10. Help joining a
new community
MaryLou Climenhaga
Community Integration and Information and
Referral Coordinator
11. Military Family ID Card
• Access Base Clubs/Services
• Member must be present to
sign card
• Takes 15 mins
• Receive Military Discounts
from Businesses
12. Resource Library
Resources include:
• Other Bases
• Deployment
• Parenting
• French items
• Lifestyle Topics
13. Welcome Activities
Info on:
• Communities
• Housing
• Car Insurance
• Medical/Dental
• Schools
• Military 101
14. Connect through volunteering
• In last year, 146
volunteers
contributed 5,716
hours
• More than 75% of
MFRC volunteers
are military family
members
16. Events for the community
Father Daughter Sweetheart Dance
March 2, 2013
Pacific Women’s Day
March 9, 2013
Formation Fun Day
July 6, 2013
West Coast Welcome
September 2014
17. You can reach a live person at
the MFRC 24 Hours a Day
18. #1 is all about
•Learning the area
•Connecting to your
community
•Making friends
19. Life
Happens
Marianne Ostopovich, BSW, RSW, MEd
Prevention, Support & Intervention Coordinator
20. If the need arises
• Short-term counselling
• Social workers
• Family Navigator
• Self-help groups
• Referral to other resources
21. Emergencies
• Help getting your
plan in place
(Emergency Child Care Plan, Family
Care Plan)
• Child Care
• Housing
22. Making Time for Yourself
•Self – Care as Priority
•One thing you really want to do
alone….
•Exercise, Hobbies, You Time
23. Making Time for Relationships
•Create time for Intimacy
•Verbally – A daily sharing time
•Emotionally – sharing thoughts, feelings and beliefs
•Socially – even in small ways – events, friends, family
•Physically – touch is very important
•Couple Time or Planned Dates
•Name one thing you want to do? One that you have not done together?
25. Stress and Resilience
Stress occurs when there is a gap
between demands and resources.
Resilience is stress with support.
Use coping skills to build resilience:
•Think: Change your way of thinking about the
stressor.
•Act: Take steps to deal with the stressor.
•Feel: Manage the expression of your feelings about
the stressor.
33. Activities for Children
Consider the whole family when
planning activities for children:
•Work and home commitments
•Scheduling, transportation
•Balancing active and quiet times
34. Kids Have Stress Too!
Stress is a normal part of life, but too much stress makes it
hard for children to concentrate, to learn and to get along with
others:
•Everyday stressors
•Major events
•Long term stressors
Parents can help children learn how to recognize their own
stress, gain a sense of control, and build capacity to be
resilient.
35. #3 is all about
•Help children understand
deployment and connect with
other children from military
families.
•Give both parents some tips,
suggestions and help
36. The D Word …
Deployment
Sandra Pinard
Deployment Coordinator
38. What is a Deployment??
We define ‘deployment’ as ANY work
related separation
39. Key to Successful Deployments
Research shows that families that are well
prepared, know where to turn in case of
emergencies and have strong support systems
deal most successfully with deployments.
40. Sandra’s Top 3 Tips
1. Plan well - Ensure your family knows how to
contact us
2. Learn about the available resources
3. Get connected
41. Plan and Prepare
• Financial, Legal and
Household
• Use the checklists provided
• Pick up a MFRC Magnet
• Single members – give the
MFRC contact info to your
loved ones.
42. Staying in Touch Calls
• We will call your
parents, siblings,
spouse, grandparents
• Keep them updated
• Answer their
questions
43. Get Connected
• Join the PROTECTEUR Family Network
• Your Network volunteers: Michelle and
Elizabeth
protecteur.family@shawcable.com
• Attend the weekly Drop In Coffee Sessions
• Find out about fun activities – connect with
others like yourself.
“Helping another is always the best way to help yourself”
44. Upcoming Activities
• Drop In Coffee Sessions (every Wed & switch
between Esq and Colwood)
• Deployment Dinners – once a month in Esq
Join the PROTECTEUR Family Network to receive emails and updates on
activities and information from the ship.
45. Deployment & Children
Complete the “Pre-Deployment activities with
your children.
Two options for offering your child support
throughout the Deployment
- Onsite Children’s Workshops
- At Home Children’s Workbooks with virtual
support for the “at home” parent via the web.
46. Free Respite Child Care
• If gone for more than 28 days
• Can use one 3-hour session per week
• Maximum of 4 sessions per month
47. Top Four Service requests by loved
ones of Deployed Members
1. Free Mail drop off
2. Staying in Touch Calls (anywhere)
3. Networking Opportunities
4. Respite Childcare
49. Single Members
We haven’t forgotten you!
