Transformative counselling: Cognitive Therapy Approaches

Daniel Keeran, MSW, President, College of
Mental Health Counselling
The College of Mental Health Counseling presents:
Transformative Counseling:
Cognitive Therapy Approaches
A Course in Empathy, Finding Wisdom: Verbalizing Your Inner
Dialogue, Creative Solution Development, Counseling Assessment
Self-Healing Life Story Questionnaire, Your Spirituality Score,
Counseling for Depression, Practicing the Presence of God:
Spiritual Mindfulness, Sixteen Principles for Anger, Thirty-Five
Positive Suggestions for Ego Strength, Meaning Therapy, Faith as a
Positive Cognitive Therapy Model

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Copyright © 2014 by Daniel Keeran
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in
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author except for use in public schools and in the case of brief
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ISBN-13: 978-1503292567
ISBN-10: 1503292568
Printed in the United States.

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Dedicated to
my loving wife and daughter

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Table of Contents
A Course in Empathy: The New Revolution of the Heart 9
Finding Wisdom: Verbalizing Your Inner Dialogue 33
The Self-Awareness Questionnaire 41
Reaching Agreement: Steps To Peace Through
Creative Solution Development 48
Your Spirituality Score 52
Counseling for Depression 56
Practicing the Presence of God: Spiritual Mindfulness 61
Sixteen Guidelines for Anger 77
Thirty-Five Positive Suggestions for Ego Strength 79
Faith As A Positive Cognitive Therapy Model 86
About the Author 92
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A Course in Empathy
The New Revolution of the Heart
How do you think society might be affected if empathy was taught
in the home, the workplace, and in schools? Imagine a world in
which everyone, children and adults, knew how to care about how
others feel and what they need, want, and think.
While each individual has a unique capacity for empathy, some
more than others, the author believes empathy may be assisted
and encouraged for those who possess some aptitude.
Empathic development requires an awareness of one's own
emotions, addressed in the first exercise on page 12, in order to
begin to recognize and feel connected with the emotions of others.
Now for the first time, we have a set of tools to actually learn
empathy so that it becomes part of one's way of relating to others.
On completion of assignments* for A Course in Empathy, with no
more than a two-page report for each chapter including your
responses to questions found at the end of each one, the
Certificate of Empathy Development is awarded by the College
of Mental Health Counseling.
In this concise volume, the author describes ten practical exercises
to enable the development of empathy and thereby aid the
transformation of the self and the community.
The way to peace with everyone is empathy for everyone, including
and especially your opponent in any matter. Empathy for self and
others is the key to inner peace and even world peace.
*Assignments and inquiries should be directed to Daniel Keeran, MSW, at the
College of Mental Health Counseling collegemhc@gmail.com
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Introduction: What Is Empathy?
Lesson Objectives:
1. To understand empathy.
2. To acquire an increased sense of empathy for the emotions and
circumstances of others.
Empathy Definition: To sincerely and accurately feel and reflect
the specific emotion(s) of another person. Empathy also means to
value others’ emotions.
Why teach and learn empathy? The important reason to teach
and learn empathy is that if individuals are able to learn empathy
skills, they will be most likely to apply the skills in their current
life with peers and future adult relationships.
The ability to have empathy is important as a foundation for
caring and compassion between and among people and
contributes to positive relationships in all areas of life.
Empathy builds a sense of community and reduces the tendency
to discriminate or exclude others. Someone who bullies or
excludes others can benefit from being aware of the emotions of
a potential victim and to value those emotions.
While some people may have difficulty feeling or communicating
sincere empathy more than others, everyone will derive some
benefit from the exercises in this lesson.
Select those exercises that correspond to the overall capacity of
the age group and modify exercise descriptions for the
comprehension level of the group.
Group Discussion:
1. What is empathy? How are empathy and sympathy different?
Empathy is not sympathy. Empathy means to feel the emotion of
another person. Sympathy means to agree with the thoughts of
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2. Empathy means that you must set aside your own thoughts and
feelings and pay attention only to the other person’s thoughts and
feelings. Why does this ability require inner strength?
3. How is empathy communicated? Empathy is communicated in
the sincere accurate reflection of the emotions of another person,
conveyed in accurate facial expressions for the emotions,
accurate voice tones for the emotions, and accurate words for the
emotions.
4. How are thoughts different from emotions? Emotions are not
thoughts. Emotions are sensory experiences in the mind and body
such as relaxed, fear, caring, anger, guilt, happy, sadness,
confident, low self-worth, hopeful, despair. Thoughts are ideas
about another person, thing, or situation.
5. What is sincerity and why is it important? Sincerity means to be
genuine, to truly value the other person’s feelings as important,
and to take his or her feelings seriously. If sincerity is missing,
then empathy will not be communicated.
6. Are emotions OK? Yes. Emotions are neither good nor bad.
Having emotions is an important part of being human. Believing
this is necessary in order to have sincere empathy for another
person’s feelings. What you do with an emotion can be healthy or
unhealthy.

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Exercises For Empathy Training
Exercise One: Building Your Emotion Vocabulary
Description: The leader introduces the exercise by saying that
having a vocabulary of words for different emotions, is helpful for
making sentences that communicate empathy. Many feeling or
emotion lists can be found on the internet.
Emotions can be separated into categories of pleasant and painful
feelings. For example, pleasant emotions are: happy, excited,
peaceful, relaxed, calm, hopeful.
Examples of painful emotions are: fear, anger, guilt, sad, empty,
low self-worth, and despair.
An acronym can be used to help remember a list of words. For
example, the acronym FAGSELD is a way to remember the painful
emotions listed above.
Invite group members (in group or as an assignment) to make a
list of emotions or feelings they have about different experiences
during the day. Examples: waking up, getting dressed, smelling
breakfast, getting on the bus, hearing people arguing, hearing
people laughing, entering the room, sitting at the desk, listening
to the teacher, going to recess, taking a test, having lunch, doing
More information: Painful feelings can be divided into
hard and soft emotions. Examples of hard painful feelings
are anger, frustration, irritation, and annoyed, while
examples of soft painful feelings are fear, sadness, guilt,
emptiness, low self-worth, and despair.

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homework, seeing parents, playing with friends, sitting down to
dinner, going to bed.
Post-Exercise Discussion:
1. What do you realize about emotions and experiences?
2. Why is it important to be aware of your emotions as you feel
them in the moment?
3. How does being aware of your own emotions affect the way you
understand other people and things that happen in their lives?
Assignment: Make a list of your experiences between the end of
group today and the next group meeting and then write the
emotions related to each experience.

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Exercise Two: Distinguishing Emotions and Thoughts
Description: In this exercise, group members are asked to make
three sentences beginning with “I feel” followed by a feeling
word such as happy, sad, frustrated, or other emotion.
Examples: “I feel happy when it’s time to play.”
“I feel excited when I get to do math.”
“I feel sad when my friends have to go home
after visiting.”
What is the difference between a thought and a feeling? A
thought is an idea. A feeling is an emotion.
More information: Remember that a thought, instead of
an emotion, is expressed if “I feel” is followed by the
word “that” rather than a feeling word. The phrase “I
feel that....,” really means “I think” or “I believe.”
If you begin a sentence with “I think” followed by an idea
such as “I think this subject is interesting” or “I think this
group is fun,” you are communicating a thought instead of
an emotion.

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Exercise Three: Making Sentences for Empathy
Description: Practice making sentences that communicate
empathy using this form and words from the feeling list. Fill in the
blanks, followed by checking to see if you are accurate:
“You feel____________ because ___________. Is that accurate?”
Scenario examples: Here are examples of two scenarios followed
by examples of sentences that show empathy and checking for
accuracy.
1. Jill has a frown on her face and says her best friend just moved
away.
Empathic reflection: “Jill, you feel sad because you best friend
just moved away. Is that what you feel?”
2. Dad is very quiet when he comes home from work and says he
just lost his job.
Empathic reflection: “Dad, you feel worried because you lost your
job. Is that what you feel?”
Practice Scenarios: After each scenario below, write a sentence
that shows empathy followed by checking to see if you are
accurate.
1. Your brother comes home crying and then says he was called
hurtful names at school.
2. The boy at school that others just called hurtful names, is
sitting quietly and looking down.
3. Your friend says he does not want to go home because he
received low scores on his report card.

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4. Your friend says she can’t invite you over because her Mom
doesn’t feel well.
5. A person at school is sitting alone at lunch time and not eating
his lunch.
1. What questions do you have about writing a sentence that
shows empathy?
2. Why is it important to check to see if you are accurate?

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Exercise Four: Role Reversal
Description: In the Role Reversal exercise, empathy skills are
increased when individuals are asked to imagine he or she is
someone else who will be interviewed in pairs. The group is
divided into pairs, and each person takes turns telling the other
person basic personal information in answer to a brief set of
questions. Then each person imagines he or she is the other
person and speaks to the group in the first person as if he or she is
the other person. Mary interviews Rosie and then presents herself
as if she is Rosie by saying, “My name is Rosie. I am 12 years old,”
etc. Then Rosie does the same by saying, “My name is Mary. I am
12 years old,” etc.
Accuracy is important for building empathy skills in this exercise.
The following is a list of basic questions for collecting basic
personal information:
1. What is your name?
2. What is your age?
3. What is your favorite color?
4. How many brothers and sisters do you have?
5. Where did you go on vacation?
6. What do you like to do most?
Demonstrate to the group:
“Now I need a volunteer to show you what role reversal looks like.
Who would like to volunteer?” The leader asks the above
questions to the volunteer as you sit together in front of the
group. Then the leader presents herself as the student speaking in
the first person and relating the information collected in the
interview using the questions above.

