1. Brenda McCreight Ph.D.

2.  What behaviors in your child trigger you to
react ineffectively?
 Consider these triggers – make them
conscious
 Have a plan to manage them when they occur

3.  You don’t have to become entangled in the
mood of others – you can pull back and
disengage
 Use your mirror neurons to over ride the
other person’s brain chemistry and influence

4.  Rick Hanson asks “Are you making your client
do more laps in hell?”
 Types of neuroscience based therapies –
 EMDR, biofeedback, neurofeedback, EFT,
brain integration therapies, many somatic
based therapies, dyadic developmental
psychotherapy (Arthur Becker Wiedman)

5.  Many post trauma children don’t breath
correctly = lack of 02 to the brain = lack of
efficient cognitive processes
 Aerobic exercise of any kind
 Weight training (if old enough)
 Biofeedback, yoga

6.  Our children don’t generally learn from
consequences
 Their brains expect punishment and have a
behavioral repertoire to deal with it
(negatively)
 Surprise the brain and notice every good
thing and comment on it
 Say “You’re a good person”

7.  Know that when you yell you are both
functioning in your amygdala
 Your child isn’t hearing you and is not
learning anything positive in that moment
 You aren’t noticing any non-verbal messages
from you child

8.  The consequences you use and the changes
you expect to see actually feel the same to
the child as the past abuse/neglect
 Therefore your consequences are re-
enforcing the same negative wiring

9.  Find an activity or interest that allows success
 Get creative and accepting in this endeavor
 Actively support it – be as involved as your
child will let you
 Don’t expect to see the results of this in the
present

10.  When you consequence by taking something
away – yourself, a toy, an activity etc the
result will be either an emotional shut down
or an activation of the fear circuitry which will
cause negative acting out

11.  Touch or be physically close in a way that
your child can accept it
 Teach how to hug
 Use eye contact as much as possible
 Be calm as much as possible
 Smile as much as possible

12.  Talk to a naturopath or physician about the
benefits of vitamins and the best strength
and type of the age and diagnosis

13.  Necessary for learning and many other
complex cognitive processes including the
capacity for attention
 Lack of sleep decreases cognitive processes
and leads to obesity and other health related
problems

14.  Please check out Brenda’s other powerpoints
at Slideshare, courses at Udemy.com, books,
and web sites.
 http://www.lifespancounselling.com
 http://www.theadoptioncounselor.com
 http://www.hazardousparenting.com
 Email brendamccreight@gmail.com
 Online courses at udemy.com