This document outlines the objectives and content of a session on understanding and using social styles. The objectives are to:
1) Gain an understanding of the social style model
2) Determine one's own social style through a self-assessment
3) Learn how one's own behavior is viewed by others and how to interact effectively with different styles
The document introduces key concepts like behaviors, personality, the four social styles according to levels of assertiveness and responsiveness, and strategies for improving interactions and versatility. Self-assessments are used to determine one's own social style and versatility. Activities are designed to help participants apply the concepts.
Welcome participants and stress the importance of active participation\n Briefly review the history of SOCIAL STYLE\n Cite the proven effectiveness of increased Versatility (e.g., Sales and Management studies)\n Additional information and statistics can be obtained from The SOCIAL STYLE Profile – Technical Report\n
Today, I want to use this time together to give you some tools that can help you to be more effective immediately and improve your long-term effectiveness. \n \nGoing through this session you will:\n• Gain a working understanding of the SOCIAL STYLE Model\n• Determine your SOCIAL STYLE based on completing a self-perception questionnaire \n• Increase your understanding of their behavior and how others tend to view people with your Style\n• Learn some ways to use your SOCIAL STYLE in order to be more productive with others \n\nIn our experience it’s critical that individuals understand their own behavior and how it affects others. So we’re going to do an exercise that will hopefully provide you with valuable insights about yourself. You’re each going to complete a self-profile of your SOCIAL STYLE. With that knowledge as a foundation, we’ll then look at how you can work more effectively with others.\n
Today, I want to use this time together to give you some tools that can help you to be more effective immediately and improve your long-term effectiveness. \n \nGoing through this session you will:\n• Gain a working understanding of the SOCIAL STYLE Model\n• Determine your SOCIAL STYLE based on completing a self-perception questionnaire \n• Increase your understanding of their behavior and how others tend to view people with your Style\n• Learn some ways to use your SOCIAL STYLE in order to be more productive with others \n\nIn our experience it’s critical that individuals understand their own behavior and how it affects others. So we’re going to do an exercise that will hopefully provide you with valuable insights about yourself. You’re each going to complete a self-profile of your SOCIAL STYLE. With that knowledge as a foundation, we’ll then look at how you can work more effectively with others.\n
Today, I want to use this time together to give you some tools that can help you to be more effective immediately and improve your long-term effectiveness. \n \nGoing through this session you will:\n• Gain a working understanding of the SOCIAL STYLE Model\n• Determine your SOCIAL STYLE based on completing a self-perception questionnaire \n• Increase your understanding of their behavior and how others tend to view people with your Style\n• Learn some ways to use your SOCIAL STYLE in order to be more productive with others \n\nIn our experience it’s critical that individuals understand their own behavior and how it affects others. So we’re going to do an exercise that will hopefully provide you with valuable insights about yourself. You’re each going to complete a self-profile of your SOCIAL STYLE. With that knowledge as a foundation, we’ll then look at how you can work more effectively with others.\n
Today, I want to use this time together to give you some tools that can help you to be more effective immediately and improve your long-term effectiveness. \n \nGoing through this session you will:\n• Gain a working understanding of the SOCIAL STYLE Model\n• Determine your SOCIAL STYLE based on completing a self-perception questionnaire \n• Increase your understanding of their behavior and how others tend to view people with your Style\n• Learn some ways to use your SOCIAL STYLE in order to be more productive with others \n\nIn our experience it’s critical that individuals understand their own behavior and how it affects others. So we’re going to do an exercise that will hopefully provide you with valuable insights about yourself. You’re each going to complete a self-profile of your SOCIAL STYLE. With that knowledge as a foundation, we’ll then look at how you can work more effectively with others.\n
So that we are all using terms that mean the same thing, here are some basic definitions as they are used in Style Awareness session.\nBehavior is what you say (verbal) and do (non-verbal).\nInterpersonal Behavior is what you say and do when interacting with one or more people.\nSOCIAL STYLE is a particular pattern of actions that others can observe and agree upon for describing one’s behavior.\nPersonality is the combination of ideas, values, hopes, dreams, attitudes, abilities, as well as the behavior that others can observe that encompasses everything a person is. \n\nEmphasize that SOCIAL STYLE and Personality are not the same thing. \n