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Then the leader says, “What questions do you have about what
you will be doing?”
Instructions to the group:
“Now I want you to divide into pairs and interview each other
using these questions (written on the board or given as a printed
handout). Remember what the other person says, and then you
will present yourself as if you are the other person starting with
the name and so on. You will have to listen very carefully and
remember what the other person said. What questions do you
have about what I am asking you to do?”
Post-Exercise discussion:
1. What was it like hearing your partner speak as if he or she was
you? Was he or she accurate?
2. What was it like being your partner? What did you feel or think
when you were being someone different than yourself?

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Exercise Five: Doubling
Description: In the Doubling exercise, similar to the Role Reversal
exercise, the individuals build empathy skills by becoming a
double or alter ego for another person. This is done by inviting
students to walk around the room in pairs (or to sit in chairs in
parallel position) while one speaks as the other doubles.
The speaker talks about a happy memory or expected future
event. As the speaker is talking, the Double also talks in the first
person as if he or she is also the speaker and reads between the
lines by inserting feeling words.
Example:
Speaker: “I am going to visit my grandparents next week.”
Double: “And I feel happy.”
Speaker: “My grandma makes the best cookies.”
Double: “I am excited to eat the cookies.”
The speaker can let the Double know if she or he is accurate or
not by saying what the accurate feeling is.
“Now I need a volunteer to show you what Doubling looks like.
Come here and sit with me (chairs in parallel position facing the
group). Talk about a happy memory or something you look
forward to in the future.”
As the volunteer talks, the leader speaks in the first person as if
she or he is the student and fills in feelings or emotions not
spoken by the volunteer.

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After a brief while, the leader turns to the group and says, “What
questions do you have about what I am asking you to do?”
Instructions for the group exercise:
Divide the group into pairs, and as they are engaged in the
exercise, let them know when to switch roles with one as the
speaker and the other as the Double.
After each person has had an opportunity to experience both roles
(speaker and Double):
1. What was it like being the speaker and hearing the Double
speaking as yourself?
2. What was it like being the Double? What was the hardest part?
3. How did the exercise of Doubling help you understand the other
person?

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Exercise Six: Listening with Empathy
Description: Practice listening to another person talk about
something that is personally important, and make sentences for
empathy that reflect his or her emotions. Remember that
empathy means to set aside your own thoughts and feelings and
to pay attention to what the other person thinks and feels.
“Now I need a volunteer so that I can show the group what a
sentence for empathy sounds like. Think of something you can say
about what is important to you or something that happened or
you hope will happen in the future. Who would like to volunteer?”
After a brief demonstration, thank the volunteer and ask the
group, “What questions do you have about what you will be
doing?”
Instructions for the group exercise:
“Now we will practice making sentences for empathy. I want you
divide into pairs. One of you will speak for a little while and the
other will listen. The speaker can talk about something that
happened last night or today or something in the future. The
listener will make a sentence for empathy and check to see if it is
accurate. Then I will tell you when to switch, with the speaker
becoming the listener, and the listener becoming the speaker.
Remember that empathy means to set aside your own thoughts
and feelings and to pay attention to what the other person thinks
and feels.”
After giving instructions, ask the group, “What questions do you
have about what you will be doing?”

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1. What was it like being the speaker and hearing the listener
make sentences for empathy (reflections)?
2. What was it like being the listener? What was the hardest part
about it?
More information: In making an empathic reflection, an
overstatement of the other person’s thoughts and feelings
can give added support when the reflection is accurate and
sincere. This involves seeing implications of what the
speaker says and including these implications in the sincere
reflection while being careful to check for accuracy. If the
empathic reflection is an understatement and leaves out
accurate basic information given by the speaker, the
speaker will feel a lack of empathy and support.
Additional exercises can be created to assist group members
to recognize and reflect empathy for different specific
emotions such as fear, anger, guilt, sadness, celebration,
humiliation, and others. See an exercise for empathizing
with anger below.

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Exercise Seven: Becoming Another Character
Description: In this exercise, members are asked to break into
groups of three to do the following:
1. Write the dialogue for and then enact a scenario for three
people: a victim, a bully, and an observer.
2. Each group enacts the scenario three times. Each time the
scenario is enacted, each person rotates to take on the role of a
different character.
3. After all scenarios are enacted with each person rotating to
each role, each person then discusses what it was like to take on
the role of each character, what emotions were felt, and what
thoughts came up in each role.
1. What emotions did you feel as the bully?
2. What emotions did you feel as the victim?
3. What emotions did you feel as the observer?
4. What decisions have you made after doing this exercise?

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Exercise Eight: Understanding the Story
Description: This exercise is about understanding the story of
another person. “An enemy is someone whose story you have not
heard.”
1. Ask members of the group to think (and write) about someone
they are afraid of or someone with whom they do not want to be
friends and to give a reason.
2. Ask group members to imagine they found out reasons why the
person behaves in a negative way and to write the reasons down.
3. Ask group members to share how they feel about the person
after realizing there may be a story that explains the negative
behavior of the person.
Example: (corresponding to the three points above)
1. I do not want to be friends with Rosie because she never talks
to me.
2. I found out that Rosie is unhappy and lonely at home, and she
is afraid her Mom may not be able to pay the rent.
3. Now that I know this may be true, I want to be friends with
Rosie because her not talking is not about me but about her
feelings about what is happening at home.
1. How has this exercise changed the way you think about people
you are afraid of or with whom you do not want to be friends?
2. Imagine how understanding the story of the other person could
affect the way people feel and think about their perceived
enemies, nations in conflict, and groups of people that you or
perhaps others dislike.

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Exercise Nine: Imagine the Emotions of a Historical Character
Description: This exercise is about understanding the emotions of
a historical character. The leader asks group members to make a
list of five people from history and circumstances. Then write
emotions that each person may have felt about what was
happening in history or in the life of the person when they were
experiencing the emotions.
Alternatively, the leader can make a list of historical people,
describe their circumstances, and then invite group members to
list emotions the person might have had.
Example: Abraham Lincoln sees slaves being sold in the town
square, and in that moment he feels sad that they have no
families of their own, angry that men would treat other men as
property, and hopeless that he could do nothing about it.
1. Who would like to share your list of historical people and
circumstances with the group?
2. What emotions did you come up with and what are the
emotions about?

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Exercise Ten: Having Empathy for Anger
Description: This exercise assists the development of ways to
cope with the anger of another person by using empathic
reflection. Empathy for anger can sometimes have the effect of
reducing the anger of a person.
A scenario is demonstrated by the leader who makes a reflective
empathic statement when someone is very angry. After observing
this, group members are asked to form pairs and to practice
making a reflective empathic statement to the other person who
makes an angry statement.
Example: (demonstrated)
Angry Person: “You never do what you’re told, and so now I have
to do it for you.”
Empathic Listener: “You feel angry because I didn’t do my work,
and that makes more work for you. Is that what you are feeling?”
Following this demonstration, ask group members to enact the
same scenario in pairs with each person taking turns being the
angry person, then the empathic listener. Use the statements
provided in the above example and repeated them to help you
feel more of the emotion and what it is like to say and hear the
words.
1. What was it like making the angry statement?
2. What was it like making the empathic reflective statement?
3. What was it like as the angry person hearing the empathic
reflective statement of the listener?
4. Imagine how empathic reflection could be used between
nations to reduce hostility. How could it work?

