1. Mother-Daughter Relationships Jennifer Alzona JackelineCuartero JanelGaylan Christine Hubilla Roma Silva

2. Introduction Expounding the definition of a mother Daughterhood as a vital part of the family Taking a look at the typical Filipino family Connecting the two roles in the family

3. Introduction What is a mother? Biological Role Domestic Role Social Role Moral Role Spiritual Role As a unique human being.

4. Introduction Daughter, a growing woman in society. Why is she also a vital part? Reared towards? A unique being too

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6. Findings & ANALYSIS A Survey for Filipino girls ranging from the age of 13-28 years old Aim of the survey: Have a picture of what the mother-daughter relationship is today in the modern era Reveal issues present in the relationship Gather data as to what their relationship is based upon And how it is existing

7. Findings & ANALYSIS Methodology Convenience Sampling Gathered data among our circle of people Electronic and Paper Surveys Sample group total: 100 Survey includes 10 questions

8. Findings & ANALYSIS We’re very close but we always argue Well, we *were* very close. (Deceased) We argue a lot but we get along very well Most of the time we fight but we’re close She passed away and we didn’t get a chance to be closer We’re close but she’s always busy

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13. Findings & ANALYSIS None Random things We sometimes make chismis Whatever comes on my mind Nothing, we don’t talk Chika

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17. Social problem because I want her to know it

18. Because, she knows what advice will give to me

19. If I can’t take it anymore

20. I trust her

21. yes because she usually has already experinced what im going through and knows what to do.

22. She might understand me

23. Yes because I know she can keep secrets

24. She understands all my problems in life

25. She’s my Mom

26. I can’t help it, I have a big mouth

27. She knows everything about me

28. Because we treat each other as siblings. This relational dynamic makes it easier for us to share anything :)

30. I’m not close with her

31. I can’t trust her, hahahah

32. I am just too shy to tell her :D

33. We seldom have communication and sometimes when we talk, we only talk about important matters

34. It’s awkward

35. because I know that she'll misunderstand (I've already tried it and she did misunderstand and scolded me instead)

36. because she don’t understand life nowadays

37. She becomes so curious about my life after saying only a bit. She wanted to expand it as big as the universe.

38. sometimes. cause she can't understand me most of the time.

39. It’s too personal

40. BECAUSE SHE WON’T UNDERSTAND ME.

41. co`z she doesn`t want or even tried to listen to me so why bother share

42. Don’t want to worry her

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46. I want to be more open to her and also to my father

47. I am always out of the house because of school, I would want to give her my spare time if I have nothing else to do.

48. because in our veins same blood runs

49. because i want her to fully understand me

50. It'll be the best if this mother-daughter relationship thingy is stronger than how it is now.

51. I miss her and all the things she did for me in the past, i miss how she cared for me and all, now that it has been 4years and counting that we've been apart, i miss all the stuff that mothers and daughters do

53. because she's my mother whether I like it or not / whether I turn the world upside down

54. We're at fine distance these days.

55. because she is also a female and become a teenager so i think she will understand what i am going through. And also, i want us to be comfortable with each other all the time.

56. coz she's my mom

57. BECAUSE I WANT HER TO LOVE ME

59. that’s fine

60. Because we have different personalities and its hard

61. I wish she wasn’t annoying.

62. 'cause ses always mad at me :(

63. We’re pretty close now.

64. We`re super close already. What more else could I desire for?

66. She doesn't know how to appreciate, that's why i don't like

67. no. .we're very close now. .but making me closer to ehr just makes it harder for her to let make my own decisions as an adult

68. we're already close :)

69. We're already close. Any closer would be impossible

70. we're fine just the way we are

72. Analysis These relationships, supported by our findings, are based upon: Frequency of togetherness Special bonds formed by moments and experiences Family closeness Openness to share Social standards (mothers know best) Trust (asking for advice, seeking for help) Concept of friendship even in the family

73. Analysis These relationships exists: As a special bond Friendship Trust Love and togetherness As a part of the family Simple give and take relationship Making it work Getting along As a biological link Merely trying to stand each other Arguing and fighting a lot Other issues that make the tie simply a biological link

74. Analysis Moral Dilemmas that could exist in these relationships: If the mother is abroad, working as an OFW, will she choose to go back to the country to be closer to her children or to stay abroad to earn more money so that she can provide sustenance to her children. If the mother wants her daughter to be happy, would she let her be and do everything she wants which would make her love her mother more at the moment or would she put discipline which would make the mother look bad to her daughter but would protect her from the things that might endanger her.

