"Positional Aids and Techniques to Minimise Spinal Impact During Sexual Activity" by Clinical Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching for "Symposium - Sex and the Spine: All You Ever Wanted to Know about Sex and the Spine but Were Afraid to Ask" by NSpine as part of SpineWeek, at Marina Bay Sands Expo & Convention Centre on Mon 16 May 2016. Dr Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching since 2009. She is a certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists), as well as a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists). Martha holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality as well as Certificates in Sex Therapy, Practical Counselling and Life Coaching. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40′ by Her World Singapore in July 2010 and ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women by CozyCot Singapore in March 2011. Website: http://www.eroscoaching.com.

1. Symposium: Sex and the Spine: All You Ever Wanted to Know about
Sex and the Spine but were Afraid to Ask
Positional Aids and Techniques
to Minimise Spinal Impact During
Sexual Activity
Dr. Martha Tara Lee, D.H.S.
16 May 2016

2. Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Clinical Sexologist
• Doctorate in Human Sexuality
• Masters in Public Policy and
Management
• Bachelor of Arts (Comm)
• Certificate in Sex Therapy
• Certitificate in Practical
Counselling
• Cert in Life Coaching

3. Agenda
1. Purpose + Benefits
2. Sex Furniture
3. Sex Positions
4. Sex Toys/ Aids
5. The Future of Sex

4. Purpose and Benefits
• Makes sexual efforts
easier
• Helps and enhances
sexual performance
• Very good option as an
alternative
• Promotes good health
• If with a partner, sex toys
promote stronger
relationship with them

5. Wheelchair sex after
spinal cord injury

6. Sex Furniture
Sex swings and slings are designed to help the
user attain and hold different sex positions. They
are the best-known, most popular type of sex
furniture – a whole category of sexual aids large
enough to support the weight of the person using
them, ranging from specially-angled cushions like
Liberator Shapes, to BDSM furniture that
facilitates bondage and other kinds of fetish play,
to fucking machines.

7. Wheelchair Hoist Sex Swing
A wheelchair
hoist sex
swing helps
wheelchair
users enhance
their sex life.

8. Wheelchair Hoist Sex Swing
Components
• Sex Swing
• Sex Swing Spring
• Sex Swing Frame
• Sex Swing Hoist
Source: http://www.streetsie.com/wheelchair-hoist-sex-swing/#comments

9. Thigh Sling
• Sling fits around the
neck with padded neck
brace
• Has adjustable leg
straps with padded loops
• Holds old thighs in an
elevated and open
position

10. The Sex Chairs

11. Liberator Shapes
Soft-core foam positioning pillows that can be used in
a variety of ways during sex

12. Love Bumpers
Also a soft-core foam positioning pillows that can be
used in a variety of ways during sexual activities

13. Pillow Assisted “G” spot Stimulus

14. Sex Chair For
Disabled –
Great Sensual
Aid For Mobility
Issues

15. Body Bouncer
• Slight flexing of thighs
will cause bouncing
movement
• Person on top needs
stable trunk control and
good sitting balance
during movement

16. Intimate Rider
• Aids with thrusting and
sexual movement
• A small seat glides on
precision bearings to
produce a natural, fluid
motion
• Movement occurs with
minimal upper body
motion
• Can fold up discreetly
and has non-skid feet

17. Sexual Positions

18. Partner on Top
• Experiment with both the
top partner and bottom
partner assisting in
movement
• For the bottom partner,
use pillows behind the
lower back and/or knees
for support
• Use a wedge pillow
under the bottom
partner’s knees can help
alleviate spasm, etc.

