This is a condensed slide deck from the fifth class of my Spring 2016 section of The Art of Self-Coaching at the Stanford Graduate School of Business.

1. The art of
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self-coaching
Ed Batista
CLASS 5: RESILIENCE

2. Class 5
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3. Resilience
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Small groups 40 mins
Resilience 25 mins
A conversation 25 mins
For next time… 5 mins
Agenda

5. Power
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6. Resilience
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A resilience story
Use your RQ
4 minutes
Reflect

7. small groups
Debrief in your
What was that like?
What did you experience?

8. your partner
Debrief with
What did you learn?
What do you want to remember?

9. Crucible stories
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10. Crucible stories
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Meaning-making
Mental models
Connections

11. Resilience
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12. Resilience
Linda Graham
Why might we lack resilience?

13. Resilience
Childhood & insecure attachment
Conditioned habits
Implicit memories
Negativity bias
Trauma

14. Resilience
Childhood & life experiences matter…
…and change is eminently possible
Neuroplasticity is key
So what can we do?

15. Mindfulness
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16. Resilience
OK
We got it
We’ll meditate
What else can we do?

17. Resilience
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elements

18. Resilience
Karen Reivich & Andrew Shatté
What constitutes resilience?
What is resilient behavior?
elements

19. Resilience
Emotion regulation
Impulse control
Optimism
Causal analysis
Empathy
Self-efficacy
Reaching out
elements

20. As always…
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21. As always…
“A map is not the territory it represents.”
~Alford Korzybski

22. RQ assessment
What are my results?
NOT aptitude or proficiency
Frequency of use & comfort level

23. RQ assessment
As with mindset & other mental models
Awareness may begin to shift behavior
Where do we go from there?

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Many paths

25. Many paths
ABCs
Icebergs
Thinking traps
(Concepts in Reivich & Shatté from CBT)

26. Many paths
A common theme
Identify, explore & challenge mental models

27. Mental models
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Perceptions impact our reality

28. ABCs
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29. ABCs
Adversity  Consequences*
*Emotional & behavioral response

30. ABCs
Adversity  Beliefs*  Consequences
*Mental models about self & the world

31. ABCs
Adversity  Beliefs  Consequences
What beliefs influence my resilience?
What beliefs affect my view of a situation?

32. Thinking traps
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33. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision
Overgeneralize
Jump to conclusions
Personalize / externalize
Magnify (-) & minimize (+)

34. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision  Big picture
Overgeneralize
Jump to conclusions
Personalize / externalize
Magnify (-) & minimize (+)

35. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision
Overgeneralize  Narrow focus
Jump to conclusions
Personalize / externalize
Magnify (-) & minimize (+)

36. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision
Overgeneralize
Jump to conclusions  Slow down
Personalize / externalize
Magnify (-) & minimize (+)

37. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision
Overgeneralize
Jump to conclusions
Personalize / externalize  Look out / in
Magnify (-) & minimize (+)

38. Thinking traps
Tunnel vision
Overgeneralize
Jump to conclusions
Personalize / externalize
Magnify (-) & minimize (+)  Balance

39. Icebergs
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40. Icebergs
Underlying & unexamined beliefs
Often in 3 key areas
Achievement
Acceptance
Control

41. Icebergs
Impact on resilience
Inexplicably strong emotions
Clashing beliefs yield paralysis
Beliefs  Consequences disconnect

42. Single-loop
learning
Assumptions
& Beliefs
Results
Strategies
& Goals

43. Double-loop
Results
learning
Assumptions
& Beliefs
Strategies
& Goals

44. Reframing
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45. Reframing
The meanings we assign  Emotional response
Re-interpret a situation  Shift our emotions
Our mental models shape our experiences

46. Remember me?
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47. Emotion
Not rocket science
Hard to do under stress
Get MESSy to build capacity
management

48. Putting it together
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49. Putting it together
Of these concepts…
…which ones work for you now?
…which ones would you like to try?
Reflect

50. To sum up
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Resilience is dynamic & multi-dimensional
We can employ our unique strengths…
…& address our weaknesses
Mental models are key
Many paths to success

51. For next time…
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52. Vulnerability
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53. Vulnerability
Read Brené Brown & my post
2 videos in the post
TEDx on Vulnerability (20 mins)
Shame & Empathy (8 mins)
Then an assignment…

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Another story…

55. Another story…
Experiences that involve feelings of vulnerability
Embarrassment, remorse, guilt, shame
Use the sheet to identify 5 stories
You’ll decide which one to tell
You’ll have 4 minutes to tell it

56. Looking ahead…
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57. Looking ahead…
Vulnerability, Unhappiness, Success
Less research, more application
Less prescriptive, more subjective