What it takes to have a strong marriage. I want to share with you some strong building foundations that if used can help you have a strong marriage which can stand the test of time.
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Building foundations for a strong marriage
1. BUILDING FOUNDATIONS
FOR A STRONG
MARRIAGE
What it takes to have a strong marriage. I want to
share with you some strong building foundations that
if used can help you have a strong marriage which can
stand the test of time.
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December 04,
2013
2.
Ephesians 5:21-33
“Submit to one another out of
reverence for Christ. Wives,
submit to your husbands as to the
Lord. For the husband is the head
of the wife as Christ is the head of
the church, his body, of which he
is the Savior. Now as the church
submits to Christ, so also wives
should submit to their husbands in
everything.
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3.
Husbands, love your wives, just as
Christ loved the church and gave
himself up for her to make her
holy, cleansing her by the washing
with water through the word, and
to present her to himself as a
radiant church, without stain or
wrinkle or any other blemish, but
holy and blameless. In this same
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4.
He who loves his wife loves
himself. After all, no one ever
hated his own body, but he feeds
and cares for it, just as Christ does
the church-- for we are members of
his body. "For this reason a man
will leave his father and mother
and be united to his wife, and the
two will become one flesh."
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5.
This is a profound mystery--but I
am talking about Christ and the
church. However, each one of you
also must love his wife as he loves
himself, and the wife must respect
her husband”. (NIV)
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6. I. The Scripture is clear on how
we are to build our marriages.
A. Wives are to UNDERSTAND and
SUPPORT their husbands.
B. Husbands are to provide
LEADERSHIP by CHERISHING
their wives.
C. Wives should SUBMIT to their
husbands like the church submits
to Christ.
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7.
D. Husbands are to do
EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to love
your wife and may your love be
marked by giving and not getting.
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8. With that in mind it is easier to
understand this thought, “Even if
marriages are made in heaven, we
have to be responsible for the
maintenance.”
But when you have a good or
happy marriage it will help
everything else in your life.
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9. II. Here are six building
foundations for a strong
marriage.
1. A COMMITMENT to my
companion first
The motto of successful marriages
is “FAMILY FIRST”. Most
marriages that fall apart do not do
so because of huge problems but
because of the lack of HUGE
COMMITMENT. When there is
commitment first to the family,
then other things can be
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10. The second building foundation
for a strong marriage is:
2. A willingness to TALK to my
companion.
A. Sad to say, but too many brides
become widows after the wedding
because they fail to communicate.
B. Look at the Marital
Communication analysis:
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11. 1st Year — 70 minutes a day
2nd Year — 30 minutes a day
3rd Year — 15 minutes a day
4th Year — 10 minutes a day
10th Year — 5 minutes a day
etc, etc
It becomes worse and worse as people
stay together. My advise is : Keep on
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communicating.
12.
C. Intimacy may be defined here as
“The degree to which we share
vulnerabilities (our weaknesses) in
words.”
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13.
D. How can I know that I am
intimate in my communication?
Here’s how:
We can know we are intimate if
each of us can say anything, no
matter how silly or frightened or
immature or helpless it makes us
look, and the other person will
treat it with respect, and not use it
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14. The third building foundation for a
strong marriage is:
3. A working towards
COMPATIBILITY.
A. I hope you understand that no
couple is completely compatible.
But may it be understood that in a
strong marriage couples work
together becoming more and more
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15. As couples stay together, they
become closer and compatibility
starts taking place.
B. There are certain criteria you
must have or work toward in order
to accomplish good compatibility.
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16. i. VALUES
Values are what is important to
you. Our children pick these up
often without us teaching them.
When we have the same values we
have freedom with each other.
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17. ii. SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS
Friends are an important part of
our social relationships. Your
friendships should be shared
together, not separate. Be careful
how close you get to other
individual couples.