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Finding Wisdom
Verbalizing Your Inner Dialogue
New generation psychological technology can improve conditions in
persons with normal or average cognitive functioning. The cognitive
mental functions give humans a particular advantage in terms of
creative solution development.
Humans are constantly engaging in a process of internal dialogue
across a variety of subject areas. Mental distress may be at least
partly remedied by verbalizing, understanding, and perhaps
modifying the internal dialogue.
For persons suffering from chronic dependency as well as anxiety,
depression, and relationship issues, the following technique may be
useful:
1. Invite the client to talk about what they know will improve their
situation and what could worsen their situation.
2. Identify the parts of the self as the knowing confident self and the
unknowing negative self.
3. Ask the client to verbalize each part of the self in response to the
other (like Golum in Lord of the Rings).
4. Discuss ways to strengthen the knowing confident part of the
self. This is also the observer will part of the self that is able to
evaluate and modify the dialogue and draw a conclusion that works
best.
The above technique can be easily learned, recorded through
journaling, and repeated as a core process in therapy in order to
make the inner dialogue most conscious and useful to the client.
This psychological technology can improve conditions in persons
with normal or average cognitive functioning.
The therapeutic use of inner dialogue can focus on a specific issue
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conversation between the knowing confident part and the negative
self-doubting or unhealthy part.
Here is an example of an exchange using this inner dialogue
approach:
Client: I feel so inadequate and lacking in self-confidence.
Counselor: So, part of you feels inadequate and lacking in self-
confidence. I wonder if there is another part of you, a knowing part,
even a small part, that feels adequate and confident about some
things.
Client: Yes, there is. I moved out here on my own. I have a job and
pay my rent (client smiles).
Counselor: You are very resourceful, capable, and independent.
You can strengthen the positive, capable part of yourself just by
talking more about it. Tell me more.
In this example the counselor further supports the knowing
supportive self by adding to the dialogue. The counselor can also
invite the client to verbalize the inner dialogue between the positive
knowing part and the negative doubting part.
Counselor: Now I want you to speak your negative thoughts and
also your positive thoughts.
An exchange with someone suffering from
depression
Counselor: If there’s a conversation inside you about the
depression, how does it go? Speak the conversation out loud.
Client: I am a failure. Nothing I do is good enough.
Counselor: So that is the negative part of you that feeds the
depression. There is another part of you, even if it is a small part,
that knows more and that can see the big picture. What does that
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Client: I have been resourceful, independent, and self-reliant. I pay
my own rent, buy my own food, hold a job, moved far from home,
and have travelled to Europe on my own.
Counselor: Yes. Which part of you feels better than the other part
of you: the negative part or the other part?
Working with different personality disorders
The beginning of the process is to identify the central issue defining
the personality disorder.
Personality disorders are understood as a pattern of behaviour
beginning in childhood, causing subjective distress and affecting
social and occupational functioning.
The central issue of each disorder is actually the voice of the
negative unhealthy self that is larger or stronger than the positive
confident self. The goal of therapy is to strengthen the positive
confident self and thereby relieve mental distress. This occurs by
bringing the inner dialogue into conscious awareness and by
focusing attention on the positive healthy confident self by talking
about, elaborating, and affirming it.
The negative unhealthy self is significantly fed by negative uncaring
experiences during childhood, usually the parental relationship. A
way to strengthen the positive self is to say, “What would you say
or do if what happened to you happened to your own child?” and “If
you were the healthy caring adult or parent in the situation you
describe, what would you say or do for you, the child?”
This approach utilizes the person’s own cognitive ability and sense
of empathy to create and define healthy choices.
Another approach is to say, “If you had power to change any three
things about your childhood or family when you were growing up,
what would they be?” and, “I wonder if you can imagine how you
might be different today in some ways if things had been different
as you describe.”
This approach helps the person use memory to identify significant
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visualization in order to identify and strengthen the positive healthy
self. A key to moving forward is to hold two opposite realities
simultaneously, the reality of loss of parental caring or other loss
and also one’s power to make healthy choices in thought and
action now: “Maybe you could not choose what happened in your
childhood, and you can choose what you do now.”
Paranoid Personality Disorder
Central issue: No one can be trusted because they want to harm
me in some way.
Common associated major negative life experience: Loss of
caring and closeness in the parental relationship during childhood.
Possibly physical or verbal abuse.
Therapeutic statements supporting the healthy self:
What happened in your childhood or your past that you think has
contributed most to your distrust of others?
I wonder if part of you knows what someone would be like if they
could be trusted.
How much is your fear and distrust based on what you think about
other people? If you could allow yourself to think differently about
others, how might your fear be affected?
How would you feel toward others if you could believe that people
are generally sincere and well-intentioned?
Schizoid Personality Disorder
Central issue: No one understands me because I am different. I
prefer to be alone.
Common associated major negative life experience: Childhood
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When in your life did you first start feeling alone or of being lonely?
What happened in your childhood or your past that you think has
contributed most to your desire to be alone?
I wonder how you might be different today if there had been
something different in your life when you were growing up.
What is your image of the person you want to be? Describe this
person for me.
Part of you prefers to be alone. Another part of you has a different
need or different idea about people. What does that part say?
Schizotypal Personality Disorder
Central issue: I have odd or delusional thoughts but I may not
recognize them as odd or delusional; no one can be trusted.
Possible abuse or abandonment experience in childhood.
Common associated major negative life experience: Loss of
parental caring; lack of social skill development in childhood.
Part of you thinks what you described (the odd thought) is true, and
maybe you need to have those thoughts for now.
Part of you believes no one can be trusted, and everyone wants to
harm you in some way.
There is another part of you that may have a different idea about
your thoughts and knows what you need and who you can be.
What does that part of you say?
Antisocial Personality Disorder
Central issue: I am willing to violate the rights of others to serve
my own profit and pleasure.
Common associated major negative life experience: Lack of
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Part of you is use to surviving on your own, believes sometimes
you must take advantage of other people to look after your own
interest, and that the end justifies the means. Is that accurate?
There is another part of you that feels a little guilty about taking
advantage of others to meet your own needs. What does that part
of you say?
Borderline Personality Disorder
Central issue: I don’t have control over my emotions. “I hate you,
don’t leave me.” I am afraid of abandonment.
Common associated major negative life experience: Abuse
and/or abandonment during childhood.
Part of you hates people, feels emotionally negative toward others,
and also fears being left alone by others. Who was the first
important person in your life who hurt or left you?
Another part of you, perhaps a small part, believes that you are
capable of being OK and surviving even if people leave you. What
else does that part know? Maybe that you can manage your
emotions, especially your anger?
Histrionic Personality Disorder
Central issue: I need the attention and approval of others in order
to be happy. My worth depends on my physical attractiveness.
Common associated major negative life experience: Childhood
abuse and learning to believe that value is associated with sexuality
or external appearance. Lack of training in healthy values and
beliefs during childhood.
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There is another wiser part, even if it is a small part of you, that
knows more about you and your worth as a person. What does that
part say?
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Central issue: My ideas and abilities are superior to those of
others.
Common associated major negative life experience: Parental
abandonment or rejection by the father.
Part of you thinks your ideas and abilities are superior, perhaps far
superior, to those of others.
Another part of you thinks you may be an imposter or feels very
inferior to others. What does that part say?
And part of you thinks others are capable of having important ideas
and abilities. What does that part say?
Avoidant Personality Disorder
Central issue: I am afraid that others will criticize me in social
situations.
Common associated major negative life experience: Critical
parenting during childhood or bullying by peers or siblings.
There is part of you that is afraid of criticism in social situations.
Another part of you is able to reassure you or encourage you. What
does that part say?

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Dependent Personality Disorder
Central issue: I fear being alone and must subordinate my own
needs and feelings to those on whom I rely.
Common associated major negative life experience:
Dominating parenting that makes obedience and subservience a
condition of caring.
Part of you believes you must serve others in order to be accepted
by them, and you must be accepted by them in order to be happy.
Another, knowing part of you believes you are worthwhile even if
others do not accept you. This part wants you to be true to yourself
and to assert your own needs and feelings even if others are
displeased. What else does it say?
Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder
Central issue: I must control my environment and finances,
because of my fear of chaos, disorder, or poverty. Things, working,
and financial security are more important than people.
Common associated major negative life experience: Poverty or
financial stress or financial loss during childhood.
Part of you thinks you must achieve and maintain financial security
even if you must sacrifice closeness and caring in your
relationships with others. If that seems accurate, elaborate on this a
little.
Another part of you believes people and the quality of your
relationships are more important than things or even than keeping
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The Self-Awareness Questionnaire
Introduce Yourself
1. What is your first name?
2. What is your age and gender?
3. What is your marital status? Single, married, separated, or
divorced? How long? Explain the reasons for separation(s)
or divorce(s). What happened?
4. What is your race, ethnic, or cultural background?
Caucasian, Chinese, East Indian, Aboriginal, Other?
5. What are your children's genders and ages? If they are
adults, give their occupations and marital situation.
6. Do you live alone or with someone? How long?
What Happened?
7. What problems and concerns do you have now?
8. What emotions have you been having and what is each one
about? Fear, anger, frustration, guilt, sadness, low self-
worth, despair, other feelings?
9. How long have you been feeling this way? (for each feeling
or problem)
10.What happened at the time you began feeling this way?
11.When have you felt like this in the past and what happened?
12.Any health problems? E.g. epilepsy, diabetes, etc.
13.Any counseling or hospitalized for emotional reasons? How
old were you? Please give the reasons.
Instructions: Only say as much as you want to. Skip questions that are too
uncomfortable, but think about why they are. Simply completing this
questionnaire can be a healing experience in itself. To understand the deeper
meaning of the questions and your answers, consider this important resource
Effective Counseling Skills.

