It is impossible to make someone fall in love with you. If you do all of the things discussed above and they still don’t love you, then they are probably incapable of loving you and the two of you were a poor match. Some people are simply incompatible, even if one person feels very strongly for the other. It may be hard to hear, but you are better off ending a relationship if the other person simply can not return your feelings.

1. In Love
Sometimes we meet someone and we just know: it's love. However, it isn't
always easy to see the wonderful qualities of the people right there in front
of us. They may need a little push to realize that maybe they love you too.
Remember that there is no way to make someone fall in love with you and
that you wouldn't want a love that was forced anyway. But, with time and
effort, you may be able to be for them all the amazing things that they are for
you! Read below for helpful advice and tips on getting that special someone
to have eyes only for you.

2. Setting Up Love
 Work on being the best you. If you want someone to
fall in love with you, you need to be someone that people
want to fall in love with first. Work on being the best you
that you can possibly be and you’ll find that people will
start loving you naturally. Who knows, maybe you’ll end
up catching the attention of the person you wanted to
begin with.
 Take good care of your body. It’s hard to love someone
properly if you can’t even love yourself. This is
something that shows to other people; they’ll notice if
you can’t care for yourself and this will make many
people lose interest. Exercise, eat right, practice proper
hygiene and wear clean clothing that isn’t stained or full
of holes.
 Go out and do things. Don’t be boring and just sit around
watching television. Give your life a purpose and
direction. Live a big life. Go out and travel the world,
excel at a sport, make lots of friends. Even a homebody
can find ways to make their life exciting and meaningful.
Write a book about a subject that is important to you,
take up an art like sculpting or painting, learn to code
and start writing your own programs, or become an
active member in an online community. Whatever it is,
make sure that you are doing the things you always
wanted to do. This passion is very attractive and others
will take notice.
 Treat others the way you want to be treated. It may
sound cheesy, but it's true. If you want others to treat you
with care and respect, you better start acting that way,
too. People are happy to fall in love with others who are
happy, who give back, and who are genuinely nice to
others.

3. Prepare for the emotional hurdles
 . Relationships are hard. Before trying to get someone to fall in
love with you, be sure that you are emotionally ready for what
that means. You need to love that person in return and be
willing to make sacrifices for them. You need to be devoted to
their happiness and your own, in unison. If you are too hung up
on a past relationship, are more interested in dating someone
else, or just generally not ready for commitment, don't try to get
someone to fall in love with you.
Consider how you feel about this person. Do you love
them? You will want to be sure that you
feel romantic love for them and not just the
love felt between close friends. It can often
be difficult to tell. If you don’t love them
yet, then consider just letting the
relationship develop naturally. If it is meant
to be then you will both develop feelings
together.
Think about why you want to take this relationship
more seriously. If you only want that
person to love you in order to feel better
about losing another relationship or to
make someone jealous, then getting that
person to fall in love with you is a bad idea.
This is inconsiderate towards the very real
feelings they may end up developing. If,
however, you want someone to fall in love
with you because you want to be together
for a long time and have a mutually
supportive relationship, then go ahead.
Determine your long-term goals for the relationship. If
you can't see it lasting, there isn't much
sense in trying to make someone fall in
love with you. This is emotionally cruel to
both yourself and the other person. There
is nothing wrong with casual dating; if you
want to date someone but don’t see it
lasting, just enjoy it for what it is and don’t
try to make it more serious. You don’t need

4. Falling in Love
 Get to know them. The first step in getting someone to
love you is to get to know them. This doesn’t just mean
knowing their birthday or where they work or their
parent’s names. This means getting to know the real
them, who they really are underneath the basic details of
their life. This takes time and you need to pay attention
and take a real interest, since information like this is
often not offered but rather learned through inference
and experience.
 Discuss difficult or controversial topics like religion and
politics, and discuss them at length. This will tell you a lot
about what a person believes and values. It’s okay if you
have some different beliefs in these areas (it’s always
good to challenge each other and make each other think)
but be aware that too many differences or very important
differences can make more serious relationships hard or
impossible.
 Talk about what they wanted to be as a child and what
they want to do with their life now. This will tell you about
their hopes and dreams, as well as what kind of direction
they want in their life.

5. Share theirpassions
Get into the things that they love. Learn to enjoy or appreciate the
things that make them happy. Don’t fake it; people can
usually tell when you are genuinely interested in
something. Experience it through their eyes and share in
that passion. This will give you something to bond over
and can set the spark for real love.
If they are a big fan of a sport that you don’t understand or
know, ask them to teach it to you. This will give
you the opportunity to play it with them or go
with them to games. Look at the sport as a way
to get excited and enjoy life, if you aren’t usually
into sports.
If they are really into a certain kind of music, listen to a lot of
that music and find some songs that you like
too. You can even find sub-genres that you
prefer. This will give you the opportunity to
discuss the technical side of the music, as well
as arguing the merits of certain variations or
changes over time. You can go to concerts
together on dates or make them the perfect mix
as a gift.
Support them during difficult times. This will be very important to
creating true love between you. Most people want to be
in relationships to begin with because they like having
someone to support them. If you can be supportive and
genuinely caring, this will go a long way towards getting
someone to fall in love with you.
Don’t just hug them and tell them everything will be okay
(although you should do those things). Do
whatever you can to actively help solve or ease
their problems. If they are struggling in school,
tutor them and work with them if possible. If
they are having problems at work, try making
them food and cleaning their house so that they
don’t have so much to worry about when they
come home.

