role of husband

1. THE ROLE OF THE
Christian
Husband

2. To discuss specific areas in family life where the husband
should take active leadership & responsibility
To explain the role & responsibility
of a Christian husband

3. For us to grow as a Pastoral Team
in the family, we must understand
more clearly our role as a husband.

4. For many of us, our
understanding of
responsibility is one-sided
in which we:
1. Have Authority
2. Manage /direct things

5. The other side of responsibility is
“to give an account” Heb 13
Not only do we men have God’s
authority to get things done, but we
will be
held accountable for what we
have been given to do.

6. - Imminence of retribution for an unfulfilled
trust or violated obligation. (Webster’s Dictionary)
a. Mt 25: 14- 30
Parable of the Silver Pieces
b. God does not hold us
accountable for things beyond
our control.
( situation, people’s lives)

7. 14 “Again, it will be like a man going on a journey, who
called his servants and entrusted his wealth to
them. 15 To one he gave five bags of gold, to another
two bags, and to another one bag, each according to
his ability. Then he went on his journey.
16 The man who had received five bags of gold went at
once and put his money to work and gained five bags
more. 17 So also, the one with two bags of gold gained
two more. 18 But the man who had received one bag
went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his
master’s money.
19 “After a long time the master of those servants
returned and settled accounts with them. 20 The man
who had received five bags of gold brought the other
five.
‘Master,’ he said, ‘you entrusted me with five bags of gold. See, I have gained five more.’21 “His
master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I
will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’ 22 “The man with
two bags of gold also came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘you entrusted me with two bags of gold; see, I have
gained two more.

8. • ’23 “His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful
servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I
will put you in charge of many things. Come and
share your master’s happiness!’
24 “Then the man who had received one bag of gold
came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘I knew that you are a hard
man, harvesting where you have not sown and
gathering where you have not scattered seed. 25 So I
was afraid and went out and hid your gold in the
ground. See, here is what belongs to you.’26 “His
master replied, ‘You wicked, lazy servant! So you
knew that I harvest where I have not sown and
gather where I have not scattered seed? 27 Well
then, you should have put my money on deposit
with the bankers, so that when I returned I would
have received it back with interest.
28 “‘So take the bag of gold from him and give it to the one who has ten bags.
29 For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not
have, even what they have will be taken from them. 30 And throw that worthless servant
outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’

9. As a general principle, men are supposed to be
responsible for the people of God.
They take the leadership. Women are responsible but in a
different way.

10. HEBREWS 13:17
“ Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they
keep watch over you as those who must give an account. Do this so that their
work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no benefit to you.“
A. GOVERNANCE OF PEOPLE AS A WHOLE

11. EXODUS 3:16
“16 Go, and gather the elders of
Israel together, and say unto them,
The LORD God of your fathers, the
God of Abraham, of Isaac, and of
Jacob, appeared unto me, saying,
I have surely visited you, and seen
that which is done to you in Egypt.”
A. GOVERNANCE OF PEOPLE AS A WHOLE

12. B. LEADERSHIP IN WORSHIP
1 TIM 2: 8;
”I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands,
without wrath and doubting. “

13. B. LEADERSHIP IN WORSHIP
2 CHRONICLES 5
“When all the work Solomon had done for the temple of the LORD was finished, he brought in the things his
father David had dedicated—the silver and gold and all the furnishings—and he placed them in the treasuries of
God’s temple. 2 Then Solomon summoned to Jerusalem the elders of Israel, all the heads of the tribes and the
chiefs of the Israelite families, to bring up the ark of the LORD’s covenant from Zion, the City of David. 3 And all
the Israelites came together to the king at the time of the festival in the seventh month.
4 When all the elders of Israel had arrived, the Levites took up the ark, 5 and they brought up the ark and the
tent of meeting and all the sacred furnishings in it. The Levitical priests carried them up; 6 and King Solomon
and the entire assembly of Israel that had gathered about him were before the ark, sacrificing so many sheep
and cattle that they could not be recorded or counted.

14. 7 The priests then brought the ark of the LORD’s covenant to its place in the inner sanctuary of the temple, the
Most Holy Place, and put it beneath the wings of the cherubim. 8 The cherubim spread their wings over the place
of the ark and covered the ark and its carrying poles. 9 These poles were so long that their ends, extending from
the ark, could be seen from in front of the inner sanctuary, but not from outside the Holy Place; and they are still
there today.10 There was nothing in the ark except the two tablets that Moses had placed in it at Horeb, where
the LORD made a covenant with the Israelites after they came out of Egypt. 11 The priests then withdrew from the
Holy Place. All the priests who were there had consecrated themselves, regardless of their divisions. 12 All the
Levites who were musicians—Asaph, Heman, Jeduthun and their sons and relatives—stood on the east side of the
altar, dressed in fine linen and playing cymbals, harps and lyres. They were accompanied by 120 priests sounding
trumpets. 13 The trumpeters and musicians joined in unison to give praise and thanks to theLORD. Accompanied by
trumpets, cymbals and other instruments, the singers raised their voices in praise to the LORD and sang: “He is
good; his love endures forever.”Then the temple of the LORD was filled with the cloud, 14 and the priests could not
perform their service because of the cloud, for the glory of the LORD filled the temple of God.”