So that we are all using terms that mean the same thing, here are some basic definitions as they are used in Style Awareness session.\nBehavior is what you say (verbal) and do (non-verbal).\nInterpersonal Behavior is what you say and do when interacting with one or more people.\nSOCIAL STYLE is a particular pattern of actions that others can observe and agree upon for describing one’s behavior.\nPersonality is the combination of ideas, values, hopes, dreams, attitudes, abilities, as well as the behavior that others can observe that encompasses everything a person is. \n\nEmphasize that SOCIAL STYLE and Personality are not the same thing. \n
So that we are all using terms that mean the same thing, here are some basic definitions as they are used in Style Awareness session.\nBehavior is what you say (verbal) and do (non-verbal).\nInterpersonal Behavior is what you say and do when interacting with one or more people.\nSOCIAL STYLE is a particular pattern of actions that others can observe and agree upon for describing one’s behavior.\nPersonality is the combination of ideas, values, hopes, dreams, attitudes, abilities, as well as the behavior that others can observe that encompasses everything a person is. \n\nEmphasize that SOCIAL STYLE and Personality are not the same thing. \n
So that we are all using terms that mean the same thing, here are some basic definitions as they are used in Style Awareness session.\nBehavior is what you say (verbal) and do (non-verbal).\nInterpersonal Behavior is what you say and do when interacting with one or more people.\nSOCIAL STYLE is a particular pattern of actions that others can observe and agree upon for describing one’s behavior.\nPersonality is the combination of ideas, values, hopes, dreams, attitudes, abilities, as well as the behavior that others can observe that encompasses everything a person is. \n\nEmphasize that SOCIAL STYLE and Personality are not the same thing. \n
“SOCIAL STYLE is determined by observable behaviors—that is, the actual things that we “say and do.” These are objective and quantifiable, and descriptions of them by different observers do not vary widely.”\n \nReview the different types of behavior shown on the slide and in the Self-Perception Guide.\n
“SOCIAL STYLE is determined by observable behaviors—that is, the actual things that we “say and do.” These are objective and quantifiable, and descriptions of them by different observers do not vary widely.”\n \nReview the different types of behavior shown on the slide and in the Self-Perception Guide.\n
“SOCIAL STYLE is determined by observable behaviors—that is, the actual things that we “say and do.” These are objective and quantifiable, and descriptions of them by different observers do not vary widely.”\n \nReview the different types of behavior shown on the slide and in the Self-Perception Guide.\n
“SOCIAL STYLE is determined by observable behaviors—that is, the actual things that we “say and do.” These are objective and quantifiable, and descriptions of them by different observers do not vary widely.”\n \nReview the different types of behavior shown on the slide and in the Self-Perception Guide.\n
“SOCIAL STYLE is determined by observable behaviors—that is, the actual things that we “say and do.” These are objective and quantifiable, and descriptions of them by different observers do not vary widely.”\n \nReview the different types of behavior shown on the slide and in the Self-Perception Guide.\n
“SOCIAL STYLE is determined by observable behaviors—that is, the actual things that we “say and do.” These are objective and quantifiable, and descriptions of them by different observers do not vary widely.”\n \nReview the different types of behavior shown on the slide and in the Self-Perception Guide.\n
“SOCIAL STYLE is determined by observable behaviors—that is, the actual things that we “say and do.” These are objective and quantifiable, and descriptions of them by different observers do not vary widely.”\n \nReview the different types of behavior shown on the slide and in the Self-Perception Guide.\n
Now, let’s walk through the SOCIAL STYLE model because it sets the stage for our discussion of improving your interpersonal effectiveness.\n \nThere are three parts to the SOCIAL STYLE Model. The first is known as the Assertiveness scale and it refers to whether a person tends to ask or tell in their interactions with others. Those that tell more than others fall on the right half of the scale with those that ask on the left. \n \nIn this context, assertiveness is not related to what you might consider assertiveness training such as being forceful. Rather it’s simply whether a person tends to ask more or tell more in their interactions with others. \n
The second scale is the Responsiveness scale. This measures how a person displays their emotions and feelings when working with others. The top end is for those that tend to control their emotions, while the bottom end is for those that show their feelings or emote.\n \n