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The Family You Grew Up In and Your
Childhood
14.How many brothers and sisters do you have? Give each
person's gender, age, occupation, and marital situation.
15.Which one are you in the line of birth? First, last, second or
third, etc. How many years separate you from the others
nearest you?
16.Who were you closest to when growing up?
17.Are your parents still living? What was your age at their
death?
18.Have your experienced any other deaths of family members
or friends? What was your age?
19.Describe your father's (and step-father's) personality and
your relationship to him when you were growing up. Were
you close, not so close, distant, affectionate? Give an
example of something that happened that shows this and
how old you were.
20.Talk about how your relationship with your father (or father
figure) during childhood may have affected you in both
positive and negative ways.
21.How have the negative experiences with your father
figure(s), come up again in your relationships with other
people up to now?
22.Describe your mother's (and step-mother's) personality and
your relationship to her when you were growing up. Were
you close, not so close, distant, affectionate? Give an
example of something that happened that shows this and
how old you were.
23.Talk about how your relationship with your mother (or mother
figure) during childhood may have affected you in both
positive and negative ways.
24.How have the negative experiences with your mother
figure(s), come up again in your relationships with other
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25.What were your spiritual or religious beliefs before age 10
and how have your beliefs changed since then?
26.What was your role in the family when you were growing up?
Think of a word, e.g. peacemaker, black sheep, victim,
outsider, assistant parent, invisible, baby, etc.? Give an
example of what happened.
27.Describe your parents' relationship. Were they affectionate?
How did they deal with conflict? Give an example of what
happened.
28.Was anyone in the family or extended family ever
hospitalized for emotional reasons or commit suicide? Any
mental retardation?
29.How did family members relate to each other when you were
growing up? Give an example.
30.How were feelings of anger, sadness, fear, and guilt
expressed? Give an example.
31.Describe a time when you were disciplined that was most
painful for you. How old were you? What happened?
32.What personality features do you have which your parents
also have?
33.Who was there for you when you were hurt as a child?
34.What messages about your worth and the worth of others,
was communicated by each parent both verbally and
nonverbally?
35.How old were you when you left home, and why did you
leave?
36.If you had power to change your family when you were
growing up and your childhood in any three ways, what
would you choose?
37.If your family experience had been different in the ways you
mentioned above, how do you imagine your life might be
different today?
38.Do you know if your mother had any problems with your
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Your School Experience and Friends
39.What was the first day of school like?
40.How many moves and school changes occurred during
school years? How old were you, what grades did you move
and why?
41.Describe your relationships with teachers.
42.Describe your relationships with peers.
43.Do you believe you achieved your best in school? Why?
What grade or education level did you complete? What
happened?
44.Did you have a group of friends during the first six grades? If
not, why?
45.Did you have one or two very close friends as a teenager? If
not, why?
46.Did you tend to be a follower or a leader with friends as a
teenager?
47.How old were you when you first started go out with
someone (or dated)?
48.Do you have a satisfactory network of friends, family,
groups? Describe these briefly.
49.How would you describe the types of people you associate
with? (What is your role with friends and acquaintances?
Helper, victim, other?)
Your Work Experiences
50.How old were you when you first went to work?
51.What types of jobs have you had and how many? Why did
you leave each job?
52.What has been your role at work? Helper, invisible,
responsible, victim, other? And how have you gotten along
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Your Social Life and Relationships
53.What was your first date like for you?
54.How old were you with your first sexual experience? And first
intercourse?
55.How many sexual partners have you had over time? And
what is your sexual preference or orientation? (heterosexual,
homosexual, bisexual)
56.Describe your partner’s personality and your relationship.
Aggressive, passive, abusive, caring, other? And describe
previous meaningful relationships, their personalities, and
why they ended.
Your Legalities, Use of Substances, Financial
Situation
57.Have you had any past arrests, warrants, charges, suits
against you? How old were you and what were they about?
58.What amount of debt do you have?
59.Any drug or alcohol use? Why do you use it? Has anyone
complained that you use too much or too often?
Your Mood
60.Have you ever had suicidal thoughts at any time in your life?
How old were you? What happened?
61.What is your mood right now on a scale of zero (0) to 10,
with zero meaning ‘life is not worth living’ and 10 meaning
you are very optimistic and life is wonderful? What number
do you give your mood?
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Your Final Thoughts and Understandings
63.What are your greatest strengths? And what skills or abilities
do you currently have the most confidence in?
64.Having looked at your life from early days until now, what do
you think may have contributed most to your present
difficulties?
65.Of all the questions above, what has been most difficult for
you to face?
66.If you were to continue on a path of change and growth what
would you hope to achieve or what would be your goals in
counselling?
67.What has it been like completing your Life Story
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Reaching Agreement
Steps To Peace Through Creative Solution Development*
The process can involve a single individual, a couple, two or more
parties having issues, or a large group, and moves beyond control
to mutual agreement or majority decision. Explain that the process
depends upon acceptance of the following guidelines by all
participants:
1. Do not judge, criticize, or evaluate any ideas as you engage in
the solution development process.
2. Do not use attempts to exercise power or control of any kind:
such as anger, yelling, name-calling, put-downs, threats or
intimidation or manipulation.
Step One: Identifying Issues
1. The facilitator invites participants to say “what issues and
challenges need to be addressed.”
2. The facilitator writes these issues in a numbered list on a chalk
board or flip chart.
(As the issues are being stated, the facilitator uses reflective
listening as needed in order to clarify meaning. In the event a
strong emotion is expressed or a participant becomes too verbal,
the facilitator uses reflective statements, checks if the person feels
understood, then directs the participants back to the issue.)
3. The facilitator then asks members to say the number of one of
the listed issues that he thinks needs to be addressed first.
4. The facilitator makes a tick by the number of each listed issue
selected by participants, then circles the one with the most ticks;
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Step Two: Creating Solutions
1. Writing the issue on the chalkboard or flipchart, the facilitator
makes a numbered list below it and says, “Now I would like us to
brainstorm as many solutions for this issue as you can think of, and
as you state them I will write them down on this list without
judgment, criticism or discussion.”
2. To increase the number of ideas and with writing material, large
groups can break into small groups or dyads and brainstorm using
the following statements presented by the facilitator:
a. Let’s write down what’s happening now, because that is
always a choice.
b. What’s the opposite of what’s happening now?
c. What is a fantasy of what you might like to see happen but
you don’t think is possible?
d. Think of an approach that seems silly or ridiculous.
e. Imagine what someone you respect (a relative or other wise
person) might say as a solution.
f. I can think of a possible solution that would work well and
that no one has mentioned. Can anyone quess what it is?
(the facilitator writes down ideas the participants’ guesses)
g. My idea is ...... (facilitator adds his or her solution to the
numbered list)
Step Three: Reaching A Creative Agreement
1. The facilitator says: “Now using your writing material, I would like
each of you to take a separate sheet of paper and privately write
down the number of up to three of the listed possible solutions or
approaches that you think would be most practical or workable to
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2. The facilitator says: “Now tell me the number of the listed
solutions you have chosen, and I will make a tick by each of the
solutions.”
3. The three solutions most selected by the participants become the
creative agreement or solution strategy for the issue addressed.
4. Depending on the issue, volunteers can be invited and a time
can be determined to implement the strategy or action plan.
5. Repeat Step Two and Step Three for the second, third, fourth,
etc. issue selected most often by the participants.
*If the conflict is related to differences in philosophy, religion,
personal taste, or if agreement cannot be reached, the following
approaches may provide a solution: agree to disagree, flip a coin,
take turns or agree to separate or alternating action plans,
implement trial time periods to try different plans, or return to the
above process.
Additional information is found in the practical manual How To Do
Professional Mental Health Counseling.

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Your Spirituality Score
Spirituality provides values and beliefs for making healthy choices, a foundation of hope and meaning for
direction and optimism, and support and encouragement to face major life difficulties.
Strengthening your spiritual growth and awareness can set you on a path to find inner peace, physical
and mental healing, and personal fulfillment.
Your Spirituality Score is based on how many questions of the total for which you can provide a
confident answer, rather than saying, “I don’t know.” Responses can be written, verbal, or mental, but
written may be beneficial for most people.
1. What is your age, gender, and ethnic/race origin?
2. What were the spiritual/religious views of your father? Your
mother?
3. How has your spirituality changed from your childhood until now?
4. Is there anything more than the material universe? Do you
believe anything is true that you cannot personally and directly
perceive with your five senses? Explain.
5. Do you believe intelligence and creativity exist in the universe?
Explain.
6. Do you believe in the existence of a transcendent intelligence or
superior reasoning power? Explain why or why not.
7. Do you see evidence of creative intelligence in the design and
complexity of the universe or do you lean toward a material natural
explanation?
8. Do you believe all human beings have equal worth and value?
Explain why or why not? What are the implications?
9. Do you believe the human species has greater or superior value
or greater importance or more responsibility compared to other life
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10. What is the meaning or purpose of human existence?
11. How do you know what is right and wrong?
12. What is the most important thing you can do with your life?
13. Is hope important? Explain.
14. What happens after you die? Does your individual identity or
consciousness continue to exist? What are the implications?
15. Is the idea of the meaning of human life essential to the idea of
hope? Explain.
16. Is the idea of right and wrong essential to the idea of meaning?
Explain.
17. What have been some of the most important influences on you
for what you value and believe?
18. What spiritual practices do you have? Prayer, centering prayer,
meditation, scripture reading, worship, singing, other.
19. Does moral accountability only happen within the legal systems
of nations? Is there ultimate accountability in a venue after death?
What are the implications?
20. If people are reborn into new lives, what if anything determines
the nature or quality of their existence? What are the implications?
21. Comment on this statement: “Many people think only tangible
things are real, yet the same people admit intangible things are
most important: love, compassion, empathy, justice, morality,
consciousness, wisdom, human value, meaning of life, and
eternity... for without these, life is void and vain, and aspirations
mere illusions.”
22. Have you ever experienced what you believe to be a sign or
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23. What is your view of this statement? “Humans are spiritual
beings existing in physical bodies.”
24. Do you believe you have convincing evidence of spiritual
reality?
25. What is your idea of an ideal society? World? Life?
26. When does an individual human life begin?
27. What is the essence of the self?
28. Do you believe angels and demons exist?
29. Do you believe everyone after death goes to heaven or to hell?
30. Do you believe the superior reasoning power has ever
communicated with humanity?
31. How open are you to exploring different aspects of spirituality?
32. If you saw someone raise the dead, what would you think or
do?
33. If you saw a person die and then you saw him alive again a few
days later, what would you think or do?
34. Comment on the statement: “Humans are a parasite infestation
of the earth.”
35. How can you prove to anyone else that you are aware of
yourself, your own consciousness?
36. Describe a healthy relationship.
37. How important is your spirituality to your life? And do you want
your spirituality to increase or decrease?
38. If we are made in the image of God, what qualities do we share
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39. Read Isaiah, chapter 53, written in 700 BC. Who is being
described? See other amazing examples of future-telling here or
http://goo.gl/uM1e7p
40. Do you now belong to or have you thought of joining a spiritual
community to strengthen your values and beliefs for making healthy
choices, to acquire a foundation of hope and meaning for direction
and optimism, and to receive support and encouragement to face
major life difficulties?
41. How has this questionnaire affected your awareness of your
belief in non-material things?
Final instructions: Count the number of questions for which you
struggled to give a sincere answer, and then subtract the number
from the number 41. The answer is your Spirituality Score.
How to use this assessment: Whatever your score may be, give
further consideration to questions you are unsure about or for which
you have difficulty giving a response.
Calculating Your Spirituality Score
1. Make a mark indicating any question for which you feel
unable to give a satisfactory answer or that you find especially
challenging.
2. Add the number of marks in #1 and subtract this number
from 41.
3. The answer to #2 is your Spirituality Score.
NOTE: This score and your answers to questions are to
be used only by you and anyone to whom you grant
permission.
Total number of questions 41
Number of difficult questions
Your Spirituality Score

