1. Gunashrayamz
Live every day
winning inside Belongingness
out
Newsletter Volume: 1 - Issue: September - October 2012
FOR INTERNAL CIRCULATION ONLY A shelter under the virtues with zeal.
This is a wonderful gift to us, the human be- their priorities and visited to our place im-
ings, by the God that we create a space for mediately. Many have done a return journey
everyone and everything in our life. With of more than 500 kms. Nobody had missed it
few we got our senses and few we got with but I missed it for life.
our senses. The absence of them creates a
vacuum into our lives. Some can be filled and The last time I visited him before his death,
many remained unfilled. even without his proper senses, he gripped
my hand strongly and was rolling on his
I lost my father on 31st August, 2012 and I chest. He was not recognizing the people and
knew that nothing can fill the emptiness hap- capable to speak, but his emotions were very
pened due to his absence. loud. He has not missed it even in that stage
to communicate his compassion and love to
We were anticipating about the completion me but I missed it and missed it for life.
of his worldly journey as his health was de-
clining very rapidly everyday and even his My basics were intact, my awareness was
My father gave me the greatest gift senses had started behaving non responsive. ever vigil, I was as emotionally attached as
anyone could give another person, But we were not ready for it so early. Not the I should be, his qualities as human are role
he believed in me. medical science was telling us so. model for me but yet I missed it and missed
it for life.
My younger brother and his wife were taking
care for his all routine services. The morning I am sharing a poem with you that was writ-
call from my brother that my father was not ten by me about two years back but missed
Jim Valvano
responding was a flattening for me. I rush to to execute its meaning of time sharing, when
my brother’s place. My tears knew that what it was most meaningful:
had happened but my heart was not ready to
accept it. Two Jokers
Not… Not accepting what has happened but Two jokers are sitting together
what I had done. The last day my mother told No words but making fun
me that he had not opened his eyes complete One had made the life joking
One had taken it as fun
day and was having some tears in his eyes.
The eyes were wet. And I missed to visit him One is working hard day night
that day at evening and deferred it to the next With a sweat and stress in ton
morning. Thinking to make living of other
Full of comfort, happy in churn
While holding myself I reached his place and
when it was confirmed by the physician also, Other is feeling it as burden
He didn’t tell me how to live; he Working in rain and in sun
I missed.
lived, and let me watch him do it. To make the former feeling happy
Just has awaken as dutiful son
And I missed it for my life now. Nothing can
recover this miss. One had missed the years in burden
One is trying to make it done
Clarence Budington Kelland
I immediately message the words of doctor to What a illusion of insight in both
my people through my message groups. They One is father, another is son
all returned with the condolence messages,
calls and by their presence. Nobody attached My sharing with you about it is completely an
to the happening or read it had missed but I act of selfishness. A selfishness to reduce my
burden by requesting you, the blessed ones
Up Comings
missed it for life.
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2. Gunashrayamz
Building Your Life
FOR INTERNAL CIRCULATION ONLY
An elderly carpenter was ready to to live in the home he had built
retire. He told his employer-contractor none too well.
of his plans to leave the house building
business and live a more leisurely life So it is with us. We build our
with his wife enjoying his extended lives in a distracted way, reacting
family. He would miss the paycheck, but rather than acting, willing to put
he needed to retire. They could get by. up less than the best. At important
points we do not give the job our
The contractor was sorry to see his best effort.
good worker go and asked if he could
build just one more house as a personal Then with a shock we look at the
favor. The carpenter said yes, but in situation we have created and
time it was easy to see that his heart find that we are now living in the
was not in his work. He resorted to house we have built. If we had
shoddy workmanship and used inferior realized, we would have done it
materials. It was an unfortunate way to differently. Think of yourself as
end his career. the carpenter. Think about your house. Each day you hammer a
nail, place a board, or erect a wall. Build wisely. It is the only life you
When the carpenter finished his work and the builder came to will ever build. Even if you live it for only one day more, that day
inspect the house, the contractor handed the front-door key to the deserves to be lived graciously and with dignity. The plaque on the
carpenter. “This is your house,” he said, “my gift to you.” wall says, “Life is a do-it-yourself project.” Who could say it more
clearly? Your life today is the result of your attitudes and choices in
What a shock! What a shame! If he had only known he was building the past. Your life tomorrow will be the result of your attitudes and
his own house, he would have done it all so differently. Now he had the choices you make today.
Live every day winning inside out
When I studied Maslows Hierachy Needs, it was a course in my sex etc. etc... No time to think or feel that we have stepped down
college, a part of syllabus to qualify. The importance was only on that hierarchy needs which starts from physiological to self
from examination point of view. With every day passing from actualization.
there, and now after more than one and a half decade, it is looking
more relevant to me than ever. It guides about the categories of The mythology and the preaching of the elders in the family
needs of a human from bottom to top priority. was the foundation of that society. People were living there, for
relations, morality, family and society. Today we are leaving all. Life
In India, the land of love and emotions, was so called undeveloped became a vicious circle. We have followed the so called developed
India in present, the beginning of primary nations and stepped down to the bottom
need or the needs for which people were line. More we are focused on bottom lines
living was from middle to top on that graph. higher we develop our insecurity.
