Shakti Business' second program Self Love Sadhana E-Workbook, including questions for self reflection, Self Love stories, and inspirational videos.

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Self Love Sadhana

2. Self Love Sadhana Day 1 Introduction
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Welcome to Shakti Business’ Self Love Sadhana. We’re overflowing with
love and gratitude as we embark on this 28 day collective self love
practice.
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This program was created by you, for you. We’ve collected gorgeous
personal self love stories from Shakti Business members, inspiring new
friends and the Shakti Business guardians, Mira, Delamay, and Nianna.
Using the self love stories as launching pads, we’ve also created pages
with poignant questions for self discovery, a self affirmation challenge, and
a mini visual project.
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As we take this journey together, we invite you to share your Self Love
Sadhana with the community in the Self Love Sadhana forum, inside our
NING network.
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It’s our intention to hold sacred space for this collective journey so that we
all may cultivate self love and fully live out our most radiant selves.
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Biggest Blessings,
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*Self Love artwork by Rita Loyd

3. Self Love Sadhana Day 2 Kimberly Moore
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by Kimberly Moore - Shakti Womyn
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A few years ago, I hit a point in my life where I lost almost everything. My marriage split while I was
living in another country. My career and the economy joined hands in a magnificently tragic swan
dive into the gutter. Stress eating became an Olympic sport for me - I was going for the gold and I
gained more than 50 pounds. At one point, I went to bed for an entire month. The topping on the
cake in a vitriolic separation with my husband was losing a storage unit that contained everything I
owned in the world except 10 boxes.
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Wallowing, grief, and waves of anxiety were my daily meals as I replayed every dramatically toxic
conversation and event over and over in head. The conversations from me to my Self were not kind
or helpful. The woman in my mirror was so unrecognizable that I stopped looking in the mirror for
almost two years. In short - I was a mess and so was my life.
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Looking back at that time, I would not trade it for the world. Pain, trauma, and fear forge our souls
in ways that we cannot understand until we are on the other side and into active healing. The scary
part is getting from the rough patch to the healing stage. The gorgeous part is moving from the
healing stage to the Coming Home to Our Selves phase.
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My circumstances were not unique or even particularly remarkable in their trauma. We are all going
to experience life events that are similar and/or much worse. What becomes unique and the most
vital part is how we choose to cope and rebound. For those on this path or entering their healing
phase, I am so honored to share a few thoughts from my own journey.
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Time heals. Memories fade, pain recedes and life does indeed move on. Being in your grief and
acknowledging loss and trauma is an important and an integral part of the process to healing.
Bubble Woman Syndrome can only be sustained for so long before we have to pop the bubble and
begin again.
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Joy is a Choice. Each moment brings us a choice and we are offered options. We can choose to
remain in pain and loss or we can choose to move up and out of it. The wisdom of these choices is
honoring the time that we need for healing but also honoring the need for our Selves to get back
up, dust off and get back into action.
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“Joy is a choice – a deliberate, conscious choice. That choice is available to us each day. Our joy
isn’t controlled by others or by outward circumstances. Joy comes from a deeper place, a place of
security within ourselves. It’s an attitude, not a transitory emotion. Remember to be kind.
Remember to be loving….
But most of all, remember to be happy.” Melody Beattie
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Seek Sustenance within and without - release and renew. Begin a
journal. Write your feelings even if they don’t make conscious sense.
Be in nature. Find a new book that feeds your soul. Pray. Watch
something that makes you laugh. Be with people who support you,
love you and nurture you. Stab a voodoo doll. Cuddle with your
favorite animal. Chant. Play with children. Laugh some more. Stop
judging and acknowledge your emotions (even the ugly ones) and
then release them. Scream into a pillow. Have a lovely cup of tea.
Reach out to available resources like a spiritual counselor, support group, therapist or the mighty
shoulders of a loving friend. Most importantly, take one positive action a day. Photography saved
my life (literally). Getting into nature to take pictures gave me focus and pleasure. Small actions
lead to energy moving and movement is always preferable to stagnation even when you aren’t quite
sure of the destination.
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“Joy is a choice.”
-MELODY BEATTIE

