1. Step Eight
Forgiveness

2. A few misconceptions about forgiveness:
- We are required to offer it immediately.
- It is a one-time thing.
- It’s easy.

3. Jacob and Esau
Genesis 25:19 - 33:11

4. “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do
not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to
judgment. But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his
brother will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to
his brother, ‘Raca,’ is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone
who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.”
Matthew 5:21,22

5. Matthew 5:23,24

6. “Therefore, if you are
offering your gift at the altar
and there remember that
your brother has something
against you, leave your gift
there in front of the altar.
First go and be reconciled
to your brother; then come
and offer your gift.” Matthew 5:23,24

8. Ingre!ent

9. 8
Ingre!ent
Made a list of all persons we
had harmed, and became
willing to make amends to
them all.

10. 8
Ingre!ent
Forgiveness

11. 8
Ingre!ent
Forgiveness
“To forgive... is to release
someone from the
obligation of who you want
them to be and accept who
they are.”

12. 8
Ingre!ent
Forgiveness
“To forgive... is to release
someone from the
obligation of who you want
them to be and accept who
Forgive for Good
they are.” by Dr. Fred Luskin

13. From Forgive for Good by Dr. Fred Luskin
Forgiveness # not...
- is not condoning unkindness.
- is not forgetting that something painful happened.
- is not excusing poor behavior.
- does not have to be a dramatic spiritual epiphany.
- is not denying or minimizing your hurt.
- does not mean reconciling with the offender.
- does not mean you have to give up feelings.

14. From Forgive for Good by Dr. Fred Luskin
Forgiveness #...
- is for you, not the offender.
- is taking back your power, not giving it up.
- is about your healing, not about those who hurt you.
- is a trainable skill... like learning to throw a baseball.
- helps you get control over your feelings.
- is becoming a resilient hero instead of a
permanent victim.
- is a choice.

15. Sedaqah
Recipe for Right Relationships
1. We admitted that we are powerless 5. Admitted to Jesus, ourselves, and to
over sin, that our lives had become another human being the exact nature
unmanageable. of our wrongs.
2. Came to believe that Jesus Christ, 6. Were entirely ready to have Jesus
who is greater than ourselves, could remove all these defects of character.
restore us to sanity and harmony.
7. Humbly asked Jesus to remove our
3. Made a decision to turn our wills and shortcomings.
our lives over to the care of our Lord
and Savior Jesus Christ. 8. Made a list of all the persons we had
harmed, and became willing to make
4. Made a searching and fearless moral amends to them all.
inventory of ourselves.

16. 12
Steps

17. 12
Admi$ing
Steps

18. 12
Admi$ing
Submi$ing
Steps

19. 12
Admi$ing
Submi$ing
Reconciling
Steps

20. 12
Admi$ing
Submi$ing
Reconciling
Steps Infecting