19. Types of dating:
1.Standard date
– involves two
people

20. 2.Double date –
two couples go
on a date at the
same time and
place

21. 3.Group date –
where any
number of
couples can
enjoy a date

22. Importance of Dating
• It forms affection and respect.
• It strengthens the relationship.
• It gives quality time to each other.
• It leads one to observe the other person’s
character.
• Provides an opportunity for one to know his/her
strengths and weaknesses in dealing with the
opposite sex.
• It allows you to get to know the person you are in
a relationship with, while having a good time.

23. Going steady -a
period wherein
the relationship
between two
people remains
strong and well.

24. Engagement – a period of
agreement entered
between two people in love
for them to be able to know
each other and their
families well enough to be
sure that they are ready
and are suited for life-long
companionship

25. MARRIAGE is a lifelong partnership of a man
and a woman, two unique individuals, who
understand, respect, care, and love each
other
- a special contract of permanent union
between a man and a woman entered into in
accordance with law for the establishment of
conjugal and family life

26. Factors Necessary to Consider in choosing a
lifetime partner to work out for Successful
Married Life:
1. Maturity 5. Physical Maturity
2. Fidelity 6. Economic Readiness
3. Commitment 7. Character
4. Love 8. God-fearing

27. RECIPE / INGREDIENTS OF A
SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
• Love
• Understanding / Respect
• Care
• Loyalty
• A Shared Philosophy
• Cooperation
• Growth
• Involvement
• Sharing and Giving
• Communication