By putting the Assertiveness and Responsiveness dimensions together we end up with the SOCIAL STYLE Model. The model is comprised of four quadrants and four distinct SOCIAL STYLES. \n\nStarting in the upper right, people who are Control Responsive and Tell Assertive are the Driving style. \n\nPeople who are Tell Assertive and Emote Responsive have an Expressive Style. \n\nThe Amiable Style people are Ask Assertive and Emote Responsive and the Analytical Style people are Control Responsive and Ask Assertive. \n\nAt this point, it’s important to note that there is no good or bad style. \n
By putting the Assertiveness and Responsiveness dimensions together we end up with the SOCIAL STYLE Model. The model is comprised of four quadrants and four distinct SOCIAL STYLES. \n\nStarting in the upper right, people who are Control Responsive and Tell Assertive are the Driving style. \n\nPeople who are Tell Assertive and Emote Responsive have an Expressive Style. \n\nThe Amiable Style people are Ask Assertive and Emote Responsive and the Analytical Style people are Control Responsive and Ask Assertive. \n\nAt this point, it’s important to note that there is no good or bad style. \n
By putting the Assertiveness and Responsiveness dimensions together we end up with the SOCIAL STYLE Model. The model is comprised of four quadrants and four distinct SOCIAL STYLES. \n\nStarting in the upper right, people who are Control Responsive and Tell Assertive are the Driving style. \n\nPeople who are Tell Assertive and Emote Responsive have an Expressive Style. \n\nThe Amiable Style people are Ask Assertive and Emote Responsive and the Analytical Style people are Control Responsive and Ask Assertive. \n\nAt this point, it’s important to note that there is no good or bad style. \n
By putting the Assertiveness and Responsiveness dimensions together we end up with the SOCIAL STYLE Model. The model is comprised of four quadrants and four distinct SOCIAL STYLES. \n\nStarting in the upper right, people who are Control Responsive and Tell Assertive are the Driving style. \n\nPeople who are Tell Assertive and Emote Responsive have an Expressive Style. \n\nThe Amiable Style people are Ask Assertive and Emote Responsive and the Analytical Style people are Control Responsive and Ask Assertive. \n\nAt this point, it’s important to note that there is no good or bad style. \n
Now before we see how to deal with each Style, let’s find out what Style each of you are. \n\nLet’s score your own questionnaires. (FOLLOW BULLETS)\n(After scoring is complete, ask the following question.)\nAnyone surprised? Any questions or concerns? \n\n(SHOW OF HANDS FOR EACH STYLE)\n\nThe SOCIAL STYLE Self-Perception Profile reflects how you see yourself. Keep in mind, that others may see you differently. To identify the extent of any differences, a Multi-Rater Profile, which allows others to complete a similar questionnaire about you, is required. TRACOM’s research indicates that as many as 50% of those who complete Self-Perception Questionnaires differ in their perceptions from their reference groups (such as co-workers) who complete a Multi-Rater Profile about them.\n\nThe format of this session didn’t allow for a full multi-rater profile, but if anybody is interested in completing one, give me your card or send me an e-mail and I’ll arrange for you to complete an online profile. \n
Discuss Key Reminders per bullet points. Ask if there are any questions.\n\nYour challenge: Take the initiative to establish and build effective relationships with others.\n
Discuss Key Reminders per bullet points. Ask if there are any questions.\n\nYour challenge: Take the initiative to establish and build effective relationships with others.\n
Discuss Key Reminders per bullet points. Ask if there are any questions.\n\nYour challenge: Take the initiative to establish and build effective relationships with others.\n
Discuss Key Reminders per bullet points. Ask if there are any questions.\n\nYour challenge: Take the initiative to establish and build effective relationships with others.\n
Discuss Key Reminders per bullet points. Ask if there are any questions.\n\nYour challenge: Take the initiative to establish and build effective relationships with others.\n
Now, let’s look at the things you can do to improve the effectiveness of your interactions with others. There are four steps. \nKnow Yourself: Know the impression you make on others, and how your behavioral preferences can cause tension for others\nControl Yourself: Take action to ensure that your Style preferences do not interfere with your interpersonal effectiveness \nKnow Others: Observe others' behaviors to learn their Style and associated behavioral preferences \nDo Something For Others: Take action to accommodate the other person’s Style to help make interpersonal communication effective for them\n