15. JAMES 5:14
“Is any sick among you? let him call for the elders of the church; and let them
pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord.”
C. PROVIDING PROTECTION

16. ACTS 20:28-31
“ 28 Keep watch over yourselves and all the flock of which the Holy Spirit has made you
overseers. Be shepherds of the church of God, which he bought with his own blood. 29 I know that
after I leave, savage wolves will come in among you and will not spare the flock. 30 Even from your
own number men will arise and distort the truth in order to draw away disciples after them. 31 So be
on your guard! Remember that for three years I never stopped warning each of you night and day
with tears.”
C. PROVIDING PROTECTION

17. C. HEAD OF THE FAMILY
EPHESIANS 5:22
“ Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.“

18. Men need to understand more the importance of the family and
his responsibility to see that it is what God intends.

19. Men’s typical pattern is to leave home and family to wife,
while he is responsible for providing the money

20. SCRIPTURE TEACHES US THE FATHER’S PROPER ROLE
1 Samuel 2:12-26
12 Eli’s sons were scoundrels; they had no regard for the LORD.
13 Now it was the practice of the priests that, whenever any of the people
offered a sacrifice, the priest’s servant would come with a three-pronged
fork in his hand while the meat was being boiled
14 and would plunge the fork into the pan or kettle or caldron or pot.
Whatever the fork brought up the priest would take for himself.
This is how they treated all the Israelites who came to Shiloh.
15 But even before the fat was burned, the priest’s servant would come and
say to the person who was sacrificing, “Give the priest some meat to roast;
he won’t accept boiled meat from you, but only raw.” 16 If the person said to
him, “Let the fat be burned first, and then take whatever you want,” the
servant would answer, “No, hand it over now; if you don’t, I’ll take it by
force.” 17 This sin of the young men was very great in the LORD’s sight, for
they were treating the LORD’s offering with contempt.

21. 18 But Samuel was ministering before the LORD—a boy wearing a linen
ephod.19 Each year his mother made him a little robe and took it to him when
she went up with her husband to offer the annual sacrifice. 20 Eli would bless
Elkanah and his wife, saying, “May the LORD give you children by this woman to
take the place of the one she prayed for and gave to the LORD.” Then they
would go home. 21 And the LORD was gracious to Hannah; she gave birth to
three sons and two daughters. Meanwhile, the boy Samuel grew up in the
presence of the LORD.
22 Now Eli, who was very old, heard about everything his sons were doing to all
Israel and how they slept with the women who served at the entrance to the
tent of meeting. 23 So he said to them, “Why do you do such things? I hear
from all the people about these wicked deeds of yours. 24 No, my sons; the
report I hear spreading among the LORD’s people is not good. 25 If one person
sins against another, God may mediate for the offender; but if anyone sins
against the LORD, who will intercede for them?” His sons, however, did not
listen to their father’s rebuke, for it was the LORD’s will to put them to death.
26 And the boy Samuel continued to grow in stature and in favor with the LORD
and with people.

22. SCRIPTURE TEACHES US THE FATHER’S PROPER ROLE
Jos 24:14
“14 Now therefore fear the LORD, and serve him in sincerity
and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers
served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and
serve ye the LORD.”
Eph 6:4
“4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but
bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

23. • Make sure that her basic personal
needs are met
• Make sure of adequate
communication
• Help her maintain perspective for
self and family and CFC
• Help her in her spiritual growth;
spiritual life, prayer also schedule
• Make sure she has sufficient and
good relationships with other
persons, particularly members of
CFC

24. • Take leadership and responsibility
in teaching them about the Lord;
do not leave it to the church,
school or community
• Take leadership in training sons in
manly character
• Take leadership in disciplining the
children

25. • Set the emotional tone for the home
( not the wife)
• Oversee the family schedule
(meals, prayer, entertainment, and
outside activities)
• Teach and lead the family into living
the covenant of CFC and patterns of
relationship
• Take charge of social situations–
don’t leave to wives
• Be the spiritual protector
(intercession, spiritual warfare
blessing)

26. The Lord is our ultimate source of
strength: he is the way, the life
and the truth. He is the source of
wisdom. When we feel weary and
find life burdensome, we should
turn to the Lord
Mt. 11: 28- 30 (NEXT SLIDE)

27. MT 11: 28-30
28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart,
and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

28. • Turn to the household head
for guidance and direction.
The Lord anoints his
leaders.
• During your weekly
household meeting, open
up yourself to brothers that
you may receive the
needed support.

29. • How am I discharging my
responsibilities as a husband
in the areas mentioned?
• How can I get more help and
support from other Christian
husbands?