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Counseling for Depression
By Daniel Keeran, MSW
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Depression can be caused by chemical changes in the body,
physical illness, and different types of loss. Very often, depression
and anxiety are the result of self-defeating life patterns forming
unhealthy neural pathways that can be healed by incorporating
caring self-talk and by supporting self-worth and assertiveness. We
tend to do to ourselves and to others that which was done to us in
childhood. Now as adults we must give to ourselves all the healthy
things we needed from healthy parents. Here are some things to do
to change the inner-dialogue foundations of depression and
anxiety:
Step 1. Write down the negative things you think about
yourself, others, and your circumstances.
This activity will bring to your conscious awareness the negative
thinking and self-talk that is common to many kinds of depression
and anxiety. The negative and self-critical self-talk demoralizes the
ego and manifests as feeling down, blue, sad, anxious, fearful and
self-doubting. This low mood and anxiety then affect sleeping,
eating, and low energy. Common examples of negative self-talk
are: I am incapable, I can't do it, I am unlovable, I am a failure, I
failed again, I can't do it, No one wants to talk to me, No one cares
about me, etc.
Step 2. Write down statements that are self-caring, nurturing,
reassuring, supportive, and validating.
This exercise helps to identify the opposites of the negative self-
talk: I can do it, I have strengths and abilities, I am caring and kind,
I can get what I need and want, I deserve to be happy, I can
succeed, I am just as important and valuable as anyone else, My
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Step 3. Write down negative things parents said or
communicated to you when you were growing up.
Here you can write down what you thought parents felt about you
by what they said or did such as: I wish you were never born, I do
not like you, I do not care about you, I care about alcohol more than
I care about you, I do not want to be around you, You are in the
way, You are a bother, You should be seen but not heard, You
can’t do that, You could have done better, You will never amount to
anything, Don’t cry, etc.
Step 4. Write down things you needed or wanted parents to
say to you as a child.
Here you can write the things you wanted or needed parents to say
or do such as: I love you no matter what happens, I am so glad you
are in my life, You can succeed, It's OK to cry when you're hurt,
Everything will be OK, I felt the same as you sometimes, Imagine
the possibilities. You are good at that, You are so helpful, You are
so kind and caring, etc.
Step 5. Write down what you would do or say if you saw
another child being treated the way you were treated in #3.
If you heard someone say mean things to a child or slap a child,
what would you say? Maybe you would say things like: You have
no right to say that, Be nice to the child, The child needs your love,
You need to support your child and be reassuring and caring and
loving and affectionate, You need to be encouraging, etc.
Step 6. If you had all the positive things as a child that you
needed from healthy parents, how do you imagine your life
might be different today?
If your parents had said encouraging, caring, and supportive things
to you as a child, how do you imagine your life might be different
today? This step helps you formulate and create a vision for how
your life can be different in a healthy way. Depression that comes
from negative self-talk is a form of self-abandonment and self-
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and suicidal thinking. Conversely, hope, optimism, self-worth, and
self-confidence form the basis of a stable mood and sense of
security, safety, confidence, well-being, inner peace, personal
power, and happiness.
Step 7. Now you must be for yourself all the things that you
needed your parents to be for you: encouraging, nurturing,
loving, caring, supportive, and reassuring.
This means you need to say to yourself and be for yourself all the
positive things you needed from healthy parents. If no one else can
give you the caring that you need, who does that leave? Ultimately,
you are the one who must care for you. So this means you must
choose healthy people to be in your life, and you must be
supportive of yourself and of that other healthy caring person you
have chosen to be in your life. In this way you will be caring of
yourself. Another important piece is to stand up for yourself and
support yourself when you are treated badly by others.
Step 8. You must be assertive.
Stand up for yourself by saying things like: I don't like your tone, I
deserve more respect than that, I deserve a raise in salary, I feel
annoyed when...., etc. Take care of that little boy or girl who was
abused and mistreated. That little boy or girl is still inside you and
needs your protection. Be for yourself now what you needed then
as a child. Will you stand up for him or her? When will you start?

