1. Life Online Workshops Demystifying Your Child’s Life Online Relationship / Good Judgement / Control

3. Online Safety

4. Addictive quality of video games

5. Addictive quality of the Internet,

6. The line between protection and independence?Life Online Workshops

7. Life Online Workshops So, in this Workshop, we will: Introduce ourselves (15 minutes), Look at some information and data (30 - 35 Minutes) Discuss issues you are facing and how some folks are dealing with it (30 - 40 Minutes), Look at a model for how to deal with specific situations and the mass of information with which we are bombarded (15 minutes).

8. What is happening? Screen time – Video games, social networking (Facebook, texting...) Why is it happening with such intensity? What do young people need? Why video games give young people what they need? What hunger are Facebook and texting feeding in young people? What can you do?

10. Concerns included:

11. Predators

12. Cyber bullying

13. Screen time

15. Pornography and strange subcultures that may draw young people,

16. What young people believe on the Internet,

17. What their children may be revealing about themselves in communications and profiles,

18. Too much screen time

19. Addictions to video games

21. Pornography and strange subcultures that may draw young people,

22. What young people believe on the Internet,

23. What their children may be revealing about themselves in communications and profiles,

24. Too much screen time

25. Addictions to video games

27. They tend to not discuss these issues with their children,

28. Parents are unaware of what their children are doing online, and

30. It is often difficult to know what to do How much limitation and control are appropriate? Block all Access? Won’t Work

31. Information is coming from everywhere

33. What do young people need?

36. Time is distorted

37. Enjoyment &/or fulfillment

38. Clear steps and immediate feedback

39. Intrinsic motivation

43. Not necessarily on the computer

44. Media-centric

45. Social Media will be the largest component of the Web“Google no longer believes the future of the Web is on the personal computer. Instead, the company predicts most people will soon be connecting to the outside world through mobile devices.” Approximately half of children have computers in their rooms Google, the great disruptor, takes aim ... at everything Omar El Akkad and Lain Marlow From Saturday's Globe and Mail Published on Friday, Jan. 08, 2010 9:32PM EST Last updated on Sunday, Jan. 10, 2010 11:11AM EST

46. Wikis Self-Expression Communication Websites Personal Learning Networks Collaboration Blogs Sharing/Collaborating Socializing Specific Social Networking Services Texting General Social Networking Services

47. Facebook

48. Facebook Population of Canada: 33,962,909

49. First, it’s important to note that most of this data was taken from September 2009. A lot changes in social media in a five month period. With that said though, the trends seem clear: teens love to be online, but they’re not terribly interested in writing blog posts or maintaining a stream of tweets. Creating content takes time and energy that they’d rather exert on Facebook ( ), texting, YouTube ( ), or other online activities. And of course, they have school and friends. Let’s face it: teenagers haven’t had the time to build up expertise, life experiences, or a career that would merit content creation. Without that expertise, less people are inclined to listen to what they have to say, and without that knowledge, teenagers have less to talk about. Most are connecting with high-speed connections as well. 76% of families with teenage children have broadband connections, while 10% still use dial-up, 8% have no computer, and 4% have a computer but no Internet access. For comparison, 49% of families used dial-up in 2004.

50. Why? A look at adolescence? Many people do not view their adolescence as a comfortable time in their lives. Most traditional societies did not have adolescence as we have it today. Anthropologist, Arnold van Gennep, coined the term “rites of passage”, and broke them down to three rites:

52. A journey...Childhood Adulthood Separation Incorporation

53. Adolescence Waiting, learning, training, preparing, and experimenting with responsibility without claiming the privileges of adulthood… …takes a long time. Childhood Adulthood Liminal The rite of passage

54. Adolescence According to Erik Erikson, the adolescent stage is one of crisis/opportunity around developing a sense of identity. Without a strong sense of identity, a person is left with role confusion, and is perhaps not ready for the crisis/opportunity required to develop intimacy.

56. Attachment “(O)ur children need to be attached psychologically to us until they are capable of standing on their own two feet, able to think for themselves and to determine their own direction.” Neufeld , G. (2004). Hold on to your kids. why parents matter. 1st ed. Toronto, ON: Alfred A, Knopf Canada. “A parent is by far a child’s best compass point.”

57. Attachment At what point do our children have the life experience and developmental critical thinking capacity to deal with the tough decisions? At what point can they be their own best compass for decision-making?

58. Attachment “(P)eers... become (a) child's working compass point.Peers…become the arbiters of what is good, what is happening, what is important and even how the child defines who she is..” Peer Attachment Neufeld , G. (2004). Hold on to your kids. why parents matter. 1st ed. Toronto, ON: Alfred A, Knopf Canada.

60. Identity is a powerful draw for adolescents.

64. “People two, three or four years apart are having completely different experiences with technology,” said Lee Rainie, director of the Pew Research Center’s Internet and American Life Project. “College students scratch their heads at what their high school siblings are doing, and they scratch their heads at their younger siblings. It has sped up generational differences.” The Children of Cyberspace: Old Fogies by Their 20s By BRAD STONE The New York Times Published: January 9, 2010

65. A Possible Filter: What to Focus On: If your child is younger or still adult-attached More time & attention Less time & attention If your child is older or is becoming peer-attached