This is just tough to teach. 3 Lessons

1. SEXUAL MORALITY
George

2. THE WORLD WE LIVE IN
 We lived in a sex-charged society
 Numerous suggested sexual acts on media
 Human sexuality has prominent place
 Human sexuality is gift from God
 Strong relationship between husband and wife and
children
 State steps in when church and family fails

3. CHANGE IN SOCIAL NORMS
 Incest
 Adultery
 Divorce
 Life long monogamous marriage
 Cohabitation
 Friends with benefits

4. SEXUAL REVOLUTION
 Penicillin & the pill
 Infection, Detection and Conception
 1930 Anglican church approve birth control
 1980 Aids
 Introduction of TV and Internet
 Feminism

5. FACTORS INFLUENCING US
 Secularism
 Privatisation
 Media Exposure
 Scientific Frankness
 Therapeutic Values

6. STATISTICS
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7. 3 VIEWS ON PREMARITAL SEX
 Natural Impulse View
 Affection View
 Abstinence View

8. NATURAL IMPULSE VIEW
 Playboy View
 Sex is a natural impulse or instinct
 Contraceptives are easily available and reliable
 Sex is purely a pleasurable physical experience
 Just like good food and drink
 People should take pleasure without guilt

9. SUPPORT
 Sex is a natural impulse
 Rousseau argue society tainted man
 Return to natural is good
 Sexual repression is bad
 Mankind ought to maximise pleasure

10. OBJECTIONS
 Maximise pleasure is good?
 Return to nature is good?
 Reduced pleasure
 Possibility of pregnancy
 STD
 Casual or recreation sex lacks full meaning
 Deu 22:28-29, Prov 5, 7:25-27, 1Cor 5:9, 6:12-
20, Eph 5:3-5

11. AFFECTION VIEW
 Ethics of Intimacy
 Moderately positive towards marriage
 Sexual freedom is praised, guided by intimacy
 First be together, then marriage

12. SUPPORT
 Sexual intercourse,
 an expression of love and care
 Each partner retain his or her independence
 Right to intimacy created by compatibility
 Not covenant
 Sex is a private matter
 Sex can be no string attached
 No double standard in sex
 Sex demands maturity

13. OBJECTIONS
 Affection, love and imtimacy not strong
 To deal with impulse (walking lion)
 In passion of moment, anything is love
 Christian ethics place will not emotion
 At heart of human behaviour
 True intimacy is developed through
 persistence self sacrifice

14. MORE OBJECTIONS
 Sex act may over commit the couple
 Great sex not equal great marriage
 Premarital sex destroys something unique of
marriage

15. ABSTINENCE VIEW
 Most conservative view
 Either marriage, with complete faithfulness
 To your partner or else total abstinence
 Prohibition of sex outside marriage
 Will strengthen marriages.

16. SUPPORTS
 Bible
 Sex act involves whole person
 STD
 Pregnancies

17. OBJECTIONS
 Unwanted pregnancies
 Promises of lovers, private or public
 Late marriages – Education, housings, careers
 Failing view – teaching abstinence not successful

18. SEXUAL MORALITY WITHIN MARRIAGE
 Both OT and NT teach
 Procreative, monogamous marriage
 Sexuality is for more than reproduction
 It is for social and personal enrichment
 Song of Songs

19. EXTENDED TREATMENT IN NT
 1 Corinthians 7
 Sexual desire is a legitimate reason to marry
 Husband and wife have sexual duty
 Need mutual consent.
 Adultery is wrong in both OT and NT
 Marriage is commanded by God
 As a lifelong relationship.
 (So choose carefully)

20. LETS TALK ABOUT DATING
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21. HOW FAR CAN WE GO?
 Kissing?
 Hugging?
 Which base?
 Sex after marriage – a good line?
 Playing with fire.
 1 Cor 6:18

22. MASTURBATION
 Social scientists estimate up to 90% males
 Lower for female but majority do
 Survey show within happy marriage as well
 Christianity Today survey
 31% laypersons and 30% pastors OK
 32% laypersons and 35% pastors Wrong
 37% laypersons and 35% pastors Maybe

23. MODERN SCIENCE
 Does not cause insanity, sterility, birth defects ..
 May develop psychological disorder in extreme
case
 Some Christians are tolerant towards it.

24. CHRISTIAN VIEWS ON MASTURBATION
 It is always morally wrong.
 Always accompanied by lust.
 Often lead or followed by pornography
 Past view leads to insanity, sterility and ……
(Wrong)

25. HERBERT MILES
 Masturbation used sparingly
 Within limits, by teenage boys (Highly sexist)
 Until marriage is morally permissible.

26. ARGUMENT
 Practice is widespread, therefore need
 Sexual desire is strong in young boys.
 Girls not included.
 Must be sparing, not an obsession.
 Thank God for gift and fulfilling it later.
 Practice must ceased upon marriage.

27. OUR VIEW
 Bible never directly address this issue
 Application of biblical principles.
 Masturbation includes lust and
 Desire for another person (Not your wife)
 It is usually related to pornography
 It enslaving in nature!
 So should we encourage early marriage?

28. PORNOGRAPHY
 3 kinds
 Pictures – Playboy, Penthouse magazines
 Videos – Cat III, hard core video
 Literature – 50 Shades of Grey
 Only Literature is legal in Singapore
 Due to internet

29. BEFORE WE END IT, EXPLAIN IT
 Why is sex addictive?
 Dopamine, Oxytocin and Vasopressin
 Brain internal reward system
 Internal heroin
 Helps in bonding between husband and wife
 But clouds judgment when separating
 God created our body to bond
 With who we marry.

30. ETHICAL PROBLEM
 Widower with 2 young kids
 One autistic
 Met younger woman
 Woman don’t want to inherit kids
 Widower consider cohabitation
 What would you tell widower?
 Reject, Wait for marriage, Cohabitation