1. ‘Developing Child’s Self
Esteem’

2. What is Self Esteem?
Self esteem is:
• The way an individual sees
themselves and their worth.
• Partly formed by an individual’s own
perspective and expectations
• Partly formed by the perspectives and
expectations of significant people in a
person’s life.

3. Children with high self esteem tend to:
• Enjoy interacting with others
• Be comfortable in social settings
• Enjoy group and independent activities
• Work towards finding a solution to
challenges without giving up quickly
• Know their strengths and weaknesses, and
accept them

4. Low self esteem can lead to:
• Poor academic performance
• Having a hard time making or keeping
friends
• Being less able to learn and focus
• Being vulnerable to peer pressure
• Avoiding challenges

5. COMPONENTS OF SELF ESTEEM
There are 5 components of Self Esteem
 Sense of security
 Sense of identity
 Sense of belonging
 Sense of purpose
 Sense of personal competence

6. 1. Sense of security
Children who feel secure
are
Children who lack feelings
of security are
 Responsible
 Respectful of authority
 Self-disciplined
 Trusting of adults
 Willing to risk failure
 Reliable
 Free from anxiety
 Confident
 Nervous
 Excessively shy and fearful
 Distrusting
 Defiant and disrespectful
 Stressed
 Reluctant to take risks
 Indecisive

7. 2. Sense of identity
Children having positive
sense of identity are
Children lacking positive sense
of identity are
 Aware of personal
worth and show self
acceptance
 Self controlled
 Emotionally stable and
express emotions in a
healthy way
 Caring & empathetic
 Respectful and tolerant
of others
 Anxious to please others
 Attention seekers
 Critical of others
 Hypersensitive
 Likely to throw tantrums or
even engage in anti-social
behaviour (lying, cheating, stealing)
 Not likely to take pride in
work they do and spend little
effort to succeed

8. 3. Sense of belonging
Children with strong sense
of belonging
Children lacking feelings of
belonging
 Have good listening skills
 Show good social skills
 Feel valued by others
 Resist peer pressure
 Enjoy sharing with others
 Contribute to welfare of
others
 Demonstrate leadership
skills and are good team
players
 Feel rejected or isolated
 Are easily misled and find
it hard to say “no”
 Lack patience with others
 Need to be first all the
time
 Hate to share with others
 Bully or tease others
 Brag or boast
 Show cruelty towards
animals

9. 4. Sense of purpose
Children having a strong
sense of purpose
Children lacking a
sense of purpose
 Show intellectual curiosity
 Show integrity and ethical
behaviour
 Are self motivated
 Have clarity of purpose
and vision for their future
 Show passion for the work
they do
 Have an ability to take
risks
 Lack motivation
 Have few real interests
 Are disorganized and
often waste time
 Show truant
behaviour
 Seek thrills;
experiment with drugs
or alcohol

10. 5. Sense of personal competence
Children with personal
competence
Children who lack feelings
of competence
 Take personal accountability
 Have self-assessment skills
 Show resilience and
perseverance
 Have good decision making
skills
 Are independent
 Maintain a positive outlook
 Feel empowered
 Make poor decisions
 Blame others for their
failures
 Feel overwhelmed and get
easily discouraged
 Believe they are either lucky
or unlucky
 Lack judgment and depend
on others for direction
 Often fail to complete
projects

11. 1. Provide a safe environment for your children to learn, grow,
and tackle appropriate challenges and risks.
2. Encourage exercise to maintain healthy body image.
3. Encourage the joining of clubs, teams. or organizations to
enhance a sense of community and belonging.
4. Let them know that it is OK to experience failure or loss.
5. Give them jobs to do and chores to complete to ensure
responsibility, pride in achievements. and a feeling of
independence.
6. Help them learn how to set and achieve goals.
7. Encourage them to volunteer, help other people, and share
their talents.
8. Parents can continue to give love, attention, and affection even
when you think they don’t want it.
9. Allow them to sort out and resolve conflicts themselves.
10.Be a good role model.
Tips for parents to build their child’s self esteem

12. 1) Be available to children.
2) Listen without making judgements.
3) Share yourself with them
4) Emphasize similarities.
5) Be real and don’t pretend.
6) Be careful with your negative feelings.
7) Don’t embarrass children.
8) Be aware you are a model
To keep in mind always

13. •When parents do everything for their children, that
inadvertently teaches children that they are not capable of
doing things for themselves.
•When parents rescue their children too often, children never
learn how to face life’s bumps.
•When parents praise their children for every minor
achievement, children stop believing in their praise altogether.
•When parents are constantly telling their kids how to do
things better, they never get to celebrate what they already do
well.
•When parents force their kids to stay in activities that they
don’t want to be in, it has the potential to hurt their self-
confidence.
When parents constantly criticise their children for
every small mistakes, there self esteem is effected.
Behaviour of parents that actually hurts developing self-esteem

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