2. BY THE END OF THIS SESSION
You should be able to understand:
Historical eras women went through
Practices for women in the time of Rasulallah s.a.w
Implementation plan for our times
FAQ’s
13. THE OBJECTIFICATION OF
WOMEN
"When one person objectifies another, it is difficult,
perhaps even impossible, to treat that person with
empathy... If girls and women are seen exclusively
as sexual beings rather than as complicated people
with interests, talents, and identities, boys and men
may have difficulty relating to them on any level
other than the sexual”...
The Sexualisation Of Girls, American Psychological
Association report released in February 2007.
14.
15. THE PORNIFICATION OF
SOCIETY
Psychologists and relationship
counsellors say internet
pornography is a new and growing
cause of relationship strife
16. THE PORNIFICATION OF
SOCIETY
Films, TV Magazines are under pressure to compete
with pornography.
No. of titles in porno : 3 as compared to films
In Italy 50% of porno consists of all video sales.
Pornography earned 13 billion dollars
• Source: The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
17. INCREASE IN ASSAULT
The Rape Crisis Centre receives two or three
reports each week of group assaults against
women.
And the recent trend is not only to commit the
act, but to record it and brag about it.
18. INCREASE IN ASSAULT
88% women experienced sexual harassment at job
in UK
In France TV viewers see 15 rapes a week.
Date rape is more common than left-
handedness, alcoholism, and heart attack.
• Source The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
19. INCREASE IN ASSAULT
Auburn University study found that 25% of under
graduate women had at least one experience of rape, in
ST Cloud University 29%.In UCLA a study of 14 to 18
years of boys and girls was taken 50% of them thought
it was okay for a man to rape a girl if he was sexually
aroused by her.(The Beauty Myth 167)
20. ANOREXIA
This is the 3rd most common disease in Australian
girls under the age of 18. The average age of
anorexia is decreasing, it went down from 16 to 13 in
the past five years. Since 2001 there has been a 20 per
cent rise in the number of children being admitted to
hospitals with anorexia. Hospitals are now treating
children aged between 7-11.
• Marcus, SMH, Dec 06
“…teenage depression has doubled in the past
decade, eating disorders affect one girl in eight, self-
harm, binge drinking and unhappy sexual experiences
stalk even the average teenage girl.”
• Biddulph, June 2nd 07, SMH
21. ANOREXIA
On any day 25% women are on diet 1985 survey, in 1966 – 50% of girls
thought that they are too fat, though medically only 19 % were found out be
as fat as they thought to be. In 1969, 80 %. In 2007 how many?
Recent survey : 53 % girls are unhappy with their bodies by the time they
are 13 years of age. (Beauty Myth page 185)
• Source The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
22. ANOREXIA
95% of anorexics are women. 3.5 million women anorexics in UK
every year 6000 new enteries.5 to 10 percent of American women
are anorexics.
National Association of Anorexia surveyed at school : 31% of 9
years old girls thought they were too fat. 81% of 10 years girls
dieted.
Diet industry earned 33 billion dollars.
• Source The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
23. WHO’S MAKING THE MODELS?
Modeling and prostitution are the only two
professions where women earn more than men.
BBC pays 6500 pounds less to women as compared to
men, in same category
1989: Miss America earned 150thousand $ US as
prize, 42 thousand $ as scholarship, 30 thousand dollars
car.
Cosmetic surgery earned 300 million dollars.
Source: The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
26. I LOVE YOU…BUT…
Men and women will always have the desire to form relationships
with one another.
Men no longer value women enough to make a commitment to
them, and women no longer trust men.
So the relationships of today are illegitimate, and a society based
on such relationships can only be heading towards destruction.
27. I LOVE YOU…BUT…
Divorced cases have doubled
45% of working women in US are
between the 70 s and 80 s in every
single, divorced, widowed, making The ratio of lonely old women to
Western Country, 3 times in
them sole economic support of lonely old men is 4:1
Netherland, 4 times in UK ( Beauty
their children.
Myth page 117)
2 out of 3 marriages in US end in
divorce. In Mumbai 6000 cases of Source The Beauty Myth by
divorces pending in court, in Delhi Naomi Wolf
8000
28. I LOVE YOU…BUT…
The median age
of marriage for In the USA, the
men rose from illegitimacy rate
28 to 31, and has increased
for women it 66% since 1980
rose from 26 to and is still
29 between growing.