75. Analysis If the mother grew up with parents that disciplined her with an iron fist all her life, would she do the same thing because she knows it made her who she is now or would she take her chances and do things differently but she doesn’t know what the outcome would be. If the daughter, as a younger child was treated harshly for a long time by her mother but then as years came has treated her for better, would pay respect to her mother or would she do differently as her mother commands her.

76. Church Teachings Children, the Precious Gift of Marriage Thus the couple, while giving themselves to one another, give not just themselves but also the reality of children, who are a living reflection of their love, a permanent sign of conjugal unity and a living and inseparable synthesis of their being a father and a mother. When they become parents, spouses receive from God the gift of a new responsibility. Their parental love is called to become for the children the visible sign of the very love of God, "from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named."(36) From the Apostolic Exhortation FamiliarisConsortio of Pope John Paul II to the Episcopate, to the Clergy and to the Faithful of the whole Catholic Church on the Role of Christian Family in the Modern World

77. Church teachings This tells us that: Children are the reflection of love from the marriage of two people. Therefore, the daughters are reflection of love of the mother and father. If they are the reflection of love, it should be shown and so the child himself/herself should be the representation of the married couple Thus the child should be brought up by the same love that produced their child

78. Church teachings Family, Become What You Are Each family finds within itself a summons that cannot be ignored, and that specifies both its dignity and its responsibility: family, become what you are. And since in God's plan it has been established as an "intimate community of life and love,"(44) the family has the mission to become more and more what it is, that is to say, a community of life and love, in an effort that will find fulfillment, as will everything created and redeemed, in the Kingdom of God Hence the family has the mission to guard, reveal and communicate love, and this is a living reflection of and a real sharing in God's love for humanity and the love of Christ the Lord for the Church His bride.

79. Church teachings Thus, with love as its point of departure and making constant reference to it, the recent Synod emphasized four general tasks for the family: 1) forming a community of persons; 2) serving life; 3) participating in the development of society; 4) sharing in the life and mission of the Church. Apostolic Exhortation FamiliarisConsortio of Pope John Paul II to the Episcopate, to the Clergy and to the Faithful of the whole Catholic Church on the Role of Christian Family in the Modern World

80. Church teachings This tells us that: The family has a role to promote God’s Kingdom on earth. It produces beings which are formed by love, to be what they are and do what they are supposed to, which is: to form a community as a basic building block of society To serve life by being what they are, doing their own roles As for our topic mother-and-daughter, this relationship as taught by the encyclical, should be able to not only promote love but generate love in itself by doing what they are supposed to: The daughter should honor her mother The mother should rear the child in God’s love

81. Church teachings The Rights and Roles of Women In this perspective the Synod devoted special attention to women, to their rights and role within the family and society. In the same perspective are also to be considered men as husbands and fathers, and likewise children and the elderly. Above all it is important to underline the equal dignity and responsibility of women with men. This equality is realized in a unique manner in that reciprocal self-giving by each one to the other and by both to the children which is proper to marriage and the family. What human reason intuitively perceives and acknowledges is fully revealed by the word of God: the history of salvation, in fact, is a continuous and luminous testimony of the dignity of women. Synod - a special council of church members that holds regular meetings to discuss religious issues (Encarta Dictionary)

82. Church teachings In creating the human race "male and female,"(64) God gives man and woman an equal personal dignity, endowing them with the inalienable rights and responsibilities proper to the human person. God then manifests the dignity of women in the highest form possible, by assuming human flesh from the Virgin Mary, whom the Church honors as the Mother of God, calling her the new Eve and presenting her as the model of redeemed woman Apostolic Exhortation FamiliarisConsortio of Pope John Paul II to the Episcopate, to the Clergy and to the Faithful of the whole Catholic Church on the Role of Christian Family in the Modern World

83. Church teachings This tells us that: Women, in society and in the Church are given an equal importance with men. The greatest example of this is with Mother Mary and the role He gave her beginning in the Mystery of the Annunciation. Being a mother is one of the greatest roles, since it was the one with the major significance on how Jesus was born and come to save the World

84. Church Teachings Women and Society There is no doubt that the equal dignity and responsibility of men and women fully justifies women's access to public functions. On the other hand the true advancement of women requires that clear recognition be given to the value of their maternal and family role, by comparison with all other public roles and all other professions. Furthermore, these roles and professions should be harmoniously combined, if we wish the evolution of society and culture to be truly and fully human. Therefore the Church can and should help modern society by tirelessly insisting that the work of women in the home be recognized and respected by all in its irreplaceable value.