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Be Mindful. Awareness is key. For some time, all I could manage was to be aware that I was self-
destructing. That was the first step to acknowledging that I could choose healthier and kinder
behaviors and begin to transition - my little bird of hope
in the bottom of Pandora’s Box. This does not happen
overnight. Stay alert for signs that you are beginning
to shift and celebrate them by taking action.
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Find your Faith. As an avid observer of life and my
own life events, I pondered for a long time what
enabled me to come home to my Self - to make it
back. I see people who are mired in toxic behaviors
and negative loops and I acknowledged there but for
the Grace of Goddess/God go I. It was an AHA
moment. “There but for the Grace of Goddess/God
go I”. My spirituality has always been intrinsic. My faith
and dedication in Goddess gave me a driving force
when I personally had nothing left to give. Prayer and
my mantra practice were life and spirit affirming and
worked on my subtle energies and at the soul level.
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Be Grateful. Cultivating a gratitude practice heals a
multitude of pain. In your journal, if you write nothing
else, write what you are grateful for on a daily basis. The list may be short some days but gratitude
worms its ways into our soul and slowly fans the flame of spirit. Accept the blessings that life IS
giving you. Release the lack mentality and enter the blessing mentality.
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Find Your Bliss. I left my career with the economy in that tragic swan dive and departed healthcare
industry after 20 years. I started my own Social Media company, continued writing and blogging
and pursued my passions. One of my passions is food which I combined with my writing and
photography. The first few years were tight as all entrepreneurial endeavors are but I held the
vision. I am no longer surviving but thriving after kicking my lack mentality to the curb. Working
with food has also put me on an exciting adventure of healing my body with food. The weight I
gained? It began to melt away like magic as I affirmed that Self Love was going to be my daily
choice.
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Know that Self Love is Self-ish. Self Love also involves all kinds of other, wonderful SELF-ish
things like Self Compassion, Self Care and Self Trust. Taking care of our Self is one of the most vital
life activities that we will ever learn. And it is a learning process.
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We are confronted daily with the belligerent phantoms of would-have, should-have, could-have and
negative and critical self talk learned from childhood and beyond. Society and cultural memes
reinforce that we should be ALL - super woman, perfect Mom, good wife, dedicated worker, culinary
genius, and life coordinator for everyone around us. Negative patterns in our lives have taken years
of insidious indoctrination. It doesn’t have to take a full on life meltdown to stop the madness and
return to the Self. To be honest with my glorious, healing Self, there were signs and symptoms that
the pressure that I was exerting and allowing others to exert on my life was going to end in tears.
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Be Self-ish. Leave the idea that being self-ish is a bad thing. Embrace the concept that if you don’t
sustain and nurture your Self, no one will do it for you. Recognize your choices and slowly begin
making them and sticking to them. Easier said than done? I agree which is why slow progress and
small changes are the keys to claiming Your Self. Is chaos abounding in your life? Take 15 minutes
every single day. Lock the bathroom door. Journal even when you are tired. If you don’t stake your
claim, then the people around you will not honor you either. And in the end, as you are coming
home … get rid of that which does not serve you. Ask the questions: What does my Self really
crave? Is this moving me forward? iI this making me happy? Am I proud of me?
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Finally, I have one piece of homework for you. Write a love letter to yourself. Pour out all of the
hopes and blessings and wishes that you want for your Self. Make a Pinterest board that reflects all
of these marvelous things. A good friend of mine thought of the Pinterest board and doing it was
an electric epiphany! Then, make a pact to take small actions to accept those blessings and come
home to your Self in a blazingly spectacular flash of LOVE.
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Self-ish Resources
Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte - a process (book and workbook) that begins with the
masterful question: How do you want to feel?
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Books by Brene Brown - The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to
Be and Embrace Who You Are is my absolute favorite and talks about shame resilience therapy.
Mindblowing.
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Jennifer Louden - The Life Organizer - this book is phenomenal for mindful questioning to kickstart
your journey home to your Self. I use the questions as journal prompts.
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Pema Chodron - all of her books are divine but I highly recommend When Things Fall Apart: Heart
Advice for Difficult Times.
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Kimberly F. Moore is a writer, photographer and Goddess-Powered Entrepreneur. Creativity, Passion
and High Energy are her Super Powers and building empires of radical bliss is her life focus. She
creates social media strategies for companies from solopreneurs to large brands. Kimberly lives in
South Florida with her teenage son and two kitties and her days are filled with words, tweets, photos,
recipe ideas and Goddess. She is the embodiment of the multi-armed Shakti. You can connect with
her at:
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ShaktiWomyn.com
TheHungryGoddess.com
TheMotherHouseoftheGoddess.com
LaughingWomanMedia.com
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@KimberlyFMoore on twitter
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Kimberly on Facebook!
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!Kimberly on Flickr!
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8. Self Love Sadhana Day 3 Self Love Relfection
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“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”
― C.G. Jung