1993 and 2003.
31. ‘SAD BEYOND BELIEF’
Sexual themes were found in one-third of teen-rated
video games in one study.
Even Disney characters such as the Little Mermaid and
Pochahontas "have more cleavage, fewer clothes, and
are depicted as 'sexier' than those of yesteryear".
“75 % of the content of 'Barbie' magazine, aimed at 5-12
year olds, is sexualising material, as is 50% of 'Total Girls
(8-11 yr olds) and 50% of 'Disney Girl' (6-13 yr olds)”
32. ‘SAD BEYOND BELIEF’
“The effect on children of all this
premature sex saturation is long-
lasting psychological harm,
resulting in depression, low self-
esteem and eating disorders in
children as young as six. It's sad
beyond belief.”
Miranda Devine, 15 April 07, SMH
33.
34. ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT ITS
RECIPROCAL
“But there is no point in simply demanding that men change their attitudes.
Why would a man respect a woman who doesn't respect herself, when most of
society's traditional protections for women have been torn down, often by
women themselves, in the name of freedom?”
Miranda Devine, SMH, 3rd Dec 06
The results of this are even more disturbing.
37. NO SOFT SPEECH…
Wives of the Prophet! you are not like any other of the
women; If you will be on your guard, then be not soft in
(your) speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease yearn; and
speak a good word. (Al-Ahzaab:32)
38. ALLAH WANTS TO PURIFY
WOMEN…
And stay in your houses and do not display your finery like the displaying
of the ignorance of yore; and keep up prayer, and pay the poor-rate, and
obey Allah and His Apostle. Allah only desires to keep away the
uncleanness from you, O people of the House! and to purify you a
(thorough) purifying.
(Al-Ahzaab:33)
40. RULINGS PRACTICED THEN….
• Hajj
• Travel
• Salah in masjid
* At Fajr & Isha
* No zeenat
* Last saff
* Leave quickly
41. ALLAH WANTS TO PROTECT
WOMEN
O Prophet! say to your wives and your daughters and
the women of the believers that they let down upon
them their over-garments; this will be more proper,
that they may be known, and thus they will not be
given trouble; and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.
(Al-Ahzaab: 59)
42. TASHEEH UL FAHISHA
Surely (as for) those who love that scandal should circulate respecting
those who believe, they shall have a grievous chastisement in this
world and the hereafter; and Allah knows, while you do not know
(Al-Nur: 19)
43. FOR MEN……
Say to the believing men that they cast down
their looks and guard their private parts; that
is purer for them; surely Allah is Aware of
what they do. (Al-Nur: 30)
45. MORE GUIDANCE FOR WOMEN
And say to the believing women that they cast down their looks
and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments
except what appears thereof, and let them wear their head-
coverings over their bosoms, and not display their ornaments
except to their husbands or their fathers, or the fathers of their
husbands, or their sons, or the sons of their husbands, or their
brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their
women, or those whom their right hands possess, or the male
servants not having need (of women), or the children who have
not attained knowledge of what is hidden of women.
(Al-Nur: 31)
46. BODY LANGUAGE
And let them not strike their feet so that what they hide of their
ornaments may be known; and turn to Allah all of you, O
believers! so that you may be successful. (Al-Nur : 31)
47. EXCEPTIONS TO THE RULE OF
LOWERING THE GAZE…
On Day of Judgment
During war/ battlefield
Natural calamities
Hajj or Umrah
Times of emergencies
48. OPINION OF VARIOUS SCHOOLS
OF THOUGHTS
• Sahabah
• Ta’abaeen
• Imam Abu Haneefah
• Imam Sha’afi & Imam Ahmed
52. FUNCTIONS OF HIJAB
More than a religious symbol
Command and test from Allah
Preservation of modesty
Elevation of status
Liberation
Security and protection
Safeguarding of society
53. MORE THAN A RELIGIOUS
SYMBOL
Hijab is a symbol since it
represents a woman’s submission
to her Creator and her connection
with the deen of Islam.
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59.
60. SO WHAT IS HIJAB REALLY?
• Arabic for veil
• Used to describe the headscarves worn by Muslim women.