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The Angel View
from Daniel Keeran, MSW
College of Mental Health Counselling
When depressed some years ago because of a painful loss, I was
sinking and stuck in despair. Then I thought that the angels are
watching, looking down from above, and able to see my life from
beginning to end. They can see the valleys and mountains of my
life, and they are wondering how I will face the present challenge.
Will I be stopped and give up, defeated? Or will I move forward and
on to the next challenge?
On realizing this and seeing my life from beginning to end, I
understood that life is an adventure with obstacles and
opportunities, mountains and valleys. I concluded that my life will
change if I can persevere. I saw that the sense of loss and
depression were only temporary and that other challenges await.
When I saw the angel view, my depression lifted, and I felt free to
go forward in my life knowing that I am able to move through the
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PracticingthePresenceofGod
Spiritual Mindfulness
by Daniel Keeran, MSW,
College of Mental Health Counselling
1 John 3:6
...and people who stay one in their hearts with him won’t keep on sinning.
If they do keep on sinning, they don’t know Christ, and they have never seen him
Contemporary English Version (CEV)
Spiritual Mindfulness definition: Focusing one’s conscious awareness upon
the attributes and thoughts of God as fully present in the current moment.
“Where is God? I don’t see any God. Show me God, and I will
believe.”
How many times have you heard this? And maybe you are hearing
it more as time goes by. We all have friends or family members
who doubt that God exists, and sometimes you may have doubts
about God’s presence or sometimes you may feel very distant from
God or may simply not be aware of his presence.
Peter says our confidence is not about seeing Him but about loving
and believing in Him.
1 Peter 1:7-9 “Though you have not seen him, you love him;
and even though you do not see him now, you believe in him
and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy, for you are
receiving the goal of your faith, the salvation of your souls.”
The difference between a secular mindset and a sacred mindset is
that in the secular life, one engages in daily life disconnected and
without awareness of God. In the sacred life, one engages in daily
life with a strong awareness of God. In the sacred life, the child of
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spiritual and says, “The God of the universe who holds everything
together is fully and personally present right here, right now.”
When you read sacred scripture, you are struck in every verse by
the writers’ constant awareness of God. This is in stark contrast
with the secular life in which one merely seeks the good life in
harmony with one’s neighbour but without any awareness of God.
When a child is very young she is aware of God, then from pre-
school to university, the secular worldview is taught, and the
secular media and the secular workplace prohibit God, or place
faith in a negative light. So the faith community is an oasis where
we fill up on God. Then we leave the community, the secular chains
go back on, and God is left behind. Is that what happens?
To live spiritually and to break off the secular chains, believe God
is always present, always caring, always guiding and directing
and nurturing, always eager to hear from you, always
forgiving, always loving, always reaching out to you, always
watching and waiting for you to turn to him, and when you do
turn to God, he sings and rejoices over you. Do you believe
it?
If you believe it, you can know it, then you can see God at work
everywhere and hear God’s constant reassurance and
encouragement.
Psalm 139:7-10 “Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee
from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I
make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of
the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand
will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.”
God is present and near to you right here, right now. What
emotions do you feel? If you believe it you can see and feel God
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God loves you and He is so proud of you.
Zephaniah 3:17 “The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to
save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his
love, he will rejoice over you with singing."
Listen to God singing and rejoicing over you. What do you feel?
Maybe you feel so loved, so accepted, so cared for by the Creator
of the universe that you think for a moment it could last forever,
and that is exactly what God wants for you.
Psalm 147:11 “The LORD delights in those who fear him, who put
their hope in his unfailing love.”
Believe the Lord is proud of you. What do you feel? Yes, God is
proud of you. Maybe you feel peaceful and happy, a sense of deep
contentment. This picture of delight the Father feels about you is
described in the story of the prodigal son.
Luke 15:20-23 “So he got up and went to his father. But while he
was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with
compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around
him and kissed him. The son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned
against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called
your son.' But the father said to his servants, 'Quick! Bring the best
robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his
feet. Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let's have a feast and
celebrate. For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he
was lost and is found.' So they began to celebrate.”
If you believe God delights in you, loves you, and rejoices in song
over you, then you can see and hear God with the eyes and
ears of your heart. Can you begin to see and hear God and sense
his constant presence and love for you?
Suppose God told someone to write a note and give it to you
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you right now and I want you to know that I love and care
about you and that I am working in your life to make good
things happen.” How would you feel if you received that note?
Wouldn’t it be wonderful? Wouldn’t you feel special and
confident and have such peace that would never fade away?
God has written such a note. It’s called the Bible...the holy
scriptures. It’s a bit longer than a note.
Psalm 119:64 “The earth is filled with your love, O LORD; teach
me your decrees.” If you believe, you can know, and then you can
see the evidence of God’s love everywhere. Look around the room.
See those in whom the Spirit lives. See all the gifts of God around
you.
2 Corinthians 5:16 “So from now on we regard no one from a
worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this
way, we do so no longer.”
God works directly in your life.
to make everything work for your good and for his purposes.
Psalm 138:8 “The LORD will fulfill his purpose for me; your love,
O LORD, endures forever....” God is making things happen in your
life to serve his purposes. You do believe God will fulfill his purpose
for you. You do feel his constant enduring love for you.
Psalm 145:20 “The LORD watches over all who love him...” You
do believe God watches over you. God is looking at you right
now, right here. Do you know it? What emotion comes up inside
you right now as you sense God’s attention focused on you? Does
it make you want to smile?
Romans 8:28 “And we know that all things work together for good
to them that love God, to them who are the called according to
his purpose.” You have the confidence that God is working in your
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tragedy. Look for ways God is working in your life and give thanks
in everything, knowing God is working in all things for your good.
Proverbs 16:9 “In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD
determines his steps.”
Ephesians 5:20 “always giving thanks to God the Father for
everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
Remember the words of Job: “The Lord gives and the Lord takes
away. Blessed is the name of the Lord.” And “Even if the Lord slays
me, yet will I serve him.” You can have the faith of Job. You can
feel those chains of doubt and unbelief falling away.
God will always love you and nothing will ever change that. You
are surrounded by his love and that will never change.
God’s own love has been poured into our hearts.
Romans 5:5 “God has poured out his love into our hearts by the
Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.”
If you believe God’s love is in you, then you can love everyone
as God loves. Remember that God loves the world so much that
he gave Jesus to suffer and die and take away the sins of the
world. What a wonderful gift to have inside you! God’s own love.
Romans 8:35-39 “Who shall separate us from the love of
Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or
nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written: ‘For your sake we
face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be
slaughtered.’ No, in all these things we are more than conquerors
through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death
nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the
future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else
in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that
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Faith is how we enter into eternal reality;
how we come to God.
Today I want you to be aware of God’s presence and nearness.
God is Spirit, so you cannot see Him with your physical eyes, but
you can see God with the eyes of your heart, the eyes of faith. You
can believe and know that God is near you and in you. Then
knowing this, you can look at God and see God looking back at
you. You can speak to God and hear God speaking to you. God is
always speaking and saying more than you can hear. Your
mind and heart cannot possibly contain or hear all that God is
saying. Can your mind contain all that is written? His word is living
and active. Your heart must be selective because if you heard all
that God is saying to you, you would be overwhelmed. The more
of God’s word you know, the more you will be able to hear
what God is saying to you personally.
2 Corinthians 4:18 “So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but
on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is
unseen is eternal.”
Things that are seen are temporary but things unseen are
eternal. So through every word of God, that Jesus says we live by,
we know about God and about his relationship with us. So when we
read or hear God’s word, we believe it, and by this we know God,
see God, and hear God, not with physical eyes and ears but by
the eyes and ears of our hearts, the eyes and ears of faith.
Jesus made this direct reference when he said, “Having eyes they
see not and ears they hear not”....he’s talking about having the
eyes and ears of faith.
Being aware of God requires engaging in certain kinds of
activity that encourage faith. Our physical eyes see material
things, and so God is often not in our minds. The saying “out of
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physical eyes, God is not in our mind. Yet God is always present,
and so we must encourage one another to be aware of God’s
presence by talking about spiritual things and listening to
spiritual teaching, singing praises and spiritual songs, and
reading God’s word.
We are made alive.
Since we walk around and breathe in these bodies, we naturally
think we are alive. The following words must be taken to mean we
are made alive (with Christ) in a spiritual way for the forgiven of
sins, and this is associated with the act of baptism (overwhelmed
with physical water) when it is done as a conscious act of faith:
Colossians 2:12-13 “….having been buried with him in baptism,
in which you were also raised with him through your faith in
the working of God, who raised him from the dead. When you were
dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your flesh, God
made you alive with Christ. He forgave us all our sins….”
Identical terms are used in Ephesians 2:4-6, but without a direct
mention of baptism:
“But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy,
made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in
transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. And God
raised us up with Christ….”
Why doesn’t God just show himself, or work a miracle, or
shout with a booming voice from the sky?
1 Corinthians 1:22-24 “Jews demand miraculous signs and
Greeks look for wisdom, but we preach Christ crucified: a
stumbling block to Jews and foolishness to Gentiles, but to those
whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of
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Hebrews 11:6 “And without faith it is impossible to please God,
because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and
that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.”
“The just shall live by faith” Romans 1:17, and by this faith we
know God, we know his presence, we know his love. If God’s word
says it, then we know it is real even if we do not see with our
physical eyes.
Faith says: James 4:8 “Come near to God and he will come near
to you.” Believe and know that God is near you right now. What
emotions are you feeling? Maybe a little anxious but also loved and
assured.
Faith says: Hebrews 10:22 “let us draw near to God with a
sincere heart in full assurance of faith...”
Faith says: 1 John 4:12 “No one has ever seen God; but if we love
one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”
Faith says: Acts 17:27-28 “...reach out for him and find him, though
he is not far from each one of us. 'For in him we live and move
and have our being.' As some of your own poets have said, 'We are
his offspring.' “ Your life depends upon God. God gave us the spirit
of life in each of us, and he is near you right now. Know and feel
the presence of God right now.
Faith says: John 14:23 Jesus replied, "If anyone loves me, he will
obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to
him and make our home with him.” You follow his teaching. You
are living in the center of his will and trusting his grace. Then you
know God is with you right now, and when you sleep, when you go
about your daily activities, in every moment God is present and
living with you and in you because “your body is a temple of the
Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God”
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Faith says: 2 Cor.1:3-7 “Praise be to the God and Father of our
Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all
comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can
comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have
received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into
our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows.”
Believe God cares about you so much that he is here right now
to comfort you, to reassure you, to let you know that he is
working everything out for your good. He is the God of all
comfort for every kind of trouble.
Faith says: Psalm 23:4 “Even though I walk through the valley of
the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your
rod and your staff, they comfort me.”
Do you know Christ?
Paul says in Philippians 3:10 I want to know Christ and the power
of His resurrection and the fellowship of His sufferings, being
conformed to Him in His death, so that I may somehow attain to the
resurrection from the dead.
In Hebrews 1:1-3 we find these wonderful words: After God spoke
long ago in various portions and in various ways to our ancestors
through the prophets, in these last days he has spoken to us in a
son, whom he appointed heir of all things, and through whom
he created the world. The Son is the radiance of his glory and the
representation of his essence, and he sustains all things by his
powerful word, and so when he had accomplished cleansing for
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The Spirit of God can live within.
In order to have the Spirit of God living within, one must live
according to or bear the fruits of the Spirit.
Romans 8:5-11 Those who live according to the flesh have their
minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in
accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the
Spirit desires. The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the
mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace. The mind governed
by the flesh is hostile to God; it does not submit to God’s law, nor
can it do so. Those who are in the realm of the flesh cannot please
God. You, however, are not in the realm of the flesh but are in the
realm of the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God lives in you. And if
anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, they do not belong to
Christ. But if Christ is in you, then even though your body is subject
to death because of sin, the Spirit gives life because of
righteousness. And if the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from
the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will
also give life to your mortal bodies because of his Spirit who lives in
you.
Galatians 5:22-25 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,
forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and
self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who
belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its
passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in
step with the Spirit.
Have you seen Jesus our Lord?
Matthew 25:39-41 ‘When did we see you sick or in prison and go to
visit you?' He will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for
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I like this fictional version of the one element of the good
Samaritan, also called the 4th wise man. The story is that there was
a 4th wise man but he became ill and could not go with the other
three to see the baby Jesus and to lay their gifts at his feet. So they
left without him. Then when he was feeling better the wise man
started out to take his precious jewel as a gift for the new Saviour
King of Israel. But on his way, he met a poor dying beggar, so he
sold the jewel to buy the beggar some food shelter and clothing,
then came a leper, then a man robbed and left for dead, and after
many years he had spent all he had on caring for those in need.
Many years later, he was in Jerusalem and heard that Jesus was
condemned to be crucified. The wise man hurried to see Jesus
carrying his cross. Jesus looked at the wise man and smiled.
When you see the homeless or anyone in trouble, draw near to
them, attend to them, and then you will draw near to Jesus. Don’t
walk by on the other side.
Who is this God?
John 1:3 “Through him all things were made; without him nothing
was made that has been made.” The universe from the smallest
atom or single-cell organism to the vastness of space and billions of
galaxies...He made it all.
Colossians 1:17 “He is before all things, and in him all things hold
together.”
When you think about God being present, think about who God
is. Then think about his promise to be near you and words of
faith that this God is really present in you and with you.
This almighty all-powerful creator God who holds everything
together is sitting right next to you right now. Look at him with
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Then listen with the ears of faith. God is always speaking to you
more than you can possibly hear.
What is God saying?
I love you more than you can imagine. I care about you. I know you
better than you know yourself, and I will always give you what you
need. I love you so much that I suffered and died and took all your
sins and punishment upon myself. I forgive you. I forgave you when
you were immersed into Jesus for the forgiveness of your sins as
my servant Peter spoke in Acts 2:38.
Psalm 139:1-4 “O LORD, you have searched me and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts
from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are
familiar with all my ways. Before a word is on my tongue you
know it completely, O LORD.” God knows you personally and
intimately. He knows you far better than you know yourself.
Matthew 10:30 “And even the very hairs of your head are all
numbered.” Does anyone here know how many hairs are on your
head? That’s just a tiny example of how thoroughly God knows
you.
Matthew 6:8 “...for your Father knows what you need before you
ask him.” You don’t have to worry about what you need. God
already knows what you need and what is best for you.
God says, I will make good things happen from suffering. I will
comfort and guide you when you trust me.
Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart; and lean not
on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and
he will direct your paths.”
God says, ask me for anything and I will do it when you want
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to humbly say, “Lord I ask this only if it serves your purpose and
gives you glory, because otherwise I don’t want it.”
God says, when you ask for my forgiveness, you know that I will
forgive you and will not be angry with you.
God is eager to hear from you.
God is eagerly waiting for your conversation. Talk to him now and
often.
“I love you Lord, and I give my life to serve and worship you. Thank
you for always being here for me. Thank you for my life, and for my
health. I depend on you for everything. Help me to always
remember to talk to you and to serve you. Give me wisdom to do
great things for you my Lord. Open doors for me. Make things
happen and give me opportunities to share your love and
forgiveness with the lost and hurting around me.”
Psalm 42:8 “By day the LORD directs his love, at night his song is
with me— a prayer to the God of my life.” Remember God’s love
directed toward you today.
1 Peter 3:12 “For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and
his ears are attentive to their prayer...” Remember God is present,
watching and waiting for you to speak to him.
James 4:2 “You do not have, because you do not ask God.” He
is ready to answer your prayer.
1 John 5:14 “This is the confidence we have in approaching
God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.
And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that
we have what we asked of him.”
God says we can go to him with confidence that he will answer
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James 1:5-7” If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God,
who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be
given to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt,
because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed
by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything
from the Lord.”
Are you confused about what to do? Ask the Lord for wisdom, and
know that you will receive it.
Psalm 16:7 “I will praise the LORD, who counsels me; even at
night my heart instructs me.” When you lie awake at night, listen for
counsel from the Lord.
Spiritual Practice
Here is an example of what you can say to come near to God in
faith.
First, remind yourself:
“God made the universe and holds everything together. Jesus
promised to make his home with me. God is always near and
present because I live and move in God who is all around me. This
God is here now, near me and seeing me, and eager to hear from
me. Now in faith believing and knowing God is as close as my
breath, I can hear his voice loving and forgiving me. I know that I
can tell him what I feel and what I want to do, and he will do it if it
will serve his purpose and glorify him because that’s all I ever want
to do.”
Then think something like:
“Thank you, God. I know you are here right now. God, use me up.
Show me things that will encourage others and serve your purpose.
Thank you for always being with me to guide me and make good
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do doubt, I know you will still be there patiently and eagerly waiting
for me. In Jesus’ precious name. Amen.”

