2. ⢠Eyes and upper half vs. Lower
half
⢠The upper half of a persons face
is a much more reliable measure
than the lower half.
⢠It generates more involuntary
clues and is extremely difficult
for someone to control.
⢠The muscles used in smiling for
example is the most revealing
clue to tell if a smile is genuine
or manufactured.
⢠Look at the muscles that surround the eye socket. The major muscle running from
the cheekbone at an angle to the corner of the lips indicates a sincere smile.
3. Check for Emotional Leaks
⢠Micro-expressions that flit across the face often expose a
person's real thoughts. Imagine if you were to watch people
on videotape, frame by frame, you would see them showing
their true emotion just before they show the fake expression
designed to cover up the lie.
This micro expression indicates contempt.
4. Eye Contact
⢠While most people may interpret darting, unfocused eyes
as a classic sign of lying, it's vital to consider the context of
the behavior. For example, experienced poker players are
careful not to make too much of eye âtells.â
⢠People usually look to the left or right when thinking about
an answer. Someone not making eye contact should arouse
suspicion, but eye contact can be a tricky evaluation tool:
Consider that a psychopath can look you in the eye and lie
with ease. And in some cultures, it's considered
inappropriate to maintain eye contact.
5. Ask Follow Up Questions...
Quickly
⢠If you suspect you're being lied too, try this technique, which
experts say can trip up a liar. Try asking questions quicklyâone after
the other.
⢠âThe initial lie is easy,â explains Kang Lee, director of the Institute of
Child Study at the University of Toronto, and whose behavioral work
with children can often be applied to adults.
⢠âThe follow-up lie is more difficult. When you continue to ask
questions and put people on the spot, it gets harder to maintain the
lie.â
6. Hunched shoulders
⢠When a person lies, unless they are a professional
liar, will subconsciously try and make themselves
small and inconspicuous.
⢠As a result, they will often hunch their shoulders,
which reinforce their desire to remain small.
Watch out for this. Other body gestures include
crossing their arms or overtly lean away from you
while talking to you.
7. More info than you asked for
⢠A liar might be so paranoid about being
untruthful that they'll offer much more
information than you asked for - liars know
that a good liar tells more details in order to
look innocent.
⢠So when your colleague goes off into a
tangent about how he never got your
message, but he did get a weird message on
his answering machine that made him laugh,
and that made him think of the other night
when... You might have to ask him to revert
to the topic at hand. Don't be afraid to ask
questions.
⢠The lady doth protest too much, methinks."
comes from Shakespeare's Hamlet, Act III,
scene II. The phrase has come to mean that
one can "insist so passionately about
something not being true that people suspect
the opposite of what one is saying.