The document outlines 6 signs that a couple may need marriage counseling: 1) Lack of communication and support, 2) Relationship resembles a battlefield, 3) Unhealthy fighting style, 4) Relationship stagnation, 5) Little to no sex life, 6) More bad than good in the marriage. It recommends seeking counseling or therapy if any of these signs are present, as unaddressed issues could lead to divorce. Lower-cost online counseling or self-help programs are suggested as alternatives to traditional in-person counseling.

1. 6 Signs That You Need Marriage
Counseling Right Now
By Lisa Penn
http://how-to-save-marriage.org

2. • You must forgive my morbid analogy, but
marital problems are like cancer. The earlier
you detect it and treat it, the more chances you
have to beat it and survive.
• Marriage problems are the same. If you
address your problems early on and solve
them on time, you dramatically increase the
survival chances of your relationship. If you put
it off and wait for the problems disappear on
their own, don’t be surprised to be heading
straight to divorce.

3. 6 Signs That You Need Couples
Counseling Right Now
This is a list of the most
dangerous marital
problems; those that
left unsolved will most
likely end your
marriage. If you have
one or more of these
problems, it’s time to
seek some kind of
marriage counseling, or
couples therapy – Right
now.

4. Sign #1 – Lack of
Communication and Support
Two recent studies,
published in the American
Journal of Family
Psychology, found that
couples who went on to
divorce were more likely
to be poorer
communicators, and
tended to display more
negative emotions and
support mechanisms than
people who stayed
married.

5. • For example, the couples who went on to divorce were
more likely to use blame and invalidation in their
communication efforts. They were more likely to
discourage a spouse from expressing his or her feelings,
and to display “inappropriate pessimism.” Husbands who
were more verbally aggressive early on were also more
likely to be part of couples who went on to divorce later. (
Source is here)
• No problem in a marriage can be solved without open,
honest communication. Lack of personal, intimate
exchange in a marriage is a very bad sign.

6. Sign#2 – Marriage Resembles a
Battlefield
• No matter how in love you
used to be and how much fun
you used to have, many of us
wake up one morning and
realize that the marriage has
turned into a battlefield (Very
often – After having children).
• Lines are drawn; you stick to
your guns on every issue. You
dig in on your side; your
husband digs in on the other
side. Neither of you will budge.
• This pushes all your intimacy
away and you no longer enjoy
his company.

7. With time, you find yourself taking a
“side” opposite your spouse. This
damages the very foundation of
your marriage. When “We” turns into
“me” is a definite reason to seek
marriage therapy immediately.

8. Sign #3 – The Wrong “Fighting
Style”
Seven long term studies
have found that that the
way that a couple
handles conflicts can
predict if they will end up
divorcing. The studies
included people from all
ranges on the marriage
spectrum, from
newlyweds to long-term
marriages.

9. • While fighting is normal in any relationship, and even
essential (because no two people will ever agree about
everything), your “fighting” style can predict if the
marriage can survive the conflicts or not. These are the
signs that your conflict resolution process requires
urgent help:
1. When conflict emerges, you wait until things build up and
than explode. You or your partner talks down to you and
criticizes you harshly. One or both of you are simply
mean to each other.
2. You or your spouse do not express yourself directly, but
beat around the bush hoping the other side will “get
it”and you constantly bring up past hurts.
3. A simple disagreement is always escalated and getting
out of control.

10. Sign #4 – Relationship
Stagnation
Are you one of many
couples out there
who, every night, sit
across the dinner
table from one
another (if you still
have dinner together)
and wonder “who is
this person I am living
with? Why did I marry
him?

11. • When a marriage falls into stagnation, it’s because
somewhere along the line one or both of you
stopped taking care of it. Nothing is really “wrong”
with our marriage; it’s just boring and stuck. You
have to work to pay the bills, maybe you have kids to
take care of, and/or sick, elderly parents who require
your care and attention. You don’t have time to
spend with your spouse.
• If your relationship doesn’t continue to grow, it’s
wallowing. This is a dangerous seed that needs to
be attended to. Marriage stagnation is why a
marriage breaks down. You care about everything
else but the marriage and it will be sacrificed as a
result

12. Sign #5 – Little to No Sex Life
• The breakdown of your sex
life is one of the most
recognized signs of a
failing marriage. Sexual
intimacy is critical for the
bond between a husband
and a wife.
• To put is simply, a marriage
without sex will, at some
point, end up in divorce or
being a marriage of
convenience. The next step
is usually an emotional and/
or physical affair.

13. • If your husband has a low sex drive –
My article about Sexless Marriage
will help YOU. If you are the one
losing interest in sex, my post titled “
I Love My Husband but I Don’t Want Se
” may interest you.

14. Sign #6 – The Bad Overweighs
the Good
• Most of us are able to look
deep inside and answer this
question truthfully: Is there
more bad than good in
our marriage?
• If the answer is yes, your
marriage is in trouble and
you need marriage
counseling of some sort.
The cancer will grow and
eat up your marriage until
it’s over, if you don’t act and
do something right now.

15. • If you are hesitant about traditional marriage
counseling (many of us are) because of the high
costs, the lack of privacy, availability and
comfort, you have other options.
• The first option is a
marriage saving program online, which is a
step by step self-help book (with work books)
that shows you exactly what and how to resolve
your marital problems. It costs less than one
session of marriage therapy and it can be just as
effective (it was for me anyway).

16. • The second option is online marriage counseling,
which is also much less expensive (because you usually
per minute) and you can do it from home at your
preferred time and with total privacy (you can learn more
about this option – Right Here).
• What ever you decide to do – Just do it. Don’t let the
marriage cancerous problems doom your relationship
and don’t wait until it’s too late. There are some points in
a marriage when nothing can help it anymore, but you
can prevent yourself from getting there.
• Don’t WAIT, ACT NOW.

17. If you are hesitant about traditional marriage •
counseling(many of us are )because of the high
costs, the lack of privacy, availability and
. comfort,you have other options
The first option is a •
marriage saving program online, which is a
step by step self-help book (with work books)
that shows you exactly what and how to resolve
your marital problems. It costs less than one
session of marriage therapy and it can be just as
.(effective (it was for me anyway