19. Lying on the Side
• Useful for people who
wear catheters and have
a leg bag
• Cushion between the
legs can ease hip
discomfort
• Both partners can
involve in the thrusting

20. Using a Chair or Wheelchair
• The top partner can sit
on the bottom partner’s
lap
• The woman can also sit
on the chair for
penetration

21. Rear Support
• Have the bottom partner
lie down facing the
ground
• The top partner can
stand with their partner
lying at the edge of a
bed, table, or a couch if
straddling on their knees
is uncomfortable

22. Sexual Toys/ Aids

23. MHP Tongue Joy
• Excellent little
massager that
attaches to tongue
or any body part
with one of the
elastic silicone
bands provided
• Has wired hand-
held control to
increase intensity
and speed of
vibration

24. Five-speed Finger Vibe
• Lightweight, fits on
any finger
• With four different
textured tips and
five different kinds
of vibrations

26. Penis Pump

27. Fleshlight
• Realistic
penetration device
• Easy to grip with
one or two hands
• No batteries or
plug-in required
• Lightweight

28. Tim’s Bit
• The sleeve is lined
with dozens of little
nubs and a well-
placed vibrator
• Elastic
• Tight enough to
stay on without
holding it
• Assistance may be
required to change
batteries

29. Rectal Vibrator
• This silicone anal dildo
and vibrator can be used
by men or women
• Texture shaft provide
some resistance
• Variable speeds available
• Can be used with a
harness
• Use lubrication

30. The Strapper
• Leather harness of
dildo, worn around
pelvis to use with a
partner
• Adjustable straps

31. Aslan’s Male Harness
• Leather harness of
dildo designed for
men
• Pouch safely and
comfortably allows
room for genitals
• Adjustable straps

32. Thighrider
• Leather harness of
dildo worn around
the thighs to use
with a partner
• Dildo socket is
backed with plastic
ring to prevent
stretching

33. Rider Deluxe (For Furniture)
• Nylon harnesses to
hold dildos
• Can be attached to
anything from
chairs and beds to
washers or dryers
• Leather backing for
the base and
harness can be
used around
objects with
awkward shapes

34. Hands-free Kit
• Enables hands-free vibrator
stimulation to assist
persons with spinal cord
injuries
• Includes metal grab bar and
hardware to attach to wall
• Switches are small so
assistance might be
needed with setting up the
grab bar

35. Vibro-stimulation Devices
• Powerful vibrator
• Large handles and easy to
grip
• Oversized soft control
buttons can easily be
pushed
• Medical-grade material
reducing the risk of skin
irritation by latex devices
• Rechargeable batteries

36. Latest Technology

37. `
Fleshlight -
Launchpad
(Ipad Mount)

38. AutoBlow 2
Source: http://m.mic.com/articles/124809/the-male-sex-toys-of-the-future-
are-here-and-we-should-all-be-excited-about-them#.EjpldKTgV

39. Hot Octopuss
Source: http://m.mic.com/articles/124809/the-male-sex-toys-of-the-future-
are-here-and-we-should-all-be-excited-about-them#.EjpldKTgV

40. VR Tenga
Source: http://m.mic.com/articles/124809/the-male-sex-toys-of-the-future-
are-here-and-we-should-all-be-excited-about-them#.EjpldKTgV

41. The Electric Eel
Source: http://m.mic.com/articles/124809/the-male-sex-toys-of-the-future-
are-here-and-we-should-all-be-excited-about-them#.EjpldKTgV

42. The Future of Sex

43. Professional Organizations
• AASECT - American Association of Sexuality Educators,
Counselors & Therapists
• SSSS - Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality
• SSTAR - Society for Sex Therapy & Research
• Kinsey Institute
• WPATH - World Professional Association for Transgender
Health
• IPSA - International Professional Surrogates Association
• ACSB - Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers
• Source School of Tantra Yoga

44. Resources
• Disabilities Health Research Network http://www.dhrn.ca/
• Kenneth Ray Stubbs www.sexualshaman.com
• Dr Mitchell Steven Tepper www.mitchelltepper.com (incomplete C6-7)
• Cory Silverberg http://corysilverberg.com/
• Sex and Paralysis Video Series created by Dr Mitchell Steven Tepper
http://www.drmitchelltepper.com/sex_and_paralysis_video_series

45. Download at
Disabilities Health Research Network
http://www.dhrn.ca/files/sexualhealthmanual_lowres_2010_0208.pdf

46. Thank you!
Martha Lee
Clinical Sexologist
Eros Coaching Pte Ltd
Website: www.eroscoaching.com
Email: drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com