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SIXTEEN GUIDELINES FOR ANGER!
from the College of Mental Health Counselling
by Daniel Keeran, MSW
People abused by angry discipline as children, may tend to abuse
or overly punish other people or themselves for perceived wrongs
in their adult life. In some individuals, aggressive personality traits
may be genetically inherited.
Anger is a normal human emotion, and these guidelines can help
express anger in a healthy way:
1. no yelling
2. no name-calling
3. no humiliating or demeaning sarcasm
4. no threatening behaviour
5. no pointing your finger or standing over a person
6. no physical anger
7. no obscene language; no profanity
8. no long punishing lectures or emails
9. no dominating conversations
10. use only assertive forms of expression: "I feel angry when
you....(observed description of behaviour)"
11. no long punishing silences
12. no passively-aggressive anger, e.g. burning dinner
13. no humiliating sarcasm
14. no serial accusations or criticisms
15. no getting back or getting even or taking revenge
16. no angry discipline

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Thirty-Five Positive Suggestions
for Ego Strength
by Daniel Keeran, MSW, President,
College of Mental Health Counselling,
Victoria, Canada
YOU ARE OPEN TO INFORMATION IN YOUR SEARCH FOR MEANING
Different personalities may require different approaches. The self-absorbed
person may need “constructive feedback” while the one with low self-esteem
may benefit from positive suggestions. People tend to become more of a positive
quality and the sense of self-worth is strengthened when you commend their
positive quality. The encourager looks for positive qualities already existing in
the person, that can be nurtured and strengthened. The person being
encouraged must perceive your sincerity, and giving an example as proof of a
quality, increases the therapeutic effect. The person you commend feels a
desire to fulfill the expectation of the positive quality you acknowledge in
them.
The intentional use of positive statements for a predictable benefit, can
accurately be termed “Positive Suggestion Therapy,” and the reader can add
more examples to values listed here:
1. “You are a kind and considerate person, yet balanced, often
thinking of others while supporting yourself in the process.”
2. “You are very loyal and responsible. If you commit to a task,
you can be trusted to fulfill it.”
3. “You are honest and transparent. For you, personal integrity is
a greater treasure than immense material wealth.”
4. “You think of the needs of others, and you look for ways to
help people thrive.”
5. “You speak up for yourself and for people who cannot speak
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6. “You possess a high level of self-awareness, and you can be very
positive, supportive, and encouraging of other people as well.”
7. “Your knowledge and intelligence are assets that you use for
the good of others and yourself.”
8. “Your creative ability is obvious from your thinking patterns
requiring many aspects to be organized.”
9. “Your compassion is apparent from the way you care for
others.”
10.“Your insight and self-awareness help you understand your
patterns in life and how they work for you and against you,
and how you can heal and find solutions, and how to create
your own positive suggestions.”
11.“You are making important contributions to the improvement
of your own life and of the well-being of others.”
12.“What are some examples of strengths or positive things about
you that people sometimes, or perhaps often, overlook?”
13.“Your interest in spiritual things gives depth, inner peace,
meaning, hope, and health to your life and the people whose
lives you touch.”
14.“What qualities do you see in yourself and others that you
think are important or helpful?”
15.“You are a kind and generous person.”
16.“You are sensitive to others needs and feelings.”
17.“You are very respectful of others, and people know you value
them.”
18.“You are gentle even with those who oppose you.”
19.“You possess empathic ability and connect well with others
emotions.”
20.“You listen well to others.”
21.“You are very patient.”
22.“You are slow to become angry or irritated and you never
intentionally hurt others.”
23.“If you have a need or emotion, you are able to let people
know in a respectful way.”
24.“You are interested in getting to the truth and telling others
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25.“Your honesty is what helps people trust you.”
26.“You can keep a secret when asked to do so.”
27.“You won’t let yourself be walked on or taken advantage of.”
28.“You like to have order but not by demanding, controlling or
intimidating others.”
29.“You encourage others by acknowledging their positive
qualities.”
30.“You are emotionally available when people near you need
your support.”
31.“You place people above things as a basic value or belief.”
32.“You have effective practical approaches to problems.”
33.“You are not defensive in the face of criticism but rather accept
as much responsibility as you can for what others accuse you.”
34.“You express gratitude and appreciation for what others do for
you.”
35.“You give hope by creating choices and keeping an optimistic
outlook when challenges arise.”