85. Church teachings This is of particular importance in education: for possible discrimination between the different types of work and professions is eliminated at its very root once it is clear that all people, in every area, are working with equal rights and equal responsibilities. The image of God in man and in woman will thus be seen with added luster. While it must be recognized that women have the same right as men to perform various public functions, society must be structured in such a way that wives and mothers are not in practice compelled to work outside the home, and that their families can live and prosper in a dignified way even when they themselves devote their full time to their own family. Apostolic Exhortation FamiliarisConsortio of Pope John Paul II to the Episcopate, to the Clergy and to the Faithful of the whole Catholic Church on the Role of Christian Family in the Modern World

86. Church Teachings This tells us that: The tasks of a regular housewife are just as important as every occupation. It is an important vocation, that without it, there’d be no one to raise the largest personalities in our society today. The Church recognizes this role and does not discriminate against it. Therefore as members of the Church, we should also give importance to those who choose this for their life and do not ridicule them. We must pay high respects to these people, including our own mothers so that we may set an example and also educate others about this.

87. Church Teachings By fostering and exercising a tender and strong concern for every child that comes into this world, the Church fulfills a fundamental mission: for she is called upon to reveal and put forward anew in history the example and the commandment of Christ the Lord, who placed the child at the heart of the Kingdom of God: "Let the children come to me, and do not hinder them; for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.“

89. Church teachings From the Bible Motherly Love towards her Child Women should be taught to love their children. Children are a blessing from God, not an unwanted burden Titus 2:4 Mother’s should do what is best for their children, setting self-occupancy aside and their other doings to give time to nurture and bring up their children. They should be treated as gifts, for they are a reflection of love and should not be burdened by them, for they will be the one who will face the future.

90. Church teachings From the Bible Daughter’s Responsibility to her Parents Listen to the instruction of parents, do not forsake it. Remember that parents are older and more experienced. They may not be perfect yet they are still wiser. Proverbs 6:20-23 Although, today in the modern world, the younger generation may disregard their parent’s teachings and consider them as inapplicable to our time. The young should still listen to their parents for they are of authority and, as said in the verse, they are still wiser.

91. Church teachings From the Bible Strengthening the Youth to Obey their Parents Parents have God-given authority and have generally done much good for the children. They deserve to receive respectful treatment, including respectful speech and attitudes. Ephesians 6:2,3 One who refuses to obey his parents is worthy of death, and so are those who approve of such conduct. Romans 1:30,32 Children should obey all parental instructions unless they are told to do something sinful Acts 5:29

92. Proposal Our Group Stand We stand for respect that mothers may be given much importance in our society and its roles respected with significant magnanimity. That people recognize motherhood as a noble vocation, that without it, communities in the world would not exist without the nurturing of a mother. Respect for all kinds of mothers, whether single, widowed, distant or non-biological, that they may be recognized for their duties whether it’s required or not.

93. Proposal Our Group Stand We stand for children’s rights, that they may be given sufficient rearing and necessities to able to grow up as decent and reputable members of society. We stand for the rights of each and every daughter, that they may be disciplined in the correct way and that they are looked after and loved by a family.

94. Proposal Personal Proposal Through this, we pledge to serve as an example as young daughters, not just by a family but as well as by our mother nation, that we give respect and honor our mothers as they should be and do not treat them any less. We believe that from this learning experience, every mother, despite their shortcomings should receive revere for what they have to sacrifice to be a mother. We should also promote proper parenting and it’s importance in building a better community and a nation that is deserving of God’s Kingdom. The people in poverty stricken areas should be able to know how and what it takes to rear a child that would later on, in turn, would help his/her own family. For every family is equal and as part of the Catholic Church, we should be able to recognize that

95. Proposal The Role of Society and The Church The role of society is to not discriminate anyone for their standing in the community. Motherhood is not merely staying at home and doing house chores. It is building the fundamental part of the community and the role of our society is to give it importance and a sort of reward for fulfilling such a significant task. Also the role of society, specifically the government, is to build laws that would further support the laws that were built for women and children. They should be able to provide them with further knowledge on family planning, human rights, responsible parenting and other important tools

96. Proposal The Role of Society and The Church The role of society, specifically the media, is to portray a truthful and real description of a mother and daughter. They should be able to give adapt to the changing times and do not deceive into such glamorous roles that are unlikely. They should not lead the youth into unrealistic tendencies that they might follow which would lead them to their parents’ misunderstanding.

97. Proposal The Role of Society and The Church The role of the Church is to guide mothers into reaching their mission for God and to inform them of their own power to proclaim God’s Kingdom. Their role is to also give wisdom to open the children more to God’s teachings so that they may know in a very young age what they are bound to do. Lastly, the role of the Church is to keep up with the times and to further adapt to the growing generations.