Services Provided
• SIT calls for parents – where ever they may be
• New-comer activities
• Postal services and VTC
• Pet care and car storage advice during
deployment
50. #4 is all about
•Keep that connection with loved ones strong
throughout deployment
•Get your families connected with others who
are “in the same boat”
•Let you focus on your job
58. Location 2: Signal Hill
1505 Esquimalt Road, Esquimalt
Close to Dockyard Gate, Fleet Club
59. Two Additional Locations for Child Care
Lampson
Daycare, Preschool, Casual Child Care
Belmont Park
Out of school care for Ecole John Stubbs
60. Contact
Esquimalt MFRC
24-hours a day / seven days a week
(250) 363-2640
Or toll-free anywhere in Canada
1-800-353-3329
mfrc@shawcable.com
www.esquimaltmfrc.com
The Esquimalt MFRC is on Facebook and Twitter!!
The MFRC is the only local non-profit organization providing programs and services for you and your family.
You at any stage of your career.
Families at any stage of their life.
And you get these programs and services at every base.
Relocation assistance
How many people have moved here within the last year? Did you know that we had a welcome BBQ last month? Would you like to meet other military families? Military families in Sooke
A great way to get involved in a new community Meet new people Give back to your community Many opportunities
A bad cup of coffee A grand slam breakfast at 3am 24-hour Information Line
We have the POWER to choose our beliefs, feelings, behaviours and attitudes. Choosing to focus on what is going right, working well and positive is helpful. What you focus on grows!
Emergency Child Care One-on-one counselling
Emergency Child Care One-on-one counselling
In healthy marriages partners choose the following positive goals: to cooperate, to contribute, to encourage, and to accept responsibility for individual behaviour. Couple Time – or Planned Dates These can be as simple as meeting for a tea or coffee – even if its at home - to a planned activity in the coming week(s) that you agree on and work toward. Can you name one thing that you really want to do soon? One that you have not done together? The Ideas Jar Take time to sit down as a couple and come up with multiple ideas of what you would like to do or share together – that both of you can live with! Write them all out on small pieces of paper and fold them up This jar is there whether you have a short or longer period of time together
Goal setting: My needs – Your Needs – Our Needs Individual and Couple – if you want to succeed there needs to be a plan in place that you are both aware of and in agreement too. Make time to create this plan. Examples – you set time aside – even just 5 minutes each for face to face sharing daily. Support one another in getting some “Self-Care” time Examples: In healthy marriages partners choose the following positive goals: to cooperate, to contribute, to encourage, and to accept responsibility for individual behaviour. Couple Time – or Planned Dates These can be as simple as meeting for a tea or coffee – even if its at home - to a planned activity in the coming week(s) that you agree on and work toward. Can you name one thing that you really want to do soon? One that you have not done together?
You are heading into a busy time at work. You may also have a busy home life. Think about how you will balance the demands of your work schedule with resources that we have talked about. Scheduling some time for yourself, asking friends for support, using resources that are available in the community. We see military families as capable and resilience. Stress is an everyday occurrence, and with support it can be manageable. You can change your way of thinking—your perspective—on a situation. Is everything always going wrong, or did you just have a glitch that you can take care of? Try to use realistic optimism instead of catastrophic or pessimistic thinking. One way to build resilience is to take small steps towards dealing with a situation. This can build a feeling of being capable and in control. An important part of coping is to manage your feelings—this is called “self regulation”—for example, anger management. You can express how you feel about a difficult situation, but regulate how it comes out.
It is normal and natural to have challenges and differences in relationship – especially when you are under extra pressure. There are resources to assist: Talk with a Counsellor or Social Worker – MFRC, Base Clinic, MAP and Community Resources – Make a Call
Requirements – when working with as a registered professional When does this not hold true – harm to self- others
Daycare Preschool Out of school care
Program of the psychology foundation of Canada. Help children as young as preschool age to recognize and manage their own stress. Children can learn what the signs are of stress and some tools to use, such as relaxing in a soft quiet place, going outside to kick a soccer ball, or having some unexpected fun, like a picnic in the house on a rainy day. Every day stressors for children can be arguing with brothers and sisters, waiting for a turn, sharing, or for school age children, tests, or bullies. Major events that are stressful
Sunday sessions Workshops
Talk about work ups
Plan and prepare well. – and an important part of that plan is to have make sure your family has our number. If it is the only thing you do…make sure you have the MFRC number. We are there 24/7 – originally designed as the one stop shop for military families. One number people can remember and access as a starting point for any number of reasons – information, support, resources . So for you single members, make sure your parents have it in case they need to get information, and for you married folk, make sure it is on the fridge.
Sunday sessions Workshops
Deployments can be very isolating for those who don’t have strong support networks Lots of ways to get connected
Deployments can be very isolating for those who don’t have strong support networks Lots of ways to get connected
Sunday sessions Workshops
Sunday sessions Workshops
All staff and volunteers adhere to strict confidentiality guidelines