It was from love and belongingness to self
actualization. Nobody was beginning it The people, who work for distinctions
from the bottom one. or full marks, do never feel insecurity to
qualify. The base of every human society
People were living more for family, is relation, family, morality and self
friendship, respect for others and self actualization. The time is always right
(morals and values), and carrying a high to stop and think and have a new start.
self image. The social development was Need is to ask, when would you start your
in such a wonderful way that everything journey to the top needs?
was having a particular time and every
achievement was a celebration. The The day you begin with the higher need,
morality was guaranteed. The top of all the needs. the lower ones came to you through auto process. As it is said that
‘where business is all about people, prosperity flows in; where it’s
Now today, when we felt developed, everybody is working on the all about money only, everything flows out.
basic two needs. They are so occupied in those two needs that
feeling of top three is looking vanished from their lives People Start living today more meaningful, more connected. It would be
are working for security, for basic needs i.e. food, shelter, clothing, living every day winning inside out.

3. Gunashrayamz
Belongingness
FOR INTERNAL CIRCULATION ONLY
A girl first time visits her parent’s house after two days of her
marriage, and she says, ‘there, it happens like this’. The same girl One day I realize today I am one day older than yesterday, is there
when came after two months, she says, ‘it happens like this in our any excuse for being aged without holding that day in me as a
side’, and after six months the words changed in ‘we do like this at person? A person of experience. A person having something to
our place’. This is called belongingness. share with my present today and succession tomorrow.
Do we belong to ourselves? Really the picture that mirror shows is fearsome. A pure
threatening. I do waiting for the time, the right time,
Whatever we do, we speak, view or hear; do we which is most limited and beyond my control. Do I
belong to the same? The girl in example has taken six belong to this time that I am passing by, now?
months for belongingness. How much time would
we take to belong to our dreams and our lives? As the day starts there is no end of the thread. One
corner is in past and I left the other for a future.
Being in working and training with different Nothing accomplished full. If the life is to be lived on
organisations for some period now I have always daily basis, “Can anyone say this is complete?”
seen the people discussing about the targets and Every moment we live is a gift of God and our life.
their review with their seniors. It’s a real fun. All Fill it full with happiness and beautiful memories.
returned back to their schools, where they imagine wonderful Count them as an experience of your life. A day of loud display,
excuses for facing their teachers and mother respectively for every demonstrating, “This day is a count of my life! The life could be
mistake or error or omission. For every incomplete task or delay. proud upon!”
The person at the receiving end knew the truth of the event and
the event manager both. The best prize is for the person who can Does this day belong to you?
Emotions
surprise the other with the unexpected.
Think of a stage where you have been awarded and there were a you were on stage, you have been awarded. Your lips looking for
lot of cheer up for you, but you don’t recognize any face there. some ears to whisper.
You are walking on a crowded road and slipped, there is no one There must be someone whose voice can be recognized by
who can give you a hand. your ears when you will be wrong, you will be on wrong side.
Some hands to pull you out, when your path doesn’t have your
Your heart is full of emotions but no one to hear or call upon. destination.
You are in tears and no one to see them. When your dictionary misses the word I because you always
feel we. More you have more you feel confident. It is not about
You were eating and nobody to offer you a interference or dependency it’s like a
glass of water. You have cooked first time huge roof with many invisible pillars,
and nobody to taste it a sky over the earth. A safety net with
many threads. And all created by you.
You have won a marathon, nobody there
to wave you hands. Rights are the unlimited responsibility
on the shoulders of others. It says that
You were to a party and nobody there I am yours. It’s me who controls all by
welcomes you. Nobody ask you why you giving the control in the hands of others.
were there. It’s unconditional love with people, trust
so much that other can destroy but have
You are in hospital or bed ridden and faith they don’t.
nobody there to visit for your health.
The emotions are always strength. They
are blessing of God when in purest of form. They don’t walk along
with a week person. They look for the heart like Gandhi ji to be
Life exists in relations and lovable touch, the most precious gifts
kept in.
given to the living beings by the God. It’s free for all. You can give
it in plenty. You can accept it in plenty. Create a strong emotional
May God bless you with this strength to win yourself internally
account. It increases with giving more.
In your routine life there must be some people in addition to your and world externally!
family, who have right upon you. You have the right to be corrected
by them. To ask for the guidance. To have the ointment on your This would be a win of worth, winning emotions in life and after it.
wound at your fall. Your eyes can see towards some faces, when This is winning together.

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दुश्मन का लोहा गर्म भले ही हो , पर
do we ask the “Sorry “ with the same feelings
हथौड़ा तो ठंडा ही काम दे सकता है |
Sardar Vallabhbhai Patel and promises.