This is a slide deck from my Spring 2020 section of The Art of Self-Coaching at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. Course materials are archived at https://www.edbatista.com/the-art-of-self-coaching-course.html

1. The art of
self-coaching
Ed Batista
Class 8: SUCCESS
Spring 2020
“Success Kid” photograph © Laney Griner, used with permission [link]

2. Class #
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3. Success
“Success Kid” photograph © Laney Griner, used with permission [link]

4. Photo by Theresa Thompson [link]
Warmup & remarks 30 mins
Discussion & debrief 30 mins
Remarks & conversation 35 mins
Debrief & for next time… 10 mins
Agenda

5. Warm-up

6. Warm-up
Reflect
Looking back at my GSB experience, what’s one
success I take pride in?
Looking ahead post-GSB, what’s one thing I’ll do
differently because of my time here?

7. Warm-up
In breakouts with Personal Partners + 4 others
9 minutes total

8. Today’s guiding
spirit

9. Today’s guiding
spirit
Values
Strengths
Working Conditions

10. More happiness
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myths…

11. I’ll be happy
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when…

12. I’ll be happy
when…

13. I’ll be happy
Applicants rejected by the GSB this year: 6,874
when…

14. I’ll be happy
Sonja Lyubomirsky
Why doesn’t success make us happier?
when…

15. Features that act
like bugs
Photo by Steve Bremer [link]

16. Features that act
Competition
Social comparison
Hedonic adaptation
Beneficial for the species
Problematic for us as individuals
like bugs

17. Competition aka
© Getty Images

18. Goal pursuit
© Getty Images

19. Goal pursuit
Source: http://bit.ly/GoalPursuit

20. Goal pursuit
The critical factor in whether goal pursuit
makes us happy lies in enjoying the journey &
not in realizing the end-goal.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky

21. Goal pursuit
But when do we prioritize the journey?
And is now too soon?

22. Social
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comparison

23. Social
Those of us who typically rely on our own
internal, objective standards are happiest.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
comparison

24. Social
Those of us who base our self-evaluations on
comparisons with others are the unhappy ones.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky
comparison

25. Social
Why might this be a bigger problem post-GSB?
comparison

26. Hedonic treadmill
Photo by E’Lisa Campbell [link]

27. Hedonic treadmill
The more we attain, the happier we become.
But the more we attain, the more we want.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky

28. Hedonic treadmill
Two chief explanations: We experience less &
less pleasure over time & our aspirations rise.
~Sonja Lyubomirsky

29. Hedonic treadmill
Are high achievers doomed?
How do we avoid settling?

30. So what
can we do?

31. Aspiration
Concrete experiences & observations
Gratitude & appreciation
Goal selection & framing
Values
management

32. Values
To work in an organization whose value
system is incompatible with one’s own
condemns a person to frustration.
~Peter Drucker

33. A value system

34. A value system
“Values” as in “What is valued”
Power & influence
Material rewards

35. A value system
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36. A value system
“Values” as in “What is right”
Ethical guidelines

37. A value system
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38. A value system
“Values” as in “What is meaningful”
Highly subjective

39. A value system
To work in an organization whose value
system is incompatible with one’s own
condemns a person to frustration.
~Peter Drucker

40. With your group

41. A discussion
What am I learning about my values?
How are they influencing my aspirations?

42. Debrief

43. Thank your group
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44. Strengths
Photo by Jamie Jamieson [link]

45. Strengths
It takes far more energy and work to improve
from incompetence to mediocrity than it
takes to improve from first-rate performance
to excellence.
~Peter Drucker

46. A transition
Photo by McKay Savage [link]

47. Growth mindset?
Change is always possible…
What’s the opportunity cost?

48. Conditions

49. Conditions
For knowledge workers, How do I perform?
may be an even more important question than
What are my strengths?
~Peter Drucker

50. Conditions
Scale
Culture
Environment
Interdependence

51. With your
partner
Photo by Heinrich Böll-Stiftung [link]

52. 1 more coaching
conversation
Photo by Heinrich Böll-Stiftung [link]

53. 1 more coaching
As always:
A coaches B, then B coaches A
or
A coaches B now, & B coaches A outside of class
conversation

54. Reflect
What are my greatest strengths?
Where am I capable of excellence?
Under what conditions do I do my best work?

55. Thank your
partner
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56. Debrief
What are you learning?
What questions remain?

57. To sum up
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58. To sum up
Success may entail focusing on strengths
Managing aspirations will be key
Clarity on values can help

59. For next time…
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60. Endings
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61. Endings
William Bridges on transitions
Christopher Peterson on life & habits
& some feedback…

62. Photo by dotmatchbox [link]
Feedback

63. Feedback
For both of your partners
The worksheet is a suggestion
Use whatever format works best for you

64. Photo by Basti Hirsch [link]
More feedback

65. More feedback
Course evaluations in Axess
Link at bottom left in Canvas
Your input matters to the school and to me

66. Other items…
Video and slides posted on my site
One last assignment due Tuesday 9pm