• Literally: Scarf that covers the head and neck but leaves the face clear.
61. NIQAB, BURQA
• Veil for the face that leaves the area around the eyes clear.
• The burqa is the most concealing of all Islamic veils.
62. AL-AMIRA, SHAYLA
• Al-Amira: Two-piece veil: close fitting cap, and an
accompanying tube-like scarf.
• Shayla: is a long, rectangular scarf , wrapped around the
head.
63. KHIMAR, CHADOR
Khimar: is a long, cape-like veil that hangs down to just above
the waist. It covers the hair, neck and shoulders completely, but
leaves the face clear.
Chador: full-body cloak. It is often accompanied by a smaller
headscarf underneath.
64. DIFFERENT TYPES OF HIJAB
There are a number of different veils worn by Muslim
women….
65. CONTROVERSY……
Niqab, Burqa.
These cover all
but the eyes.
66.
67. WHAT DO THE WOMEN WANT?
To be To live in
To feel
respected as peace and
integrated
individuals within the law
To receive
To have a To have a
good
decent job happy family
education
(Europe’s Muslim women: potential, aspirations and challenges.
Research report. King Baudouin Foundation, 2008)
68. ISSUES DEALT WITH BY THE
SYSTEM OF HIJAB
Men and
women know
How men
what limits It creates a
and women
to set when dignified and
interact
dealing with respectful
outside
one another environment.
marriage.
in general
society.
69. 3 CATEGORIES OF DRESS
Libaas Satar Jilbaab
For For For
beauty indoor outdoor
81. PREVENTATIVE MEASURES
Guard you caution in Prevention of sexual
gaze zeenat desires
Exceptions: Body Fans
For marriage Dress Crushes
Court Make
Internet
matters up
Doctor Movies
Consultation Mahram/temporary
mahram / non-mahram
Company
82.
83.
84. ELEVATION OF STATUS
“I am more
than body
and looks.”
“I have a Mind.”
“I have a personality
beyond my physical
appearance”.
85. LIBERATION
From the
vain and To compete
selfish with other
desire to women
show off around her
her beauty
89. EXCUSES GIVEN…….
I am not convinced yet…..
Its not obligatory…..
Peer pressure/Hub
pressure/society pressure……
My position does not allow me to
substitute my dress for hijab…..
It is very hot in my country and
I have heat allergy……
90. FURTHER EXCUSES…….
I'm afraid, I will take it off at another time
Nobody will marry me
But Allah made be beautiful……
I will do it when Allah guides me to
it…..
91. FURTHER EXCUSES…….
It's not time for that yet/ I'm still too
young for it/ I'll do it when I make Hajj!
I am afraid I will be labeled
92.
93. IRRATIONAL LOGIC……
Men will have more urge, if we
repress their natural desires
This is taking women back in cave ages
How will she study with Hijab?
There are medical diseases due to Hijab?
94.
95. Does Islam allow a woman to take off her
hijab before a perseptive marriage partner?
96. Does Islamic dictate the exact style
of hijab which a Muslim woman has
to wear? Can you tell me which hijab
styles are allowed?
97. Could you please advise on sister
who wants to be a nurse should do
about uniform. Also, what about the
dealing with male patients? Is this
right?
98. Is it Islamic to wear a sari
if I wear it in such a way
that no part of my body or
hair shows?
99. I am in the process of applying for jobs but
I am concerned that at interviews the
employer may discriminate against me
because I wear hijab. Is it allowed for me to
take it off for the duration of the interview?
109. I have a friend who does
not wear hijab and my
mother has told me, not to
be friends with her….what
should I do?
110. If I am sitting with
non-Mahrams in
complete Hijab, is it
ok?
111. I had always been with my
male cousins, and used to sit
together, shake
hands……what now?
112. SUMMARY
In the hadeeth, it is narrated that the Prophet (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Ahead of you
there are days of patience when patience will be like
grasping live coals, and the one who does good deeds
will have the reward of fifty men who do deeds like his.”
Someone else added: He said: O Messenger of
Allaah, the reward of fifty of them? He said: “The
reward of fifty of you.”
(Narrated by Abu Dawood)
113. SUCCESS STORIES
• First one in family
• First one in educational Institute
• Faced ridicule with smart answer
• Quit bad company
