Attaining success requires resiliency in order to overcome challenges along the way. Yet many advanced learners expect to “get the right answer” on their first attempt and once faced with truly challenging situations, give up before trying. This session provides parents with strategies to support high potential youth as they engage in the struggles that lead to meaningful SUCCESS.

1. Building Resiliency

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5. The Year of…
GREAT
EXPECTATIONS

6. 3rd

10. lthough there are many
possible explanations for
why one could fail, effort
and ability are the most
likely causes that students
report.
– Good & Brophy
A

11. Teacher Rating of Students
Student Self-Rating
R2 = .52
Quality
of
Work
Ability
R2 = .11
Quality
of
Work
Effort
(Siegle & McCoach)
R2 = .66
Quality
of
Work
Ability R2 = .63
Quality
of
Work
Effort

13. Ascending Intellectual Demand

15. Mihaly'
Csikszentmihalyi

16. Apathy
Flow'Channel

18. Stay
in the
Struggle

21. Find the good in a bad situation…

22. Learn contingency planning…

23. Take responsibility for their actions…

24. Learn perseverance…

25. Overcome adversity.

29. I have not failed 1000 times…
-Thomas Edison

30. I have not failed 1000 times…
I have successfully
discovered 1000 ways to NOT
make a light bulb.
-Thomas Edison

31. The Year of…
GREATER
EXPECTATIONS

32. 4th

37. False praise can be as
harmful as no praise!

39. Don’t
you
think
if I were
wrong,
I’d
KNOW it?

40. Lack of
Honest
Self-Appraisal
Skills

41. Diminishes Value of Authentic Praise

43. S
TO
W
Helpful
to achieving the
objective
Harmful
to achieving the
objective
Internal Origin
Attributes of the
Individual
Strengths Weaknesses
External Origin
Attributes of the
Environment
Opportunities Threats
SWOT
Analysis

44. Strengths
What unique skills do I have?
What do I do well?
When do others ask for my help?
What experiences have I had that will
help me as I move forward?
© Angela Housand, 2013

45. Weaknesses
What areas do I need to improve?
What do others view as my weakness
or area for improvement?
What is something I would like to
change?
© Angela Housand, 2013

46. Opportunities
What opportunities are already
available to me?
What resources do I have available?
How can I use my strengths to create
opportunities for myself?
Who do I know that can help me?
© Angela Housand, 2013

47. Threats
What could hinder my success?
What are potential problems I could
encounter?
What are the challenges I face?
What are the restrictions in my life
(time, money, vehicle, access to
computer or the Internet, etc.)? © Angela Housand, 2013

48. What is
YOUR
definition of
success?

49. The Year of…
EVEN GREATER
EXPECTATIONS

50. 5th

53. Critical Internal Voice

55. Fear of Failure
Goal Achievement
Opportunities

56. “Fear of Failure” Signs:
• Worry about what others will think
• Worry that people will think they
are not smart
• Worry about disappointing people

57. “Fear of Failure” Signs:
• Attempt to lower expectations
• Physical symptoms as deadline
approaches
• Procrastination

58. Influence
!On a clean sheet of paper, list the past five
years vertically (2014, 2013, 2012…).
!Next to each year, list the most important
event that occurred in your life during that
year.
!Estimate the percentage of control or
influence you had over each event.

59. Significant Influence
!When you reflect on your experience, do you
find that you had more control than you
thought?
!Young people may feel that external forces
control their lives.
!Modify the exercise:
!Last five months
!Last five weeks

60. Motivation
(Malone & Lepper, 1987)
Self-Determination
(Deci & Ryan, 1980; 2000)
Flow
(Csikszentmihalyi, 1975)
Curiosity Goal Pursuit Clear Goal
Control Autonomy
Adjust Performance
Based on Feedback
Optimal Challenge Competence
Balance Challenge &
Skill Level
Fantasy Achievement Enjoyment
Interpersonal
(Cooperation, Competition, &
Recognition)
Relatedness Transcend Self

61. RELATEDNESS...
Feeling connected to others and having a
sense of belonging to a community.

62. COMPETENCE…
Ability to demonstrate one’s capacity for
success when faced with a challenge or
opportunity.

63. COMPETENCE…
Feelings of competence shape a person’s
willingness to actively engage and persist in
different behaviors.
(Bandura 1986, 1997)

64. Self-efficacy influences:
" What activities we select
" How much effort we put forth
" How persistent we are in the face of difficulties
" The difficulty of the goals we set

65. Increasing Self-efficacy
" Past performance
" Vicarious experiences (observing others perform)
" Verbal persuasion
" Physiological cues

66. Autonomy
The more autonomous (self-
determined) a person
believes their behavior to be
the greater the personal
satisfaction and enjoyment
from engaging in that
behavior.

67. Self-Determined Learners
• Achieve highly
• Learn conceptually
• Stay in school
(Reeve, 2002)

68. The Year of…
A NEW HOPE

69. 6th

70. Risk
Taking

71. Increased Confidence

72. Increased Sense of Control

73. Decision-Making
Practice

74. Skills to Manage Anxiety
& Overcome Fears

75. 5 Categories of Risk
Intellectual
Social
Emotional
Physical
Spiritual

76. Systematic Risk-Taking
• Understand benefits of risk-taking
• Self-Assess for risk categories
• Identify personal needs
• Determine risk to take
• Take the risk
• Process the risk experience
(Neihart, 1999)

82. Autonomy
The freedom to choose…

83. Failure taught me things
about myself
that I could have
learned no other way.
J.K. Rowling

84. Thank You !!!