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18. iii. INTELLECTUAL GROWTH
Learning and growing together will
assure both partners a good future
in their marriage. If both partners are
not growing the marriage will either
fail or only be average.
iv. LEISURE INTERESTS
Understanding your companions
interests are important to your being
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19. v. SEXUAL COMPLETENESS
This refers to the total malefemale relationship, not just 15
minutes of sexual intercourse. Sex
is a special look, a special touch,
the special way you relate as male
and female. This includes a unique
behavior between a husband and
wife that is not shared with anyone
else.
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20. The fourth building foundation for a
strong marriage is:
4. An understanding of your
LEADERSHIP ROLES.
A. Marriage is the only union that
can’t be organized. Both sides think
they are in management.
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21.
B. There is a tendency for marriages of
more equal power to be healthier in all
other aspects. There are also
successful, happy marriages with
unequal power but with strong
commitment, closeness, good
communication and problem-solving
skills.
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22. C. Four possible relationship styles:
i. RETALIATION - Moving against each
other.
ii. DOMINATION - Moving one over
another.
iii. ISOLATION - Moving away from
each other.
iv. COOPERATION - Moving with each
other.
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23.
D. The less respect in a marriage,
the more one controls. The less
respect for oneself lets the other
one control. The less respect in a
marriage the more one runs over
the other.
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24. The fifth building foundation for a
strong marriage is:
5. A special CONSIDERATION for
your companion.
A. You can tell a man’s character
by the way he treats his wife. A
man’s job is to spoil his wife.
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25. B. How to properly spoil your
companion:
i. Think from their PERSPECTIVE.
ii. Make a list of little things they
LOVE.
iii. DO the little things they love.
iv. DO the little things they love
CHEERFULLY.
v. AFFIRM your spouse verbally,
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privately and publicly2013
26. The sixth building foundation for a
strong marriage is:
6. A willingness to work together
SOLVING PROBLEMS.
Having a heart for each other will go
along way in solving marital
problems. Don’t do things without
consulting.
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27. A. We need to clearly understand
that whenever you have 2 or more
people having a continuing
relationship there will be conflict
B. Whenever there is conflict there
can only be one of two outcomes
i. We will either hurt and even
destroy each other.
ii. Or we will build up each other
and benefit from the experience.
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28. C. How should we solve problems in
our marriage?
i. Do not underestimate your
problem. To illustrate this you can
think of problems kind of like a
pregnancy, things will keep growing
until somebody will notice. When
there is a conflict, look to resolve it,
ignoring it will not make it go away.
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29.
ii. Do not underestimate your
potential to recover from these
problems. You must remember
that the problems you have
encountered in your marriage have
already been encountered by
millions of other people of which
millions have been successful in
them. You and your problems are
not unique just to you. Be
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30. iii. Do not exaggerate your
problem.
Please quit making them bigger
than life. Too often a small
problem is fueled and it ends up
being a lot bigger than you could
ever dream it to be.
iv. Consider all the possible
solutions for your problem and
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31.
v. If your problems are not being
progressively solved, be willing to
seek help if really needed. Asking
for help is not a sign of defeat but a
sign of hope. Asking for help is a
definite sign of your desire to solve
your problems. There are some
problems which need a third party
to help each side see themselves as
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32. D. Let me encourage you with this:
One thing you really need to know is
if you really do have a problem.
There are some things in a family
that are just not going to change.
Don’t take this in a negative way or
to give up the problem. Remember,
we are all different people and all
have our different ways and different
personalities.
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33.
It is not really a problem for
different personalities to never see
things in the same way or like the
same things.
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34. FINALLY
We celebrated 36 years of
marriage on 3rd December 2013
and have now embarked on our
37th year. We have become closer
and closer as time went on. Now
that we are an empty nest, with
only the two of us, we are learning
new ways of handling our
challenges. It is becoming more
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35.
I BELIEVE THAT THE ABOVE
BUILDING FOUNDATIONS OF
MARRIAGE COMBINED WITH
DEDICATION TO THE BIBLICAL
PRINCIPLES OF MARRIAGE AND
PRAYER CAN BRING LASTING
JOY AND HAPPINESS IN ALL
MARRIAGES.
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2013