Ballwin Baptist Church's Parents Forum Topic

1. Internet andFacebookSafety

2. My Background Experienced computer user for 20+ years Bachelors: Management Information Systems Computer Systems Engineer for 14 years Volunteer youth worker for 10+ years Long time Christian

4. Safety Steps Communicate Learn Be Involved

5. Learn The good outweighs the bad

6. Sites to Help OnguardOnline.gov WiredSafety.org Commonsense.com Ncmec.org TRUSTe.org ConnectSafely.org NetSmartz.org WebWiseKids.org

7. IM Concerns If teens aren’t careful during the sign-up process, they can reveal more than they should. Easily accessible profiles can allow others to easily contact them. Some IM programs offer users the option of joining in chats with strangers The reach of IM can encourage gossiping and bullying

8. The 411…no need 2 LOL http://netling.com http://noslang.com http://acronymfinder.com

9. Computer Monitor Software Different age level settings Filtering and Blocking (incoming & outgoing) Time Restrictions Activity Logging http://monitoring-software-review.toptenreviews.com/

10. Communicate Install a sense of caution, not a sense of fear Ask questions, offer thoughts Ask about their definition of privacy Understand their needs Agree on ground rules; set reasonable expectations Listen more!

11. Age Standards Under 8: No need for IM or Facebook. In fact, limit computer time. 8-10: Pre-approved friends for IM only. No Facebook 11-12: Give a little more privacy but still IM only with pre-approved 13-15: Allow IM and Facebook but maintain periodic checks 16: You are done: Have they earned trust, give more freedom. If not, lock it down. All bets are off.

12. Be Involved All computer should be used out in the open Parents need to be proficient You can’t teach or monitor what you don’t understand Watch your child’s behavior towards others as well Watch out for “hidden” accounts Do periodic reviews

13. Demo Facebook

14. Account Safety Make sure Profiles don’t have too much personal information You should know ALL account names and passwords Screen names or other names should not reveal age Teach how to set strong passwords

15. Questions?