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The habit of mindless listening. We often do not
pay full attention to the other person. We look
away or do not notice their tone of voice. We only
hear a part of what they are saying before what to
express our opinion.
MINDLESS LISTENING
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While others are speaking, we let go of our own
thoughts and pay attention to what they are saying.
We stay aware of the feelings and sensations that occur
throughout our body and especially in the heart area.
We are aware of our mind jumping into judgments.
MINDFULL LISTENING
7. REACTING
We often react to one another out of
habit, instantaneously, lost in our patterns
of:
Judging
Defending
Distancing
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11. NOTICE - PROCESS
We notice what we are experiencing.
We notice our thoughts.
We notice our feelings.
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12. SUSPEND - PROCESS
We suspend judgment briefly
of what the other person is saying.
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If we find yourself criticizing. We meet these thoughts with
mindfulness, let them go and return to receptive listening.
This doesnât mean we are agreeing with whatever is being
said. Rather we are responding by honouring the other
person with our full attention.
LETTING GO
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We listen with our eyes to the person body's language and
facial expressions.
We listen openly to the tone, pitch, volume and words.
In addition to content, we allow ourselves to receive the
mood and spirit of what the another person is expressing.
SPIRIT
15. SUMMARY
Mindful Listening makes all the difference. ï
STOP - We stop thinking what we are going to say.
NOTICE â We notice our thoughts and feelings.
SUSPEND â We suspend judgment briefly.
âYes, we canâ
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