Here is a role play demonstrating attunement:
Buyer: I'm just not sure this neighborhood is right for us. The schools don't seem that good.
Agent: Okay, I can understand your concern about the schools. As a parent myself, I know how important education is. Where are you and your family coming from, and what are you looking for in a new community?
Buyer: We're moving here from out of state. We really want a safe, family-friendly area with good community feel. But the schools are a big factor for us.
Agent: It makes total sense that schools are a priority. When I first moved here with my kids, the schools in this neighborhood didn
13. To Move People: Power’s Inverse
We Must see another person’s perspective
See the world through their eyes
14. How are we wired? Reality is a product of
our own creation,
maintained by our
own perception.
15. Begin to see a new
world
We depend on life being what
we think it is, and we accept the
bias of that perception
throughout day-to-day
existence.
we recognize only what
we are prepared in
advance to see.
28. Attunement Refined
Start a conversation: Where are you from? (Good to
Great)
No wrong answer
It opens up possibilities
Focuses on client
29. Three Steps to Attunement
Watch
What they are doing
How are they sitting
How does he speak
Favorite expressions
Wait
Let the situation breathe
Mimick but not overtly
Wane
Proceed by instinct
30. Buoyancy Refined
How to stay afloat in an ocean of rejection
Positive self-talk (Mandino, Hill, Robbins) is better than
negative self-talk but..
Interrogative self-talk best of all
Can I do this?
How will I rise to the occasion?
Answers within the answer
Doesn’t by-pass one’s motivations
Uncovers intrinsic motivation
32. Six Keys to Bouyancy
• Positive emotions broaden
people’s ideas about possible
actions
• Wider range of thoughts
making us more receptive
• Positive benefit: you have to
believe in the product you’re
selling and that has to show
• Negative feedback: not all bad
• Need 3 to 1 positive, too
much positive: lose grip on
reality
• Negative emotions offer
feedback on our performance
34. Is this Permanent?
Is this Pervasive?
Is this Personal?
yes no
I’ve completely lost my skill for moving others
Everyone in this industry is impossible
I messed up my presentation
I was flat today because I didn’t get enough sleep
This particular guy is a jerk
My presentation could have been better but the
real reason is he wasn’t ready to buy now
35. The more we explain bad events as
TEMPORARY
SPECIFIC
EXTERNAL
The more likely we are to persist in the face of adversity
36. Clarity
The capacity to help others see their situations in
fresh and revealing ways…
To identify problems they didn’t realize they had
The internet helps people solve many problems
What can we do now?
Good Sales People = Good problem solvers
37. Five Keys to Clarity
Find the right problem to
solve!
You are selling insights not
just houses
Must be good at curating
information (not just
accessing)
Must be good at asking
questions (not just
answering) The ability to move others
hinges less on problem solving
than on problem finding!
39. Finding your Frames
I am Blind (Rosser Reeves, Ad Exec)
It is Springtime and…I am blind
Clarity depends on contrast
People could compare their reality to blind man
The most essential question is often…
Compared to what?
Restrict the choices so they are not overwhelmed
40. • People prefer purchases tied to
experiences
• Experiences give us something to
talk about and stories to tell
• Deepens our identities and boosts
satisfaction
• Point out what the new home will
allow you to do:
• Invite friends, parties with family,
room for grandkids etc…
The Experience Frame
41. Clarify with Questions
Most effective tool
Irrational questions
On a scale of 1 to 10 how ready are you to buy?
Why didn’t you pick a higher number?
Moves people to clarify and think through
Become a curator
Asking the right questions is better than having the right
answers
Seek, sense and share
50. The best subject lines
TELL what’s inside
and DON’T SELL
what’s inside
51. CURIOSITY
“Hi”
“Did you see this one yet?”
UTILITY
“This might be the right house for you.”
“Selling? Do these 3 things first”
52. 1. Once upon a time there was …
2. Every day …
3. One day …
4. Because of that …
5. Because of that …
6. Until finally …
The Pixar Pitch
53. Once upon a time there was a good agent who worked hard to earn a
living by selling homes.
Every day he would try very hard but struggled because he was all alone.
One day he decided to try working at BloomTree instead, to see what being a
part of a collaborative group was like, to get more training, and to try using
new tools.
Because of that he saw how much more business he could do and how much
more time he could spend with his clients.
Because of that he was soon earning more, so told his agent friends at other
companies, and they decided to come to BloomTree, too.
Until finally he and all his friends worked together, had fun, and were more
successful by helping each other, plus the agent was able to earn even because
BloomTree believes in giving back to our agents who help the company grow.
54. improvise
hear the buyer’s answers as “offers,” not objections
hearing offers (Attunement)
Scripts are outdated (similar to Elevator)
Information parity
“Yes, and…”
(not yes but)
55. service
Believe in what you do, and how it benefits them
Make it personal
Make it purposeful
Be Beneficial