1. Who pays on the first date? http://www.flickr.com/ photos/joshuarhodes/3357 611013

2. The first date? http://www.flickr.com/photos/id-iom/3919531022

3. Dating double standards? ...a modern girl will end the evening with the Offering, an insincere bid to help pay the check. " They make like they are heading into their bag after a meal, but it is a dodge. They know you will stop them before a credit card can be drawn. If you don't, they hold it against you... " http://www.nytimes.com/2005/10/30/magazine/30feminism.html?pagewanted=all

4. There are only 3 positions...* Male pays 100% bill Go Dutch 50% 50% split Female pays 100% bill * For the purpose of the next 4mins, I will only refer to dating within a hetrosexual context However I understand this may well be very different in homosexual dating

5. What 100 random people think? Survey: completed in 19 mins, Nov 15 2011

6. The male pays... http://www.flickr.com/photos/rockygirl/109425823

7. Old fashioned values http://www.flickr.com/photos/integralfocus/5042789255

8. Make her feel desirable http://www.flickr.com/photos/ittoku/6034778598

9. Signaling romance http://www.flickr.com/photos/thomashawk/245769695

10. The female pays... http://www.flickr.com/photos/sashafatcat/3613417222/

11. Demostrating equality http://www.flickr.com/photos/geekstats/5355909980

12. Removing the expection http://www.flickr.com/photos/legsagain/4752764872

13. A soft feminist agenda? http://www.flickr.com/photos/kerryank/5507284193

14. Go dutch... http://www.flickr.com/photos/sfj/3495836366/

15. Evolution ahead of equality http://www.flickr.com/photos/pedrovezini/4718057173

16. Respect for each other http://www.flickr.com/photos/instantvantage/4853287010

17. Treat them another way http://www.flickr.com/photos/lastyearsgirl_/2125514574

18. What do you do? http://www.flickr.com/photos/jacobrixphotography/5754537100/

19. “ I reckon if I talk more I pay Other person talks more they pay Meeting of minds, the next table pays...” - Emma Mulqueeny @hubmum https://twitter.com/#!/hubmum/status/151061726731845633 http://www.flickr.com/photos/jacobrixphotography/5753990009

20. “ I suppose technically you split on the last date” - Mark Hendy @mrkhndy https://twitter.com/#!/mrkhndy/status/163642170828521472 http://www.flickr.com/photos/jacobrixphotography/5753990009

21. Thank you, any questions? Ian Forrester | c ubicgarden.com | ianforrester.org Presentation : CC BY-NC-SA