9. Self Love Sadhana Day 3 Self Love Relfection
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10. Self Love Sadhana Day 4 Mira Jamadi
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by Mira Jamadi
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Without being too conscious of the state of the union of my own Self Love, working on and
preparing Shakti Business’ Self Love Sadhana, the sadhana has been working on me.
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Revelations have been popping up into my awareness left and right at such a rapid pace that I
realize that simply being in the space of Self Love is potent.
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Reading the Self Love stories of our contributors and viewing the Instagram #selflovesadhana
photos has been super powerful and transformative.
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Although I’ve been working on discovering who I am at my core and working on fully accepting who
I am for years now, I realize that there are still traces of judgement and self criticism that block me
from total self love, which impedes the full expression of who I really am in this life, in this world.
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Needless to say, these traces are the most important and fundamental ones! I’ve worked through
the judgements that have been the easiest for me: fully accepting my physical body, fully accepting
the fact that I’m an introvert, fully accepting my spiritual calling, fully accepting that I teach more
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through fire than through tenderness, fully accepting my difficulty in keeping a clean house, keeping
organized (aahhh, there are still hints of self judgement there, I must admit)….for many, these
aspects of one’s person may be more difficult to accept. For me, pretty easy once I became aware
of the criticism that I was imposing on myself.
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So what’s left?
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What’s left is what I’ve seen as my instability. I’m twice divorced with two children. I move a lot. I
haven’t yet bought a home where my kids can grow up. My income is off and on.
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My family, my friends, those who love me worry about me. I worry about me.
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Stability is something that I really do want for me and for my children. It’s something that I’m
working towards. Yet, somehow I get the feeling that I won’t get there as long as I’m judging myself
for not being there yet.
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This judgement weighs on me. I feel like there’s something wrong with me. I haven’t been able to
take the mainstream route and I haven’t yet figured out how to get where I want to be by taking my
own route.
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I know it will come, but only when I allow it. What I want will only come when I fully accept the path
that I’ve taken so far, the experiences that I’ve had a long the way—pleasant or not so pleasant. It
will come when I fully forgive myself for my own mistakes, when I’m grateful for the lessons learned
from those mistakes.
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It will come when I let go of the false idea that I really should be perfect and why the fuck am I
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What I’m seeking will come when I fully accept who and what I am right here and right now in this
very moment.
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During this Self Love Sadhana, I invite you to join me in total and radical immersion in the present
moment, fully accepting ALL of who we are, right here and right now, honoring the path we’ve
taken to get here and rejoicing in it.
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Sending big love,
Mira
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Mira Jamadi is a Shakti Business guardian and Prana Flow yoga teacher. A native of Southern
California, she is now living in Aix en Provence, France with her two sons. Dedicated to the practice
of feminine spirituality, Mira was called to move to France to first live in La Dordogne, site of a
prehistoric goddess worshipping culture and then to Provence, the land of Mary Magdalene.
Through Shakti Business, Mira hopes to participate in the remerging sacred feminine
consciousness.
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www.mirajyoga.com
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13. Self Love Sadhana Day 5 Self Love Relfection
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“The difficulty does not lie in finding new ideas, but in
escaping the long outdated belief in old ones.”
― Jeffrey Fry

14. Self Love Sadhana Day 5 Self Love Relfection
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15. Self Love Sadhana Day 6 Christine Arylo
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Do You Really Love Yourself?
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How can you tell if you love yourself and if you don't love
yourself - check out this video and take this short self love
check in with Christine Arylo and see if you need more love,
from yourself.
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Access this video on the Shakti Business Videos page

16. Self Love Sadhana Day 6 Christine Arylo
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CHRISTINE ARYLO, INSPIRATIONAL CATALYST, BEST-
SELLING AUTHOR, AND SPIRITUAL ADVOCATE, IS ON A
MISSION TO CREATE A NEW REALITY FOR WOMEN AND
GIRLS, one based on true feminine power, freedom and
self-love instead of the relentless pursuit and unsustainable
pressure of having to do, be and have it all. She’s written
two best-selling books, Choosing ME before WE and Madly
in Love With Me, The Daring Adventure to Becoming Your
Own Best Friend, with a third on the way, based on her
breakthrough program Inner Mean Girl Reform School
which has helped over 23,000 women on 6 continents
transform their inner critics. Her opinions and
transformational techniques have been featured on CBS,
ABC, FOX, WGN, E!, in the Huffington Post, and on radio shows, spas, conferences and
stages around the world, including TEDx. She usually lives in Northern California with her
partner, Noah, but in 2013 they sold their house to live their dream of living, working and
speaking and teaching from anywhere in the world… true freedom, power and love!
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17. Self Love Sadhana Day 7 Self Love Reflection
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“The practice of forgiveness is
our most important contribution
to the healing of the world.”
― Marianne Williamson