Six Signs That You Are In A Toxic Relationship will explain to you what you need to know in order to identify whether you are in a toxic, abusive relationship. This was written for all men and women who are unhappy in their relationship and confused by their partner's behavior. Some people may suspect they are in an unhealthy relationship and may not know what to do about it. Sometimes, victims of domestic violence are trapped in abusive relationships and feel their is no way out. This guide was written to make it clear whether your partner's behaviors are abusive and for people to be able to identify whether they are in a toxic relationship.

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3. Six Signs That You Are In A Toxic Relationship
Introduction
It is difficult to know whether you are in a toxic, abusive relationship when you are deeply in
love with your partner and do not want to believe that they can be an abuser. This short report
was written for all those people who are confused about their partner’s behaviour and are
wondering if their partner is being abusive. This book highlights six key signs of abusive
behaviour so that you can identify whether or not your partner is an abuser.
Obsessive Behaviour
Your partner calls you all the time wanting to know where you are, who you are with and
what you are doing. They get very angry if you are with a friend of the opposite sex and insist
that they must know where you are at all times. If you don’t call them and they do not hear
from you they get even angrier and call you so much you have to leave your phone on silent
or ignore their calls to get some peace. This is a sign of obsessive behaviour and you are
definitely in a toxic relationship.
Some abusers become obsessive with their partners because they believe that their partner is
someone that can be owned and view their partners as possessions. Because of this unhealthy
belief they do not want their partner to have time for anyone else because they feel that their
partner’s attention should only be on them and no one else.

4. Extreme Jealousy
Your partner always suspects you of cheating and does not seem to trust you. When you
leave the room your partner checks your text messages and reads them. Your partner also
checks your call log to see who called you. You constantly tell your partner to trust you and
get angry with them for invading your privacy. You tell them to stop checking your phone
but they keep doing it and then question you about the texts afterwards especially if they are
from the opposite sex. This is a sign of extreme jealousy and you are definitely in a toxic
relationship.
Your partner being extremely jealous is a sign of abusive behaviour. An abuser will want you
keep your attention on them and no one else. This is because they are extremely controlling
and do not want you to have any other friends or contact with people outside of the
relationship. If your attention is focused only on your partner and no one else then it is easier
for them to control you. Abusers crave power over their partners and if you do not have any
other friends or relationships that means you depend only on your abusive partner for
companionship and thus they have more power over you to maintain control of your
behaviour and the relationship.

5. Mind Games
Your partner makes you feel like you are going crazy. You have a discussion and then your
partner pretends that they do not know what you are talking about. You have an argument
and then later mention it to your partner and they act like it never happened. Your partner has
you questioning your sanity and the reality of what has happened. You are not going crazy.
Your partner is just playing mind games with you and you are definitely in a toxic
relationship.
Playing mind games is a form of control and power. Abusers do this to gain complete control
over their partners. If an abuser is able to convince their partner that they are crazy then they
will have complete control over them. The victim in the relationship will be looking to their
partner for reassurance and comfort and will be weakened psychologically from the mind
games their partner has been playing with them. The abuser will be able to manipulate the
victim to do whatever they want them to do and this is what an abuser wants, complete power
and control over their partner.

6. Verbal Abuse
Your partner keeps criticizing you every time you say something. They constantly call you
stupid and when you offer an opinion of anything they treat what you say as if it is worthless.
They are constantly putting you down and interrupting you when you speak and always
making you feel that they are superior to you and that you are inferior. Your partner is
attacking your self-esteem and the way you feel about yourself on purpose. They are being
abusive and you are definitely in a toxic relationship if this is happening to you.
An abusive partner will criticize you in order to hurt your self-esteem. They know that if they
attack you this way and you believe their insults and criticisms it will result in you having
low self-esteem. If you develop low self-esteem this will result in you feeling badly about
yourself. If you do not like yourself then you will find it difficult to challenge anyone when
they abuse you or treat you in a way that you do not like. With low self-esteem it is not easy
to believe in yourself in order to pursue your goals and dreams or even to cope with the
pressures of life. Abusers want you to have low self-esteem so that they can manipulate you
into staying with them and not leaving them when they treat you badly.