Now, let’s look at the things you can do to improve the effectiveness of your interactions with others. There are four steps. \nKnow Yourself: Know the impression you make on others, and how your behavioral preferences can cause tension for others\nControl Yourself: Take action to ensure that your Style preferences do not interfere with your interpersonal effectiveness \nKnow Others: Observe others' behaviors to learn their Style and associated behavioral preferences \nDo Something For Others: Take action to accommodate the other person’s Style to help make interpersonal communication effective for them\n
Now, let’s look at the things you can do to improve the effectiveness of your interactions with others. There are four steps. \nKnow Yourself: Know the impression you make on others, and how your behavioral preferences can cause tension for others\nControl Yourself: Take action to ensure that your Style preferences do not interfere with your interpersonal effectiveness \nKnow Others: Observe others' behaviors to learn their Style and associated behavioral preferences \nDo Something For Others: Take action to accommodate the other person’s Style to help make interpersonal communication effective for them\n
Now, let’s look at the things you can do to improve the effectiveness of your interactions with others. There are four steps. \nKnow Yourself: Know the impression you make on others, and how your behavioral preferences can cause tension for others\nControl Yourself: Take action to ensure that your Style preferences do not interfere with your interpersonal effectiveness \nKnow Others: Observe others' behaviors to learn their Style and associated behavioral preferences \nDo Something For Others: Take action to accommodate the other person’s Style to help make interpersonal communication effective for them\n
While identifying your SOCIAL STYLE can help you understand your behavioral preferences, by itself, knowing your Style doesn’t necessarily help you be more effective. As I’ve said, there is no good or bad Style. What is important is how you use your Style when working with others. That’s where Versatility, the third major component of the SOCIAL STYLE Model, comes in. Versatility is the overall impact that you have on others in the area of Image, Presentation, Competence, and Feedback. \n\nUnlike Style, there is good and “not-so good” Versatility or as you see here, high and low Versatility. \n\nWhen you behave in a way that makes others comfortable with your behavior, your Versatility increases. When you do things for your own comfort or benefit, your Versatility decreases.\n
Before we discuss Versatility, I’d like you to score your Versatility Self-Perception Questionnaire.\n \n(After scoring is complete, ask the following question.) \n \nIs anyone surprised? Are there any questions or concerns? \n \nThe Versatility Self-Perception score reflects how you see yourself. Keep in mind that others may see you differently. \n
Before we discuss Versatility, I’d like you to score your Versatility Self-Perception Questionnaire.\n \n(After scoring is complete, ask the following question.) \n \nIs anyone surprised? Are there any questions or concerns? \n \nThe Versatility Self-Perception score reflects how you see yourself. Keep in mind that others may see you differently. \n
Versatility is not a behavior itself, but an effect your behavior has on others. Versatility is made up of four components: Image, Presentation, Competence, and Feedback. \nImage is your dress, grooming, appearance, and even your work area. Image is particularly important early in a relationship. \nPresentation is your ability to communicate effectively. Organizing ideas, speaking clearly, and using appropriate language.  \nCompetence is your mastery of skills and knowledge appropriate to the given situation. Creativity, flexibility, timeliness, and conscientiousness contribute to competence.\nMost important is Feedback. Do you use clear and accurate verbal and non-verbal feedback to promote mutual understanding? By checking for understanding and being sensitive to others’ needs, you increase your Versatility. \nWhile Image is important early on, over the long-term, Competence and Feedback are the most important components of Versatility. \nNote that pages 20-24 in the Self-Perception Guide contain additional information on the components of Versatility and space for beginning a personal action plan. See Optional Exercises if time allows to include this exercise in your Self-Perception session.\n
Exercise: Identify the Facilitator’s Style\nPurpose\nThe purpose of this exercise is to give the participants practice in identifying Styles.\nRecommended Time:\nTen minutes\nMaterials Needed\nSkills Guide Card. (Note: this is an optional resource. Contact TRACOM for ordering information.)\nDirections\nPass out the Skills Guide Cards and give participants a minute or so to review the Style characteristics in an attempt to identify your Style. \nRequire participants to mention at least two behaviors along each scale that you have exhibited in class to support their conclusion.\nTell the participants that the Skills Guide Card can be used as a quick reference to identify their co-workers’ Styles.\n