6. Make themtheirbest self
 People want to be with someone who makes them a
better person. It makes them feel better about
themselves and reassures them that they can be good
people if they try. Make your significant other the best
version of themselves by encouraging them to do the
things they love and giving them the space to do those
things. If they have bad habits, gently give them the tools
they need to break those habits.
– Just remember not to be condescending, push
unwanted help or advice, or try to change them
into what you want them to be. This is all about
helping them make the changes that they want
in their life.
– Make your significant other feel like your hero
when they’re around you. Let them help you
with schoolwork (to make them feel smart), ask
for personal advice (to make them feel wise),
and ask for their help or advice on subjects that
are particularly important to them (to give them
a chance to use their expertise). Asking for
clothing advice or help reaching or opening
containers are also ways that you can make
your significant other feel useful and capable.
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 Show them the best side of you. You hopefully took
the advice in the earlier steps and worked on making
yourself your best person. Now is the time to let that
shine. Share your newly explored passions with your
significant other but also let them see how far you’ve
come. Seeing that someone is motivated to change their
life for the better is attractive and inspiring.
– Realize that they will see and should see your
worse sides as well. People are flawed and
there is nothing wrong with that. You can’t really
be perfect at all, much less all of the time. No
one can. You just have to trust that your faults
mesh well with theirs. Personal faults can even
be a good thing. Maybe you hate doing the
laundry but your significant other finds it
relaxing, while they hate cleaning the kitchen
but for you it’s practically a sport.

7. Give them freedom and space
 No one wants to feel trapped in a relationship. This is
why many people keep themselves from getting too
serious. If you give your significant other the freedom to
do the things they love and be their own person, you will
go far in making them feel comfortable with the idea of
loving you. Respect that they are their own person; don’t
try to change them and certainly don’t invade their
privacy. They are allowed to have secrets and things that
are just theirs.[2]
 Don’t rearrange their living space without asking. Don’t
try to change the interior decorating in their home. Don’t
force them to change their diet or how they dress. If you
make suggestions along these lines and they say “no”,
respect that and don’t bring it up again (at least for a long
time). Don’t suck up all of their time; they probably have
things they need or want to do that they need to do
alone.
 Do let them have time to themselves to do the things that
they want to do. Alone time is important for both of you.
Do encourage them to make their own decisions
regarding personal items and decoration. For example, if
your boyfriend asks for help picking out new clothes, find
three shirts that you think would work and then let him
pick one. If your girlfriend asks you to pick a place to go
out for dinner, give her a short list of your favorite places
and let her choose what she’s in the mood for.

8. Create trust
Don’t constantly second-guess them or question
their motives. Trust them and show them
that you trust them. Love can’t exist long-
term in a relationship that doesn’t have
trust. Show your significant other that you
are a safe haven, where they can find and
give trust without having to worry that they
will get hurt.
If they tell you a secret, keep it. If you find out something that
embarrasses them, don’t bring up the issue or
bring it up only to show that you do the same or
similar things and that there’s nothing to be
ashamed about around you.
Share your secrets with your significant other and let them
see sides of you that no one else does. Be
vulnerable with them and let them make you
feel better. Don’t stress when they spend time
around other men or women. Knowing that you
trust them will make them trust you even more.
Go the extra mile. Don’t be a lazy lover: go the extra
mile! Dress well, do your hair, plan
elaborate dates, and find the perfect gifts.
These things will show your significant
other that you think they’re worth the
effort. If they see how much you’re willing
to try, they’ll be much more likely to love
you.

9. Be a great date
 From the very first date, you want to be
someone that's fun to be around. Even before
the first date you will want to create
opportunities to spend time together in a way
that shows just how wonderful you are.
 Choose activities which are exciting, unique,
and fun for both of you. If you don't know each
other very well, choose something that will give
you common ground and something to talk
about: like a movie. If you do know each other
well, choose something that's outside the norm
for both of you. This may allow them to see you
in a new light.
 To set up a date, don't beat around the bush:
be straightforward. Tell your special someone
something like, "Hey, I'd really like to go to the
zoo this weekend and I would love it if you'd be
my date." Have a concrete activity that is
entertaining for both of you and be honest
about why you want them to come. Taking
control of the situation like this shows that
you're capable and confident, excellent
qualities in a date.

10. Believe that there are other
people
 Sometimes we have feelings for
someone that they don't return. This is
okay. You shouldn't feel like it's the end
of the world or that there's no one else
for you. There are an awful lot of people
on this planet, after all (don't think to
hard about other planets though...long
distance relationships are hard). If
someone doesn't return your feelings
you should understand that it wasn't
meant to be and that you wouldn't have
been all that happy together. You'll find
someone else before you know it and
wonder why you ever felt upset in the
first place.
 Don't be clingy or overly pushy with
someone who's rejected your feelings.
Anyone that you have to try too hard to
convince to like you is not worth all the
trouble and will probably never like you.
Pursuing a relationship too hard will only
make you creepy and push people
further away.