7. Intimidation
Your partner has threatened you with a knife and smashed things against the wall when they
are angry with you. They have never touched you or hit you but use their physical size and
strength to make you feel threatened and intimidated. Every time your partner smashes or
breaks something you are afraid that the next time it is going to be you. You are every careful
not to make them angry in case they start hitting the walls or smashing things. You feel
scared every time your partner glowers at you with angry looks and feel one day they are
going to hit you. You feel terrified of your partner and want to leave but are afraid if you do
they will come after you. If you feel like this you are definitely in a toxic relationship and
need to leave your partner as soon as you can.
Abusers use intimidation as a way to make their victims feel powerless and afraid. They want
to maintain their power over the victim so that their partner will not leave them and will stay
in the relationship.

8. Physical Abuse
Your partner is easily angered by anything that you do. If you serve dinner late they are
angry. If you do something that they do not like they get angry. The worst part of it is that
when they get really angry they hit you. The first time that they hit you your partner
apologized so much and begged for your forgiveness and said that they would not do it again.
But then it happened again and again. Now they are hitting you for no reason. If you are in
this situation this relationship is dangerous to your health and you are definitely in a toxic
relationship and need to get out as soon as possible.
Abusers hit their victims in order to maintain their power and domination over them. They do
this so that their victims will be too afraid to leave the relationship or even to seek help when
the abuse is out of control. It can become a cycle with the abuser constantly apologizing and
asking for forgiveness. This can cause the victim to believe that the abuser is genuinely sorry
for their actions until it happens again. The first time the victim is hit by the abuser and
accepts this form of abuse the victim is sending a message to the abuser that their behaviour
is acceptable and that they can do it again. When you are hit or abused in a relationship it
should be made clear to the abusive partner that this behaviour is unacceptable and will not
be tolerated.

9. This short report has summarised six key signs of an abuser so that you will know how to
identify whether you are in a toxic relationship. If any of these signs are present in your
relationship you are in a toxic, abusive relationship and should leave the relationship as soon
as you can. If you need help making a decision about your relationship and are not sure
whether you should leave there are various resources that you can consult to gain knowledge
about abuse and relationships. These resources are below.
Resources
Free Ebooks
Free Dating Workbook: How To Find The Right Person To Date Workbook
The Overcome Books website has a free dating workbook which they are offering as a free
ebook download. The How To Find The Right Person To Date Workbook will teach you how
to find a good partner and also how to identify abusers so that you do not end up in an
abusive relationship. To get your free ebook download of How To Find The Right Person To
Date Workbook visit http://www.overcomebooks.com/free-dating-workbook/ and you can
also get a paperback copy of How To Find The Right Person To Date Workbook on Amazon.

10. Free Domestic Violence Ebook: Inside the Abuser’s Mind Be One Step Ahead of the
Abuser
The Overcome Domestic Violence website has a free domestic violence ebook which teaches
you all about the characteristics of abusers and abusive relationships. To get your free ebook
download please visit http://www.overcomedomesticviolence.com/free-ebook-help-for-
victims-of-domestic-violence/
Get Out If You Can How To Escape Abusive Relationship And Be Happy
This book will tell you everything you need to know in order to help you identify the
characteristics of abusive partner so that you will have the knowledge you need in order to
leave an abusive relationship.

11. How To Find The Right Person To Date: A Step by Step Guide To Finding The Right
Partner and Detecting An Abuser
This book is all about giving you the knowledge you need to choose the right person to date.
It will show you how to improve your chances of finding the right partner, how to identify an
abuser, how to improve your self-esteem and how to detect an abuser and leave an abusive
relationship.
The System Sucks What Victims Of Domestic Violence Want You To Know
This book explores the experiences that victims of domestic violence have had with social
workers. If you would like to know how victims of domestic abuse feel about social workers
read this book.

12. Websites
Overcome Domestic Violence
www.overcomedomesticviolence.com
This website provides information and resources for victims of domestic violence including
books and articles on domestic violence.
On this website you can also submit your articles about abuse. To submit an article, poem or
story about abuse please visit www.overcomedomesticviolence.com/submissions/
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