Style Observation Rules\nPurpose\nThe purpose of this exercise is to familiarize participants with the six rules for identifying another person's SOCIAL STYLE.\nRecommended Time:\nTen minutes\nMaterials Needed\nHandout: Style Observation Rules (See Self-Perception Resource CD-ROM.)\nDirections\nPass out the handout: Style Observation Rules and give participants a minute or so to review the six rules. \nExplain why the Style Observation Rules are important:\nThe more accurately you are able to observe your colleagues’ Styles, the better you will be able to adapt your behavior and “Do something for others” (the fourth of the four steps for improving your interpersonal effectiveness) and earn the support and respect of others. \nIt is important to understand that observing other’s behavior in order to determine their style is not an automatic or mechanical process. Just like any other skill, it takes practice. \nIt helps to keep in mind the six rules to aid you in this process.\nAsk participants if they have any questions about the rules.\nTell the participants that the handout can be used as a quick reference when identifying their co-workers’ Styles.\n
Optional Exercise: Style Forum\nPurpose\nThe purpose of this exercise is to give participants an opportunity to describe what it is about the opposite SOCIAL STYLE position that creates tension for them when working with people of that Style and to develop insights into how to be more productive with a person who has that Style. \nRecommended Time\n30 minutes\nMaterials needed\nNone\nDirections\nBreak participants into groups by SOCIAL STYLE position with a maximum of six per group.\nGive each group 10 minutes to discuss and develop a list of behaviors that the opposite SOCIAL STYLE position manifests to create tension that leads to unproductive relationships.\nAfter each group has developed its list, ask the Amiable and Driving Styles to get together to share their lists. Ask the Expressive and Analytical Styles to do the same thing. Each Style should spend five to ten minutes sharing its list and answering clarifying questions. Caution the groups that this is not a time to get defensive.\nAfter each group has heard the others’ list, the original groups should get together by themselves to discuss what they can do to interact better with the opposite Style (e.g., those with Expressive Styles would develop a list of what they could do to make the relationship more productive with Analytical Styles). As each group shares its list of what it could do better, the opposite Style group should provide feedback and suggestions as to how appropriate the lists are.\nAfter all groups have shared their information with the opposite Style, the whole class discusses what has been learned.\nAt the conclusion of the exercise, each group should have valuable information as to how to behave more appropriately with the diagonal Style. In addition, after the general class discussions, each style should have valuable information for working with each of the other SOCIAL STYLE positions.\n
Developing Actions Toward Others Using the “Improving Personal Effectiveness with Versatility” Guide \nPurpose\nThe purpose of this exercise is for participants to learn about Style preferences as they relate to the ABCs of Style and to develop an actionable list of what they can do to improve their interpersonal relationship with a person of their choosing.\nRecommended Time\n40 minutes\nMaterials Needed\nOne Improving Personal Effectiveness with Versatility guide per participant (Note: this is an optional resource. Contact TRACOM for ordering information.)\nFlipchart \nDirections\nSet up the exercise (3 minutes)\nAsk participants to think of a person with whom they work and with whom they would like to have a better working relationship. Note: there is no need to name them.\nAsk participants to think about what the probable Style of that person is based on things they have observed this person saying and doing.\nDivide the participants into four groups separated by the Style of the person they are thinking about.\nDistribute a copy of Improving Personal Effectiveness with Versatility guide to each participant. \nAsk participants to read about the Style of the person they are thinking of by turning to the appropriate page in their Improving Personal Effectiveness with Versatility guide. (5 minutes)\nDriving Style: Page 5-6 \nExpressive Style: Page 7-8\nAmiable Style: Page 9-10\nAnalytical Style: Page 11-13\n(write page numbers on the flipchart)\nAnswer any questions that participants might have about the information in the guide. Use the flipchart as necessary. (10 minutes)\nBased on what they have read in the Self-Perception Guide, ask participants to develop a list of specific actions that they can take to improve their relationship with this person in each of the ABC areas: Actions toward others, Best use of time, and Customary approach to decision-making. (5 minutes)\nAfter five or 10, ask participants to share their action items with members of their group and to discuss and fine-tune them based on the input and feedback they receive. \nSuggest that when participants return to work that they carry out the items on their lists. (10 minutes)\n
