This document discusses criteria for assessing sex addiction and provides information on sponsorship. It outlines three criteria that are used to assess sex addiction which parallel guidelines for substance dependency, alcoholism, and compulsive gambling. These criteria include loss of control, continuation despite adverse consequences, and obsession or preoccupation. The document also discusses what sponsorship is, how it works, and tips for being a sponsor, such as being available to sponsees, emphasizing the steps, and not taking on more than you can handle. It emphasizes that sponsorship is a working relationship that helps both the sponsor and sponsee maintain recovery.

1. Criteria for assessing Sex Addiction Closely parallels guidelines for assessing Substance Dependency, Alcoholism, and Compulsive Gambling: Criteria Loss of control Continuation despite adverse consequences Obsession or preoccupation Sponsorship: What it is and How it works 1

2. Criteria for assessing Sex Addiction The presence of all three criteria operationally defines addiction to any drug or behavior Sponsorship: What it is and How it works 2

4. A Symptom of Underlying Axis I Illness

5. Fun

6. Same Sex Interest or Activity

7. Sexual Offending

8. Fetish / Paraphilia

9. Sociopathy

10. Crystal Meth Addiction

12. Criteria for assessing Sex Addiction Sex addiction can be… A Stand Alone Diagnosis

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16. How it works8 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

17. Goals What a sponsor Does Choose one Become one 9 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

18. Agenda Temporary Sponsorship Why have a Sponsor? What does a Sponsor Do? Guidelines for Primary 4.5 Tips on Sponsorship 10 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

19. Why have a Sponsor? Even when you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there -Will Rogers 11 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

20. Why have a Sponsor? The Elevator to Recovery is ‘out of order.’ You’ll just have to take the Steps. -RhondaGates

21. What does a sponsor do? Serves as a Guide; leads by Example Is available by phone, visit or email Does not pretend to know all the answers 13 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

22. What Does a Sponsor Not Do? Give Medical or Legal Advice Attempt to Control our Lives Encourage an Unhealthy Dependence Be a Therapist Be Our Banker Take advantage of a Sponsee (p15) 14 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

23. Temporary Sponsorship.1 Introduces us to People in the program Gets us started on the Steps, 1, 2, 3 15 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

24. TemporarySponsorship.2 Is Available to the Sponsee via phone, face or email Answers Questions, Explains the Program & Steps Encourages Sponsee to work on the Steps 16 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

25. Choosing a Primary Sponsor.1 Has what we want Walks the talk Has a sponsor Emphasizes the Steps 17 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

26. Choosing a Primary Sponsor.2 Gender (orientation) is the same as ours Has more time in recovery than we have Has worked the Steps ( at least more than we have) 18 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

27. Choosing a Primary Sponsor.3 Is available for telephone calls and meetings Emphasizes spiritual aspect of the program. 19 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

28. Qualities of a Good Sponsor Works the Program; has a Sponsor themselves Avoids taking other’s Inventory (gossip) Values anonymity of Sponsee (can keep a secret; practices confidentiality) Shares from their Experience, Strength and Hope with everyone in program Is Honest at all cost

29. The Old Approach: No Sponsor 21 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

30. The Old Approach: No Sponsor 22 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works Paradigm Shift

31. The New Approach: TeamWork 23 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

32. Tip #1: Sponsorship is not a life-time commitment 24 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

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34. Tip #1 (cont’d) It is a working relationship that works as long as both are working it. Sponsorship: What it is and How it works 26

35. Tip #2 FIRE a Sponsee if necessary. It helps both of you! 27 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

36. Tip #3 Never ask a sponsee to do something you would not do yourself 28 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

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38. Sponsor Training 12 Step Sponsorship: How it Works 30 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

39. Tip # 4 Don’t take on more than you can carry 31 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

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49. The Moral: Remember: We carry the Message, Not the Addict 41 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

50. Tip #5 We are only as sick as our secrets!

51. Tip # 5.5 #1 reason for being a sponsor: “it keeps us sober” 43 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

52. We become a sponsor because it is the one thing that keeps us sober and growing!! 44 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

53. In Conclusion… 45 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

54. Successful Sponsorship SeriesThe Care and Nurture of Sponsors and Sponsees Part Two: Developing Sponsorship Skills and Relationships What do we do with our Sponsee now that we have one? What Works? Best Practices of Addicts and Alcoholics.

55. Sponsorship “You know you are doing it right when you don’t give a shit.” 47 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

56. Recovery Sayings… Shared joy is double joy, and shared sorrow is half-sorrow. -Swedish Proverb We can do what I cannot do -Anonymous It takes two to speak the truth. One to speak and another to hear. -Henry David Thoreau 48 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

57. Recovery Sayings… I have to let go of the right to be right I must lay down the weapons of self in order to pick up the tools of the program “I have an inferiority complex but it isn’t a very good one.” We are damaged but not broken. An addict is an egomaniac with an inferiority complex. 49 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works

58. Myth of Sisyphus 50 Sponsorship: What it is and How it works