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MEANING THERAPY by Daniel Keeran
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Table of Contents
Introduction 9
Jesus of Nazareth: Who Do You Say I Am? 11
WANTED: Jesus Christ (poster) 13
Evidences of Jesus the Messiah 15
What Will You Do? 23
The Way of the Cross 25
Love 29
The Love of God: A Meditation 31
Nonviolence in Early Christian Thought 35
Decisions for the Poor 43
Jesus and the Early Church on Wealth 53
Are the Teachings of Jesus Relevant Today? 59
Meanings of the Cross 67
Practicing the Presence of God 71

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Introduction
If the contents of this book are true, there can be no doubt
about the meaning of life.
Understanding the meaning of life is the human quest and
forms a foundation for psychological well-being.
The purpose of religious and philosophical systems is to
provide or explore a comprehensive meaning of life including
values and beliefs often taken for granted by socialized
individuals.
A clearer understanding of these values and beliefs and
assisting individuals to engage in this process of clarification,
can help to form a foundation for mental health and can be
accurately described as Meaning Therapy.
The presentation given here is intended to introduce the values
and beliefs given by Jesus of Nazareth, and his earliest
followers, who is arguably the most influential Meaning
Therapist in human history.
Simply reading this content in its entirety (and related links), will
define your positive identity and positive feelings about yourself
and others if you choose.
The results include hope for the future, values for healthy living,
and support to face challenges and losses common to
humanity.

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JesusofNazareth
“Who do you say I am?”
Legend, Liar, Lunatic, or Lord?
Corroborating witnesses report that Jesus of Nazareth was born of a virgin,
changed water to wine, made the blind see, healed the lame, raised the dead,
walked on water, calmed the storm, fed 5,000 people with five loaves and two
fishes, rose from the dead, and ascended to heaven. According to witnesses
and contemporary biographers, this Jesus also made the following claims:
I have always existed. John 8:58; 17:5
I am the First and the Last. Revelation 1:17
I hold the keys to death. Revelation 1:18
I have never sinned. John 8:46
I have all authority on heaven and earth. Matthew 28:18
I and the Father are one. John 10:30
I must be placed above your family. Matthew 10:37
I have authority to forgive sins. Mark 2: 5-12
I am the light of the world. John 8:12
I am prophesied about in the Scriptures. Luke 24:25-27
I am from heaven. John 8:23
I will be resurrected. Mark 8:31
I am the bread of life. John 6:35
I will send the Spirit of God Almighty. John 16:7
I am coming again to the earth. Revelation 22:20
I am a king but not of this world. John 18:37
I came to give life. John 5:24; John 10:10
I am the one through whom you must pray. John 16:23-24
I raise the dead and heal diseases. John 11:38-44; Luke 13:32
I will judge the world on Judgment Day. John 5:22-30
The words I have spoken will condemn at the last day. John 12:47-48
I am the Son of God. Matthew 16:16-17
I will raise the dead at the end of time. John 5:28-29
I am the only way to God. John 14:6
My words will never pass away. Matthew 24:35
If you reject me, you reject God himself. Luke 10:16
-adapted by permission from Douglas A. Jacoby,
Compelling Evidence for God and the Bible*
How To Become A Christian

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Evidences of Jesus the
Messiah
"As to this salvation, the prophets who prophesied of the grace that
would come to you made careful searches and inquiries, seeking to
know what person or time the Spirit of Christ within them was
indicating as He predicted the sufferings of Christ and the glories to
follow. It was revealed to them that they were not serving themselves,
but you, in these things which now have been announced to you
through those who preached the gospel to you by the Holy Spirit sent
from heaven - things into which angels long to look." - 1 Peter 1:10-
12
The following details from eyewitnesses and their
assistants, selected below out of hundreds contained in
ancient Hebrew writings that pre-date Jesus, confirm his
identity as the Messiah, the promised one who would save
Israel as well as the Gentiles who turn to God.
1. He would be born in the town of Bethlehem.
- Micah 5:2 (700 BC) fulfilled in Matthew 2:1-6.
Micah 5:2 But you, Bethlehem Ephrathah, though you are
small among the clans of Judah, out of you will come for
me one who will be ruler over Israel, whose origins are
from of old, from ancient times.
Matthew 2:1-5 After Jesus was born in Bethlehem in
Judea, during the time of King Herod, Magi from the east
came to Jerusalem and asked, “Where is the one who has
been born king of the Jews? We saw his star when it rose
and have come to worship him.” When King Herod heard
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had called together all the people’s chief priests and
teachers of the law, he asked them where the Messiah was
to be born. “In Bethlehem in Judea,” they replied, “for this
is what the prophet has written…”
2. He would be born of a virgin.
- Isaiah 7:14 (700 BC) fulfilled in Matthew 1:18-25.
Isaiah 7:14 Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign:
The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son and will call
him Immanuel.
Matthew 1:18 This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah
came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married
to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found
to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit.
3. He would perform miracles.
– Isaiah 35:5-6 (700 BC) fulfilled in all the gospel accounts.
Isaiah 35:5-6 Then will the eyes of the blind be opened and
the ears of the deaf unstopped. Then will the lame leap
like a deer, and the mute tongue shout for joy.
4. He would calm the storm.
- Psalm 107:29 (1000 BC) fulfilled in Mark 4:39.
Psalm 107:29 He stilled the storm to a whisper; the waves
of the sea were hushed.
Mark 4:39 He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the
waves, “Quiet! Be still!” Then the wind died down and it
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5. He would speak in parables.
– Psalm 78:2 (1000 BC) fulfilled in Mark 4:34.
Psalm 78:2 I will open my mouth with a parable; I will utter
hidden things, things from of old.
Mark 4:34 He did not say anything to them without using a
parable. But when he was alone with his own disciples, he
explained everything.
6. He would enter Jerusalem as a lowly king on a donkey.
– Zechariah 9:9 (500 BC) fulfilled in Matthew 21:6-9.
Zechariah 9:9 Rejoice greatly, Daughter Zion! Shout,
Daughter Jerusalem! See, your king comes to you,
righteous and victorious, lowly and riding on a donkey, on
a colt, the foal of a donkey.
Matthew 21:6-8 The disciples went and did as Jesus had
instructed them. They brought the donkey and the colt
and placed their cloaks on them for Jesus to sit on. A very
large crowd spread their cloaks on the road, while others
cut branches from the trees and spread them on the road.
7. The price of his betrayal would be thirty pieces of
silver. – Zechariah 11:12-13 (500 BC) fulfilled in Matthew
26:14-15 and Matthew 27:3-10.
Zechariah 11:12-13 I told them, “If you think it best, give
me my pay; but if not, keep it.” So they paid me thirty
pieces of silver. And the Lord said to me, “Throw it to the
potter”—the handsome price at which they valued me! So
I took the thirty pieces of silver and threw them to the
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Matthew 26:14-15 Then one of the Twelve—the one called
Judas Iscariot—went to the chief priests and asked, “What
are you willing to give me if I deliver him over to you?” So
they counted out for him thirty pieces of silver.
Matthew 27:3-10 When Judas, who had betrayed him, saw
that Jesus was condemned, he was seized with remorse
and returned the thirty pieces of silver to the chief priests
and the elders. “I have sinned,” he said, “for I have
betrayed innocent blood.”
“What is that to us?” they replied. “That’s your
responsibility.”
So Judas threw the money into the temple and left. Then
he went away and hanged himself. The chief priests picked
up the coins and said, “It is against the law to put this into
the treasury, since it is blood money.” So they decided to
use the money to buy the potter’s field as a burial place
for foreigners.
8. His death would be as a sacrificial lamb.
– Isaiah 53:5-8,10-11 (700 BC) fulfilled in John 1:29.
Isaiah 53:5-8 But he was pierced for our transgressions, he
was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that
brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are
healed. We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has
turned to our own way; and the Lord has laid on him the
iniquity of us all. He was oppressed and afflicted, yet he
did not open his mouth; he was led like a lamb to the
slaughter, and as a sheep before its shearers is silent, so he
did not open his mouth. By oppression and judgment he
was taken away. Yet who of his generation protested? For

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he was cut off from the land of the living; for the
transgression of my people he was punished.
John 1:29 The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him
and said, “Look, the Lamb of God, who takes away the sin
of the world!
9. Lots would be cast for his garment.
– Psalm 22:18 (1000 BC) fulfilled in John 19:23-24.
Psalm 22:18 They divide my clothes among them and cast
lots for my garment.
John 19:23-24 When the soldiers crucified Jesus, they took
his clothes, dividing them into four shares, one for each of
them, with the undergarment remaining. This garment was
seamless, woven in one piece from top to bottom. “Let’s
not tear it,” they said to one another. “Let’s decide by lot
who will get it.” This happened that the scripture might be
fulfilled that said, “They divided my clothes among them
and cast lots for my garment.” So this is what the soldiers
did.
10. Death by crucifixion: hands and feet pierced.
– Psalm 22:16 (1000 BC) fulfilled in Matthew 27:38.
Psalm 22:16 Dogs surround me, a pack of villains encircles
me; they pierce my hands and my feet.
John 20:25 So the other disciples told him, “We have seen
the Lord!” But he said to them, “Unless I see the nail marks
in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and
put my hand into his side, I will not believe.”

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