Developing Actions Toward Others Using the Style Dial \nPurpose\nThe purpose of this exercise is to provide participants with a tool for applying Style concepts at work. \nRecommended Time\n30 minutes\nMaterials Needed\nOne TRACOM Style Dial for each participant (Note: this is an optional resource. Contact TRACOM for ordering information.)\nFlipchart (optional)\nDirections\nAsk participants to think of a person with whom they work and with whom they would like to have a better working relationship. Note: there is no need to name them.\nAsk participants to think about what the probable Style of that person is based on things they have observed this person saying and doing.\nDivide the participants into four groups separated by the Style of the person they are thinking about.\nDistribute a “Style Dial” to each participant. Give participants five minutes to review the dial position of the person they are thinking about.\nTake up to 10 minutes to answer any questions that participants might have about the information on the Style Dial. Use the flipchart as necessary.\nBased on what they have read on the Style Dial, ask participants to list four or five actions that they can take to improve their relationship with this person.\nAfter five minutes, ask participants to share their action items with members of their group and to discuss and fine-tune them based on the input and feedback they receive. \nSuggest that when participants return to work that they carry out the items on their lists.\n
Strategies for Doing Something for Others Exercise \nPurpose\nThe purpose of this exercise is to provide participants with specific strategies for improving their interactions with others\nRecommended Time\n20 minutes\nMaterials Needed\nHandout: Strategies for Doing Something for Others (see Self-Perception Resource CD-ROM)\nFlipchart (optional)\nDirections\nAsk participants to think of a person with whom they work and with whom they would like to have a better working relationship. Note: there is no need to name them.\nAsk participants to think about what the probable Style of that person is based on things they have observed this person saying and doing.\nDivide the participants into four groups separated by the Style of the person they are thinking about.\nDistribute “Strategies for Doing Something for Others” information handout.\nBased on what they have read, ask participants to list four or five actions that they can take to improve their relationship with this person.\nAfter five minutes, ask participants to share their action items with members of their group and to discuss and fine-tune them based on the input and feedback they receive. \nSuggest that when participants return to work that they carry out the items on their lists.\nReview the strategies with participants using the flipchart if needed. \n
Do Unto Others – Accepts/Rejects Card \nPurpose\nThe purpose this exercise is to help develop participants’ skills in interacting with people with a Style diagonally opposite to their own.\nRecommended Time\n25 minutes\nMaterials Needed\nDo Unto Others – Accepts/Rejects Guide Card (Note: this is an optional resource. Contact TRACOM for ordering information.)\nFlipchart \nDirections\nDistribute a “Do unto others – Accepts/Rejects Guide” card to each participant.\nDivide the participants into four groups by Style.\nAsk each group to do the following: (10 minutes)\nAssume that their group needs to convince a coworker who has a Style diagonally opposite to their own to participate in designing a new company-wide program for acknowledging the contributions of outstanding employees. (i.e. Driving Styles would imagine convincing Amiable Styles)\nAsk participants to use the Accepts/Rejects Guide card to determine how they would approach the person and discuss the project in order to get his or her agreement. \nHave a representative from each group give their solution and have the group with the diagonally opposite Style evaluate the solution. (3 minutes per group)\n
Self-Assessment of Your Image, Presentation, Competence, and Feedback\nPurpose\nThe purpose of this exercise is to help participants better understand their current use of Image, Presentation, Competence, and Feedback and how that might affect their Versatility score. \nRecommended Time\n20 minutes\nMaterials Needed\nFlipchart \nDirections\nExplain the exercise: “To gain a better understanding of your Image, Presentation, Competence, and Feedback read pages 20-24 in your Self-Perception Guide and answer the questions for each of the four components of Versatility.”\nGive participants approximately 10 minutes to read and answer the questions.\nTake 10 minutes to have participants cite and discuss ways that they identified for themselves for improving their Image, Presentation, Competence, and Feedback. Write the strategies on the flipchart for all to view. \nAsk participants to add the notes in their Self-Perception Guide good ideas mentioned by others.\n